Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[loveybear1]

Hey Marathongirl, I am sorry you are having trouble. It looks like you had a MC in November. I am SO sorry honey! That must have been devastating! I think your body is just taking time to heal. Stay strong, your BFP will be here soon. I know it is hard, I had several IUIs, surgery, all kinds of issues and was off birth control for 10 years! It was very scary and I was afraid it would never happen. As soon as I let go and gave it to God, it happened. You will make it. I believe if you have the desire in your heart for it, God placed that desire there and he will make it come to fruition. Have faith in the process and try not to be afraid. I PROMISE you will make it! This is for ANYONE who is having doubts and feels beat down and discouraged. It will happen! If it could happen to me, it could happen to ANYONE!

 

[marathongirl]

Hey Marathongirl, I am sorry you are having trouble. It looks like you had a MC in November. I am SO sorry honey! That must have been devastating! I think your body is just taking time to heal. Stay strong, your BFP will be here soon. I know it is hard, I had several IUIs, surgery, all kinds of issues and was off birth control for 10 years! It was very scary and I was afraid it would never happen. As soon as I let go and gave it to God, it happened. You will make it. I believe if you have the desire in your heart for it, God placed that desire there and he will make it come to fruition. Have faith in the process and try not to be afraid. I PROMISE you will make it! This is for ANYONE who is having doubts and feels beat down and discouraged. It will happen! If it could happen to me, it could happen to ANYONE!

Thanks so much Loveybear1 If you don't mind me asking what did you do differently? Did you just give it all up,I mean the trying? I do know it will happen but I am getting frustrated. I am feeling particularly down today for some reason but I know I will snap out of it. Congrats to you and it sounds like you are on your way. Keep us posted

 

[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- How are you? I haven't heard from you for a few days. Have you seen the doctor yet?
AFM- cd4 so just waiting for o you know how it goes? I am having a bit of a down day but it might just be the weather. I am hoping spring gets here soon!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

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[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- How are you? I haven't heard from you for a few days. Have you seen the doctor yet?
AFM- cd4 so just waiting for o you know how it goes? I am having a bit of a down day but it might just be the weather. I am hoping spring gets here soon!!

You're gonna get your bfp soon wait and see! You are doing everything right, it just takes time.

AFM- I am doing good, ms of course but I am trying to learn to deal with hit better, like eating wether I feel like it or not. I eat a calcium based antacid before eating any food and that helps, plus I eat one before bedtime and that helps a lot too.

I see the doctor this coming Monday at 3 p.m. They called this morning and told me to come with a full bladder so they are still planning the scan. I am excited and nervous at the same time! Dh and I are trying to decide if just I should go or all of us, e.g., the girls, etc. Dh wants to be there but God forbid if something is wrong we don't want the girls to get excited again and then have the worst happen. But we are aslo trying to stay positive so am thinking we should just all go. I want dh there but always thinking of what's best for our baby girls first. I honestly feel that everything is so different - better- this time. Partly the ms...this is exactly how I felt with all of my successful pregnancies, so I am believing God has planted this little bean and making it grow! I am starting week 8 today.

Wow the time seems to be flying! I'm so happy for you. I think the fact that you feel it's different this time is a good sign I really think we know if we listen to our intuition. As I told you before I never felt like my last pregnancy was real.
Thanks so much for the boost. I feel like I need it today. For the most part I am staying positive and surrounding myself with positive and things are good. I guess I am only human and have my moments so thanks for being there
As for the scan. I never told anyone that my ds was at my 12 weeks scan when we found out that the baby had died. My dh couldn't make it and was planning on coming to the one at 18 weeks so it just worked out that he came with me. I felt so bad that he had to go through that but at the same time I was glad he was there.
I think you should all go and be positive!!!

 

[jojomojo]

Hi Hun!...I`ve not been on here for a while!..Just read latest thread...glad you`re feeling better!..it does get you down i`m feeling a little bit that way!!...but it`ll pass!!...jo xx

 

[margaz]

Trying to get pregnant over the age of 35 comes with its own unique issues. Take a breather from the bustle of the regular TTC forum and chat with others who are trying for a baby later in life.

We hope this forum helps you on your journey


Regards,
The BnB Team

Hello I'm a 41yrs old woman that's trying to have a baby with my husband. I have two teenage kids from my first marriage and so does my husband but we wanted one of our own..I know it might sound selfish but we've finally dicied that if we can get pregnant its great if not well God has other plans for us.
We've been trying for nearly one year now and still not pregnant my husband did his sprem count and it was low. I was very upset with this result but i really can't blame him for that. Can someone please tell me why its so hard this time around to get pregnant?

