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[Babywhisperer]

I'm feeling odd today, very mixed emotions. Today is the Boston marathon (and tax day), which to most people, could care less. To me, it's one of the greatest days of the year. I ran the Boston a year ago, and then back in 2010. I worked hard, very hard, to qualify and run the Boston. I lived and loved marathons...I loved competing in them. Watching the runners at the start line this morning, I'm getting emotional. I wanted to be there. My body is nowhere close to what it was a year ago, and knowingly had to do this in order to have a baby. However, me thinking that I would get pregnant easily thought I would get pregnant, be fat for 9 months, have baby, then put baby in the running stroller as my run buddy, and I would be back to marathons. Heh...not the case. Now, I'm in limbo...but this is all for a good cause and I need to get over it. After all, I'm not an elite runner or professional runner. My life has always been so planned meticulously. I could plan my races down to the second, now I don't even know if/when I am getting a cycle or if a child is even in our future.

My husband has another sperm test today. Please, please, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed and prayers his way. Gosh, I hope he can even squeeze one out at the clinic; he's not good under pressure like that. I hope there is some improvement in his counts. If not, then who knows what's next.

Sorry, this is a pity party for myself, and shouldn't be. I need to put things in perspective. Things will work themselves out.

Hi Ali, glad you had a great weekend, and enjoyed the sun! Fun times!

Melly.. TTC is a very emotional time, there is so much going on, and if you are using medications then your hormones and emotions are amplified even more, and there is sadness and stress, and anxiety too. For those of us that are older and have trying for a while it can become overwhelming.

When that happens, I take a step back and assess the situation, look at the big picture, and decide whether I want to continue. If the plusses outweigh the minuses, then I continue. I will say that I am coming to the end of the plusses outweighing the minuses. I have decided that I will continue as far as my little frosties will take me, and then that is all.

I really hope your DH's test goes well today!


AFM - I'm a lobster and wearing a bra is torture. I just want to go home and hide Oh well, as long as I don't move too much I can bear it. I think I need to buy new sunscreen. The 45 I put on 3-4 times yesterday clearly didn't work

Ali get yourself some Shiseido SPF it is what Asians wear and they are deathly afraid of darkening their skin. I use 55 on my face bc I can burn. That's lobster #2 and the season just started!!

Quick update, nurse just called to congratulate me. Beta is 159 and progesterone is 45. She said both are exactly where they want them to be at this point. She said the beta does not indicate an ectopic or twins, but she will know more the next beta on Wed. Paging Dr Ali, how do these numbers look to you?

 

[melly2]

I'm feeling odd today, very mixed emotions. Today is the Boston marathon (and tax day), which to most people, could care less. To me, it's one of the greatest days of the year. I ran the Boston a year ago, and then back in 2010. I worked hard, very hard, to qualify and run the Boston. I lived and loved marathons...I loved competing in them. Watching the runners at the start line this morning, I'm getting emotional. I wanted to be there. My body is nowhere close to what it was a year ago, and knowingly had to do this in order to have a baby. However, me thinking that I would get pregnant easily thought I would get pregnant, be fat for 9 months, have baby, then put baby in the running stroller as my run buddy, and I would be back to marathons. Heh...not the case. Now, I'm in limbo...but this is all for a good cause and I need to get over it. After all, I'm not an elite runner or professional runner. My life has always been so planned meticulously. I could plan my races down to the second, now I don't even know if/when I am getting a cycle or if a child is even in our future.

My husband has another sperm test today. Please, please, PLEASE keep your fingers crossed and prayers his way. Gosh, I hope he can even squeeze one out at the clinic; he's not good under pressure like that. I hope there is some improvement in his counts. If not, then who knows what's next.

Sorry, this is a pity party for myself, and shouldn't be. I need to put things in perspective. Things will work themselves out.

Hi Ali, glad you had a great weekend, and enjoyed the sun! Fun times!

Melly.. TTC is a very emotional time, there is so much going on, and if you are using medications then your hormones and emotions are amplified even more, and there is sadness and stress, and anxiety too. For those of us that are older and have trying for a while it can become overwhelming.

When that happens, I take a step back and assess the situation, look at the big picture, and decide whether I want to continue. If the plusses outweigh the minuses, then I continue. I will say that I am coming to the end of the plusses outweighing the minuses. I have decided that I will continue as far as my little frosties will take me, and then that is all.

