Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

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[Babywhisperer]

Loveanimals45- Yes, I could go for punching someone in the face Today is my 38th birthday and I don't feel washed up yet lol! Some things are beyond our control and we have to take what life tosses our way---if our right man doesn't happen along in time we either do like Ali (alicatt) and some others on here and shoot for the bank. In my case I happened to find my dh just edging up on 30 I am assuming you have finally found the right man! What DPO are you? Do you chart at all? I am guessing somewhere around 3-5dpo, right? Fx'd!!

Mapleroo- welcome! Wow, that's alot of stress for a new young mom! In many ways I agree with you--30's definitely have you more mature better prepared, etc, for motherhood. Oh if we could take what we know now and move back to 20 Fx'd for your upcoming !!Glad to have you on board!

Fbs- as a 38 year old mother of a newborn I have to say the stats can def be crap! I try not to focus on stats too much--my doctor told me as long as you are healthy you shouldn't stress about egg quality, etc...Yay for 2WW! Share your symptoms so we can all go with you


(I am Coy btw-- nice to meet you all! )

Happy Birthday Coy! I hope you are being pampered by dh and dd's!! Have a great day. Xo

 

[alicatt]

Ali- I see you poking round on here- sup lady? How are you feling? Got the weekend off Ah, I bet your FL is sunny and warm with that amazing after rain smell

Babywhisperer- How are you feeling today? Bushytailed? It'll pass Ms doesn't usually kick in til week 6'ish

Angel- speaking of ms how are you doing hon? Any better? It can last a month or so you'll have it beat soon

Chantal- How are you today? How's the weather on your coast? You mentioned it affecting you fybro -- my dh is greatly affected by barometric pressure as well and the cold It's a bugger...fx'd we move to Hawaii soon

Phil- I see you on here too once in a while! Miss you! How's that gorgeous little bebe???

AFM- um, got up, dressed, dd's eating breakfast, Aeryn is actually still snoozing o- nope, she's awake, so gotta run! She lets me know by hitting and kicking the sides of her co-sleeper

Happy Birthday COY!!!!

Yes I was checking out status updates on my phone during a brief break earlier. My Mom was here and I think we are both exhausted! We worked all morning outside getting my garden into shape. I trimmed the mandevilla and jasmine vines, we yanked out the stray ferns (they like to venture out of their garden), then raked and cleaned the Arieka palms and grabbed all the dead fronds, then trimmed my hibiscus bushes back so that they will hopefully grow back bushier and less lanky this summer, fertilized the flowering bushes and plants, and put mulch down.

Oh but that is not all! We then hung 2 mirrors and 2 large pictures, ate lunch did all my laundry (as everything else was happening), and umm.. well I think that is it!!

She was planning to leave around 3pm but we were having a torrential rain/thunderstorm and so she decided to wait until it had passed. The rain falls so hard here you can't see out your windshield! So I put my foot down and said you are not driving in this! So she stayed and had a cup of tea and just left about 20 minutes ago. I think I want to take a nap I'm beat!


I've been starting to stress about my biopsy and transfer. I am worried it won't work everyone else has been doing so well with getting pregnant lately I'm just so worried that with all the work I've done to make sure everything is just right, that it STILL won't work! I am sure this feeling will pass but right now I'm just scared


Coy - what are you up to for your birthday? I hope you are getting pampered!!!

Mapleroo, FBS and loveanimals45... Welcome

As Coy mentioned, I'm now 40 and am determined to break the odds. Luckily my eggs seem to be on my side, which is abnormal for my age, but I'll take it. I'm single so I've used donor and I've done 3 IUIs and 2 IVFs all failed, but on my last IVF I made 4 perfect embryos for freezing. So I have 2 more times (they put 2 back each time).

After spending almost a year and well you don't want to know how many dollars, it wasn't until the 2nd IVF that my FS was like. HMM. You have perfect quality embryos, why are they not implanting? So they did all sorts of tests, something called Karotyping (genetic screening) on me, along with auto-immune and clotting tests, and everything there came back fine. We also did something called NK cell testing, and it turned out mine were elevated. that is a problem as NK cells when elevated are thought to attack the embryo and kill it before it can implant. So I will be using something called IVIg (IV Immunoglobulin) that will suppress the NK cells and hopefully allow them to implant. I did one final test to make sure my lining was receptive to implantation. That test was on Monday, and I'm not waiting until we get the results, they said 2-3 weeks So once we get those we hopefully do the transfer. If things don't look great, they repeat the biopsy following the suggested protocol.

