Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[tiatammy]

Hi Grey Eyes- yes doing ok. Gearing up for O so have been busy!! Expecting to O on Thursday. Had a higher temp today but haven't updated yet. I think it's just a fluke. There's no way I O'd on cd 10. I haven't even started opk yet. I will wait until cd 12. I don't like wasting too many of them .....
Hope you're doing well. When do you go for your gender scan? Please let me know !!!! I can't wait.[/QUOTE]

Glad to hear you are doing good! I have missed our conversations lol...I think I am getting better at chart reading

AFM- Our gender/growth scan is set for next Thursday the 31rst of this month. So only 4 more days! Well, technically since it is at 2 p.m. my time only 3 and a half days I am sooOOooo excited! Will finally know what to shop for!

Baby is wiggling around in there all the time now, I am able to tell if (s)he is asleep or awake for the most part. Dh is getting excited too Now my "fattness" has become an issue, lol, just with me though. Dh is si nice about it but I am starting the upward struggle to thunder-thighs I am trying very hard not to but like today- I tried to eat like I usually do and ended up almost passing out. Dh was upset with me and told me to get used to the idea that I would inevitably gain some fat deposits as that is what the body does for baby health. He's right of course, but warned me not to take that as an excuse to gorge on fatty food As if --as we used to say in the 80s!![/QUOTE]

grey eyes was there anything you did differntly this time to concieve I have still not got a BFP and it has now been 14 months. hubby was checked completely, with a complete work up and all turned out great with him, as for me had the tub al reversal last april 2011, and this month I got no positive OPK at all no temp shift to show ovulation, have any ideas on what that is or has that happenede to you? waiting to hear from doc. on what the next step is, he is talking about the checking of the tubes to see if they are still opened and if they are, then a post coital test to check the cervical fluid, and then if that is all fine then he was talking about IUI, I am so scared that it is over for me with me being 40. sorry I am rambling, but scared. FRIENDS. So happy for you and your little bunddle of joy.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Tiatammy- as far as doing anything different- not really. I used opk's to verify my Ov then temping to help with that also. Then I watched my cm to make sure it was ewcm...I took Guiffenesin tablets too for the five days of fertile window, just to help with cm. Then I just got mad at dh and, um, put my foot down about timing

Try not to worry or be scared- tubal reversal is a fairly simple and very common process. I am sure everyuthing is fine! But I am wondering if you are perhaps having an issue with hormone levels and that's why no LH surge or egg release?? They have therapies for htis so don't worry...also, no reason to be scared about an IUI- they are a simple process that skips over the cm if you are having an issue with that. The lady on this thread "Philomena" is currently about 9 weeks prego with a first time IUI- very succesful and not scary at all! What is your cm usually like? I think it may be hormonal though as you mentioned no LH surge on OPK...possibly a long cycle? Let me know what you find out from your doc and try not to worry too much

 

[alicatt]

Hi Grey Eyes- yes doing ok. Gearing up for O so have been busy!! Expecting to O on Thursday. Had a higher temp today but haven't updated yet. I think it's just a fluke. There's no way I O'd on cd 10. I haven't even started opk yet. I will wait until cd 12. I don't like wasting too many of them .....
Hope you're doing well. When do you go for your gender scan? Please let me know !!!! I can't wait.

Glad to hear you are doing good! I have missed our conversations lol...I think I am getting better at chart reading

AFM- Our gender/growth scan is set for next Thursday the 31rst of this month. So only 4 more days! Well, technically since it is at 2 p.m. my time only 3 and a half days I am sooOOooo excited! Will finally know what to shop for!

Baby is wiggling around in there all the time now, I am able to tell if (s)he is asleep or awake for the most part. Dh is getting excited too Now my "fattness" has become an issue, lol, just with me though. Dh is si nice about it but I am starting the upward struggle to thunder-thighs I am trying very hard not to but like today- I tried to eat like I usually do and ended up almost passing out. Dh was upset with me and told me to get used to the idea that I would inevitably gain some fat deposits as that is what the body does for baby health. He's right of course, but warned me not to take that as an excuse to gorge on fatty food As if --as we used to say in the 80s!![/QUOTE]

grey eyes was there anything you did differntly this time to concieve I have still not got a BFP and it has now been 14 months. hubby was checked completely, with a complete work up and all turned out great with him, as for me had the tub al reversal last april 2011, and this month I got no positive OPK at all no temp shift to show ovulation, have any ideas on what that is or has that happenede to you? waiting to hear from doc. on what the next step is, he is talking about the checking of the tubes to see if they are still opened and if they are, then a post coital test to check the cervical fluid, and then if that is all fine then he was talking about IUI, I am so scared that it is over for me with me being 40. sorry I am rambling, but scared. FRIENDS. So happy for you and your little bunddle of joy.[/QUOTE]

TiaTammy,

I just wanted to say that I'm going to be having most if not all the procedures you listed here this month! I have the tube test on Wednesday of this week, and I'm on day 4 of 5 of clomid, and the IUI should occur sometime late next week. My reasons for doing this are a little different than yours. I'm a single woman, and 39 (closing in on 40) and I want so desperately to have a child. So that is my story. Anyway, I will let you know how things go, and hopefully that will help you in your decision. Best of luck to you!!