Thanks
margaz

 

[marathongirl]

Hi Hun!...I`ve not been on here for a while!..Just read latest thread...glad you`re feeling better!..it does get you down i`m feeling a little bit that way!!...but it`ll pass!!...jo xx

Where are you in your cycle Jojomojo? Are you anywhere near o yet? I am cd6 and counting down the days

 

[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- How are you? How did it go at the doctor's today? I just realized that you had your apt today. Let me know how it went.
AFM- cd7 today. Patiently waiting for O and hoping to catch that eggy!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

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[duststar]

Its hard being over 40 and trying to ttc, but hey at least I can look on the up side and say I did fall pregnant this time last year, but sadly I misscarried seeing my gynie in June as that is the only time he can see me, but lets think positive and hope we will get there before then right

 

[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- I am over the moon happy for you!! That is so great. That is great that your doc will do the scan for you whenever you want. My new doctor said the same to me when I get preggo so I feel happy with that. I don't even know why the doctor has to say that about the risks. I think you already know and why not let you be a bit happy for now? I know my last pregnancy they said that to me even when I heard the Hb at 10 weeks. Of course they were right but still....
I was going to start using the opk today but think I will hold off until tomorrow. I always only test once a day. I never O before day 12 so I think I should be good starting opk on cd9?

 

[marathongirl]

Duststar- Sorry for your loss last year. I know your pain as I also mc last Nov. I do find some solace in that we did conceive but it has been 3 months and just 1 chemical pregnancy. I am doing acupuncture as I did before the last pregnancy but am also taking some chinese herbs as recommended by my TCM doctor. We will see I am still feeling optimistic but also pressure as I approach the May due date of the baby we lost in Nov. TRy to stay positive and if you have any questions regarding what I am doing to improve my chances feel free to ask. I take it your are using opk's and temping??

 

[Grey Eyes]

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[marathongirl]

Marathongirl- Thank you! Yes, we all know the risks, but I think they feel they have to caution you I am very happy at this point, seeing the baby and the hb was such a relif! I am going to try to post pics on here...

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Wow! How exciting to see your little bean! Just keep thinking positive and be happy that you have a healthy bean. I'll let you know how things are progressing with O. Starting to obsess a bit about the bd schedule but I think we should be fine

 

[Grey Eyes]

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[marathongirl]

Marathongirl- don't obsess! It "only takes one" is what my dh kept telling me But I obsessed also. Got my fx'd for you! What kind of opk's do you use? Are they digi's? Don't get the first response digi's--I did and they worked great but as soon as I got my first positive the digi reader automatically shuts off and then I can't use the other sticks to look for long surges :madgrowl:

Thanks I'm feeling a bit better after my meltdown yesterday. I'm feeling much more relaxed today. It's funny how you can get into a cycle where you feel a bit stressed and then you start worrying about how the stress will affect things and it makes you more stressed Had a good talk with dh and he sounds a lot like yours very supportive and I feel better
I use the first response opk's not the digi's. I tested today even though I wasn't going to start until cd11 and it was very faint so I think I will skip tomorrow and try again Friday? I just had this feeling that I might O early but looks like no

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hope you O soon, gld you have the opk's for it...Yes, the FR regular two-liners worked awesome, it's the fr digi that I felt cheated with lol.

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[marathongirl]

Hope you O soon, gld you have the opk's for it...Yes, the FR regular two-liners worked awesome, it's the fr digi that I felt cheated with lol.

AFM- I home-cooked cooked this awesome roast beef for dinner with potatoes and carrots and gravy....slow cooked it in the oven for 4 hours! I was starving! Then I dug in, took about 5 awesome bites and was STUFFED. WTH? That's no fair! I really was looking forward to at least seocnds on that but I guess when your stuff gets all pushed around it's your tummy space that suffers lol. Now I just feel

That's too bad that you weren't able to eat. I hate that. I do remember that from my pregnancies as well. I never actually threw up but felt queasy a lot. I hope you are able to eat again soon. Do you feel like you are getting bigger already?
Yes I should O around Sunday or so so I thinking we need to bd at least every second day. I would prefer every day but we will see? Will start opk tomorrow. I'll let you know. Hope you feel better today