We made the trimesters pass quickly!

[ab75]

Thats amazing kiwi xx

You know what pisses me off mummy, everyone of dh's family can drive, yet they don't come up here, expect us to drive down with the girls every few weeks. I hate that they get all out of their routine, get fed up and moany in the car, even with their dvd players. Well I tell a lie, his mum and dad came up twice on the bus. One time they went to the shops then went home again, didn't visit!!
I won't be rushing down with Owen, if people want to meet him they can visit, or wait til it suits us to go down.
We are staying with mil/fil a week on sat, I can't be bothered. Would much rather drive home about 7pm then the girls will sleep in car and go straight to bed and we get our own bed and are in our own home in the morning xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Exactly the same here ab, no one bothers with us really. My mum said she's visiting at Xmas but we will see if that ever happens.

I'm doing the same as you, when Archie is born if they want to meet him they can come to us xx

 

[ab75]

Lol. Then if they do come to see him I'll moan about that too haha. I'm getting anti social in my old age xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

I don't know what my excuse can be then lol x

 

[ab75]

Lol xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I could of written that myself. Everyone in OHs family drives but thet don't come and see us, never have. I went to see liberata and Alice today (deals with the rent) and everything is okay. I just really need IS to hurry up!

My Nan has said it's only fair that I go to Preston for Christmas as every year we swap and last year we had it with my family, the only issue is being 2 weeks away from due date. He's not once said 'we'll see how your feeling at the time' which I think is really selfish. I'm starting to feel rather 'unwanted'.

Kiwi she sounds so strong, I bet she'll be home in no time! x

 

[ab75]

I think you should stay home this year ub, you said you wouldn't have a bed if you go to Preston, you can't be expected to sleep on a floor or sofa when you are nearly due.

Glad all is ok with your house/rent. Hopefully you will hear something soon about IS xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I'm going to see how I feel near the time.. I might turn round to OH and say go up on Xmas eve and come back boxing day morning but I'm not mentioning anything until December, I'm not going to let him think he's won me over because I don't really want to go.. I guarantee you though he will make me..

I have until the 22nd so still a while to wait yet x

 

[ab75]

Quite right. A lot can happen between now and then xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

I agree you should stay home UB especially so close to your due date. It's not fair on you at the end of the day

 

[UniqueBeauty]

Doesn't matter what I want ladies

I spoke to him on the phone again before and he said yet AGAIN that he's moving us to Preston or further up North. He just doesn't f***ing get it, excuse my french but I am sick to death of it. Jayden has lived here for 2 years and is happy and in nursery making loads of friends. He said well we have to move or I'll never see the kids nothing about not seeing me! I feel so angry

 

[Mummy to be x]

Oh my god what a selfish twat! Is he the only one in this relationship? I'm sure that should be a joint decision as a couple! You share two children he can't just tell you what is happening. Stand your ground UB, if your happy where you are then you stay there, no one can make you move somewhere you don't want to go. Like you say Jayden is all settled in nursery now with his friends etc. xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

There's no way in hell I am moving and he knows that, that's why he turns round and says "don't you want a good future for our children?" making me feel guilty. I have told my Nan all this and she has turned around and said he likes to control me. I have brought Jayden up and I'll probably do the same with baby girl. I spoke to Jaydens key worker today and she said Jayden is extremely clever and my Nan said that's all thanks to me because literally.. I have taught him everything he knows. I won't be happy if he treats baby girl differently to Jayden.

I am not looking forward to going up to Preston next week because I am going to get bullied and lectured into moving! x

 

[ab75]

Stick to your guns. If you move you will be away from your nan and grandad and from what I can see from what you post on here, they are the ones who support you, who you see most etc. Who would you have to turn to up north?!

If oh hardly see's the kids(or you) thats his loss. I know that doesn't make it easy for you, but you said yourself that you brought J up!

I wish we all lived closer so we could be friends irl instead of being at opposite ends of the country xxxx

 

[Mummy to be x]

UB definitely stick to your guns! You don't need to listen to anyone, you know what's best for your kids. I'm so glad you've got your claim sorted now so you don't have to rely on him as much xx

Ab that would be great!! Xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I agree, I don't know anyone here I might join a pregnancy group to get to know people but I can be quite shy x

 

[Mummy to be x]

I tried that net mums UB, you can meet mums in your area as I don't know anyone here but I found it a bit rubbish x

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I tried that a while ago

I've not old OH but I am going to save up for Jaydens train table from Mother care myself.. I always have money left over each week that just sits in my purse so I'm making a Christmas pot for Jay I'm not going silly this year as his table and scooter are 150 pounds and I think that's enough because he has my family and OHs family that will get him things! Knowing me I'll probably go against what I just wrote but for now.. that's what I'm getting lol.

I'm popping into town tomorrow to have a look for a present for Simons niece as it's her 2nd birthday next week. He thinks I'm going to wait until he's here but I can't be bothered, at least if I get it I know she'll definitely have something Jay got nothing from them though, not even a card!! x

 

[Mummy to be x]

I can't believe he got nothing that's bloody rude! Your good for even bothering I wouldn't haha.

I know what you mean madeleines presents seen to be costing so much this year but next year she's gonna have a brother so I won't be able to splash out as much as I usually would so this is her last yr been spoilt x

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I'll let OH buy some presents and see what he gets, it seems to all be down to me at the minute.

Got my Asda order coming this afternoon and I've ordered a cherry and vanilla yankee candle just because I love candles I love the smell of vanilla too, I have the febreze vanilla and winter glow sprays and I just can't get enough x