We're all in this together!

[Excalibur]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

 

[sarahuk]

I hope we can, it was her being pregnant and knowing we were trying that bought us closer and now its like there's nothing. I text her yesterday saying have a lovely day etc but no reply, im guessing she had more on her mind then tho. I know they're going to try for another baby and hopefully it'll be 3rd time for them as she miscarried early on with her first pregnancy. I just hope they can conceive fairly quickly when they start trying again.

That must be really hard to see someone close to you hurting in this way. All you can do is offer comfort and support. Just being there for them to talk to will make a massive difference and help them grieve.

:Haha: I've never had a hangover!!! Even at uni I didn't! Used to sleep then eat it off ready fir the next round of drinking lol you need grease to soak it up! Sounds like you had a lovley time

A nice relaxing week for you that blankets gorgeous can't wait to see it finished!

I'm good ta, headache today but think its cause I've not wore my glasses, as im not supposed to when im not concentrating on something, think my eyes are already adjusting to wearing them all day at work

Work and packing for us! Take away Tuesday night cause its mums 50th then more work, packing and cleaning! Got midwife apt on thursday and then hopefully we get the keys to the house Friday I'll be pissed off if we don't lol

Xxx

Aww bless. Its hard when youve gone through losses to keep the faith to keep going. And after what she went through she probably really struggled to know how to cope with it all. Its good that you and her are fine now. And I bet she will start again soon (lets face it..once u start its bloody hard to stop lol)...and your little ones will be playing together!

Yeah im doing the best I can with him. Im not gunna tell him that i was upset that he felt he couldnt come to me with the pregnancy cos of my chemical cos none of this is/should be about me. I can understand why he did it though...i think any of us would be a bit nervous about having that conversation! But im making sure im there if he needs me and Ive been explaining to him about the rollercoaster i went through and stuffs from the womens perspective cos he doesnt know how to deal with his gf too well atm. So I think hes on the right track now. Bloody typical tho..theyd only been back together three weeks and she got preggo...I need to find out what they been doing!!

Im jealous of your lack of hangover lol. Mind you, i didnt use to have them when I was younger. I think now im in my 30s i just cant handle it how I userd too Matt regretting it too..he drank as much as he did back in his early 20s and he suffered from it big style. He went toilet diving a good few times lol. Was lovely though Alhough I still wish the hunt hadnt been cancelled we well and truly made up for it. Was a lovely romantic day with lots of cuddles and stuffs..the way it should be!

Oh no...was hoping your headaches would be easing up for you now! What with having the aches and pains elsewhere too I wish I didnt have to wear glasses...they give me the headache...but im totally blind without them

Oh wow! Not long then till youre in the new house! Take it easy with all that decorating etc though. And im also crossing fingers and toes that Blue has moved and is giving you a break!

xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Awww sarah hun your not a crap friend your a great friend, and you friend just didnt wanna upset you, even though it's good news to them, in everyone else's eye's telling some one who's a good friend and been though a chemical it's hard to say were having a baby, if you know what I mean. Dont feel sad hun. Just prove's there good friends to not wanna upset ya. even though you would have been very happy for them both. Big hugs sweetie. x x x

Thats very true hun! He was thinking of me in it all and so he deserves a big hug for that!

Hope youre doing ok hun Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you xx

 

[sarahuk]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

Very true! And yeah its really sad...but sadly these things happen dont they. All too often if you ask me.

Mind you..she did say that she found out the day after her af was due so...i have a sneaky suspicion she was actually trying...if i was on bc i wouldnt be testing straight after af day unless i had a reason too!

(btw happy 23wks mommabear!) xxx

 

[Excalibur]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

Very true! And yeah its really sad...but sadly these things happen dont they. All too often if you ask me.

Mind you..she did say that she found out the day after her af was due so...i have a sneaky suspicion she was actually trying...if i was on bc i wouldnt be testing straight after af day unless i had a reason too!

(btw happy 23wks mommabear!) xxx

Yeah they sure do happen way too often chick

Hmm, I don't know what to think of that as if it was me, I would test if AF didn't turn up, I'm just an eager beaver though

Thank you chick, how are things with you? xxx

 

[Laura2806]

Sarah I think now the weddings done she'll be able to start trying again and move forward.