I hear you with people looking at us for waiting, but I just never found a man, and I was too busy working my rear off getting ahead in my career. I just assumed that I'd meet someone in my late 20s and then get married in my early 30s and then have babies in my mid 30s. Well none of that happened. So at 39 I decided to go it alone. Here I am a year later with 2 final chances, and ironically, a Man! Things always seem to happen ass-backwards for me! I'll take it though!

So don't give up, I've seen some ladies get pregnant in their late 30s without any issue, and BabyWhisperer just got her first ever BFP yesterday, and AngelSerenity is about 9 weeks pregnant. On the IVF thread that I follow a woman doing IUI (after a failed IVF) got her BFP this morning, and a 40 year old just got her first ever BFP last week. So there are plenty of women making miracle babies !!!

 

[twiggers]

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[Babywhisperer]

Ali- I see you poking round on here- sup lady? How are you feling? Got the weekend off Ah, I bet your FL is sunny and warm with that amazing after rain smell

Babywhisperer- How are you feeling today? Bushytailed? It'll pass Ms doesn't usually kick in til week 6'ish

Angel- speaking of ms how are you doing hon? Any better? It can last a month or so you'll have it beat soon

Chantal- How are you today? How's the weather on your coast? You mentioned it affecting you fybro -- my dh is greatly affected by barometric pressure as well and the cold It's a bugger...fx'd we move to Hawaii soon

Phil- I see you on here too once in a while! Miss you! How's that gorgeous little bebe???

AFM- um, got up, dressed, dd's eating breakfast, Aeryn is actually still snoozing o- nope, she's awake, so gotta run! She lets me know by hitting and kicking the sides of her co-sleeper

Sooo what did you do for your bday??

Ali, this may not give you comfort, but you have done everything in your power to get pregnant. You are taking steps to increase your chances every day...how you eat, take supplements, listening to your doctor....and your doctor is doing everything he can. When I played sports and we lost a game, or I lost a race, if I trained as hard as I could and left everything out on the field, while upset I knew I did everything I could. Have faith that you are doing everything right. I know you will get your bfp.

Chantal, how are you? Angel have you made a decision about the job? Phil, good to hear from you...post more pics of the baby please! Twiggers, Melly, Sams, and all the ladies who have joined, hi!

Afm, no real symptoms other than being tired and needing to pee in the middle of the night....which has happened since I started the progesterone suppositories. I poas again yesterday b/c I am still in disbelief that this is real or will last. The test was a little darker though. Tomorrow is my beta and I am nervous to hear from the nurse with my results. In the meantime I am taking precautions. I got my hair colored at a different salon that uses non-toxic vegetable dye and while no one else was getting their hair colored so no fumes. I did take a 45min nap yesterday and went out until 10:30pm with dh and his friend. That's the latest I've been up since I began this journey.

I am quite nervous though. Tomorrow is the day af was due, I will be 15dpiui and I pray everything goes smoothly from here on out. I'm not telling my parents until I know the beta results are what they are supposed to be. If you knew me well you'd know I am horrible at keeping my own secrets. I make dh open his Christmas and bday gifts early b/c I can't wait.

I am also having some cramping here and there, sometimes on the left and sometimes on the right...what could it be since it's close to the ovaries?

Also, US ladies, anyone see the solar flare last night? We did not

 

[AngelSerenity]

Girls, popping in just after I've returned from a St John Ambulance conference. I had a great time and did my ambulance driving course whoopie!!! I'll catch up properly later.


Coy , a belated Happy Birthday! I hope you had a fabulous day and got spoilt rotten.


BW, minor cramps are completely normal so try not to panic, it actually can be seen as a good sign. It's normally caused by the embryo implantating deeper into your uterine wall, ie getting comfortable! And don't panic if you get a few spots of pinky or brown spotting here or there as again this is normally just a sign of deeper implantation. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you and your BETA tomorrow


I'm having a minor wobble today girls as I let my diet go a little yesterday at the conference I attended. I ate quite a bit of sugary and high-GI foods and I'm now feeling guilty just in case it adversely affects me. Diet is so important for controlling my sugar levels as this could be a contributing factor to my RMCs. Erratic sugar levels = erratic insulin and hormone levels which are thought to cause clotting issues and/or growth issues with feotus' for women with PCOS. I'm just praying my medication will counteract any of my stupidity


Catch you all later, I'm away for a power xoxo

 

[alicatt]

BW.. I was going to say the exact same thing.. cramps are normal. Implantation and also your uterus stretching. All good stuff! Can't wait to hear about your BETA tomorrow!