Ali

 

[alicatt]

Morning Everyone!!!

It is day 4 of 5 days of Clomid. I am doing OK actually. Feeling bloated, and I have lower back pain and my ovaries feel a little funky. Not painful or anything, I just kinda sorta feel them. Or at least I think I can feel them.
Gearing up to go and have the tube test Wednesday morning. I hear that it is not very fun. Hopefully it won't be too bad!

Had an awesome weekend down here, lots of fun last night celebrating with fireworks etc! Unfortunately I have to work today. Drew the short straw and ended up on call this morning. Oh well, at least I can do it from home!!

Marathon Girl.. I hope you are getting busy BD'ing GL this week!

Phil.. did you ever have the tube test? How did you react to being on Clomid? (if you were on it).

Coy.. I hope you are having a good day, and hopefully you have the day off!!!

Jess.. where are you? I haven't heard from you in a few days! Hope you are doing well.. miss you!!!

 

[zoii]

Are you conceiving your first baby? According to doctors you should conceive your first baby before 30. Otherwise complication increases with the passage of time.

 

[MissusO]

Are you conceiving your first baby? According to doctors you should conceive your first baby before 30. Otherwise complication increases with the passage of time.

Hello zoii,

Am not sure if your post is aimed at anyone in particular but think you will find that as most of us here are over 35 as the group name suggests, we are only too well aware of the complications that being over 35 can bring to conceiving either a first or indeed any child. Your post has come across a little bit insensitive.

Am sorry if I have taken it the wrong way and I wish you luck on your conception journey.

Missuso

 

[Philomena]

Well put Response MissusO.....
I can't say it any better. This forum is for those of us who are over 35 and to suggest that we are 'unaware' of the possible increased complications is patronizing. This forum is meant to be a place where we can chat, discuss, and ask questions without judgement and to receive answers and support in a loving way.

MissusO I started to respond about 4 times, but was not nearly as gracious as you in your reply.... so except for the above, won't add anymore comment to the one I took offence to.

phil.

 

[alicatt]

My sentiments exactly, thanks MissusO and Phil!

I always feel a little sad when someone that has such a rigid way of looking at life. There are always so many shades of grey, and people should take a moment to consider them! Nothing is ever as black and white as they think. Nor should they judge others for choosing to do things a different way.

In addition, I like to think that my family gave me the morals and the values to know when to speak up and when to stay quiet, "What you say is silver and what you don't say is gold".

 

[Philomena]

Morning Everyone!!!

It is day 4 of 5 days of Clomid. I am doing OK actually. Feeling bloated, and I have lower back pain and my ovaries feel a little funky. Not painful or anything, I just kinda sorta feel them. Or at least I think I can feel them.
Gearing up to go and have the tube test Wednesday morning. I hear that it is not very fun. Hopefully it won't be too bad!

Had an awesome weekend down here, lots of fun last night celebrating with fireworks etc! Unfortunately I have to work today. Drew the short straw and ended up on call this morning. Oh well, at least I can do it from home!!

Marathon Girl.. I hope you are getting busy BD'ing GL this week!

Phil.. did you ever have the tube test? How did you react to being on Clomid? (if you were on it).

Coy.. I hope you are having a good day, and hopefully you have the day off!!!

Jess.. where are you? I haven't heard from you in a few days! Hope you are doing well.. miss you!!!

Good Morning, Ali!!

Ah, yes, .... me on Clomid... made me sharp and edgy and I felt uncomfortable in my own skin- and snappy..... but DH was great during it because he would just say 'it's the drugs talking' and I would agree! I didn't like how I felt, but I feel like it definitely increased our chances for success and if that is what I had to do for another baby, then I would again....

