Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

Ali- Thanks! I am not so worried about my diet anymore, I did enjoy eating it lol! :rofl:

Holy Cripes, what a mess you came back to! Number one it sucks being sick- that just makes everything else seem worse :hugs: Number two- re: the TP issue. No, men gotta have it, they just never replace it. LOL! It's my suspicion Matt used it then, in typical guy fashion, never replaced it. How odd though- my dh does all the tp shopping! :shrug: AND he refills all the tp roll when they get low or empty. :shock: WTH, right? lol! Anyway, re: the alarm. Not sure what to do witht hat - you're the technician :haha: I would call the company and see if there is an automatic quiet on that or maybe pick a different time for it to occur? :shrug: Can you turn it off and reboot in the morning?

I have been studying egg quality some...they say that the major relevant factors include diet, environment, hormonal issues and stress. I'd say you have had your share of stress! SO try to chill...hm...maybe I should be researching "chilling methods" lol! I could use some of that too...:huh:

Anyway, great blood flow is essential so they advise to drink at least two litres of water every day, find a fun exercise that helps blood flow and destressing...

Diet- your diet sounds good actually, and it was essential that you quit smoking so kudos to you ALi! :thumbup:

Foods to eat that improve egg quality: full fat dairy products, royal jelly, broccoli, berries, pumpkin seeds, halibut, sesame seeds, dark green leafy vegetables and ginger. (my aside: so eat Chinese! :haha:)

Foods and substances that harm egg quality: include tobacco, alcohol, caffeine, fizzy drinks, trans fats, processed foods and sugar.

So...
Destress
Drink 2 Litres of Water daily (for blood flow- massage helps too)
Moderate exercise
Hormone balance (talk to your doc about that )
Detox
Diet

Anyway, I found caffeine the hardest thing to give up but it is so worth it! Once I got prego and hit second tri I let myself have a cup of coffee or tea every day, or maybe chocolate...sugar isn't too hard to cut back on. You're tough! :thumbup: And I know you are determined, so this is all the easy stuff :hugs:
 
I know ttc can be extremely stressful, emotional, and discouraging. But as a woman I fully understand what all my ttc bnb friends are going through! It's tough but it's totally worth it! Kids have a way of kicking boring right out your life! :haha: So stay focused and stay hopeful! I know you will all make awesome moms! :thumbup:

Re: kids and boredom....Yeah. About that. SO I was exhausted and decided to take a warm relaxing bath. I locked the bathroom door, lit a rose candle and soaked for about half an hour. Bliss :cloud9: No one knocked on the door :shock: or needed me for anything :shrug:

Then I got out. I peeked into the dd's room which- for some funny reason I expected to still be clean, neat, and tidy.

Nope. I found pillows flung everywhere, blankets torn from the bed, sheets scattered...toys mixed amidst the blanket mess, barbies everywhere, a loud cartoon playing on tv, one child bouncing wildly on the bed..and the other. Ahhh, the other. My 3 year old dd. She looked the perfect angel. Naked except for her little kid panties (of course- what else!) standing on one leg in middle of the bed, arms outstretched, with her golden curls bouncing around her face and a perfect red lip pucker--while she spouted water fountain style through the air. And right into the middle of the bed.

So now they have a nice wet bed for bedtime. :wacko:

Kids! :haha:
 
Wow Coy, what a situation to come out of the bath to. I always wonder what's going on when my Neice and Nephew go quiet.

Well, as I had hoped, my temps dropped this morning. I actually got another positive OPK today, so I believe today is the correct ovulation day. All being well, temps will start to rise again tomorrow.

Just had a phone call from Hubby, he was just leaving, so I should see him very soon. woohoo!!!
 

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O my heck, I am tired! lol! I cooked dinner, a combination of adult and kid food- that way everyone is happy and I don't have to fight children to eat :roll: I don't have the energy for that :haha: Anyway I was bad and I ate steak and macaroni and cheese :blush:...I can feel the fat soaking into my backside as we speak :rofl: Well, not literally, and at this point I couldn't care less :haha: I feel like a nice warm soaking bath and then bed! I have done my school for the day, so think I will hit the hay early tonight!

Jess- don't let your thesis keep ya forever!

Terry- hope you are having a good sleep and those :spermy: are gearing for the attack! :thumbup: Awesome about the hpt's btw! And 3$ for CBE's! :shock: Whata friend to have! :haha: Maybe test again this week to see if your lh is surging again- that is if your temp doesn't rise. I am expecting it to though!

Ali- how are ya? Hope you are kicking this cold int he butt and getting back to the non-cold-medicine-saturated part of life! :haha: Awesome stuff to have on hand though :thumbup: I am going to research how to improve your egg quality, seemed like you mentioned that once...:coffee:

Babywhisperer- where in heck are ya? :huh:

Babydust- :hi: Got my eye on that chart! :thumbup:

Alin- :hi:


TwoToGo- how's the family? Getting better I hope!

Hi ladies :hi: Sorry I have been MIA it's been a crazy week with starting the new job.

Coy - :baby: is still quite cozy huh. Well I can't imagine the pain and discomfort you are in, but it must be a good feeling to know that each day you are closer than the day before. As far as your diet...listen to your body. You probably wanted steak b/c you needed iron and fat. You probably wanted the mac n cheese b/c you needed the calcium and yes more fat. It's not like you're eating this every day, you are very conscientious and eat very well. As for the dd's, you should install nanny cam's in their room and bathroom to see what actually happens to cause their wake of destruction! I bet it would be entertaining as hell.

Jess - how's the thesis coming along? I know how you feel about falling asleep when dh should be nudging you for some :sex: I have been working longer hrs and had to be out for work 2 nights this week and I'd just come home a crash...but af is still lingering so no harm no foul.