I really hope your DH's test goes well today!


AFM - I'm a lobster and wearing a bra is torture. I just want to go home and hide Oh well, as long as I don't move too much I can bear it. I think I need to buy new sunscreen. The 45 I put on 3-4 times yesterday clearly didn't work

Ali get yourself some Shiseido SPF it is what Asians wear and they are deathly afraid of darkening their skin. I use 55 on my face bc I can burn. That's lobster #2 and the season just started!!

Quick update, nurse just called to congratulate me. Beta is 159 and progesterone is 45. She said both are exactly where they want them to be at this point. She said the beta does not indicate an ectopic or twins, but she will know more the next beta on Wed. Paging Dr Ali, how do these numbers look to you?

Great news babywhisper!!!

 

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[alicatt]

Ali get yourself some Shiseido SPF it is what Asians wear and they are deathly afraid of darkening their skin. I use 55 on my face bc I can burn. That's lobster #2 and the season just started!!

Quick update, nurse just called to congratulate me. Beta is 159 and progesterone is 45. She said both are exactly where they want them to be at this point. She said the beta does not indicate an ectopic or twins, but she will know more the next beta on Wed. Paging Dr Ali, how do these numbers look to you?

I know.. I really need to figure out what is going on The first time was a fluke, this time though I was like WTF? I read up on Lupron, and it says.. STAY OUT OF THE SUN! I wish I'd known that before today! UGH. I'm slathering aloe on it, and I'll be OK in a few more days, but yes, I need new and better suncreen as this is nuts

Your BETA and P4 look perfect!!!! It really isn't an exact science with how BETAs go, some start low, and some start high, both can survive and both can falter. The key is how it grows in the coming days. It is supposed to double (or more) every 2 days, so they will test you again on Wednesday and possibly even on Friday. Then in another week they'll go searching for the sac to make sure it is where it is supposed to be! Right now everything looks exactly as it should!!!

 

[JandK]

Well we did 2 inseminations this weekend. One Saturday night at 10pm and another Sunday morning at 11am. I had a positive OPK Saturday morning and tons of egg white all weekend. And my sex drive was through the roof. I really thought I ovulated this weekend with all the symptoms I had, but this morning my temp was still low. I am not sure what to think. I am still holding out for the temp to rise tomorrow morning. I really hope it does....this being our last cycle I am uber crazy....

 

[alicatt]

Ali- aw, I am sorry to hear about the sunburn, wow, this is twice in about a week or two--be careful Ouch. You didn't get your wine slushy? Oh yeah- ditch the bra

Babywhisperer- Yay! Congrats babe your preggo!!!!! Yes-paging doctor Ali! She knows beta better than anybody Imma go look it up tho....

Sams- hey! Not sure on the vacation times, I think you should be able to cycle through FS whether he's on vacation or not, I mean- don't they have like...back-up Fs?

I got burnt on Easter so it was a few weeks ago, this time I have a reverse farmers tan (the opposite of what I had last time). I think it is because I was lazing in the pool on a noodle and so only the top half of my arm, chest and back were out of the water. I did put sunscreen on, but maybe it wasn't waterproof? Plus the whole.. Lupron and sun issue. Or possibly my sunscreen is expired? I will definitely resolve these issues before I go out in the sun again. Plus I doubt I will be in the sun again before I get to stop taking Lupron.

Also no slushie for me my friend didn't put it in the freezer soon enough. She sent me a txt at like midnight saying it was frozen now!! So we'll drink it at bunco this coming weekend. So my flooring is being delivered tomorrow! It will sit in my living room until next Monday, when they are going to install it. So by the end of next week, I should have new floors and the results of my biopsy!

BabyW - definitely PREGGERS!!!

Sams - it is normal for the office to shut down for a week, and they just medicate you around it. For example when I started my second IVF, it would have been over Christmas, so they manipulated my cycle using BCP and Lupron to get me to cycle sooner. Basically my cycles in Oct and Nov were only 3 weeks long, so that made me ready 2 weeks sooner. It can be done, you just have to go in and have them plan the cycle. Procrastination at this point is not a good idea, you need to get in there and get them to start regulating it, if not, you'll have to wait until they are back.

 

[melly2]

Okay...I'm no longer sad that I'm not running the Boston Marathon this year. Just sad that someone had to spoil such a wonderful event for both the spectators and runners. You see, I needed to put everything into perspective.

