We're all in this together!

[Pinky32]

think positive - the longer it takes the more special it will be when you get in there

the questionnaire is what holds up a lot of sales so the fact that your sol has it from the vendor is great

how many times has work been broken into? is there anything to take?

my last work got broken into but they didnt get in, just tried to smash the doors and windows - its more the inconvenience of it all, waiting for police to come down, fingerprint pple etc just to be given a report number so that you can claim on insurance

my op is friday 31st august - gotta be there at 7.30am and im in for 2 days

woooo hoooo picking up my new glasses on friday - cant wait!!!! will be so nice to be able to read a book again - amazing how much my eyes have deteriorated in past 18 months

Yay for the glasses!! Now you need something awesome to read!

2 days...ophew...means i wont be away when youre out thank god! Gunna be a nervous wreck

as soon as i wake up i'll grab my phone and text you

It sounds really blood bad but...please do lol. I know its the last thing on your mind but..Imma be worrying! Even if it makes no sense whatsoever, that will do me x

you going all jamaican on me - blood bad

you'll be calling me "bro" soon lol

 

[Pinky32]

Laura - panicing is part of being a woman

when we're teens all we worry about is going to school, does XXX fancy me, what am i going to wear to go clubbing etc - then we hit adulthood and the real panic starts! lol

when it comes to MIL - sod her! whos wedding is it

Let me tell you a little bedtime story:-
when my sister got married last year my dad and sisters fiance's parents said they would go halves on the cost
my sister organised a lovely golf club in the country, arranged food, flowers, dress blah blah blah
the MIL was meant to pick up best mans suits but decided the day before the wedding she was too busy so my sister had to run around and collect them - and pay for them as MIL hadnt paid
the night before we were going to have a last family dinner - just us lot - my sister said she was tired and stressed (understandably) and she wanted room service and an early night - i later found out MIL had gone to see her and demanded she have dinner with my sis
the day of the wedding, my sister asked MIL for a cheque as she had to pay the hotel (mega expensive) - MIL announced she couldnt afford it and wasnt going to pay anything
my dad had retired the year before so for him money was tight but he ended up having to pay for everything!
at the reception MIL got a bit drunk and happily announced that she was going on holiday in three days time for 2 weeks to an all inclusive resort!
you can imagine what i said to her!

my point is (after that long waffle) - its your day, dont let anyone spoil it or tell you what you should be doing etc

Jess - was it erythema?

in your mind you need to know what you want them to do and then tell them that - if they say no to XYZ then ask why and be happy with the answer

nothing worse than leaving the docs feeling more confused than when you went in

you know what im like - i write a list and my doc now knows i wont leave until we;ve gone through the list

I went to my doc recently as i decided that i want a trans vag scan done - the nurse told me 6 months ago that i wont get referred to FS so i thought this is all i can do so i want it

when speaking to my doc about booking one for me - he suggested that he refer me to FS and i got a letter yesterday confirming that hes referred me and i'll hear from them at some point - im so happy cos i never thought i would get referred

but its proof that if you go to docs determined for answers - it will happen

 

[sarahuk]

Your right ladies we'll be in the house before we know it!

Pinky I def think you've got a great case for sueing! And a good solicitor by the sounds of things! Which is the hardest battle! You'll just have to type a quick message saying op went great and im getting better each day I think this'll be a huge weight off your mind once your shoulders sorted and you'll be strong to fight your case then

Sarah def don't count yourself out yet!! Way too early for that shit! Remember what you said to me when the thread started! Your not out until the witch arrives. Keep your chin up sweetie xxx

I love it when someone quotes sarahs crap back at her b

If i said at 9dpo that i got a bfn so was out she would be hounding me!

I'll have my phone with me so i;ll try to come on the evening of my op just to let you guys know im alive (my biggest fear)

but thank you laura - means a lot to me x

yes he seems to be a good solicitor - hes got my medical records from my doc and has applied to the hospital which takes approx3-4 months and hes arranging for me to have a medical assessment

the case wont go to court until next year but it will be a nice big dfat pay out

MEH!!! Gunna start keeping me gob shut so you guys cant throw this stuff back at me when im being emo haha!

And you deserve the nice big fat payout too!!

 

[sarahuk]

Ranting is an important part of TTC let alone life. Got to let those stresses out honeybun or they just going to make you ill.

