InTheVerse
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So hurtful. So far I've isolated myself a bit so haven't heard too many but I id get:
At least you know you can get pregnant - thanks, after a good time trying and even if I can again who is to say not miscarry again
It obviously had something wrong with it - really, you know that? Because the doctors haven't said anything and the horribly acronym POC which were my baby were sent for analysis. I'm pretty sure there are other possibilities too. Plus really, thinking there was something wrong doesn't help with the hurt.
At least you weren't further along - thanks for reminding me, I'm not so stupid I don't know that every extra day I was pregnant wouldn't have added to my grief but that doesn't make this pain any less.
You really were stressing a lot - really? I remember you saying that when I was trying to get pregnant- just 'relax'. Really kind of implies maybe my stressing did something.
I should add to that that when you ring your friend/family member and she tries to talk to you about it, don't start comparing how much worse other people have had it and not letting her talk about the baby- making it all about yourself or others. If you can't face hearing it, better to say so and if you don't know the words just say 'I'm so sorry for your loss, I really don't know what to say, do you want to talk about it?'
I'm dreading what other comments I'll get. Thankfully most people have been great, they just don't know what to say or accidentally hurt but sometimes you want to shake some.
At least you know you can get pregnant - thanks, after a good time trying and even if I can again who is to say not miscarry again
It obviously had something wrong with it - really, you know that? Because the doctors haven't said anything and the horribly acronym POC which were my baby were sent for analysis. I'm pretty sure there are other possibilities too. Plus really, thinking there was something wrong doesn't help with the hurt.
At least you weren't further along - thanks for reminding me, I'm not so stupid I don't know that every extra day I was pregnant wouldn't have added to my grief but that doesn't make this pain any less.
You really were stressing a lot - really? I remember you saying that when I was trying to get pregnant- just 'relax'. Really kind of implies maybe my stressing did something.
I should add to that that when you ring your friend/family member and she tries to talk to you about it, don't start comparing how much worse other people have had it and not letting her talk about the baby- making it all about yourself or others. If you can't face hearing it, better to say so and if you don't know the words just say 'I'm so sorry for your loss, I really don't know what to say, do you want to talk about it?'
I'm dreading what other comments I'll get. Thankfully most people have been great, they just don't know what to say or accidentally hurt but sometimes you want to shake some.