TerriLou, did you get that :sex: in? Looks like good timing!!

Alin, Twotogo, Babydust how's things with you lovely ladies?

Philo - how's the baby feeling? Any updates on the home front?

Ali - I'm happy you had some much needed and deserved R&R while in Canada. It sucks that you came home with a cold. My Mom has had pericarditis so she flies wearing a mask b/c the air quality is so poor and littered with germs. But the cold is your body's way of saying that something is out of balance. I agree with Coy that you need to get the diet in check, a full rainbow of colors should be present in your daily diet, especially the greens. Have you ever tried juicing? When I was at my healthiest I started my day with warm water with lemon, and an hr later either a fresh juice of greens or I made a special Metagenics unltra inflam shake (it's a medical protein powder with a ton of stuff to help combat inflammation due to Lyme) and I'd add a scoop of Amazon Amazing Greens chocolate flavored powder. It kept me regular, full of energy and just feeling less polluted. When I get sick it is a combo of poor diet, sleep and burning the candle at both ends. You have been under a lot of stress with work, ivf, traveling...try some yoga or even just 20min of stretching with deep breathing...trust me I need to do this too and have had no time. Let's motivate each other to find the time for the healthy stuff. I need a kick in the ass too.

Afm, (sigh) it's been a funky week. On the one hand it was exciting and nerve wracking to start a new job, in a new firm, new building, new people, new commute route, and new schedule. But...I always want to run before I can walk. I have high expectations of myself and I know the first week is all about getting back up on Bloomberg, trading platforms and applications, paperwork to activate my licenses at the new firm...basically a lot of admin and IT stuff...so I was frustrated and impatient. A news release went out on Bloomberg News about our move to this firm so flying below radar for a while went completely out the window. I know why firm's do it, the pr opportunity to market the firms growth is too good to pass up, but it also meant everyone knew I left one firm and went to another. I'd rather not be a topic of news or conversation...especially in an industry as small as mine, and one in which my Father works as well.

We also had to be out for 2 nights this week. One was just a group dinner to talk about our strategy of growing our team and how we were going to build a better mouse trap to separate us from our competition. The next night was a fundraiser for a 9/11 charity that raises money for literacy. It's a charity that is close to my family since it's in the name of a family friend who passed on 9/11. It's heavily attended by people in my industry so everyone knows each other. One annoying part was that the Bloomberg news article hit that day so everyone there knew. It felt like a spotlight was on us and I hate that...b/c no matter what you will always have people talking sht and being negative...no matter what the news...but especially if it's good.

The other annoying this about this event is that my dh's ex gf was there like last she was 2yrs ago when dh and I first started dating. She is not in my business but is friends with the family that runs the charity and knew I would be there as my name is on the invite b/c I'm on the auction committee. So she showed up 2 yrs ago and basically walked around the room looking for me and kept her eye on me all night...even my coworkers wondered who this girl was who wasn't in our industry that was eye stalking and following me around the room by herself. Well this time she was at the event with friends and the eye stalking was ramped up to pointing me out to her friends, whispering and giggling. So my Dad and I, my coworker, and a few clients were standing around the silent auction tables talking and getting to know each other as most of us don't meet often since a lot of them are from out of state and we just talk over the phone, so this was a prime opportunity to put faces with names and voices. At one point I could feel eyes on me and I turn my head. There is the ex gf, all 5ft of her in a circle of girls taking turns talking close, turning around to look at me then turning to talk and giggle. This went on for a while and no matter where the ex gf went in the room she was pointing me out to her cronies. I was doing my best to block it out as this was not the place or time to have a confrontation and I was there with clients that I was meeting for the first time. If you knew me you would know I have a zero tolerance policy for high school bs, and this was hs bs at it's finest. I wanted to catch the 9:15 train home from the city so I could be home by 10 so we decided to hit the bathroom on our way out. I kid you not...I am walking down the hall to this bathroom when the ex gf and her equally vertically challenged friend are walking towards me. They see me, look like deer in headlights, stop dead in their tracks, turn their back to me and pretend to be looking at something on the wall as I walk by...btw there is nothing on the wall. My Dad sees this and waits for me to come out of the bathroom. He asks if I knew these 2 girls and I told him which one was the ex gf. He shakes his head and comments on the immaturity and lack of sophistication. This is a fundraiser in the name of a 9/11 victim that she and my family knew, and it is sponsored by the victim's family that are close with my parents and funded by my industry. This is a night full of emotion, somber speeches, and the goal is to raise money for school supplies, books, and libraries for economically challenged families and communities. The high school antics have no place being in that room.

We walk out and take the elevator down to the lobby of the hotel in Columbus Circle, and we meet a banker from JPM that my Dad and coworker knew so we chat for a few minutes outside while we wait to leave. I hear giggling and so does my coworker. We turn around and there is the ex gf and her friends huddled turning their heads to at me and smoking cigarettes.

Sorry to vent, but this was such typical high school girl nonsense and I don't know what she expected from me. It was not the time or place for me to go up to her to introduce myself. She certainly wasn't coming up to me to introduce herself to me. Instead she chose to point me out to all her friends and talk about me. It was awkward, uncomfortable and just turned me off. This is the girl my dh misses being friends with? I know he has never seen her in this light. This was behavior girls reserve for when they are out among their friends. If she was 100% over him, and happy for him and really wanted to meet me, why did she behave this way instead of coming up to me and introducing herself. We both know who we are, but I was with clients, coworkers and my Dad...not the time for me to introduce myself.

I ignored her and didn't even make eye contact and haven't told my dh about seeing her or her antics b/c he will say that I'm exaggerating. The sad thing is that my Dad saw this whole exchange and was disheartened by the fact that my dh wants me to meet this girl and hang out w/ her and be ok with her hanging out w/ my dh. This isn't something he wants to have me deal with when we are this age, trying to start a family, and should be focusing on more important things like our first year of marriage. She is negative energy. Hubs will probably not accept that she behaved this way, he will wave it off as he only sees the good in everyone. He will down play it and say it's just girls being girls.

