Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[AngelSerenity]

Claire, there's another great thread on BnB called recurrent miscarriage thread which I sit on - https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/miscarriage-support/127351-recurrent-miscarriage-thread-1275.html . It has loads of information about what tests you should ask for and who are the best specialists to see in England as currently a lot of girls on the thread are from there. I'm from Northern Ireland and our NHS is slightly different so I sit outside the 'Choose and Book' system which limits my choices of care. A lot of the girls on this thread will be able to advise who is the best to see from their experience and depending on your gut feeling of where you think your problems lie xo

Claire, . Your story is very similar to mine, although my DS is only 19 months, hoping we both get our next rainbow babies . Where are you located?

Hi Angel..I`m in Newcastle upon Tyne.

Babydust all round

 

[AngelSerenity]

Hi gncope, welcome!

I too have PCOS so share your frustration, although I have managed to control mine through diet and exercise. Just cant seem to hang onto my wee seedlings so waiting more tests.

That's some account of your life in the last couple of months! I hope you will be able to get loads of rest before your IVF. I take it you are off work? and intend to be for a while? xoxo

 

[gncope]

Hi gncope, welcome!

I too have PCOS so share your frustration, although I have managed to control mine through diet and exercise. Just cant seem to hang onto my wee seedlings so waiting more tests.

That's some account of your life in the last couple of months! I hope you will be able to get loads of rest before your IVF. I take it you are off work? and intend to be for a while?

That is great that you are able to control your pcos through diet and exercise. Hopefully they figure out why they aren't sticking.
I stay at home with my 6 year old. I have a small business from home so I am blessed to be able to take it easy. I have been resting for the last few days and I must say, I am going a little stir crazy. Just getting my energy back and trying not to overdo it. At least DH has been great about helping out lately. Is it just me or do men just clean soo much differently than women? I try not to complain but cleaning the kitchen doesn't mean just rinsing dishes, right? If they make it to the dishwasher, it is great. I would be shocked if the counters or stove were ever wiped down. Lol. He is helping and I am grateful.
Anyway, nice to meet you all.

 

[jm1355]

Hi there gncope!! My name is Jess. I live in Austin, Texas...I guess you are in HOT weather just like I am! Phoenix is forecasting a high of 108 today...it's only going to be 101 here...

AFM~~CD 13...did a little BD'ing last night...and soon the next TWW will begin!!
But, just like last month, I have not tracked my temps or anything this month. Part of the reason is because my workouts have changed and I'm just too darn tired! Also, in some weird way, I feel like if I don't do anything then I will be a little less disappointed when it doesn't happen. Sounds crazy, I know...
My 15 year old asked me yesterday when I was going to have another baby. It was really sweet considering just a few months ago he was dead set against it. Now he seems to be looking forward to it...teenagers...they change from one minute to the next...

 

[alicatt]

WOW! Look at all the posts since I signed off last night!

gncope - welcome! So sorry about your recent medical issues, sounds like you are on the mend. Take it easy and don't push too hard to get back to your normal self. I have done that in the past and it backfired big time, with me ending up having setbacks. I too am from Ontario, and am heading back there on Saturday for about 5-6 weeks, can't wait to get out of FL and somewhere a little more temperate We are a great group and will be here for you! Best of luck with your IVF!!

TerriLou - sounds like you had an interesting reading, too bad they didn't get to you, I would have liked to hear what they had to say! Maybe a private reading is what you need As for the boob lift, I'm with you there! I have already had 1 reduction at the age of 23, and was thinking I would have a lift after I have my babies (if I am lucky enough to have them). They just get in the way, and make exercising a pain. I am actually part of an unofficial group of friends that all want to have it done. I keep telling them that we should do it together..

Jess - OMG, how do you run or do any exercise outside? I think I would collapse in that weather. I was sitting outside last night and it felt like a sauna, hot, humid and there was quite a breeze.

