Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Ali,

Thanks for the info. So many options, and my husband and I are both not keen on IVF or anything chemical. Of course...I would LOVE to conceive in my bed on some random night...that would be great, but it's going to be very hard. Up until a year ago, I was dead set against having children, and then my husband said he wanted kids, and put this idea there...so this is completely altering my plans. We're also considering adoption, too, and I'm starting to meet with agencies, so we'll see. There's a side of me that has always believed that I would adopt (even before knowing of my DH's fertility issue). However, adoption can be an emotional roller coaster as well. At this point I'm on the fence as to what I want: a) adoption b) try harder naturally c) IUI with donated sperm d) IUI with ol' man's sperm if the count goes up e) give up entirely.

Totally understand, which is why I recommended getting a full workup now, and seeing what you are up against. Then providing there are no mechanical issues (like blocked tubes), you and your DH could work on the supplements to see if you could improve your fertility and do it on your own. While doing that do the research on adoption and figure out which option is best for you!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Well, one thing is for sure. I don't have ANY TROUBLE gaining weight lol! Aaargh, I want to lose my belly fat! There's justa little bit still there but it is taunting me on a daily basis. Dh says I should cut out "all the carbs" that I've been eating. Sooo.....I guess that means the bagel I have for breakfast? That leaves me with a mug of coffee and some fat-free yogurt! Nuts! Why oh why is it so irritatingly difficult to lose belly fat

I mean an average day for me is a mug of coffee w/ a bagel. Lunch is a cup of fat-free yogurt. Dinner...well, if I have dinner it's usually yogurt or if I'm really careful I eat 1/4 of a steamed skinless chicken breast. I should be losing this stupid belly fat!

 

[never_give_up]

Ali,

Thanks for the info. So many options, and my husband and I are both not keen on IVF or anything chemical. Of course...I would LOVE to conceive in my bed on some random night...that would be great, but it's going to be very hard. Up until a year ago, I was dead set against having children, and then my husband said he wanted kids, and put this idea there...so this is completely altering my plans. We're also considering adoption, too, and I'm starting to meet with agencies, so we'll see. There's a side of me that has always believed that I would adopt (even before knowing of my DH's fertility issue). However, adoption can be an emotional roller coaster as well. At this point I'm on the fence as to what I want: a) adoption b) try harder naturally c) IUI with donated sperm d) IUI with ol' man's sperm if the count goes up e) give up entirely.

Melly There is hope for your dh's sperm! He needs to make some lifestyle changes and in 3 months his sperm can be dramatically improved! There is just so much that can be done for a woman's eggs unfortunately. My dh stopped drinking alcohol. Just 1 beer a week and none at all the week before and during ovulation. I gave it up altogether and would sometimes have 1 glass of red wine when I got and I was super bummed out. Also lots of supplements. I forgot to mention Pycnogenol (maritime pine bark). He tool this for over a year but had stopped taking it for 2 months before I got my because the price on Amazon shot up and I refused to pay $45 a month for just one supplement. Not carrying cellphone in pockets. (My dh would have one in each pocket when we first got married). He wasn't very good with the exercise part but with his new job he has to walk alot more which I think helped. He would get frustrated sometimes and say let's just use donor sperm. But I told him I wanted it to be his baby. Funny I didn't mind so much using donor egg because I get to have the baby in my body for 9 months but I really wanted it to be dh's biological baby. God answered my prayers!

 

[never_give_up]

Dh is on his way home so jumping in the shower.
Have a great night ladies!

 

[alicatt]

I dramatically improved my eggs.. with lifestyle and supplements, so if necessary it is possible!

I'm all excited.. AF showed!!!! So I'll call my FS tomorrow, I think this is exactly what happened last cycle, it came around 5pm on Thursday! WOW.. talk about clockwork!!!!

Gotta run into Target.. tampons : rofl: then massage!

Coy.. you aren't eating enough that is why you aren't losing the weight You need to get more/better calories!!! Plus there are carbs in fat free yogurt! It's called sugar!!

 

[Samsfan]

Hello Ladies
Alicatt! Yes to the witch! Have fun at your massage. I just had one and I'm never going back. It was so hard and painful, not what I like in my massage. Looking forward to a successful cycle! Really these cycles are so long, I've lost track of when I started and I can't remember when I would have gotten AF. I'm just waiting for next Friday

Coy- What! How do you survive! How do you even function with so little food. You are hustling and you need your energy! I would substitute your bagel for egg whites and spinach in the am. Have your chicken and yogurt for lunch and damn girl you need to eat something for dinner! No wonder I'm fat. I probably eat in one day what you eat in one month. I bet you loose your belly fat in no time.
Hope your DH gets better!