What would you do? Btw I didn't drink a drop of alcohol that night, and she's lucky b/c if I had I might have walked up to her and asked her if she knew me b/c she was sure watching me enough. Again I apologize for venting but I need some advice on how I could have handled it better, if I should tell dh and how I handle meeting her when I do...b/c we both know we have seen each other at this event and I can't be fake and act like I didn't see her or her behavior.

Ok vent over. Need to get to my errands. Af should be almost 100% gone by tomorrow. Looking back I wonder if I ovu. I got a smiley face, and temp surge but never felt it where the previous month I had 2 days of pain.

Man, at 36 I thought the high school bs would be behind me. :dohh:
 
Wow Coy, what a situation to come out of the bath to. I always wonder what's going on when my Neice and Nephew go quiet.

Well, as I had hoped, my temps dropped this morning. I actually got another positive OPK today, so I believe today is the correct ovulation day. All being well, temps will start to rise again tomorrow.

Just had a phone call from Hubby, he was just leaving, so I should see him very soon. woohoo!!!

Wow, this is awesome! :thumbup: So perfect day for bd'ing :happydance: I am so glad that you got another smiley! I am guesing as the LH triggers the egg that it willpop out today (if it hasn't already) and head it's way downward. So you have some :spermy: waiting and some, um, fresh specimen soon to come :blush: lol! Does your dh ever get fussy about being ordered to bd? :haha: Oh and as your temp ison the way up I am wondering if the egg popped already? Maybe within the last few hours? Then I would assume the second smiley is the surge just starting down...If so then you def have time to bd :thumbup:
 
So last night about 8 pm I noticed what I assume to be Braxton Hicks. Very tight and hard around the tummy and kind of painful (just crampy) under the tummy and around to the sides. So I timed them as coming about every 15-20 minutes or so. I told dh and he gets all excited and says "you're having the baby!" :haha: I had to remind him that this could go on for days...to which he paid no mind. He hopped in the shower, got his stuff ready, (while I put dd's to bed) and excitedly asked me how I was feeling. I know he was hoping for some real contractions :haha: But nope. Just those blasted BH all night long. They were strong enough to wake me up about twice an hour though so I wonder if it is a prequel to labor? :huh: Anyway, poor dh was so excited he spent most of the night up waiting, lol, I finally went in (TWICE) about 4 am and told him if babes was on the way I needed him to be rested. I'd hate to go into labor, exhaust myself, then after babes is born have dh crash out! :haha: So he finally aquiesced to some sleep :) But I am hopeful this is a trigger to real labor!
 
Question for Ali: how long has it taken for your trigger shots to test out? And did you trigger with Ovidrel?
 
Ooh, I'm getting excited Coy, not just for Hubby coming home, but your your bubs, she's going to be here soon!!! Yay!

Yes, Hubby sometimes begrudges BD, I always seem to want it when he's tired, but then when he wants it, I make sure I let him have it. He does really want a baby, so he knows he's kind of 'duty bound'. I've told him a few times, look, this bit is your only responsibility until I want help tying shoe laces or driving when my belly gets in the way of the steering wheel, so I'm sure you can oblige for the couple of days a month its needed.

Last time I ovulated, he was away too, he came back the day after my positive OPK, but I only had one day that time. Hopefully this is another good sign for this month. Just need to wait to see if my temps go up over the next few days to confirm it. I'm not sure why there is no line on my chart connecting yesterday and todays temps though. Odd!
 
Babywhisperer-

I def think you must have just ovulated Your temp sure is indicating it! Re: the bitch ex-gf. Here's the real issue. She is (Or was) all hung up on your dh and he dumped her. His continued being friendly is encouraging to her that he may want her back (even though he obviously does not) so she is eyeing you to see what the big deal is. She is noticing your height, your beauty, and she hates you- in a nutshell. No getting around that. She is not now or ever interested in being your friend! (No matter what family may say). She is what I would call a "Vivien". As a young girl a "Vivien" to me was the catty bitch woman who thought she could have it all at the cost of other people. (Just my opinion though!) She had her friends there as support because she totally lacks confidence, especially around you. She'll make a move, watch. One of those catty bitchy moves designed to hurt you but something your dh will either not notice right away or misinterpret. I know women. We can be catty obnoxious bee-otches! Looks like you gotta get your prowl on Baby :haha: This gal is trouble. I won't take offense to the vertically challenged bit though LOL! I got 5" on her :smug: LOL!
 
Babywhisperer, hope the job is going well. As for the ex, it shows how right it is that he is with you now, not her. Yes, some people can be so childish, but I think that was also a sign of jealousy.
 
Babywhisperer, hope the job is going well. As for the ex, it shows how right it is that he is with you now, not her. Yes, some people can be so childish, but I think that was also a sign of jealousy.

I agree! Jealousy can be a terrible affliction. And yeah- dh has chosen the woman he wants I think that's plain as day! :thumbup: I had similar problems with my dh's ex-wife. She always called and wanted to know if they could go out for coffee, etc, but he would turn her down. Then she tried to be friends with me (not really, just on the surface, you know?) but I wasn't interested either :shrug: She finally moved. I think maybe dh (in this case with you babywhisperer) is feeling like he hurt her and just wants to stay friends to lessen the blow? That's the way my dh always described it when he broke up with a girl, he would try to staty friends but always they had trouble with that and couldn't let go :shrug:
 
Ooh, I'm getting excited Coy, not just for Hubby coming home, but your your bubs, she's going to be here soon!!! Yay!