On a lighter note, my husband was able to do his SA today. I'm very proud of him because i know how stressed out he was about this. Now...let's hope he has a bunch of swimmers!

 

[alicatt]

Okay...I'm no longer sad that I'm not running the Boston Marathon this year. Just sad that someone had to spoil such a wonderful event for both the spectators and runners. You see, I needed to put everything into perspective.

On a lighter note, my husband was able to do his SA today. I'm very proud of him because i know how stressed out he was about this. Now...let's hope he has a bunch of swimmers!

Yep.. I immediately thought of you when I heard about the explosions. So sad, but yes I'm sure you are happy you aren't there right now. I'll have to pay attention to the news tonight to see if anyone is claiming responsibility. I really do not understand the hate that some people have towards people having a good time, working hard to get in the best shape of their lives to run in such a notable marathon. How on earth can some people be so hateful? Makes me sad

Glad your DH got through the SA, I'm sure it is not an easy thing do do at least it is beyond you now. When do you get the results?

 

[melly2]

Okay...I'm no longer sad that I'm not running the Boston Marathon this year. Just sad that someone had to spoil such a wonderful event for both the spectators and runners. You see, I needed to put everything into perspective.

On a lighter note, my husband was able to do his SA today. I'm very proud of him because i know how stressed out he was about this. Now...let's hope he has a bunch of swimmers!

Yep.. I immediately thought of you when I heard about the explosions. So sad, but yes I'm sure you are happy you aren't there right now. I'll have to pay attention to the news tonight to see if anyone is claiming responsibility. I really do not understand the hate that some people have towards people having a good time, working hard to get in the best shape of their lives to run in such a notable marathon. How on earth can some people be so hateful? Makes me sad

Glad your DH got through the SA, I'm sure it is not an easy thing do do at least it is beyond you now. When do you get the results?

Ugh...so sad. Let's hope that they catch the person/people responsible for this! It's such a fun and festive day for Boston, and this happens.

We probably should know within the next day on his test results, however, the doctor wants to schedule a follow up appointment. I just added my husband to my company's insurance, since it covers pretty much all fertility (even IVF), including tests. We got the bill from his previous tests and about crapped! Apparently his health insurance doesn't cover fertility. ARGH! With all his SA and blood work, that could get pretty pricey quick. This whole baby makin' thing ain't cheap.

 

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[Babywhisperer]

Okay...I'm no longer sad that I'm not running the Boston Marathon this year. Just sad that someone had to spoil such a wonderful event for both the spectators and runners. You see, I needed to put everything into perspective.

On a lighter note, my husband was able to do his SA today. I'm very proud of him because i know how stressed out he was about this. Now...let's hope he has a bunch of swimmers!

Yep.. I immediately thought of you when I heard about the explosions. So sad, but yes I'm sure you are happy you aren't there right now. I'll have to pay attention to the news tonight to see if anyone is claiming responsibility. I really do not understand the hate that some people have towards people having a good time, working hard to get in the best shape of their lives to run in such a notable marathon. How on earth can some people be so hateful? Makes me sad

Glad your DH got through the SA, I'm sure it is not an easy thing do do at least it is beyond you now. When do you get the results?

Ugh...so sad. Let's hope that they catch the person/people responsible for this! It's such a fun and festive day for Boston, and this happens.

We probably should know within the next day on his test results, however, the doctor wants to schedule a follow up appointment. I just added my husband to my company's insurance, since it covers pretty much all fertility (even IVF), including tests. We got the bill from his previous tests and about crapped! Apparently his health insurance doesn't cover fertility. ARGH! With all his SA and blood work, that could get pretty pricey quick. This whole baby makin' thing ain't cheap.

Everything happens for a reason....skipping the marathon was a blessing. Great news that dh "performed" on command, fx'd his SA comes back strong!

I am so gutted right now. At the same time the bombs in Boston went off, my trader was getting let go from our firm. It was all politics, but I'm devastated since we came from one firm to this one together, and he was the only one who ever looked out for me. I had to have a meeting with my boss immediately after and I decided to play the legal/HR card and told my boss I was pregnant. My trader was being escorted out and trying to call his daughter in Boston to see if she was ok. Now there are reports an 8yr old was killed in the blast. What kind of a person does this? Who has such little regard for human life? So many people running the marathon were raising money for charities and being cheered on by friends, family, coworkers, only to have such a senseless tragedy. Such a roller coaster day, I can't do anything but watch the news and hope the death toll doesn't rise anymore. My heart breaks for the families of those killed and hurt. This is sickening.

