i think the first of this thread is judgmental.. you never know the young ladies could have better relationships than yourself. Who are you to judge other people. I think God will do what he wants planned or not. I dont think you should be posting things like this. Its not only judgmental but hurtful. You have no idea what some people have been through or their thoughts on ttc. Also how can you judge someone you dont even know??? its ridiculous.
Yes I agree, when I first read this thread I felt a little upset. I thought most of the women here were understanding but it's quite hurtful to see some of them judgemental over young lives. I must say aswell, I've been through a lot in my life that no other 19 year old has been through, and I've gotten mysef secure, why shouln't I have a baby just because I'm "young" We may be young in age, it doesn't mean we are young in heart or mind.
I'll be honest - I'd never want to give up any of the experiences I've had in my life to date, and I sure as HECK wouldn't want to do this all over again
, but I'd love to have your (potential) fertility.
And I really do mean that like a big sister. I'm a teensy bit envious - not jealous - of your being your age; I remember how interesting it was to be 19, 20, and how NEAT life was (life's neat now, PLEASE don't get me wrong, but stuff was COOL then in a way it won't ever be again!).
I have such a respect for age, regardless of the number; we all have something to contribute and bring to the table. And our children, future and present, planned and unplanned, will do nothing but benefit from all of it. Whether they're born to someone like me in their late 30s or you in your very early 20s, we'll impart them with the benefits of our own, individual knowledge and experiences (and they'll probably roll their eyes at us over it) and we ALL possess the talent to raise responsible, respectful, BRILLIANT children.
Age is but a number - regardless of the end of the scale it sits on. My mom had two kids by the time she was 21 (granted, they're both in their late 50s now, so you see what year it was!) and my sister had her kids at 36 and 38. Both are stellar parents. Age is just a number. You can't put a price, so to speak, on youth OR experience - and when it comes right down to it, neither better equips us. If you have your first kid nine months from now, and I do as well - guess what? I KNOW ZIP ABOUT PARENTING, so you and I are on even keel! Being 37 has taught me a bit about life, but it's taught me nothing about the mechanics being a parent - I'll be looking up that stuff just as quick as you might have to! We'll both learn as we go along.
We'll all be fine. Our kids will be fine.