Nooo...how long do they expect to keep you in for?

I;ll be released late afternoon on sat hopefully

Ohh thats not too bad then! Have they given you an idea of how long to expect for the recovery time? X

recovery will be 6-8 weeks and fully recovery 6 months

Its amazing isnt it how one act by a man, put you out of commission for what will be going on nearly 2 years.

 

[sarahuk]

think positive - the longer it takes the more special it will be when you get in there

the questionnaire is what holds up a lot of sales so the fact that your sol has it from the vendor is great

how many times has work been broken into? is there anything to take?

my last work got broken into but they didnt get in, just tried to smash the doors and windows - its more the inconvenience of it all, waiting for police to come down, fingerprint pple etc just to be given a report number so that you can claim on insurance

my op is friday 31st august - gotta be there at 7.30am and im in for 2 days

woooo hoooo picking up my new glasses on friday - cant wait!!!! will be so nice to be able to read a book again - amazing how much my eyes have deteriorated in past 18 months

Yay for the glasses!! Now you need something awesome to read!

2 days...ophew...means i wont be away when youre out thank god! Gunna be a nervous wreck

as soon as i wake up i'll grab my phone and text you

It sounds really blood bad but...please do lol. I know its the last thing on your mind but..Imma be worrying! Even if it makes no sense whatsoever, that will do me x

when i had my first op i went downstairs for a cuppa and a ciggy in the evening so i should be fine to call you - stop panicing

LOL there is definitely something wrong in this picture when youre the one telling me to calm down and relax and youre the one that needs the actual op lol

 

[sarahuk]

i think public liability should be law for all public shops n offices etc - it only costs about £200 a year!

no pma is fine hun - we all get like that - im sure even laura and natt get those days
even now - its normal - but dont linger on it, realise that pma is low then do something to take your mind off it, spring clean etc i found crocheting doesnt take my mind off things

dont be so hard on yourself - give your body a chance after the chem and hsg - its had a right battering recently

Its true...and thankyou I cant see the wood for the trees sometimes and need a bit of a slap to bring me back. x

 

[sarahuk]

I know what its like hun, bloody aweful and no matter how much you try to not think about it its all you can think about! I just used to think oh well my body failed this cycle might aswell get on with the next one now!

And yes pinky I still have days where I worry, lil man seems to be quiet Mondays and Tuesdays then makes up for it the rest of the week, his pattern has only emerged this week tho so I hate the start of the week. Then its a case of well is he ok the rest of the time?! I even worry if I don't feel him when I wake up at stupid o'clock in the morning.

The worry and panick never turn to complete pma and I can only imagine it'll get worse!

Then of course there's everything else to have no pma over, the house mainly, then OH's mum upsets me over the wedding everytime we talk about it, needless to say I try to not talk about it. Its all good fun! Lol

Pinky that's not too bad then, hopefully after the 6-8wks you"LL be getting some movement back and that's not far away at all!!

Sigh I better get dressed for another day in shitville! Oh well each day is a day closer to leaving!! Xxx

Aww chick...least youll be gone soon!

True actually...I think its easy to forget sometimes that getting the bfp isnt the end of all the stress and worry...its just one ticked off of a very long list of things we are left reeling about. I reckon ill be a nervous wreck during pregnancy Ill be needing a lot of stern talking too I think

Im sorry to hear that youve been having stress about the wedding. Is she trying to control your big day? x

 

[sarahuk]

think positive - the longer it takes the more special it will be when you get in there

the questionnaire is what holds up a lot of sales so the fact that your sol has it from the vendor is great

how many times has work been broken into? is there anything to take?

my last work got broken into but they didnt get in, just tried to smash the doors and windows - its more the inconvenience of it all, waiting for police to come down, fingerprint pple etc just to be given a report number so that you can claim on insurance

my op is friday 31st august - gotta be there at 7.30am and im in for 2 days

woooo hoooo picking up my new glasses on friday - cant wait!!!! will be so nice to be able to read a book again - amazing how much my eyes have deteriorated in past 18 months

Yay for the glasses!! Now you need something awesome to read!