Clarie/Angel - morning to you both. It makes me happy to see how supportive we can be for each other. Glad you guys are sharing, and discussing the issue we all have.

AFM - So last night I dragged myself to the pharmacy to pick up my synthroid only to be told, that will be $20, and I knew right then that they had screwed up. The GENERIC is $10 a month (so $20 for 2), and I have been taking the BRAND which is $30 a month. UGH. She was so apologetic, but I said, my head is killing me, do you mind if I just come back tomorrow? I have been trying to get this filled since last Friday.. glad I started early, or I wouldn't have it for my trip! Oh, and my idiotic mortgage broker dropped a few more docs that they require into my lap last night, I'm like why am I just learning about this now? Like I don't already have enough going on? So tonight I need to dig up the docs, scan them and then email them to him. So yes, on top of packing and getting everything else done, I now need to spend an hour dealing with these new docs! UGH.

I managed to get things moving on the IUI in Canada, and medical records should be there, and I have the form to request my sperm be sent to their clinic. So things are shaping up there!

 

[GeorgiaBelle]

Hello, everyone. Sorry to be missing in action again. Nothing good at all has been happening in hubby's and my personal lives recently, so I felt bad coming here with no uplifting news to share. Now, the possible progress with trying to have our first baby, I wrote about during my last visit here, has also stalled. I am angry and frustrated to tears.

I mentioned before that I was supposed to call our RE's office on the day I started my period because the doctor wanted me to have the ultrasound the week immediately following my period. He was adamant about me remembering to call. I began on Wednesday, June 20th and called his office that morning. I was disappointed by the receptionist who answered my call. She is a lazy airhead. She kept saying that Wednesday, June 27th wouldn't work because he is going to be out of the office. Then she said he would be in California on Friday. (The office is closed on Thursdays.) It didn't occur to me then to ask why it mattered if he would be available or not. His office doesn't do the ultrasounds. That much I knew.

I asked her where I need to go for the ultrasound. "I don't know." I kept trying to get her to check with someone. Suddenly, she got too busy and needed to go.

I quickly e-mailed our RE. Later in the day, he e-mails me back with a few words telling me to go to the x-ray department at the medical college where I work. Again, I quickly replied, asking if I need to contact them or would his office to set up the appointment. Much later in the evening, he replies with only the same thing he said before.

Thursday, I started calling my university's radiology department to see if they had an appointment for me from our RE's office. Each time, I called the answer was always no. I even called and left a message on our RE's office voice mail. I let them know that radiology needed the orders and a call from the doctor's office. Please call me when you are able to get the appointment set up with radiology.

Just as I figured, I hadn't heard a word from the doctor's office Friday. I called radiology and they hadn't heard from the office either. I called our RE's office around 2:30. Same lazy airhead answered the phone. "Oh, ok, we'll call."

I called radiology Monday and, you all guessed it, they haven't heard from our RE's office. My appointment was supposed to be Tuesday, June 26th at 9:00 am. I call our RE's office. Got another receptionist. She wanted to know if I was supposed to go to this other certain radiology clinic. I told her that I had heard of them but not from the RE's office. I told her again that the doctor told me to go to my university x-ray department. I even gave her the number. She tells me that she would leave my chart on the doctor's desk and he would get in touch with me sometime during the day.

Never heard from him and didn't expect to. Called the radiology department back before I got off from work. The lady really tried to help me. She called our RE's office and found out that he had long left for the day.

After a lot of calling back and forth and around, she said she would call me the next day to set up another appointment for me. She kept her word and on Tuesday, we set up an appointment for my day off - this Friday (tomorrow) at 8:30 am.

Sometime between 9 and 10 this morning, she called and left a voice mail for me to call her. When I did, she said not to come tomorrow because they don't perform the test that he has written on the orders. She said it said follicles and trans-vaginal ultrasound. She said, naturally they do the trans-vaginal ultrasound, but the sonographers don't do what he had written. She is calling around to see who does this and if she can get me an appointment.