Maybe if more of these sick *******s had to fight like some of us to bring life into this world, they would be so flippant with others.

 

[never_give_up]

Hello ladies!

BabyWhisperer! Congrats on great beta numbers
Yes you are right it was a senseless tragedy and so sad that some deranged people have no value for life.

Happy belated Birthday Coy! I can't believe I missed it I kept asking when it was as I knew it was in April. You don't have your birthday listed on FB. Yes you had a wonderful year and wishing that all your dreams come true in the year ahead!

Melly what a tragedy in Boston. So glad you didn't run the marathon and that you are safe.

Ali are you feeling better? I heard on the news that you had some bad thunderstorms. You must be so sick of driving around in that! I hate rain :gowlmad:

AFM- It has been rainy here and the sudden ups and downs in temp made my fibromyalgia flare up quite badly over the last several days. Feeling a bit better today as I had the dehumidifier on and dh has been giving me massages. April seems to be the worse month for me here.

 

[alicatt]

Hello ladies!

BabyWhisperer! Congrats on great beta numbers
Yes you are right it was a senseless tragedy and so sad that some deranged people have no value for life.

Happy belated Birthday Coy! I can't believe I missed it I kept asking when it was as I knew it was in April. You don't have your birthday listed on FB. Yes you had a wonderful year and wishing that all your dreams come true in the year ahead!

Melly what a tragedy in Boston. So glad you didn't run the marathon and that you are safe.

Ali are you feeling better? I heard on the news that you had some bad thunderstorms. You must be so sick of driving around in that! I hate rain :gowlmad:

AFM- It has been rainy here and the sudden ups and downs in temp made my fibromyalgia flare up quite badly over the last several days. Feeling a bit better today as I had the dehumidifier on and dh has been giving me massages. April seems to be the worse month for me here.

Hi Chantal,

Sorry you're having issues with your fibro, that just doesn't sound like fun at all. I can only imagine what that feels like. sorry. I bet it is the change of seasons and the higher than normal amount of rain that falls in the spring. They say.. April showers bring May flowers.

So far I have been able to dodge the showers, but they have been pretty fierce. We had a flood warning last night. Some days I wonder why Florida doesn't just float away! It will be good for the growing season, and it has been dampening the pollen so my allergies haven't been as bad.

My issue now is the Lupron, it isn't causing me the headaches as badly as last time, or the hives (odd) but my bones ache! It is a side effect of the medicine. So I'm just going with it, but my hips feel like they are very weak when I first stand up.

Oh and I had a horrible experience at the vet this morning when I dropped Zach off. He was on a short leash and I was keeping him away from everyone else, cause he has anxiety about other dogs, especially big ones. So I was purposely keeping him away from this other LARGE dog that came in. Well the woman has him on an extend -a- leash and he comes leaping over to Zach, gets right in Zach's face and starts growling and mean barking. I'm like WTF? Really I yelled at the lady.. get your dog away from my dog he's growling and being aggressive! So I pick Zach up he's now freaking out clawing me and screaming in this horrible yelping way. She says to me, your dog is more apt to bite than mine is, I said that is Bull$#*! your dog is the one being aggressive get him away from mine right now. She is right though if I'd left Zach down there he might have bitten (but it would have been in self defence)! I mean come on, who in their right mind brings an aggressive dog into a Vet on an extend -a- leash without having it under control? She finally got the picture and walked away, but Zach was literally trembling in my arms when he went back with the tech

That was at 7am this morning.. great way to start the day!!

My hardwood is to be delivered today, and everyone knows this BUT the delivery people!!! ? OMG I was freaking out when I was talking to the person in delivery, she's like we don't have you on the books today. WTF? I said that is why I am calling because while the installed sales and the 3rd party installers all tell me I am getting the hardwoods delivered today they all said I would get a call from the delivery team to let me know what time. Well that call didn't come! So I spoke with the installed sales people and she was like, ya you are on the books, I have the ticket right here, but I don't know when it will be delivered. She is going to have the delivery manager call me ASAP, I had initially requested between 9-12 as I have mtgs from 12-2 and have to be available to pick Zach up from 3-5.

This day is turning into a day. I think maybe I should just give up and go back to

 

[melly2]

I have a quick question. I have been taking DHEA recently, but starting to wonder if I should. What's ya'll thoughts on this?