As for the Tubes Open test.... it was uncomfortable, but not such a big deal... Here is what my experience was like with that....
So here in Alberta, when you get your test appt they give you a window and book you in with about 10 other ladies. Thankfully I had an early morning appt and I got there early as they are 'first come first served' and I wanted the test done asap... I didn't want to wait in the waiting area for hours.... I was the second lady there. When the appt time came, they took about 5 of us ladies to the change area and we had to strip down and cover up with a hospital gown and robe. Then we went into a hallway and sat in a row on chairs outside the room with the machine.
The doctor doing the procedure was late, which didn't help my nerves any, but it did give me a chance to chat with one of the ladies also waiting.... I just felt vulnerable then.... So then the first lady went in.... and then it was my turn. I went in, and the dr (who was very nice and polite) explained what was going to happen to me- they put a catheter in past the cervix and then fill the uterus with a dye solution and watch it travel through the fallopian tubes and if everything is clear, we will see the dye spill out the other end and know that it's all good.
They had the monitor positioned so I could see it all happening too...
So a little pinch when the catheter was put in... and, of course, the discomfort of having to be spread eagle in a chilly room.... but it didn't take long.... I saw the dye going into my uterus and the doc gave a running commentary... uterus looks good and normal.... then the dye was going into the tubes... looking good.... then he says... oh... and explained... that he thought both of my tubes were open, but couldn't say definitively as the dye went through my right tube faster and the dye coming out the other end was obscuring the end of the left tube.... so he thinks they are both open, but since he couldn't positively see the dye come out on the left side before the right side dye drifted over, he couldn't say for sure....
I was very, very thankful that they take the time to tell you results straight away! I think the whole thing took less than 10 mins once I was in the room....

I have a friend who has severly scarred fallopian tubes from a measles infection. They have a little boy through IVF as that is the only option for them since her tubes are toast.... she had to do the test, and she said if your tubes are open it's fine... if they are blocked then it hurts like a sonofagun!

Hope this helps!!
phil.

 

[alicatt]

Phil!

Thanks for that update. A friend of mine had hers done a few years ago, and she is the one that mentioned to me that it wasn't very fun. She has endometriosis, and has since had her uterus removed. So I'm sure that there was some blockage for her. However she was able to have a baby using clomid to help her with her ovulation. Poor thing has PCOS and endometriosis. However as I said she has a happy healthy little boy now! YAY!

I was just wondering what it might be like, and you have helped out a lot! I am going to a private clinic down here in Boca Raton, which means I probably won't have to sit out in the hall like you did with many other women. The other option would have been for me to go to the hospital and have the procedure done there, and then I'm sure it would have been a lot more like your experience.

Here is hoping that my tubes are all open and ready to rock in a few week!!!

Ali

PS. I am Canadian, grew up in Hamilton

 

[Philomena]

Yay! Canada!
I was quite happy with how the staff and dr treated me. I can totally see how your friend might have had a more trying experience with the test dealing with all that stuff too!

How are all the forum ladies feeling today?

 

[alin3boys]

hi ladies i also had to bite my tongue to Zoii post, i had more problems concieving in my 20's than my 30's,it took 6 years to concieve my 1st ds due to unexplained infertility and i eventually concieved at 31 with help of clomid,i have gone onto to concieve another 4 boys and 2 angels aged 33,35,38,40 with no problems (i think the procedure with dye and clomid helped me concieve).

Phil and allie i live in the uk but the procedure is same although its more private,the actual procedure was fine but had some cramping and period like bleed for a couple of days afterwards.

I am now almost 42 and ttc my 6th child,I am on cd 23 of 24 day cycles,9dpo and have backache,creamy cm and can only just touch cervix with fingertip its so high,temp this morning was 36.74 but i not temped upto now has only just found thermometer lol and got a bfn this morning

 

[alicatt]

hi ladies i also had to bite my tongue to Zoii post, i had more problems concieving in my 20's than my 30's,it took 6 years to concieve my 1st ds due to unexplained infertility and i eventually concieved at 31 with help of clomid,i have gone onto to concieve another 4 boys and 2 angels aged 33,35,38,40 with no problems (i think the procedure with dye and clomid helped me concieve).

Phil and allie i live in the uk but the procedure is same although its more private,the actual procedure was fine but had some cramping and period like bleed for a couple of days afterwards.

I am now almost 42 and ttc my 6th child,I am on cd 23 of 24 day cycles,9dpo and have backache,creamy cm and can only just touch cervix with fingertip its so high,temp this morning was 36.74 but i not temped upto now has only just found thermometer lol and got a bfn this morning

alin3boys - wow #6 that is amazing!!

Thanks for the additional info on the clomid/tube test. Makes me a lot less stressed out hearing about others who have gone through the same things. I'll keep you posted as to how it goes on Wednesday.

Your symptoms sound promising, I hope that this is your lucky month!!!

Ali

 

[marathongirl]

Wow I also had to bite my tongue on that post??? Do people just stalk threads and put their 2 cents in when not asked for?
Hope everyone is doing well today!!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Hi ladies, can I join you? I'm 37 (38 in July) and am currently TTC no.2. I have a DS at 18months. It took us 6 years to get him, and I've had 5 MCs once I actually managed to start falling pregnant, 3 before him and 2 this year. We started TTC as soon as AFs returned after breastfeeding back in October but unfortunately life is just being a bit challenging at the moment.