Yes, Hubby sometimes begrudges BD, I always seem to want it when he's tired, but then when he wants it, I make sure I let him have it. He does really want a baby, so he knows he's kind of 'duty bound'. I've told him a few times, look, this bit is your only responsibility until I want help tying shoe laces or driving when my belly gets in the way of the steering wheel, so I'm sure you can oblige for the couple of days a month its needed.

Last time I ovulated, he was away too, he came back the day after my positive OPK, but I only had one day that time. Hopefully this is another good sign for this month. Just need to wait to see if my temps go up over the next few days to confirm it. I'm not sure why there is no line on my chart connecting yesterday and todays temps though. Odd!

Lol, that's the way men are! :haha: Aw well, life, eh?! :rofl: We women can get pushy to get what we want :) Yes, two days in a row looks awesome for the opk's :thumbup: I'm gonna be watching your temps too!
 
Babywhisperer-

I def think you must have just ovulated Your temp sure is indicating it! Re: the bitch ex-gf. Here's the real issue. She is (Or was) all hung up on your dh and he dumped her. His continued being friendly is encouraging to her that he may want her back (even though he obviously does not) so she is eyeing you to see what the big deal is. She is noticing your height, your beauty, and she hates you- in a nutshell. No getting around that. She is not now or ever interested in being your friend! (No matter what family may say). She is what I would call a "Vivien". As a young girl a "Vivien" to me was the catty bitch woman who thought she could have it all at the cost of other people. (Just my opinion though!) She had her friends there as support because she totally lacks confidence, especially around you. She'll make a move, watch. One of those catty bitchy moves designed to hurt you but something your dh will either not notice right away or misinterpret. I know women. We can be catty obnoxious bee-otches! Looks like you gotta get your prowl on Baby :haha: This gal is trouble. I won't take offense to the vertically challenged bit though LOL! I got 5" on her :smug: LOL!

Thanks Coy. It's just frustrating when he tells her he misses her which he means as a friend, he misses knowing whats going on w/ her life. He never wanted to marry her and they broke up so many times over the 6yrs they were on and off, dating other people...but they were in each others lives for a long time, then platonic friends for over a year before he and I met. They decided they shouldn't date again as it never worked. The thorn in her side I am sure is that after 6yrs it never went anywhere, an he meets me and boom 8mos later we are engaged, 8mos later married. I know I would feel hurt by that no matter how platonic the friendship was.

I am sure she will try to see him and ask to hang out w/o me and make comments about how it's weird that I have to come and why can't they hang out alone, don't I trust him....all the things he thinks...bottom line I should trust him. Ugh.

I don't think I ovu yet, took an opk test no smiley and the line was very faint. Af is still barely there with very very light spotting. But we should started bding tomorrow and aim for every other day this week as I could get a smiley as early as cd10 or late like cd16.

Mmmm dh just got home with Indian food and exclaims that he wants a little girl asap. He wants a baby and says he wants her to be like Mommy. I love him but wish he knew what his ex gf was really like when he's not around. Ugh.

Thanks for the support girls. I wish he understood and had my back.
 
Woohoo, just got message from Hubby, he will be home in 30-40 minutes. That means his friend has dropped him off at his car and he'll be driving now. I've never been so excited for him to be coming home from anywhere. I just have a good feeling iykwim! All things happen for a reason!
 
Woohoo, just got message from Hubby, he will be home in 30-40 minutes. That means his friend has dropped him off at his car and he'll be driving now. I've never been so excited for him to be coming home from anywhere. I just have a good feeling iykwim! All things happen for a reason!

Heheh :sex: heheh! Does he suspect what awaits him? :huh: :)
 
Babywhisperer-

I def think you must have just ovulated Your temp sure is indicating it! Re: the bitch ex-gf. Here's the real issue. She is (Or was) all hung up on your dh and he dumped her. His continued being friendly is encouraging to her that he may want her back (even though he obviously does not) so she is eyeing you to see what the big deal is. She is noticing your height, your beauty, and she hates you- in a nutshell. No getting around that. She is not now or ever interested in being your friend! (No matter what family may say). She is what I would call a "Vivien". As a young girl a "Vivien" to me was the catty bitch woman who thought she could have it all at the cost of other people. (Just my opinion though!) She had her friends there as support because she totally lacks confidence, especially around you. She'll make a move, watch. One of those catty bitchy moves designed to hurt you but something your dh will either not notice right away or misinterpret. I know women. We can be catty obnoxious bee-otches! Looks like you gotta get your prowl on Baby :haha: This gal is trouble. I won't take offense to the vertically challenged bit though LOL! I got 5" on her :smug: LOL!

Thanks Coy. It's just frustrating when he tells her he misses her which he means as a friend, he misses knowing whats going on w/ her life. He never wanted to marry her and they broke up so many times over the 6yrs they were on and off, dating other people...but they were in each others lives for a long time, then platonic friends for over a year before he and I met. They decided they shouldn't date again as it never worked. The thorn in her side I am sure is that after 6yrs it never went anywhere, an he meets me and boom 8mos later we are engaged, 8mos later married. I know I would feel hurt by that no matter how platonic the friendship was.

I am sure she will try to see him and ask to hang out w/o me and make comments about how it's weird that I have to come and why can't they hang out alone, don't I trust him....all the things he thinks...bottom line I should trust him. Ugh.

I don't think I ovu yet, took an opk test no smiley and the line was very faint. Af is still barely there with very very light spotting. But we should started bding tomorrow and aim for every other day this week as I could get a smiley as early as cd10 or late like cd16.

Mmmm dh just got home with Indian food and exclaims that he wants a little girl asap. He wants a baby and says he wants her to be like Mommy. I love him but wish he knew what his ex gf was really like when he's not around. Ugh.

Thanks for the support girls. I wish he understood and had my back.