That's all you can do Hun, give him the woman's point of view with things and help them both through it all.

Know doubt once I start drinking again I'll suffer probs won't be able to drink much at all then lol glad you had a lovely time Hun nothing better than lots of cuddles

I think it's cause I'm just getting used to wearing them in the week and struggle at the weekend I know what you mean about them causing headaches tho, my old ones used to hurt my nose and temples.

Can't wait to move now xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

Very true! And yeah its really sad...but sadly these things happen dont they. All too often if you ask me.

Mind you..she did say that she found out the day after her af was due so...i have a sneaky suspicion she was actually trying...if i was on bc i wouldnt be testing straight after af day unless i had a reason too!

(btw happy 23wks mommabear!) xxx

Yeah they sure do happen way too often chick

Hmm, I don't know what to think of that as if it was me, I would test if AF didn't turn up, I'm just an eager beaver though

Thank you chick, how are things with you? xxx

True! But then...we are ttc...which means we generally ARE obsessive when af doesnt show hehe. If you werent trying at all, would you test straight away? I dunno..maybe its just my suspicious mind working overtime lol. I just worry a bit maybe about whether she wants to trap luke...He left her a few months back and she went a bit nuts over it...and shes young.

Im great thanks hun. Well as good as I can be! Just getting on with it really! I feel super charged about things anyway...someone I met through this journey on a group here is now 37 weeks and im super excited for her! We went through our losses too at the same time (we found out a couple of days apart) and so its amazing to see someone thats had problems get their dream. Im supposed to be going to yarmoth in 4 weeks so ive told her she better be early If not Im expecting the sms!!

xx

 

[sarahuk]

Sarah I think now the weddings done she'll be able to start trying again and move forward.

That's all you can do Hun, give him the woman's point of view with things and help them both through it all.

Know doubt once I start drinking again I'll suffer probs won't be able to drink much at all then lol glad you had a lovely time Hun nothing better than lots of cuddles

I think it's cause I'm just getting used to wearing them in the week and struggle at the weekend I know what you mean about them causing headaches tho, my old ones used to hurt my nose and temples.

Can't wait to move now xxx

You know..I think that was the problem..I stopped drinking for a while and then met matt and now my body just cant take it...so im betting this 9 months off is gunna be an eye opener when you first start again! Just be gentle tho...what with your reaction and all!

I hope the glasses settle in soon chick. I dunno if its an option but...I found that when my glasses were causing headaches, switching to contact lenses really rediuced the number that I had every day. I think its something to do with the way that the lens is closer to the eye and so it doesnt cause as much strain since with glasses theres the area ok with the lens and then the area around it thats still foggy.

xx

 

[sarahuk]

Katie,

Sending hugs and love out into the interwebs for you chick. You are still in my thoughts Hope you are finding a way through xx

 

[Excalibur]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

Very true! And yeah its really sad...but sadly these things happen dont they. All too often if you ask me.

Mind you..she did say that she found out the day after her af was due so...i have a sneaky suspicion she was actually trying...if i was on bc i wouldnt be testing straight after af day unless i had a reason too!

(btw happy 23wks mommabear!) xxx

Yeah they sure do happen way too often chick

Hmm, I don't know what to think of that as if it was me, I would test if AF didn't turn up, I'm just an eager beaver though

Thank you chick, how are things with you? xxx

True! But then...we are ttc...which means we generally ARE obsessive when af doesnt show hehe. If you werent trying at all, would you test straight away? I dunno..maybe its just my suspicious mind working overtime lol. I just worry a bit maybe about whether she wants to trap luke...He left her a few months back and she went a bit nuts over it...and shes young.