Chantal- Feta cheese? I thought pregnant women aren't supposed to eat feta. I'm horrible... because ever since I'm PUPO all I want is diet coke, chocolate and feta! What is wrong with me? Well I'm glad you are doing well and I cant wait to see a pic of the sono when you get one!

Melly- Welcome to the thread. These ladies really provide great advice.

AFM- I had a long day yesterday. A lot of stress yesterday. So I was so tired today. Woke up early to get to the acupuncturist, worked and had the runs! It was terrible. Got home and took a long nap and I feel sore all over. I'm so tired of using the progesterone supps already. They are gross.. I don't know if I can do it much longer. I cringe everytime I have to insert one.

I dramatically improved my eggs.. with lifestyle and supplements, so if necessary it is possible!

I'm all excited.. AF showed!!!! So I'll call my FS tomorrow, I think this is exactly what happened last cycle, it came around 5pm on Thursday! WOW.. talk about clockwork!!!!

Gotta run into Target.. tampons : rofl: then massage!

Coy.. you aren't eating enough that is why you aren't losing the weight You need to get more/better calories!!! Plus there are carbs in fat free yogurt! It's called sugar!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Sam- you always make me laugh! I know, I am trying to lose my fat and there is just a little bit of the pinchable stuff and it drives me I am trying to avoid high fat stuff but I say "yes" to ice cream at least 3-4 times a week lol I have a glass of wine once in a while. But fats? Not really...I avoid pasta...But I have been nibbling on saltine crackers once in a while and they spike my glucose so should steer clear. I do the egg whotes once in a while, my problem is I find it hard to ask dh to babysit while I cook for myself I'll hand babes to him to go cook for everyone else then when its time to cook for me I'm thinking"I should go get her" lol...So I chug a protein drink instead. But Kat smashed my favorite protein drink glass into a billion tiny shards the other night and I spent about an hour picking it up Kids.

Hm, the runs probably due to stress poor lady. You seriously need to rest. And as for stress at work. Just try not to give a damn for a day or two- go to work but maybe focus on the statistical side of things, try not to let it get your emotions? I know, that's hard to do.

 

[alicatt]

Sam- you always make me laugh! I know, I am trying to lose my fat and there is just a little bit of the pinchable stuff and it drives me I am trying to avoid high fat stuff but I say "yes" to ice cream at least 3-4 times a week lol I have a glass of wine once in a while. But fats? Not really...I avoid pasta...But I have been nibbling on saltine crackers once in a while and they spike my glucose so should steer clear. I do the egg whotes once in a while, my problem is I find it hard to ask dh to babysit while I cook for myself I'll hand babes to him to go cook for everyone else then when its time to cook for me I'm thinking"I should go get her" lol...So I chug a protein drink instead. But Kat smashed my favorite protein drink glass into a billion tiny shards the other night and I spent about an hour picking it up Kids.

Hm, the runs probably due to stress poor lady. You seriously need to rest. And as for stress at work. Just try not to give a damn for a day or two- go to work but maybe focus on the statistical side of things, try not to let it get your emotions? I know, that's hard to do.

Coy.. why are you cooking for DH and DD's, and not yourself? There is no reason why you can't cook ONE meal for all! That is crazy no wonder you are going crazy! Make a giant omelet or scrambled eggs for all, cook some peppers on the side then sprinkle yours with the peppers and the DD's with a little cheese and DH's with either or both! Then toast some bread did those that want it. Juice for DD's coffee for you and voila! Done! You can add canadian bacon or turkey sausage on occasion too!

Lunch.. make salad plates for lunch.. put some carrots, pepper slices, cucumber slices, celery, slices of cheese, cottage cheese, chunks of chicken, ham or tuna, hummus, and finally add some apple slices, orange slices or grapes. You don't need to put ALL of that on a plate, just pick a few items and you'll be good!

Dinner.. green veggies, a whole grain (quinoa, rice, barley, potato) and a protein (chicken, turkey, pork tenderloin, lean beef, etc)

Then you AND the rest of your family will be eating well!

I had a great massage, not I need to pick my paint (the interior is being painted next week), I am doing green in the kitchen and family room and yellow throughout the rest of the house. Can't wait!

 

[alicatt]

SAMs you need to relax! Stress at implantation is BAD! Make sure you relax this weekend! I hated the suppositories too, which is why I opted for the PIO shot. So you are 4dp3dt or 7 dpo today? Another few days and you can test! Are you going to test before your BETA? If you do, I wouldn't try until at least 7dp3dt which is Sunday. There are some that test test test, and others who like waiting until BETA. Both are enough to drive a woman !

AFM.. gotta call my FS in the morning, get an appt for my baseline. Then we can get this trial started!!

 

[Samsfan]

Alicatt- I had a speaking engagement yesterday... and viola the stress. I'm 4dp3dt. I felt like testing today, my chest is so sore. I was going to wait for Beta...but I may not be able to wait.