2 days...ophew...means i wont be away when youre out thank god! Gunna be a nervous wreck

as soon as i wake up i'll grab my phone and text you

It sounds really blood bad but...please do lol. I know its the last thing on your mind but..Imma be worrying! Even if it makes no sense whatsoever, that will do me x

you going all jamaican on me - blood bad

you'll be calling me "bro" soon lol

Should go and ask my neighbours son for his weed dealers number and kick back...least ill be relaxed for ttc lol! x

 

[sarahuk]

Laura - panicing is part of being a woman

when we're teens all we worry about is going to school, does XXX fancy me, what am i going to wear to go clubbing etc - then we hit adulthood and the real panic starts! lol

when it comes to MIL - sod her! whos wedding is it

Let me tell you a little bedtime story:-
when my sister got married last year my dad and sisters fiance's parents said they would go halves on the cost
my sister organised a lovely golf club in the country, arranged food, flowers, dress blah blah blah
the MIL was meant to pick up best mans suits but decided the day before the wedding she was too busy so my sister had to run around and collect them - and pay for them as MIL hadnt paid
the night before we were going to have a last family dinner - just us lot - my sister said she was tired and stressed (understandably) and she wanted room service and an early night - i later found out MIL had gone to see her and demanded she have dinner with my sis
the day of the wedding, my sister asked MIL for a cheque as she had to pay the hotel (mega expensive) - MIL announced she couldnt afford it and wasnt going to pay anything
my dad had retired the year before so for him money was tight but he ended up having to pay for everything!
at the reception MIL got a bit drunk and happily announced that she was going on holiday in three days time for 2 weeks to an all inclusive resort!
you can imagine what i said to her!

my point is (after that long waffle) - its your day, dont let anyone spoil it or tell you what you should be doing etc

Jess - was it erythema?

in your mind you need to know what you want them to do and then tell them that - if they say no to XYZ then ask why and be happy with the answer

nothing worse than leaving the docs feeling more confused than when you went in

you know what im like - i write a list and my doc now knows i wont leave until we;ve gone through the list

I went to my doc recently as i decided that i want a trans vag scan done - the nurse told me 6 months ago that i wont get referred to FS so i thought this is all i can do so i want it

when speaking to my doc about booking one for me - he suggested that he refer me to FS and i got a letter yesterday confirming that hes referred me and i'll hear from them at some point - im so happy cos i never thought i would get referred

but its proof that if you go to docs determined for answers - it will happen

Was proud of you for going to see the doc about that btw

What a bitch MIL. Id have gone nuclear. Mind you...hearing stuff like this makes me glad that when matt and i tie the knot it will be very lowkey because of my anxiety. I feel lucky that my mil to be is awesome Sad she wont be able to be at the wedding though x

 

[sarahuk]

Hows my ladies today?

Im not too bad ta...cramps have eased up and not so bad as they were now

I feel like an awful gf today though. When I woke up my temps were pretty high by my usual post ov standard so matt suggested I go test. So I did...and came back...and after 5 mins he announced he could see a feint line. I did look and tbh I did think I could see it too. But when the lifespan of the test had been and passed the line was faded out completely.

Was so cute to see his face light up with hope...to then have to dash it and say I think it was just hopeful imaginations. I think sometimes I forget that its not just my hopes and dreams on that little stick too

I hope I can give him his dream soon I can see that ache in his eye when he sees kids out with their dads.

x

 

[sarahuk]

U guys see anything here?

 

[Excalibur]

Pinky - The heat at night doesn't help me either chick, I can sympathise with you on that one. If I'm too got, there's no way I can get comfy, let alone sleep! Ooo those V shaped pillows sound good, might have to invest in one of those! They do the exact same thing at our jobcentre, I might ask there if they have any jobs as there is always people stood around doing nothing lol! I might just do that lol, I can just picture the expression on her face! I don't agree with that though, if she's in a bad mood or not, she should treat all her clients the same, especially delicate ones! I was supposed to start work at the Hotel this morning but they haven't rang me so I'm just taking it as I haven't got the job and she can't do feck all about it! I don't blame your solicitor for wanting to sue the hospital to be honest, they should have got it right the first time! They must have known how much pain you would be in! xxx

Jess - You're welcome hunni. Glad to hear you all had a good day and I don't blame you for not wanting to leave Honey with a baby sitter, I think I would be the same hehe. That's the kind of things you need to think about when trying for a baby isn't it? Do you want children or do you want a social life, there are so many people out there that pop babies out then dump them on someone else all the time because they would rather get drunk! It's so not fair! I have hopefully found some sleeping remedies but just need to do some research on them first, finally found out where they sell it in town lol after looking literally everywhere! Could only seem to find it online! xxx

Sarah - You will both get your dream soon hun, I know how stressful and aggrivating it can be each time the witch shows up I think I see a second line but it looks quite thin? Hope I haven't got line eye though xxx

 

[Laura2806]

Def interfering! She's upsetting me over it now tho so im gonna have to tell Simon, which is never easy!