Im great thanks hun. Well as good as I can be! Just getting on with it really! I feel super charged about things anyway...someone I met through this journey on a group here is now 37 weeks and im super excited for her! We went through our losses too at the same time (we found out a couple of days apart) and so its amazing to see someone thats had problems get their dream. Im supposed to be going to yarmoth in 4 weeks so ive told her she better be early If not Im expecting the sms!!

xx

That's true chick, obsession is a part of TTC, look at me for example, I had 1 cycle where I was POAS from 1DPO If I wasn't trying at all then no I wouldn't test as soon as I knew AF was due/late as I there wouldn't be much point and not much chance I was indeed pregnant. Oh dear, that doesn't sound good at all hun

Glad to hear you are doing well hunni. That's the best way chick to be honest, I know times are tough at times (does that even make sense? ) but the best way is to just get on with it Aww wow, not long to go now for your friend, it's amazing how you can connect with lovely ladies on here and be there throughout their journey isn't it? That will be you soon hun, you will fulfill your dream, we are all rooting for you, and Pinky and Jess Hope you have a lovely time in Yarmouth and hope the weather is nice for you xxx

 

[Laura2806]

Sarah I think now the weddings done she'll be able to start trying again and move forward.

That's all you can do Hun, give him the woman's point of view with things and help them both through it all.

Know doubt once I start drinking again I'll suffer probs won't be able to drink much at all then lol glad you had a lovely time Hun nothing better than lots of cuddles

I think it's cause I'm just getting used to wearing them in the week and struggle at the weekend I know what you mean about them causing headaches tho, my old ones used to hurt my nose and temples.

Can't wait to move now xxx

You know..I think that was the problem..I stopped drinking for a while and then met matt and now my body just cant take it...so im betting this 9 months off is gunna be an eye opener when you first start again! Just be gentle tho...what with your reaction and all!

I hope the glasses settle in soon chick. I dunno if its an option but...I found that when my glasses were causing headaches, switching to contact lenses really rediuced the number that I had every day. I think its something to do with the way that the lens is closer to the eye and so it doesnt cause as much strain since with glasses theres the area ok with the lens and then the area around it thats still foggy.

xx

once you stop that's it lol you've had it! I shall do it'll be a while after he's here before I drink again, hoping to breastfeed for a start. I shall be gentle either way

They've told me I can and should only wear them when concentrating but at work its not realistic to take them off everytime I leave my desk, they either stay on or id take them off and forget to put them back on lol

KT hun like Sarah said, we're still thinking about you xxx

 

[Pinky32]

Laura, last year I suddenly couldnt read and needed reading glasses so I got a funky rope thing (dont know what their called) so that when i took my glasses off they hung round my neck, within a few days I remembered to keep putting them back on when i needed them

I thought the guys at work would laugh at me cos its old fashioned but they didnt

 

[Excalibur]

Pinky - I got mother in law one of those where your glasses hang around your neck but she never bloody uses it and still forgets where she leaves her glasses xxx

 

[Pinky32]

lol

i think for me it was easy cos i cant read a thing without glasses so had to have them near me all the time so i found them great

i had a few in different colours so they matched the outfit i was wearing that day

now i have to wear them all the time so dont have to worry about it

 

[Laura2806]

Pinky the thing is it's not like I can't see without them, its just clearer and my eyes go funny when I keep taking them off makes it better if they're on all the time other than in the evening.

bloody eyes! Lol xxx

 

[Excalibur]

lol

i think for me it was easy cos i cant read a thing without glasses so had to have them near me all the time so i found them great

i had a few in different colours so they matched the outfit i was wearing that day

now i have to wear them all the time so dont have to worry about it

Aww bless, at least you will never lose them if you need them close by at all times, that's cool that you matched your glasses with the clothes you were wearing, very smart

I should wear glasses but I hardly do..supposed to wear them for Watching TV, whilst I'm on the laptop and reading..when I went for my last eye test, I made myself look like a right idiot..we had finished and was on our way out..silly me tried pulling a door that said push..I was like omg..how embarrasing! In specsavers aswell lmao! I turned around to Karl and said "Should've gone to specsavers, oh, I have just been!" xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Sarah - Really sorry to hear about your friend, Miscarriage is an awful thing to have to go through and I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. As Laura said, it's not your fault you didn't know but now that you do, you can be there for them and give them all the support they need xxx

Very true! And yeah its really sad...but sadly these things happen dont they. All too often if you ask me.

Mind you..she did say that she found out the day after her af was due so...i have a sneaky suspicion she was actually trying...if i was on bc i wouldnt be testing straight after af day unless i had a reason too!