Coy- I know I need to relax... and you need to make yourself food when you do that for your family. I know you probably don't even have a little pinch...but whatever makes you feel good about yourself is what is best for you and your family.

Going to head to bed early catch you later.

SAMs you need to relax! Stress at implantation is BAD! Make sure you relax this weekend! I hated the suppositories too, which is why I opted for the PIO shot. So you are 4dp3dt or 7 dpo today? Another few days and you can test! Are you going to test before your BETA? If you do, I wouldn't try until at least 7dp3dt which is Sunday. There are some that test test test, and others who like waiting until BETA. Both are enough to drive a woman !

AFM.. gotta call my FS in the morning, get an appt for my baseline. Then we can get this trial started!!

 

[alicatt]

Alicatt- I had a speaking engagement yesterday... and viola the stress. I'm 4dp3dt. I felt like testing today, my chest is so sore. I was going to wait for Beta...but I may not be able to wait.

Coy- I know I need to relax... and you need to make yourself food when you do that for your family. I know you probably don't even have a little pinch...but whatever makes you feel good about yourself is what is best for you and your family.

Going to head to bed early catch you later.

SAMs you need to relax! Stress at implantation is BAD! Make sure you relax this weekend! I hated the suppositories too, which is why I opted for the PIO shot. So you are 4dp3dt or 7 dpo today? Another few days and you can test! Are you going to test before your BETA? If you do, I wouldn't try until at least 7dp3dt which is Sunday. There are some that test test test, and others who like waiting until BETA. Both are enough to drive a woman !

AFM.. gotta call my FS in the morning, get an appt for my baseline. Then we can get this trial started!!

Good plan! I understand the stress with a speaking engagement EEK! Well hopefully the rest of the week is better and the weekend even more so! If you do test this weekend I'm hoping and praying for a BFP!!!

 

[Philomena]

Good morning ladies!
So I've decided that I want to make Babes a little Finland National Costume outfit! my DH is half Finnish on his mom's side and I think his dad will get a kick out of it! So I've made the skirt already, and patterns for the bodice and blouse.... just need to get the fabric cut out and sewn together! I think she's going to be adorable. Here is what I am basing Saria's outfit on (see below)

How is everyone doing today? Chantal today is your ultrasound day, right? Sending you big hugs and good thoughts....
Angel, how are you doing?
I've got to run- back in a bit.... sorry to half post and run!
phil.[IMG]https://i1305.photobucket.com/albums/s557/PhilomenaBence/3f160742fa29e699b1c547578415948a_zpsd118a650.jpg[/IMG]

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- yes, it seems like I should cook for everyone at once doesn't it? Dh and I eat reduced fat high protein so the eggs get cooked separately for dd's...I think most of it is I am picky and like things "just so" iykwim...I want my coffee full and hot, some quiet space--pfft!, lol- I hate to bolt my food. So despite dh telling me to eat I m thinking "in a little bit" then I get distracted.

OH! on that note, we are going to start Aeryn on rice cereal today I am excited. She has become extremely interested in what we eat and has to put her lips to all of my glasses when I drink, and makes these desperate grabs for my yogurt containers :laugh1: so I think she's ready to start

Sams- grr, try to relax! But I think your relaxing is pretty high-key isn't it You gotta be on the run all of the time rofl: You can't stop because you can't slow down!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Good morning ladies!
So I've decided that I want to make Babes a little Finland National Costume outfit! my DH is half Finnish on his mom's side and I think his dad will get a kick out of it! So I've made the skirt already, and patterns for the bodice and blouse.... just need to get the fabric cut out and sewn together! I think she's going to be adorable. Here is what I am basing Saria's outfit on (see below)

How is everyone doing today? Chantal today is your ultrasound day, right? Sending you big hugs and good thoughts....
Angel, how are you doing?
I've got to run- back in a bit.... sorry to half post and run!
phil.[IMG]https://i1305.photobucket.com/albums/s557/PhilomenaBence/3f160742fa29e699b1c547578415948a_zpsd118a650.jpg[/IMG]

Phil- O my gosh, this'll be sooOoo cute! Remember to post pics :laugj2: I love it I love your creativity! Right now I have been roped in to making cardboard play glasses for dd's lol

 

[alicatt]

Ali- yes, it seems like I should cook for everyone at once doesn't it? Dh and I eat reduced fat high protein so the eggs get cooked separately for dd's...I think most of it is I am picky and like things "just so" iykwim...I want my coffee full and hot, some quiet space--pfft!, lol- I hate to bolt my food. So despite dh telling me to eat I m thinking "in a little bit" then I get distracted.

OH! on that note, we are going to start Aeryn on rice cereal today I am excited. She has become extremely interested in what we eat and has to put her lips to all of my glasses when I drink, and makes these desperate grabs for my yogurt containers :laugh1: so I think she's ready to start

Sams- grr, try to relax! But I think your relaxing is pretty high-key isn't it You gotta be on the run all of the time rofl: You can't stop because you can't slow down!