I think he doesn't understand because he's a guy. :haha: Guy's have issues in the understanding department. But he's on the right track! :sex: with his wife and planning a family- he obviously loves you! :)
 
Wow! The mind boggles....My dd's decided- of their own accord!- to pack in armloads of wood for the fireplace! :dohh: Nobody asked them to do it or even told them we would need it by nightfall...So odd. LOL! They are being good kids today :shrug:lol!
 
Babywhisperer, hope the job is going well. As for the ex, it shows how right it is that he is with you now, not her. Yes, some people can be so childish, but I think that was also a sign of jealousy.

I agree! Jealousy can be a terrible affliction. And yeah- dh has chosen the woman he wants I think that's plain as day! :thumbup: I had similar problems with my dh's ex-wife. She always called and wanted to know if they could go out for coffee, etc, but he would turn her down. Then she tried to be friends with me (not really, just on the surface, you know?) but I wasn't interested either :shrug: She finally moved. I think maybe dh (in this case with you babywhisperer) is feeling like he hurt her and just wants to stay friends to lessen the blow? That's the way my dh always described it when he broke up with a girl, he would try to staty friends but always they had trouble with that and couldn't let go :shrug:

You are 100% correct. He feels badly for cutting her out completely when we started dating. It made her feel expendable, like he dropped her friendship for a gf. The real reason was that she was being aggressive as he said, by trying to come by his apt, using an excuse of having left her Scrabble board there, but she's a Scrabble junkie and plays with my MIL online. Dh feels guilty for just cutting her off b/c I felt uncomfortable...but I was afraid that once she realized he was moving on that she'd try to get him back and play games with him. I know she knows things about me b/c she hangs out w/ his 2 younger brothers, 1 brother being a major delinquent and not my biggest fan since he had to move out of dh's apt when dh and I moved in together...and b/c he was living rent free, not paying for utilities, or food and getting 2 dwi's in a year...and the best part, hitting dh in the face while drunk 3 weeks before our wedding resulting in dh needing stitches, and the black eye was so bad his eye was swollen shut. So he resents me sometimes, and doesn't take any responsibility for his actions. He is bipolar so that comes with the territory. So this BIL knows I am not happy with him so he bitches to the ex gf that he had to move out (he's 27 and dh got him a job at his law firm in the mail room), and that I don't approve of his drinking and driving, smoking pot...blah blah blah, basically making me out to be a buzz kill. But that BIL is a disaster, crashing a different car every 6 mos, and dh having to bail him out and help him in his court battles due to reckless behavior. She they view me as the girl who took their brother or friend away, but meanwhile I don't get why his brother at 27 and his ex gf at 30something don't realize that when you get married your priorities change, your focus shifts. Maybe it's bc dh is the oldest and first to get married, but the next closest in age BIL has a gf for 7yrs and they live together and never see anyone and usually ditch out on family events while we always go...but they attribute that to the brother and not his gf. I give up. I can't win.

Do I tell dh I saw his ex and explain her behavior? Or forget it.
 
O my heck, I am tired! lol! I cooked dinner, a combination of adult and kid food- that way everyone is happy and I don't have to fight children to eat :roll: I don't have the energy for that :haha: Anyway I was bad and I ate steak and macaroni and cheese :blush:...I can feel the fat soaking into my backside as we speak :rofl: Well, not literally, and at this point I couldn't care less :haha: I feel like a nice warm soaking bath and then bed! I have done my school for the day, so think I will hit the hay early tonight!

Jess- don't let your thesis keep ya forever!

Terry- hope you are having a good sleep and those :spermy: are gearing for the attack! :thumbup: Awesome about the hpt's btw! And 3$ for CBE's! :shock: Whata friend to have! :haha: Maybe test again this week to see if your lh is surging again- that is if your temp doesn't rise. I am expecting it to though!

Ali- how are ya? Hope you are kicking this cold int he butt and getting back to the non-cold-medicine-saturated part of life! :haha: Awesome stuff to have on hand though :thumbup: I am going to research how to improve your egg quality, seemed like you mentioned that once...:coffee:

Babywhisperer- where in heck are ya? :huh:

Babydust- :hi: Got my eye on that chart! :thumbup:

Alin- :hi:


TwoToGo- how's the family? Getting better I hope!

Hi ladies :hi: Sorry I have been MIA it's been a crazy week with starting the new job.

Coy - :baby: is still quite cozy huh. Well I can't imagine the pain and discomfort you are in, but it must be a good feeling to know that each day you are closer than the day before. As far as your diet...listen to your body. You probably wanted steak b/c you needed iron and fat. You probably wanted the mac n cheese b/c you needed the calcium and yes more fat. It's not like you're eating this every day, you are very conscientious and eat very well. As for the dd's, you should install nanny cam's in their room and bathroom to see what actually happens to cause their wake of destruction! I bet it would be entertaining as hell.

Jess - how's the thesis coming along? I know how you feel about falling asleep when dh should be nudging you for some :sex: I have been working longer hrs and had to be out for work 2 nights this week and I'd just come home a crash...but af is still lingering so no harm no foul.

TerriLou, did you get that :sex: in? Looks like good timing!!

Alin, Twotogo, Babydust how's things with you lovely ladies?

Philo - how's the baby feeling? Any updates on the home front?

Ali - I'm happy you had some much needed and deserved R&R while in Canada. It sucks that you came home with a cold. My Mom has had pericarditis so she flies wearing a mask b/c the air quality is so poor and littered with germs. But the cold is your body's way of saying that something is out of balance. I agree with Coy that you need to get the diet in check, a full rainbow of colors should be present in your daily diet, especially the greens. Have you ever tried juicing? When I was at my healthiest I started my day with warm water with lemon, and an hr later either a fresh juice of greens or I made a special Metagenics unltra inflam shake (it's a medical protein powder with a ton of stuff to help combat inflammation due to Lyme) and I'd add a scoop of Amazon Amazing Greens chocolate flavored powder. It kept me regular, full of energy and just feeling less polluted. When I get sick it is a combo of poor diet, sleep and burning the candle at both ends. You have been under a lot of stress with work, ivf, traveling...try some yoga or even just 20min of stretching with deep breathing...trust me I need to do this too and have had no time. Let's motivate each other to find the time for the healthy stuff. I need a kick in the ass too.

