We're all in this together!

[sarahuk]

Sarah - Thank you hunni, I'm really pleased with the outcomes, especially for my first attempt! I have just finished making a beanie hat aswell xxx

https://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y39/natt2005/My%20Art%20Work/TylersCrochetBeanieHat.jpg

Awww thats cute!!! You are on a roll chick! Keep up the great work!! x

 

[Laura2806]

Kt hun, if you log on please let us know how things went monday, thinking about you xxx

 

[kt1988]

Hi ladies sorry i havnt been on for couple of days i had my scan were they saw a small sac but nothing else. I then went on the miscarry later that evening. Im honestly doing ok tho it was obviously not meant to be right at that time.

However im pretty much done bleeding now and hoping to ovulate again sometime very soon!!! Keep ur fingers crossed for me ladies as im back on that ttc journey!!

Ill try to keep popping in but i hope u all understand that its still a bit raw. I still care about u all and wish u luck.

Speak to u soon xxxx

 

[Laura2806]

Hunni im so sorry for what your going through. Glad you doing ok though and like you say beanie obviously wasn't strong enough.

Please do keep us updated, we all care about you too and completely understand you can't be here right now.

Just know that we're here for you, no matter what!

Fingers are tightly crossed hun, speak soon xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Natt hun the cardi and hat are lovely sweetie keep it up. x x x

Sarah thx hun and yep that's true, ow and a new pic of me and honey would be great just need to get new camera last one broke. x x x

Kt im so sorry to hear that hun, and I understand. Big Hug's and FX'd for Ov. x x x

Laura how are you hun. x x x

 

[Excalibur]

Laura - Hehe I sure will, want to get all the practice I can before little man arrives Thank you chick xxx

Sarah - Thank you chick, it's not perfect but it's not bad for my first attempt xxx

KT - Really sorry to hear what you're going through hun. Glad to hear you are doing ok though and as Laura said, we are all here for you xxx

Jess - Thank you hunni xxx

 

[Laura2806]

jess hun im fine ta, how's you?

Still thinking of you kt xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Wow...I wish I knew all the right things to say to your Katie...this is just so saddening to hear

Firstly...I dont mean this to sound harsh but...I know how devestating having a loss can be...so I think out of respect for what katie is going through atm I think the non important baby talk can/should be kept to baby bablings. I dont mean any offence by this. Its just hard to hear when youre going through something so painful.

Katie. What you have gone through is totally heartbreaking, and I truly hope from the bototm of my heart that you know that Im reaching out my arms to you and giving you a massive cuddle right now. Its an awful experience for anyone to have to go through, and I know from both of my own exeriences that youre probably going through a whole circle of emotions right now.

Theres no real words of comforts in all this. What you need is the comofort, love and support of your partner and your close family. What I will say though is this...when I went through it, I tried to deal with it all emotionally on my own to shield matt...and it wasnt the best move I did. Its so incredibly important that you grieve this in your own way, but that you also grieve it with your OH also. Youre going to need the love and supoprt of each other to get through this.

You WILL get through this. And if there is anything ive learnt is that, when something like this happens, you find eventually that you have strength you didnt think you could find at the start to get through to the other side.

In the meantime, know that we are all here for you. And that I am thinking of you so very much right now.

Take care of yourself hun.

xxx

 

[Laura2806]

I agree with you Sarah, you sure do have a way with words too Hun

I hope Katie can find some comfort and or solace from your words.

Sending hugs to Katie and family and also to you Sarah xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Aww thanks chick

Im ok though...Im just feeling so down for Katie Its such a rollercoaster of emotions that I wouldnt wish on anyone. I just hope that Katie is getting a lot of TLC right now.

And Katie...I know how it can feel easier to take a break from this site when things like this happen as I did it both times...so I say this:

I hope that when you feel your strength return and that all this becomes a little easier to bear that you will come back to us so that we can help take care of you hun. xxx

 

[Laura2806]

What Sarah said!

We love you hunni xxxxx

 

[Pinky32]

katie

I held your hand on the days leading upto scan

I held your hand on day of scan

I held your hand since the scan

I will continue to hold your hand xxxxx

 

[Pinky32]

On a different note and commenting on something sarah said, this will piss some people off but I have to say it

The main reason I havent been in this room lately is due to all the baby talk - I have said this before and it was agreed that it would be taken to Babblings room but each time Ive come in here to talk, all Ive read is posts about babies

Dont get me wrong, im over the moon for both of you and wish you well in the few weeks you have left and lovely smooth painfree labours however; it feels that its been forgotten about the journey taken to get the bfps and that theres still a lot of us on that journey

I can only speak for myself when I say that I struggle to read constant baby posts - Im not going to mention anyone else as I havent spoken to anyone about this, but for me, I went through a miscarriage, then some shit months and just about to go through another shit month, I can get no help from my doctor and daily i feel like a failure and therefore find it very hard to hear constantly about other pples babies

As I said, im over the moon for you guys but i just dont feel that theres any thought to pples feelings

Ive enjoyed this room but if it makes it easier, i;ll leave

 

[Laura2806]

Right personally I only mention my baby when someone asks me about him as I know it upsets people. But its also rude to ignore people when they ask how you and bubs are doing. Its clearly going to cone up then.