AFM.. thanks for your advice, it's strange that I'm worrying so much now! But your analogy is so appropriate I am leaving everything on the field, so hopefully I'll be successful!

Trying to get out of bed but I have a ginormous headache Hopefully it will go away soon, need to give the doggies a bath and then head over to a friends for pool time!

 

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[Samsfan]

All I have to say today is HAPPY BIRTHDAY COY!...MAYBE A BIT BELATED BUT HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
BTW If you turned 38 you are on to year 39... you've completed 38 years!

 

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[alicatt]

Hey all.. not much wisdom to
impart.. just saying HI
I'm full, buzzed and sunburnt! Had a great day!
Just hanging with the doggies enjoying my Sunday night, before work decides to invade my Monday!

 

[Mapleroo]

Grey Eyes-Your baby is adorable! Beautiful eyes

Alicatt-This is going to sound strange...but here goes...Im so jealous that you are sunburnt!! Today is our '6 months of nothing but snow' anniversary. Will be so glad to finally feel some heat and get a bit of sunburn myself

 

[alicatt]

Grey Eyes-Your baby is adorable! Beautiful eyes

Alicatt-This is going to sound strange...but here goes...Im so jealous that you are sunburnt!! Today is our '6 months of nothing but snow' anniversary. Will be so glad to finally feel some heat and get a bit of sunburn myself

I understand! I got plenty of ribbing from my friends north of the border! Apparently they got hit with yet more snow! I yearn for snow, haven't seen it in 6 years! I'm pretty sore right now, not sure I'll be able to wear a bra tomorrow, eek!

I agree with you.. Aeryn is soooo cute and all grown up now, eating solid food! What's next? Steak?

 

[Samsfan]

Coy. Aeryn is adorable. She really is a pretty baby. How is the studying going? What state do you live in?
The FS said the lab closes for a week June 4 th. So idk what that means. I think my cycle falls on that week. And im on a semi vacation.

Alicatt. I wish I was sunburned.

Welcome Malipoo and all the new people.

Afm. I had a positive opk finally!

All I have to say today is HAPPY BIRTHDAY COY!...MAYBE A BIT BELATED BUT HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
BTW If you turned 38 you are on to year 39... you've completed 38 years!

I'm on to 39?.... Nnnnooooooo!!! LOL! haha....

Sams- how are you feeling? Have you decided to jump right back in for IVF this cycle or are you going to wait? I remember you mentioning your FS is like on vacay for a while, wtf right? Doesn't he get that you wanna have a baby? lol. Argh, schedules

How is work?

 

[alicatt]

Sams.. great news about the OPK!! YAY!

AFM.. still up because my back is on fire! Not sure I'll be able to wear a bra.. it's that bad
Oh and no wine slushies! My friend sent me a txt at midnight to say they were ready! Guess I'll have to wait until next weekend to try it

I am now waiting for AF.. stopped progesterone on Thursday, so AF should appear anytime now.. then waiting on lab to get results, then we start estrogen and I have the dreaded infusion of IVIg, ugh. But maybe my FET will FINALLY happen in May?

 

[melly2]

I'm feeling odd today, very mixed emotions. Today is the Boston marathon (and tax day), which to most people, could care less. To me, it's one of the greatest days of the year. I ran the Boston a year ago, and then back in 2010. I worked hard, very hard, to qualify and run the Boston. I lived and loved marathons...I loved competing in them. Watching the runners at the start line this morning, I'm getting emotional. I wanted to be there. My body is nowhere close to what it was a year ago, and knowingly had to do this in order to have a baby. However, me thinking that I would get pregnant easily thought I would get pregnant, be fat for 9 months, have baby, then put baby in the running stroller as my run buddy, and I would be back to marathons. Heh...not the case. Now, I'm in limbo...but this is all for a good cause and I need to get over it. After all, I'm not an elite runner or professional runner. My life has always been so planned meticulously. I could plan my races down to the second, now I don't even know if/when I am getting a cycle or if a child is even in our future.

My husband has another sperm test today. Please, please, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed and prayers his way. Gosh, I hope he can even squeeze one out at the clinic; he's not good under pressure like that. I hope there is some improvement in his counts. If not, then who knows what's next.

Sorry, this is a pity party for myself, and shouldn't be. I need to put things in perspective. Things will work themselves out.

Hi Ali, glad you had a great weekend, and enjoyed the sun! Fun times!