Afm, (sigh) it's been a funky week. On the one hand it was exciting and nerve wracking to start a new job, in a new firm, new building, new people, new commute route, and new schedule. But...I always want to run before I can walk. I have high expectations of myself and I know the first week is all about getting back up on Bloomberg, trading platforms and applications, paperwork to activate my licenses at the new firm...basically a lot of admin and IT stuff...so I was frustrated and impatient. A news release went out on Bloomberg News about our move to this firm so flying below radar for a while went completely out the window. I know why firm's do it, the pr opportunity to market the firms growth is too good to pass up, but it also meant everyone knew I left one firm and went to another. I'd rather not be a topic of news or conversation...especially in an industry as small as mine, and one in which my Father works as well.

We also had to be out for 2 nights this week. One was just a group dinner to talk about our strategy of growing our team and how we were going to build a better mouse trap to separate us from our competition. The next night was a fundraiser for a 9/11 charity that raises money for literacy. It's a charity that is close to my family since it's in the name of a family friend who passed on 9/11. It's heavily attended by people in my industry so everyone knows each other. One annoying part was that the Bloomberg news article hit that day so everyone there knew. It felt like a spotlight was on us and I hate that...b/c no matter what you will always have people talking sht and being negative...no matter what the news...but especially if it's good.

The other annoying this about this event is that my dh's ex gf was there like last she was 2yrs ago when dh and I first started dating. She is not in my business but is friends with the family that runs the charity and knew I would be there as my name is on the invite b/c I'm on the auction committee. So she showed up 2 yrs ago and basically walked around the room looking for me and kept her eye on me all night...even my coworkers wondered who this girl was who wasn't in our industry that was eye stalking and following me around the room by herself. Well this time she was at the event with friends and the eye stalking was ramped up to pointing me out to her friends, whispering and giggling. So my Dad and I, my coworker, and a few clients were standing around the silent auction tables talking and getting to know each other as most of us don't meet often since a lot of them are from out of state and we just talk over the phone, so this was a prime opportunity to put faces with names and voices. At one point I could feel eyes on me and I turn my head. There is the ex gf, all 5ft of her in a circle of girls taking turns talking close, turning around to look at me then turning to talk and giggle. This went on for a while and no matter where the ex gf went in the room she was pointing me out to her cronies. I was doing my best to block it out as this was not the place or time to have a confrontation and I was there with clients that I was meeting for the first time. If you knew me you would know I have a zero tolerance policy for high school bs, and this was hs bs at it's finest. I wanted to catch the 9:15 train home from the city so I could be home by 10 so we decided to hit the bathroom on our way out. I kid you not...I am walking down the hall to this bathroom when the ex gf and her equally vertically challenged friend are walking towards me. They see me, look like deer in headlights, stop dead in their tracks, turn their back to me and pretend to be looking at something on the wall as I walk by...btw there is nothing on the wall. My Dad sees this and waits for me to come out of the bathroom. He asks if I knew these 2 girls and I told him which one was the ex gf. He shakes his head and comments on the immaturity and lack of sophistication. This is a fundraiser in the name of a 9/11 victim that she and my family knew, and it is sponsored by the victim's family that are close with my parents and funded by my industry. This is a night full of emotion, somber speeches, and the goal is to raise money for school supplies, books, and libraries for economically challenged families and communities. The high school antics have no place being in that room.

We walk out and take the elevator down to the lobby of the hotel in Columbus Circle, and we meet a banker from JPM that my Dad and coworker knew so we chat for a few minutes outside while we wait to leave. I hear giggling and so does my coworker. We turn around and there is the ex gf and her friends huddled turning their heads to at me and smoking cigarettes.

Sorry to vent, but this was such typical high school girl nonsense and I don't know what she expected from me. It was not the time or place for me to go up to her to introduce myself. She certainly wasn't coming up to me to introduce herself to me. Instead she chose to point me out to all her friends and talk about me. It was awkward, uncomfortable and just turned me off. This is the girl my dh misses being friends with? I know he has never seen her in this light. This was behavior girls reserve for when they are out among their friends. If she was 100% over him, and happy for him and really wanted to meet me, why did she behave this way instead of coming up to me and introducing herself. We both know who we are, but I was with clients, coworkers and my Dad...not the time for me to introduce myself.

I ignored her and didn't even make eye contact and haven't told my dh about seeing her or her antics b/c he will say that I'm exaggerating. The sad thing is that my Dad saw this whole exchange and was disheartened by the fact that my dh wants me to meet this girl and hang out w/ her and be ok with her hanging out w/ my dh. This isn't something he wants to have me deal with when we are this age, trying to start a family, and should be focusing on more important things like our first year of marriage. She is negative energy. Hubs will probably not accept that she behaved this way, he will wave it off as he only sees the good in everyone. He will down play it and say it's just girls being girls.

What would you do? Btw I didn't drink a drop of alcohol that night, and she's lucky b/c if I had I might have walked up to her and asked her if she knew me b/c she was sure watching me enough. Again I apologize for venting but I need some advice on how I could have handled it better, if I should tell dh and how I handle meeting her when I do...b/c we both know we have seen each other at this event and I can't be fake and act like I didn't see her or her behavior.