This thread has been pretty much non existent for a while as all the talk has been of our lil ones and therefore on the other thread.

If no one comes on here talking about ttc or otherwise the talk will no doubtably turn to babies eventually. At the end of the day its what we're all after.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I don't know what its like I can only imagine it must be horrendous. A chemical was bad enough for me.

Don't leave, I will if im upsetting people that much

 

[Pinky32]

I didnt say you personally was doing all the baby talking

yes the thread went quiet for a while as those of us still on the journey were going through difficult times with personal things

yes we all have the same eventual goal but its very hard for some at times

of course if someone asks you then you should answer, i didnt say the questions should be ignored

maybe its just me being over sensitive, i dont know

i think maybe its best if i just leave

 

[sarahuk]

Noone needs to leave.

Man...I found out today a close friend and his gf had a miscarriage a couple of days ago. I was so hurt to find out that his message to me to say "a family member of me gf has passed away"...actually was referring to an 8 and a half week pregnancy

Im guttered because he didnt know how to tell me she was pregnant because of my chemical a while back. I feel like a proper crap friend now. OFC hes going through hell...just wish I coulda known so I could be there for him.

Its times like this that make me realise that being honest about things is always the best way forward. So i really hope that the thread can move forward without people leaving.

Pwease? x

 

[Laura2806]

Sarah hun im so sorry for your friend. I hope they both heal quickly and their lil ones sleeps tight. Its not your fault you didn't know and you can be there now. To hold their hands and know their pain.

I can't think of anyone better to be there for them at this terrible time.

I wish I could be there for my friend, she lost her baby 4days before he was due. I was 12wks at the time and she was ok with me then, but now I think it hurts her too much to speak to me. All I can do is offer my friendship to her and wish her all the best. She'll never heal and get over loosing Freddy but hopefully she can move forward. They got married today and I so hope this is a new start for them.

Sending you and your friend and his gf loads of and wishes xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Awww thats awful Laura...that must have been hard for both of you at the time. But for it to cause a breakdown in the friendship is truly saddening. Do you think when she has healed a bit better that you two can talk it out?

My mate Carla was the same when I had my ectopic. Shed just given birth as I was undergoing treatment and it took me over a month to be able to see her.

Nice tings for you to say hun...I hope he feels like im helping. Its hard because I know how much he wanted to be a dad. He and I were almost very serious with each other before I met Matt so its also emotionally hard because we were close and I hate to see him in so much pain.

How u ladies doing? Im so hungover its untrue..matt and i celebrated our anniversary yesterday with bbq, poker with the family, and lots of alcohol. URGGH...Reeeeeeeegret!

Just about to climb out of bed for the first proper time today and go to tescos for some sugary goodness lol.

Any plans this week ladies? I got my bloodwork on wednesday...having all my hair chopped off to my shoulders and hmm...not much else...exciting life I lead! Oh yes...finishing that damn blanket so i can move on!!

xx

 

[Laura2806]

I hope we can, it was her being pregnant and knowing we were trying that bought us closer and now its like there's nothing. I text her yesterday saying have a lovely day etc but no reply, im guessing she had more on her mind then tho. I know they're going to try for another baby and hopefully it'll be 3rd time for them as she miscarried early on with her first pregnancy. I just hope they can conceive fairly quickly when they start trying again.

That must be really hard to see someone close to you hurting in this way. All you can do is offer comfort and support. Just being there for them to talk to will make a massive difference and help them grieve.

:Haha: I've never had a hangover!!! Even at uni I didn't! Used to sleep then eat it off ready fir the next round of drinking lol you need grease to soak it up! Sounds like you had a lovley time

A nice relaxing week for you that blankets gorgeous can't wait to see it finished!

I'm good ta, headache today but think its cause I've not wore my glasses, as im not supposed to when im not concentrating on something, think my eyes are already adjusting to wearing them all day at work

Work and packing for us! Take away Tuesday night cause its mums 50th then more work, packing and cleaning! Got midwife apt on thursday and then hopefully we get the keys to the house Friday I'll be pissed off if we don't lol

Xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Awww sarah hun your not a crap friend your a great friend, and you friend just didnt wanna upset you, even though it's good news to them, in everyone else's eye's telling some one who's a good friend and been though a chemical it's hard to say were having a baby, if you know what I mean. Dont feel sad hun. Just prove's there good friends to not wanna upset ya. even though you would have been very happy for them both. Big hugs sweetie. x x x