 

[alicatt]

I'm feeling odd today, very mixed emotions. Today is the Boston marathon (and tax day), which to most people, could care less. To me, it's one of the greatest days of the year. I ran the Boston a year ago, and then back in 2010. I worked hard, very hard, to qualify and run the Boston. I lived and loved marathons...I loved competing in them. Watching the runners at the start line this morning, I'm getting emotional. I wanted to be there. My body is nowhere close to what it was a year ago, and knowingly had to do this in order to have a baby. However, me thinking that I would get pregnant easily thought I would get pregnant, be fat for 9 months, have baby, then put baby in the running stroller as my run buddy, and I would be back to marathons. Heh...not the case. Now, I'm in limbo...but this is all for a good cause and I need to get over it. After all, I'm not an elite runner or professional runner. My life has always been so planned meticulously. I could plan my races down to the second, now I don't even know if/when I am getting a cycle or if a child is even in our future.

My husband has another sperm test today. Please, please, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed and prayers his way. Gosh, I hope he can even squeeze one out at the clinic; he's not good under pressure like that. I hope there is some improvement in his counts. If not, then who knows what's next.

Sorry, this is a pity party for myself, and shouldn't be. I need to put things in perspective. Things will work themselves out.

Hi Ali, glad you had a great weekend, and enjoyed the sun! Fun times!

Melly.. TTC is a very emotional time, there is so much going on, and if you are using medications then your hormones and emotions are amplified even more, and there is sadness and stress, and anxiety too. For those of us that are older and have trying for a while it can become overwhelming.

When that happens, I take a step back and assess the situation, look at the big picture, and decide whether I want to continue. If the plusses outweigh the minuses, then I continue. I will say that I am coming to the end of the plusses outweighing the minuses. I have decided that I will continue as far as my little frosties will take me, and then that is all.

I really hope your DH's test goes well today!


AFM - I'm a lobster and wearing a bra is torture. I just want to go home and hide Oh well, as long as I don't move too much I can bear it. I think I need to buy new sunscreen. The 45 I put on 3-4 times yesterday clearly didn't work

 

[melly2]

I'm feeling odd today, very mixed emotions. Today is the Boston marathon (and tax day), which to most people, could care less. To me, it's one of the greatest days of the year. I ran the Boston a year ago, and then back in 2010. I worked hard, very hard, to qualify and run the Boston. I lived and loved marathons...I loved competing in them. Watching the runners at the start line this morning, I'm getting emotional. I wanted to be there. My body is nowhere close to what it was a year ago, and knowingly had to do this in order to have a baby. However, me thinking that I would get pregnant easily thought I would get pregnant, be fat for 9 months, have baby, then put baby in the running stroller as my run buddy, and I would be back to marathons. Heh...not the case. Now, I'm in limbo...but this is all for a good cause and I need to get over it. After all, I'm not an elite runner or professional runner. My life has always been so planned meticulously. I could plan my races down to the second, now I don't even know if/when I am getting a cycle or if a child is even in our future.

My husband has another sperm test today. Please, please, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed and prayers his way. Gosh, I hope he can even squeeze one out at the clinic; he's not good under pressure like that. I hope there is some improvement in his counts. If not, then who knows what's next.

Sorry, this is a pity party for myself, and shouldn't be. I need to put things in perspective. Things will work themselves out.

Hi Ali, glad you had a great weekend, and enjoyed the sun! Fun times!

Melly.. TTC is a very emotional time, there is so much going on, and if you are using medications then your hormones and emotions are amplified even more, and there is sadness and stress, and anxiety too. For those of us that are older and have trying for a while it can become overwhelming.

When that happens, I take a step back and assess the situation, look at the big picture, and decide whether I want to continue. If the plusses outweigh the minuses, then I continue. I will say that I am coming to the end of the plusses outweighing the minuses. I have decided that I will continue as far as my little frosties will take me, and then that is all.

I really hope your DH's test goes well today!


AFM - I'm a lobster and wearing a bra is torture. I just want to go home and hide Oh well, as long as I don't move too much I can bear it. I think I need to buy new sunscreen. The 45 I put on 3-4 times yesterday clearly didn't work

Thanks for the words of support. I'm currently not taking any hormones, only vitex. I just get emotional about running for some reason (weird, I know). We're waiting to see what's doing with the ol' mans sperm. He's going to a new urologist, who specializes in fertility, which is why he's getting another sample done. It's been about 2 months since his last one, so may be too soon to tell.