I am thankful for the lady from radiology trying to help me, but I am ready to just give up.

 

[jm1355]

Hello, everyone. Sorry to be missing in action again. Nothing good at all has been happening in hubby's and my personal lives recently, so I felt bad coming here with no uplifting news to share. Now, the possible progress with trying to have our first baby, I wrote about during my last visit here, has also stalled. I am angry and frustrated to tears.

I mentioned before that I was supposed to call our RE's office on the day I started my period because the doctor wanted me to have the ultrasound the week immediately following my period. He was adamant about me remembering to call. I began on Wednesday, June 20th and called his office that morning. I was disappointed by the receptionist who answered my call. She is a lazy airhead. She kept saying that Wednesday, June 27th wouldn't work because he is going to be out of the office. Then she said he would be in California on Friday. (The office is closed on Thursdays.) It didn't occur to me then to ask why it mattered if he would be available or not. His office doesn't do the ultrasounds. That much I knew.

I asked her where I need to go for the ultrasound. "I don't know." I kept trying to get her to check with someone. Suddenly, she got too busy and needed to go.

I quickly e-mailed our RE. Later in the day, he e-mails me back with a few words telling me to go to the x-ray department at the medical college where I work. Again, I quickly replied, asking if I need to contact them or would his office to set up the appointment. Much later in the evening, he replies with only the same thing he said before.

Thursday, I started calling my university's radiology department to see if they had an appointment for me from our RE's office. Each time, I called the answer was always no. I even called and left a message on our RE's office voice mail. I let them know that radiology needed the orders and a call from the doctor's office. Please call me when you are able to get the appointment set up with radiology.

Just as I figured, I hadn't heard a word from the doctor's office Friday. I called radiology and they hadn't heard from the office either. I called our RE's office around 2:30. Same lazy airhead answered the phone. "Oh, ok, we'll call."

I called radiology Monday and, you all guessed it, they haven't heard from our RE's office. My appointment was supposed to be Tuesday, June 26th at 9:00 am. I call our RE's office. Got another receptionist. She wanted to know if I was supposed to go to this other certain radiology clinic. I told her that I had heard of them but not from the RE's office. I told her again that the doctor told me to go to my university x-ray department. I even gave her the number. She tells me that she would leave my chart on the doctor's desk and he would get in touch with me sometime during the day.

Never heard from him and didn't expect to. Called the radiology department back before I got off from work. The lady really tried to help me. She called our RE's office and found out that he had long left for the day.

After a lot of calling back and forth and around, she said she would call me the next day to set up another appointment for me. She kept her word and on Tuesday, we set up an appointment for my day off - this Friday (tomorrow) at 8:30 am.

Sometime between 9 and 10 this morning, she called and left a voice mail for me to call her. When I did, she said not to come tomorrow because they don't perform the test that he has written on the orders. She said it said follicles and trans-vaginal ultrasound. She said, naturally they do the trans-vaginal ultrasound, but the sonographers don't do what he had written. She is calling around to see who does this and if she can get me an appointment.

I am thankful for the lady from radiology trying to help me, but I am ready to just give up.

GeorgiaBelle!! Don't give up!! ...and remember, we don't always need good news...just news...we are here to support each other.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with all that stuff. What an ordeal!! Does it seem like just when you get the relationship side going smoothly, you're both on the same page, no frustrations, everything is nice...then BAM!! Something goes wrong on the medical side!! And vise versa...

At least that is the way it seems to me. But don't give up! My pastor said in his sermon this past Sunday so many people give up when their blessing is just around the corner...so hang in there!! It's on its way!! Until then, we are all here for you...through the good news AND the bad...

~~Jess

 

[alicatt]

Hello, everyone. Sorry to be missing in action again. Nothing good at all has been happening in hubby's and my personal lives recently, so I felt bad coming here with no uplifting news to share. Now, the possible progress with trying to have our first baby, I wrote about during my last visit here, has also stalled. I am angry and frustrated to tears.