Ya.. I hear you, with cooking things differently for you and for your DD's, but to be honest, you need to get some fat in your diet! It is necessary for your nails, your hair, your skin! You just want to make sure you get it from the right places Things like olive oil, avocado, etc. Plus I think you could cook the eggs together, just do a combination of egg whites and eggs, so you all get a little yolk, and you actually EAT!

I promise you that starving yourself is not the way to lose that belly fat. When you starve yourself you actually end up losing your muscle mass first, then when all of that is gone you'll lose your fat. That is just how our bodies react to being starved. Oh, and when in starvation mode and you do eat, your body goes.. yay food.. and creates fat with it because it is not sure when it will get food again. So start eating regularly and eating good food, and with your current workouts and chopping wood, your belly fat will disappear just like that!

 

[alicatt]

Good morning ladies!
So I've decided that I want to make Babes a little Finland National Costume outfit! my DH is half Finnish on his mom's side and I think his dad will get a kick out of it! So I've made the skirt already, and patterns for the bodice and blouse.... just need to get the fabric cut out and sewn together! I think she's going to be adorable. Here is what I am basing Saria's outfit on (see below)

How is everyone doing today? Chantal today is your ultrasound day, right? Sending you big hugs and good thoughts....
Angel, how are you doing?
I've got to run- back in a bit.... sorry to half post and run!
phil.[IMG]https://i1305.photobucket.com/albums/s557/PhilomenaBence/3f160742fa29e699b1c547578415948a_zpsd118a650.jpg[/IMG]

Phil- O my gosh, this'll be sooOoo cute! Remember to post pics :laugj2: I love it I love your creativity! Right now I have been roped in to making cardboard play glasses for dd's lol

Phil! Amazing I wish I could sew. I would love to be able to do things like you are doing. I can barely sew a button! Please post pictures when you are done

 

[alicatt]

AFM - grumpy, and AF disappeared. I was so sure she had arrived, and yet nothing today. It sometimes does that, and then shows up for real a few days later. I also have a really horrible headache

I have a ton to do this weekend too:

1) Pick up new furniture at Pier 1 (maybe put it together too)
2) Pick up mulch and fertilizer, and plants at Lowes
3) Clean up yard, trim, mulch, plant, fertilize
4) Complete entryway transformation
5) Organize things and get things ready for painting
6) Laundry
7) I'm on call Saturday (ugh)
8) Sunday run errands to the Mall, Kohl's, Grocery store
9) Collapse from exhaustion

 

[melly2]

Thanks all for the advice. We're slowing but surely making our lifestyle changes. I managed to convince DH to stop drinking skotch on the rocks every night after work, so now he only drinks on the weekends, which is an improvement. I tend to drink on the weekends, too. I can live without a drink, but to tell my DH to cut it out completely may be hard (this is coming from a couple who brews their own beer and has a built-in kegorator). Oh and how I love beer in the hot summer here in Texas... I'll make that sacrifice.

Thanks for the supplement ideas. Both my DH and I are also doing acupunture, so I hope that helps his sperm counts too.

I've had my hormones tested and they are normal range, but have not had the tubal dye test yet. My doctor doesn't seem too keen on doing a full workup on me for some reason. He just assumes I'm healthy and my husband is the one with the issue. Maybe I should ask if they could do that dye test, because who knows what I have going on in the tubes. I've stressed to the doctor that we don't want to go the IVF route..I wish I could find a fertility doctor that would help us do this naturally. ARGH!

 

[Grey Eyes]

We were going to start her on baby cereal today but I got to thinking...maybe I should stay strict;ly breast milk for the antibodies until this crazy infection has run its route among the dd's and dh? Hm...So I think we'll wait at least untilt he end of the month.


So much for my belly fat ... I baked apple pie And of course I have to eat it too Ali, I agree- I need to keep some fat in my diet but I think I should get it from apple pie, ice cream-- the like JK!!

wow you sound busy! new furniture? Yay! My kids are as hard on furniture as thery are their jeans

 

[never_give_up]

Hello Ladies

Well this isn't going to be our miracle baby sonogram showed that this isn't a viable pregnancy. Dh and I are very sad since we know it is our last chance conceiving naturally since I will be 42 soon
I have a blood clot in my uterus under the gestastional sac. The sono tech also found 2 cm fibroid which they didnt see last time but she said the pregnancy hormones could have made it grow over the last several weeks. She said it's not the same kind of fibroid as I had 3 years ago with last miscarriage. That one was protruding into the uterus while this one is not.

I will be going to OBGYN on Monday and we will discuss further if a d &c needs to be done. I really was praying that I would never have to go through another miscarriage.