 

[alicatt]

I have a quick question. I have been taking DHEA recently, but starting to wonder if I should. What's ya'll thoughts on this?

I have heard great things about it as a supplement for improving egg quality. However I also think it is something that men use to enhance their body? To make it build more muscle? So I think you have to be careful where it is coming from. I'm pretty sure it is something that should only be taken by Rx (at least for women). But if yours is from your Dr, then I think it will do wonders for your eggs!

 

[never_give_up]

Poor Zach (and you) Sheesh! like you said Ali, it would be better to go back to bed and start over ..maybe with a different outcome! Makes me glad I have nothing going on outside the house right now! Sometimes dealing with strangers and sales reps is stressful because they just don't go out of their way to provide good service anymore. Dh bought a light for the tank which was defective so he brought it back and wasnt trying to get his money back, he was exchanging for a whole new cover with LED bulbs. At first the guy wouldn't take it back. He told dh that he probably put his old bulbs back in there that is why they were not working! Oh how I wish I had been there!! I worked in sales a long time and it was very RUDE of him to accuse dh of that when he is a new customer!! The guy did take the bulbs back but I told dh he should have spent the $60 elsewhere! All I've had to deal with is a sick fish who won't eat despite treating the tank for ich and doing water changes every other day.

Ali I don't think the lupron is causing your bones to ache. That is the high humidity from all the rain you have had there!

 

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[alicatt]

Poor Zach (and you) Sheesh! like you said Ali, it would be better to go back to bed and start over ..maybe with a different outcome! Makes me glad I have nothing going on outside the house right now! Sometimes dealing with strangers and sales reps is stressful because they just don't go out of their way to provide good service anymore. Dh bought a light for the tank which was defective so he brought it back and wasnt trying to get his money back, he was exchanging for a whole new cover with LED bulbs. At first the guy wouldn't take it back. He told dh that he probably put his old bulbs back in there that is why they were not working! Oh how I wish I had been there!! I worked in sales a long time and it was very RUDE of him to accuse dh of that when he is a new customer!! The guy did take the bulbs back but I told dh he should have spent the $60 elsewhere! All I've had to deal with is a sick fish who won't eat despite treating the tank for ich and doing water changes every other day.

Ali I don't think the lupron is causing your bones to ache. That is the high humidity from all the rain you have had there!

Yep.. I'm taking deep breaths now and being more ZEN.. just not easy when so many upsetting things happen in a day. I plan for my day to go one way, and it seems like everyone is out to make it go awry. So I'll just deal.

Sorry your DH had to deal with that, sounds like maybe that is a common issue there? That is one of the reasons I always buy a box that hasn't been tampered with (before me). Still not cool of the person to accuse your DH of doing such a thing. GRR. I would have taken my business elsewhere too.
Sorry about your sick fish! Sometimes I think that they could just have something else wrong? Like before you got him/her that they were in poor water or they had trouble acclimating. I hope you figure it out and he survives! Poor little fishy

I just looked up the side effects and lupron can cause bone pain. It isn't super bad, its like I stand up and it hurts for a few seconds as I take my first few steps then it is OK. So I think AF is on her way.. also why I'm probably freaking out at things more today than other days. Gotta love PMS!!

 

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[alicatt]

Hello ladies!

Quick post...

Babywhisperer- K, so your trader has worked this work for years right? And they fire him , escort him out (like he's a security risk) all the while he is stressing the bomb in Boston and fearing his child's life? His day SUCKED And smart move girl, playing the preggo card! Way to keep your job if it was ever in jeopardy of any kind. Is your company trimming the edges or what? Aaargh! I hate them already

Ali- next time carry a big dang stick! For hitting big dogs with Fx'd for the hardwood coming at an opportune time! How's the sunburn?

Chantal- April is a crappy month- very wet and pressures rise and fall dramatically. Here in Idaho also. Thanks for the b-day wish

Melly- not sure on the DHEA. I have erad it is awesome stuff for fertility but also read the negative stuff too--so maybe best to consult FS about it?

Sams- How are you today?

BabyW - so sorry about your co-worker. I hate that security walk. It is so humiliating, and 99% of the time unnecessary. I hope that he is able to find a job and his child is OK! What a terrible thing to have happen. At least now you have disclosed that you are with child. So hopefully there won't be any hiccups for you!