I mentioned before that I was supposed to call our RE's office on the day I started my period because the doctor wanted me to have the ultrasound the week immediately following my period. He was adamant about me remembering to call. I began on Wednesday, June 20th and called his office that morning. I was disappointed by the receptionist who answered my call. She is a lazy airhead. She kept saying that Wednesday, June 27th wouldn't work because he is going to be out of the office. Then she said he would be in California on Friday. (The office is closed on Thursdays.) It didn't occur to me then to ask why it mattered if he would be available or not. His office doesn't do the ultrasounds. That much I knew.

I asked her where I need to go for the ultrasound. "I don't know." I kept trying to get her to check with someone. Suddenly, she got too busy and needed to go.

I quickly e-mailed our RE. Later in the day, he e-mails me back with a few words telling me to go to the x-ray department at the medical college where I work. Again, I quickly replied, asking if I need to contact them or would his office to set up the appointment. Much later in the evening, he replies with only the same thing he said before.

Thursday, I started calling my university's radiology department to see if they had an appointment for me from our RE's office. Each time, I called the answer was always no. I even called and left a message on our RE's office voice mail. I let them know that radiology needed the orders and a call from the doctor's office. Please call me when you are able to get the appointment set up with radiology.

Just as I figured, I hadn't heard a word from the doctor's office Friday. I called radiology and they hadn't heard from the office either. I called our RE's office around 2:30. Same lazy airhead answered the phone. "Oh, ok, we'll call."

I called radiology Monday and, you all guessed it, they haven't heard from our RE's office. My appointment was supposed to be Tuesday, June 26th at 9:00 am. I call our RE's office. Got another receptionist. She wanted to know if I was supposed to go to this other certain radiology clinic. I told her that I had heard of them but not from the RE's office. I told her again that the doctor told me to go to my university x-ray department. I even gave her the number. She tells me that she would leave my chart on the doctor's desk and he would get in touch with me sometime during the day.

Never heard from him and didn't expect to. Called the radiology department back before I got off from work. The lady really tried to help me. She called our RE's office and found out that he had long left for the day.

After a lot of calling back and forth and around, she said she would call me the next day to set up another appointment for me. She kept her word and on Tuesday, we set up an appointment for my day off - this Friday (tomorrow) at 8:30 am.

Sometime between 9 and 10 this morning, she called and left a voice mail for me to call her. When I did, she said not to come tomorrow because they don't perform the test that he has written on the orders. She said it said follicles and trans-vaginal ultrasound. She said, naturally they do the trans-vaginal ultrasound, but the sonographers don't do what he had written. She is calling around to see who does this and if she can get me an appointment.

I am thankful for the lady from radiology trying to help me, but I am ready to just give up.

GeorgiaBelle!! Don't give up!! ...and remember, we don't always need good news...just news...we are here to support each other.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with all that stuff. What an ordeal!! Does it seem like just when you get the relationship side going smoothly, you're both on the same page, no frustrations, everything is nice...then BAM!! Something goes wrong on the medical side!! And vise versa...

At least that is the way it seems to me. But don't give up! My pastor said in his sermon this past Sunday so many people give up when their blessing is just around the corner...so hang in there!! It's on its way!! Until then, we are all here for you...through the good news AND the bad...

~~Jess

DITTO what Jess said! Don't give up, sometimes the things we want most in life are things we need to fight for. Also, don't feel bad about sharing the not so nice things in your life. We are here no matter what, right? Big and FX'd that you get your appointment for tomorrow, and here is hoping that it brings good news

 

[jm1355]

Ali!! How are you today? Headache is gone I hope....

 

[alicatt]

Ali!! How are you today? Headache is gone I hope....