(btw happy 23wks mommabear!) xxx

Yeah they sure do happen way too often chick

Hmm, I don't know what to think of that as if it was me, I would test if AF didn't turn up, I'm just an eager beaver though

Thank you chick, how are things with you? xxx

True! But then...we are ttc...which means we generally ARE obsessive when af doesnt show hehe. If you werent trying at all, would you test straight away? I dunno..maybe its just my suspicious mind working overtime lol. I just worry a bit maybe about whether she wants to trap luke...He left her a few months back and she went a bit nuts over it...and shes young.

Im great thanks hun. Well as good as I can be! Just getting on with it really! I feel super charged about things anyway...someone I met through this journey on a group here is now 37 weeks and im super excited for her! We went through our losses too at the same time (we found out a couple of days apart) and so its amazing to see someone thats had problems get their dream. Im supposed to be going to yarmoth in 4 weeks so ive told her she better be early If not Im expecting the sms!!

xx

That's true chick, obsession is a part of TTC, look at me for example, I had 1 cycle where I was POAS from 1DPO If I wasn't trying at all then no I wouldn't test as soon as I knew AF was due/late as I there wouldn't be much point and not much chance I was indeed pregnant. Oh dear, that doesn't sound good at all hun

Glad to hear you are doing well hunni. That's the best way chick to be honest, I know times are tough at times (does that even make sense? ) but the best way is to just get on with it Aww wow, not long to go now for your friend, it's amazing how you can connect with lovely ladies on here and be there throughout their journey isn't it? That will be you soon hun, you will fulfill your dream, we are all rooting for you, and Pinky and Jess Hope you have a lovely time in Yarmouth and hope the weather is nice for you xxx

See thats what made me suspicious!! Oh well...I think they arent actively trying for another so...we shall see what happens there!

It defo makes sense! I think I hit a point personally where I realised that no matter what I say, or what I do, the outcome will be just what its meant to be. I think when you start to feel like youve tried everything and that your only option is to just keep trying...you start to relax. I think in the early days you still have that fresh and fun outlook on it...that expectation that its gunna for sure happen within those first 12 cycles... I blame the net for that. So many places are telling people it will happen within the first year when in reality...its more normal for it to happen within 2 to 3.

Im at peace with it now. Im doing things right and I know I cant do any more than what I am. If theres a problem with my body well..then theres a problem. Either the hospital can fix it or they cant. But the only thing that will bring me baby is to keep trying

Im looking forward to yarmouth! Im a bit sad cos i was hoping my next cycle would have a nicely times possible ovulation when im there. If my cycles were what they used to be when i ov on day 14 id be right on scedule...but no such luck...my ovaries became lazy!

Im so looking forward t getting on the beach! xx

 

[sarahuk]

Laura, last year I suddenly couldnt read and needed reading glasses so I got a funky rope thing (dont know what their called) so that when i took my glasses off they hung round my neck, within a few days I remembered to keep putting them back on when i needed them

I thought the guys at work would laugh at me cos its old fashioned but they didnt

Ohh I remember those!!! I had them on my sunglasses! You can get some right funky ones now x

 

[sarahuk]

Pinky - I got mother in law one of those where your glasses hang around your neck but she never bloody uses it and still forgets where she leaves her glasses xxx

hahaha my dad did that with his...he lost the rope...so thus lost the glasses.

Where did we find them? Sitting under the car bonnet on the engine. We never did quite figure out how they got there!

 

[sarahuk]

lol

i think for me it was easy cos i cant read a thing without glasses so had to have them near me all the time so i found them great

i had a few in different colours so they matched the outfit i was wearing that day

now i have to wear them all the time so dont have to worry about it

Aww bless, at least you will never lose them if you need them close by at all times, that's cool that you matched your glasses with the clothes you were wearing, very smart

I should wear glasses but I hardly do..supposed to wear them for Watching TV, whilst I'm on the laptop and reading..when I went for my last eye test, I made myself look like a right idiot..we had finished and was on our way out..silly me tried pulling a door that said push..I was like omg..how embarrasing! In specsavers aswell lmao! I turned around to Karl and said "Should've gone to specsavers, oh, I have just been!" xxx

hahahaha love it!!!