Ok vent over. Need to get to my errands. Af should be almost 100% gone by tomorrow. Looking back I wonder if I ovu. I got a smiley face, and temp surge but never felt it where the previous month I had 2 days of pain.

Man, at 36 I thought the high school bs would be behind me. :dohh:

Can I add my advice in??? I'm sorry...this girl is clearly still holding a candle for your dh and it would be inviting trouble for your husband to be friends with her. My husband is the same way, they do not SEE what is so obvious to the rest of us. You need to tell your dh what happened and explain to him that she clearly does want more with him and that it would REALLY upset you if he struck a friendship with her. He should be able to respect that. Would he want you to be friends with an ex that was clearly showing signs that he still wanted you? It would be different if this girl was married, had kids and showed no interest in your husband but clearly that's not the case here. Ugh...annoying. :( Sorry:(
 
O my heck, I am tired! lol! I cooked dinner, a combination of adult and kid food- that way everyone is happy and I don't have to fight children to eat :roll: I don't have the energy for that :haha: Anyway I was bad and I ate steak and macaroni and cheese :blush:...I can feel the fat soaking into my backside as we speak :rofl: Well, not literally, and at this point I couldn't care less :haha: I feel like a nice warm soaking bath and then bed! I have done my school for the day, so think I will hit the hay early tonight!

Jess- don't let your thesis keep ya forever!

Terry- hope you are having a good sleep and those :spermy: are gearing for the attack! :thumbup: Awesome about the hpt's btw! And 3$ for CBE's! :shock: Whata friend to have! :haha: Maybe test again this week to see if your lh is surging again- that is if your temp doesn't rise. I am expecting it to though!

Ali- how are ya? Hope you are kicking this cold int he butt and getting back to the non-cold-medicine-saturated part of life! :haha: Awesome stuff to have on hand though :thumbup: I am going to research how to improve your egg quality, seemed like you mentioned that once...:coffee:

Babywhisperer- where in heck are ya? :huh:

Babydust- :hi: Got my eye on that chart! :thumbup:

Alin- :hi:


TwoToGo- how's the family? Getting better I hope!

Hi ladies :hi: Sorry I have been MIA it's been a crazy week with starting the new job.

Coy - :baby: is still quite cozy huh. Well I can't imagine the pain and discomfort you are in, but it must be a good feeling to know that each day you are closer than the day before. As far as your diet...listen to your body. You probably wanted steak b/c you needed iron and fat. You probably wanted the mac n cheese b/c you needed the calcium and yes more fat. It's not like you're eating this every day, you are very conscientious and eat very well. As for the dd's, you should install nanny cam's in their room and bathroom to see what actually happens to cause their wake of destruction! I bet it would be entertaining as hell.

Jess - how's the thesis coming along? I know how you feel about falling asleep when dh should be nudging you for some :sex: I have been working longer hrs and had to be out for work 2 nights this week and I'd just come home a crash...but af is still lingering so no harm no foul.

TerriLou, did you get that :sex: in? Looks like good timing!!

Alin, Twotogo, Babydust how's things with you lovely ladies?

Philo - how's the baby feeling? Any updates on the home front?

Ali - I'm happy you had some much needed and deserved R&R while in Canada. It sucks that you came home with a cold. My Mom has had pericarditis so she flies wearing a mask b/c the air quality is so poor and littered with germs. But the cold is your body's way of saying that something is out of balance. I agree with Coy that you need to get the diet in check, a full rainbow of colors should be present in your daily diet, especially the greens. Have you ever tried juicing? When I was at my healthiest I started my day with warm water with lemon, and an hr later either a fresh juice of greens or I made a special Metagenics unltra inflam shake (it's a medical protein powder with a ton of stuff to help combat inflammation due to Lyme) and I'd add a scoop of Amazon Amazing Greens chocolate flavored powder. It kept me regular, full of energy and just feeling less polluted. When I get sick it is a combo of poor diet, sleep and burning the candle at both ends. You have been under a lot of stress with work, ivf, traveling...try some yoga or even just 20min of stretching with deep breathing...trust me I need to do this too and have had no time. Let's motivate each other to find the time for the healthy stuff. I need a kick in the ass too.

Afm, (sigh) it's been a funky week. On the one hand it was exciting and nerve wracking to start a new job, in a new firm, new building, new people, new commute route, and new schedule. But...I always want to run before I can walk. I have high expectations of myself and I know the first week is all about getting back up on Bloomberg, trading platforms and applications, paperwork to activate my licenses at the new firm...basically a lot of admin and IT stuff...so I was frustrated and impatient. A news release went out on Bloomberg News about our move to this firm so flying below radar for a while went completely out the window. I know why firm's do it, the pr opportunity to market the firms growth is too good to pass up, but it also meant everyone knew I left one firm and went to another. I'd rather not be a topic of news or conversation...especially in an industry as small as mine, and one in which my Father works as well.

We also had to be out for 2 nights this week. One was just a group dinner to talk about our strategy of growing our team and how we were going to build a better mouse trap to separate us from our competition. The next night was a fundraiser for a 9/11 charity that raises money for literacy. It's a charity that is close to my family since it's in the name of a family friend who passed on 9/11. It's heavily attended by people in my industry so everyone knows each other. One annoying part was that the Bloomberg news article hit that day so everyone there knew. It felt like a spotlight was on us and I hate that...b/c no matter what you will always have people talking sht and being negative...no matter what the news...but especially if it's good.