Yep.. headache is gone, just tired. Was up in the middle of the night, due to my head. Nothing a good nights sleep tonight won't cure. Oh and I have a massage scheduled for this eve, mmm.

Just stressing about all the things I need to get done between now and Saturday morning. Packing, and making sure I don't forget anything!

As for my cycle, it's pretty uneventful so far, CD4 I think? I forgot to take my temp this morning, oops! Really just waiting until next Wednesday when I will go into the Canada clinic and have a U/S and hopefully get the OK to move forward this month, and then I'll probably have another on Monday the 9th, and we'll do the IUI on the 10-11th.

How are you doing?? I heard you did a little BD'ing last night. Are you able to tell when you O without temping or using an OPK? I usually can tell, just wasn't sure if you were able to?

OHH.. and I changed my profile pic to one of little Zach, this is my puppy the day I brought him home. I had given him a bath and the woman at the rescue organization had given him that shirt, and asked me to take a picture of him in it for her. I don't normally dress my doggies, they are dogs!! but this picture is pretty cute!

 

[jm1355]

Ali!! How are you today? Headache is gone I hope....

Yep.. headache is gone, just tired. Was up in the middle of the night, due to my head. Nothing a good nights sleep tonight won't cure. Oh and I have a massage scheduled for this eve, mmm.

Just stressing about all the things I need to get done between now and Saturday morning. Packing, and making sure I don't forget anything!

As for my cycle, it's pretty uneventful so far, CD4 I think? I forgot to take my temp this morning, oops! Really just waiting until next Wednesday when I will go into the Canada clinic and have a U/S and hopefully get the OK to move forward this month, and then I'll probably have another on Monday the 9th, and we'll do the IUI on the 10-11th.

How are you doing?? I heard you did a little BD'ing last night. Are you able to tell when you O without temping or using an OPK? I usually can tell, just wasn't sure if you were able to?

I am so glad your headache is GONE!! You have way too much work to do to have a headache right now...

I used ot get migraines and they are so debilitating!! All I wanted to do was ...

Sometimes I can tell when I O...BUT sometimes my workouts can make it tricky...I had a little bit of cramping on my left side this morning that felt like it could be O. But I also had my longest run of the year today. Normally I only run 30-45 minutes and I ran for an hour and ten minutes today. So I don't know if the cramping was from the run or from O.

Either way, the BD'ing was great!! Lol!! TMI I know...But I was mad at him for 2 days and we were not talking......so I guess we have made up!! Lol!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Georgia-

Can I just say ...Sonuvabitch! Sounds like half the doctors around here! Aaargh! I feel bad for the crap you are going through but you're tough- just bull ahead... An example. I grew up in a very rural place, very few people. I purchased plane tickets for my sister and I to goto an event in Phoenix one year and we went. We eneded up stuck in this jumbling crowd of people. My sister, of course fresh from no-where USA froze. She was afraid to move because she thought she might bump into someone or offend somewhat,w hatever. I chose a different path. I started elbowing people and shoving and ramming into shoulders,etc. People just parted the way and never batted an eyelash. It's what they are used to So I have learned in business, with doctors- everything- you have to shove your way oncein a while. Let them know you are not going to wait for an asnwer. When doc tell you to go for an US you tell him you will wait there while he sets it up. Don't budge. It;s their job- they get paid to help you for crying out loud, I know sometimes doc offices, asistants- they all act like you are paying for a privelege or something. Nope. I buy them and their education for that hour and I want service! LOL! Hangin there!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Sorry for all of my typos ladies One of those days, lol!