I have a long gynae history and then PCOS was also diagnosed in 2009 but I am determined that I'll do everything I can to hopefully get no.2. I'm currently waiting on a referral for more tests regarding my RMCs and I'm getting a little nervous the age thing will now come into play.

Looking forward to getting to know everybody and hopefully supporting you as well xo

 

[Philomena]

Hi ladies, can I join you? I'm 37 (38 in July) and am currently TTC no.2. I have a DS at 18months. It took us 6 years to get him, and I've had 5 MCs once I actually managed to start falling pregnant, 3 before him and 2 this year. We started TTC as soon as AFs returned after breastfeeding back in October but unfortunately life is just being a bit challenging at the moment.

I have a long gynae history and then PCOS was also diagnosed in 2009 but I am determined that I'll do everything I can to hopefully get no.2. I'm currently waiting on a referral for more tests regarding my RMCs and I'm getting a little nervous the age thing will now come into play.

Looking forward to getting to know everybody and hopefully supporting you as well xo

Hi AngelSerenity!
Welcome to the group. I hope you don't mind, but there are two of us who started on the forum and have gotten our BFP's and we still like to hang out here.... it's amazing how close we can feel to our TTC support and how much I love chatting and staying in touch with my 'over 35' forum ladies!

AFM- I'm almost 9 weeks pregnant, age 40, and took Clomid and did IUI.

The age thing statistically comes into play as soon as we are over 35, but each woman has her own unique story and so here's hoping much health and an easy journey ttc for you!!

We are all here to support each other and share information, celebrate joys and frown at the disappointments.... Each woman here wants everyone to have the best experience possible, and I think you will find we are a chatty, friendly bunch! (right, ladies??)

chat soon,
phil.

 

[MissusO]

Hi ladies, can I join you? I'm 37 (38 in July) and am currently TTC no.2. I have a DS at 18months. It took us 6 years to get him, and I've had 5 MCs once I actually managed to start falling pregnant, 3 before him and 2 this year. We started TTC as soon as AFs returned after breastfeeding back in October but unfortunately life is just being a bit challenging at the moment.

I have a long gynae history and then PCOS was also diagnosed in 2009 but I am determined that I'll do everything I can to hopefully get no.2. I'm currently waiting on a referral for more tests regarding my RMCs and I'm getting a little nervous the age thing will now come into play.

Looking forward to getting to know everybody and hopefully supporting you as well xo

hello

Am a relative newbie here too but have been made to feel very welcome and have had lots of laughs and support so far and am sure you will too. Am from Norn Iron too but live in Edinburgh now - 23 years here but NI is still 'home' - sticks in the blood obviously

Take care

Missuso

 

[alicatt]

So nice to meet you both MissusO and AngelSerenity, and welcome!
The more the merrier
I wish you both lots of sticky and too!

I'm not sure if you have heard my story yet, but here goes:

I'm 39, single and wanting to be a mom. I have picked out some sperm, and let me tell you he is a fine looking man! Extremely athletic, has a college degree, and a smile to boot! I am currently taking clomid (day 4 of 5) and will be having my tubes tested later this week. Should everything go well, we will be doing IUI late next week. This is my first time trying clomid/IUI and I'm hopeful that it works!

Ali

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hello ladies! Hi to all the newcomers :wave: Sorry I haven't been on much the last couple of days for some reason I have been exhausted. I think justs tress catching up to me I'm gonna beat the crap out of it (stress that is) pretty soon just to get rid of it! lol...

Wow, Ali- comin' up! Wednesday, I can't believe it. You will do awesome, it's a pretty simple and quick procedure from what I hear. Do ya got a buddy to take along or will you do this privately? Can't wait to hear your results!

Marathongirl- is that a dip in temp I see? Ov maybe?? Too early? I am still learning temp charts but gettin' there!

Jess- where are you?

AFM- wow, what a comment in that earlier post! Something about "hey, you dumb old ladies, why are you even trying??" or something to that effect Yeah, I took it pretty offensivley too. No-body needs that on here, we get enough of it in our daily lives as it is! And none of us is old anyway (I don't plan on getting old, just better- isn't that how it's said?)

Glad to have all you ladies to chat with!

 

[jm1355]

Hello everyone! I was a little MIA this weekend. tried to ruin it but i didn't let her. She came. She went. And now I am ready for this next month.

Although I don't think I want to do all the monitoring that I did last month. It was such a let down. I don't know. What do yall think? Is it a good idea to keep monitoring? I have never done the temp charting.

Coy, is it necessary?

Ali, how is the clomid going for you?