The other annoying this about this event is that my dh's ex gf was there like last she was 2yrs ago when dh and I first started dating. She is not in my business but is friends with the family that runs the charity and knew I would be there as my name is on the invite b/c I'm on the auction committee. So she showed up 2 yrs ago and basically walked around the room looking for me and kept her eye on me all night...even my coworkers wondered who this girl was who wasn't in our industry that was eye stalking and following me around the room by herself. Well this time she was at the event with friends and the eye stalking was ramped up to pointing me out to her friends, whispering and giggling. So my Dad and I, my coworker, and a few clients were standing around the silent auction tables talking and getting to know each other as most of us don't meet often since a lot of them are from out of state and we just talk over the phone, so this was a prime opportunity to put faces with names and voices. At one point I could feel eyes on me and I turn my head. There is the ex gf, all 5ft of her in a circle of girls taking turns talking close, turning around to look at me then turning to talk and giggle. This went on for a while and no matter where the ex gf went in the room she was pointing me out to her cronies. I was doing my best to block it out as this was not the place or time to have a confrontation and I was there with clients that I was meeting for the first time. If you knew me you would know I have a zero tolerance policy for high school bs, and this was hs bs at it's finest. I wanted to catch the 9:15 train home from the city so I could be home by 10 so we decided to hit the bathroom on our way out. I kid you not...I am walking down the hall to this bathroom when the ex gf and her equally vertically challenged friend are walking towards me. They see me, look like deer in headlights, stop dead in their tracks, turn their back to me and pretend to be looking at something on the wall as I walk by...btw there is nothing on the wall. My Dad sees this and waits for me to come out of the bathroom. He asks if I knew these 2 girls and I told him which one was the ex gf. He shakes his head and comments on the immaturity and lack of sophistication. This is a fundraiser in the name of a 9/11 victim that she and my family knew, and it is sponsored by the victim's family that are close with my parents and funded by my industry. This is a night full of emotion, somber speeches, and the goal is to raise money for school supplies, books, and libraries for economically challenged families and communities. The high school antics have no place being in that room.

We walk out and take the elevator down to the lobby of the hotel in Columbus Circle, and we meet a banker from JPM that my Dad and coworker knew so we chat for a few minutes outside while we wait to leave. I hear giggling and so does my coworker. We turn around and there is the ex gf and her friends huddled turning their heads to at me and smoking cigarettes.

Sorry to vent, but this was such typical high school girl nonsense and I don't know what she expected from me. It was not the time or place for me to go up to her to introduce myself. She certainly wasn't coming up to me to introduce herself to me. Instead she chose to point me out to all her friends and talk about me. It was awkward, uncomfortable and just turned me off. This is the girl my dh misses being friends with? I know he has never seen her in this light. This was behavior girls reserve for when they are out among their friends. If she was 100% over him, and happy for him and really wanted to meet me, why did she behave this way instead of coming up to me and introducing herself. We both know who we are, but I was with clients, coworkers and my Dad...not the time for me to introduce myself.

I ignored her and didn't even make eye contact and haven't told my dh about seeing her or her antics b/c he will say that I'm exaggerating. The sad thing is that my Dad saw this whole exchange and was disheartened by the fact that my dh wants me to meet this girl and hang out w/ her and be ok with her hanging out w/ my dh. This isn't something he wants to have me deal with when we are this age, trying to start a family, and should be focusing on more important things like our first year of marriage. She is negative energy. Hubs will probably not accept that she behaved this way, he will wave it off as he only sees the good in everyone. He will down play it and say it's just girls being girls.

What would you do? Btw I didn't drink a drop of alcohol that night, and she's lucky b/c if I had I might have walked up to her and asked her if she knew me b/c she was sure watching me enough. Again I apologize for venting but I need some advice on how I could have handled it better, if I should tell dh and how I handle meeting her when I do...b/c we both know we have seen each other at this event and I can't be fake and act like I didn't see her or her behavior.

Ok vent over. Need to get to my errands. Af should be almost 100% gone by tomorrow. Looking back I wonder if I ovu. I got a smiley face, and temp surge but never felt it where the previous month I had 2 days of pain.

Man, at 36 I thought the high school bs would be behind me. :dohh:

Can I add my advice in??? I'm sorry...this girl is clearly still holding a candle for your dh and it would be inviting trouble for your husband to be friends with her. My husband is the same way, they do not SEE what is so obvious to the rest of us. You need to tell your dh what happened and explain to him that she clearly does want more with him and that it would REALLY upset you if he struck a friendship with her. He should be able to respect that. Would he want you to be friends with an ex that was clearly showing signs that he still wanted you? It would be different if this girl was married, had kids and showed no interest in your husband but clearly that's not the case here. Ugh...annoying. :( Sorry:(

I wish he saw it this way, but he thinks I'm being absurd when I suggest that she wants to be anything other than friends. He gets upset and says that I should trust his opinion of her and he knows her better than anyone...yes, but only as a guy knows a girl...not as a girl knows a girl. Only women know what another woman s capable of b/c we've seen it all our life and most have been victims to the games, hidden agendas, and ulterior motives. I think she is jealous, but not of me. She is jealous of the fact that he wanted to marry someone else after only 8mos when she was with him off and on for 6yrs. She probably felt that they'd get back together again down the road. So she sees me and is like, "this is what he wanted to marry right away, she's not so great"...probably picks me apart to make her feel better or maybe she just doesn't see it.

It's just hard for me b/c I'm not built that way. For many years every guy I dated and broke up with went on to marry the next girl they met. I never hated them, it was more of a joke that I was a husband fluffer...want to get married, send me your bf for 6mos and he'll come back on bended knee. I just wasn't ready until I met my dh. He is the only man I know with such sincerity, good heart, integrity, sensitive, and sees the best in people. I never question his character...but I definitely question his ex gf's agenda...just wish he'd see it for what it is. But I know him, if he admits her behavior is inappropriate and indicative of feelings, he would not be able to be friends w/ her b/c I'd be upset, and he could never confront her b/c he knows deep down that she wishes it worked out b/t them and she's hurt. He just wants to gloss over everything and be friends w/ her like nothing has changed...but him moving on has changed things for her. That much is clear.
 

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