Ali- hey I wanta massage too! lol! Rather have my dh do it though, something about another perosns hands seems creepy to me. My doc felt my neck one day when I was having bad headaches and totally creeped me out. I'm not even going to mention my pap smear a year or so ago! Aaargh! Lol, he knew I was uncomfortable so he stared at the cieling the whole time and talked to his assistant about baseball

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- don't work out too awful hard! Go eat some ice cream or something...lol! I am getting that urge to work out hard again but know I can't work toooo hard. Not yet anyway! Give me until January and I can start again

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM- got a doctors appointment today at 3 pm MST...Not sure what all they will do. See how horrendously heavy I am for sure and the asistant will undoubtedly comment on something about my shabby look and then bat her fake eyelashes at my dh Maybe when I pee in the cup to leave for her for testing I'll have a little...accident... (Is my Boston Terrier teaching me something? ) WOuld serve her right...

 

[alicatt]

Ali!! How are you today? Headache is gone I hope....

Yep.. headache is gone, just tired. Was up in the middle of the night, due to my head. Nothing a good nights sleep tonight won't cure. Oh and I have a massage scheduled for this eve, mmm.

Just stressing about all the things I need to get done between now and Saturday morning. Packing, and making sure I don't forget anything!

As for my cycle, it's pretty uneventful so far, CD4 I think? I forgot to take my temp this morning, oops! Really just waiting until next Wednesday when I will go into the Canada clinic and have a U/S and hopefully get the OK to move forward this month, and then I'll probably have another on Monday the 9th, and we'll do the IUI on the 10-11th.

How are you doing?? I heard you did a little BD'ing last night. Are you able to tell when you O without temping or using an OPK? I usually can tell, just wasn't sure if you were able to?

I am so glad your headache is GONE!! You have way too much work to do to have a headache right now...

I used ot get migraines and they are so debilitating!! All I wanted to do was ...

Sometimes I can tell when I O...BUT sometimes my workouts can make it tricky...I had a little bit of cramping on my left side this morning that felt like it could be O. But I also had my longest run of the year today. Normally I only run 30-45 minutes and I ran for an hour and ten minutes today. So I don't know if the cramping was from the run or from O.

Either way, the BD'ing was great!! Lol!! TMI I know...But I was mad at him for 2 days and we were not talking......so I guess we have made up!! Lol!

Well all I can say from experience is that make up sex is AWESOME!! Glad you got a little, YAY!

 

[jm1355]

Jess- don't work out too awful hard! Go eat some ice cream or something...lol! I am getting that urge to work out hard again but know I can't work toooo hard. Not yet anyway! Give me until January and I can start again

I am trying to make sure I am in good shape when it is my turn to be PG and go through delivery...

Ok Coy!! Come January, I am going to have a whole new set of workouts for you!

 

[alicatt]

Sorry for all of my typos ladies One of those days, lol!

Ali- hey I wanta massage too! lol! Rather have my dh do it though, something about another perosns hands seems creepy to me. My doc felt my neck one day when I was having bad headaches and totally creeped me out. I'm not even going to mention my pap smear a year or so ago! Aaargh! Lol, he knew I was uncomfortable so he stared at the cieling the whole time and talked to his assistant about baseball

I love my massages, I get one every other week. I find that they relax me and help take out some of the stress. The woman I see has great hands, and sometimes I even fall asleep on the table.

I think I'm getting another headache no fair!

 

[jm1355]

AFM- got a doctors appointment today at 3 pm MST...Not sure what all they will do. See how horrendously heavy I am for sure and the asistant will undoubtedly comment on something about my shabby look and then bat her fake eyelashes at my dh Maybe when I pee in the cup to leave for her for testing I'll have a little...accident... (Is my Boston Terrier teaching me something? ) WOuld serve her right...

 

[alicatt]

AFM- got a doctors appointment today at 3 pm MST...Not sure what all they will do. See how horrendously heavy I am for sure and the asistant will undoubtedly comment on something about my shabby look and then bat her fake eyelashes at my dh Maybe when I pee in the cup to leave for her for testing I'll have a little...accident... (Is my Boston Terrier teaching me something? ) WOuld serve her right...

HEHE.. good plan! Silly woman! Doesn't she know that your DH could care less about her? Too funny. Please tell us how it goes!