Stress never goes away lol I think I relaxed more after each scan/midwife apt then even more so at 24wks cause I knew everyweek after that was a bonus, I know I don't have a high risk pregnancy, other than raised bmi, but knowing that if preterm labour happened my lil boy would stick a chance.

Yay for fs federal! Go you! I think you should to the docs with all all of us whenever we go

Sarah yay for kindness!!! I see it, I even moved my phone around and could still see it and you know I don't say if I can't see anything there. Fingers crossed my sweet

I know what you mean about matt, you feel like your letting them down each month when there's nothing more you can do. I keep reminding Simon we're having a baby cause I sometimes think he forgets as he doesn't seem too excited. But then he doesn't do showing emotion which drives me made! Lol xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Natt you said that spot on lol thats so right. Glad to hear it and hope they work. :d x x x

Pinky not to sure hun really cant remember, I think it was somethink like ele or eye at the beginning but my memorie is crap so gonna ask her next time I see her and get it on paper. Then I'll tell ya lol. I understand what your saying and really happy to got reffered to FS, FX'd with everythink. great news but I will never get reffered to FS. But any help is better then none right, and what is vag scan for ??? x x x

 

[sarahuk]

Tomorrow can NOT come quick enough Thanks for looking girlies!

 

[Pinky32]

Laura - its a difficult situation but im sure simon would understand if he knew how much your getting upset by it - you dont have to be nasty about her just tell him shes interfering

Natt - M&S sell them at £15 with a cover included! best purchase i ever got. If the hotel hasnt called you cant be expected to turn up for work so i wouldnt worry about it

I agree with you, the hospital would have known from day one that it wouldnt heal and would be painful

Sarah - I think i see a line - but without wanting to sound mean - this is why i think testing early isnt good as its hard to say for def and if it (god forbid) doesnt stick, then you feel like youve lost another one whereas if you had waited then you wouldnt know any different and just have to deal with af coming

god ive just read that back and i sound like a right bitch but i hope you read that in the caring for you way that its meant x

Jess - go get the bloods done! I dont know why you havent been yet ??????

I have to say your wrong about never getting referred! you will get referred but just not yet - my doc showed me a folder which clearly said referrals are only for pple 23-39 - they might not want to rush into making an appt for you the second you turn 23 because of honey but they will refer you

a trans vag scan is where they use what looks like a wand and put it in you via your minnie - it shows a clearer picture of your insides than an ultrasound scan, so if i have cysts etc then it will show up whereas on an utrasound scan these might not show up

 

[sarahuk]

Nooo charl u dont souns like a bitch I know exactly what youre getting at with and you know I appreciate the honesty! Its not the best to test early...sometimes i do it from the addiction, sometimes too cos I need the reassurance that its ok for me to take my pain meds

It was a line...had a frer confirm it so..now its just the waiting game to see if it sticks. Not getting excited or telling myself this is it cos we all know how that can go. And im having mad cramps anyway. But hopefully it sticks cos I dont want to piss about with more damn tests lol x

 

[Laura2806]

Hunni im hopeing and praying this is your super sticky bean! You deserve this so badly! And im sending all my love hugs kisses and super glue to you xxx

plus do you not remember my cramps?! Started earlier than normal and last quite a while, also worse than af cramps. Keep us highly posted my sweet

I got my v shaped pillow from dunelms as no one else had them, £9.99 and a rang of covers xxx

 

[sarahuk]

Thanks Lauta Im just going to have to chill and wait and see I suppose!

Ive been told though I should call the hospital tomorrow to see if I can get a progesterone check just incase my levels are low...so gunna do that in the AM. Getting my hair cut tomorrow too!

Need to crochet and keep brain busy lol...Im gunna iron out the baby blankie I made and post a piccie tomorrow. Very happy with the way it came out! x

 

[Pinky32]

looks like im gonna be an aunty