Who's still TTC after an ectopic and/or methotrexate?

[pbl_ge]

Crosshairs gone this am!

 

[grace10209]

resque, think positive thoughts. when are you going to dr for your first blood draw?
congrats!!! have you tested again since?
and remember, signs and symptoms come and go so dont worry about having them or NOT having them!

 

[grace10209]

pbl, so is this your first cycle trying????? are you 1dpo now?

 

[Snuffles]

So much going on here

 

[grace10209]

Hi all
hows everyone doing? im in the 2ww again. Its crazy! anyone else??????????

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi all
hows everyone doing? im in the 2ww again. Its crazy! anyone else??????????

Exciting! When is test date?

I'm still in limbo--no idea if I've O'ed or not. FF moved my cross hairs this AM again. I'd say it's really unlikely, except I haven't had an y EWCM in days, and this is usually my O time! Only time will tell. It's frustrating, though, because this is when I'd be going for the intense BD routine, and it seems fairly futile.

How's the new place, Snuffles?

 

[pbl_ge]

Oh, Grace--I just realized. I go to a team of ObGyns, and I recently saw a new one for the first time. I think she was making recommendations similar to what your doc told me. Basically, she thought that given my age and my situation I should go straight to the fertility specialist for the full work-up and possibly Clomid/Femara. Were there other reasons yours recommended that route for you? I got the BFP pretty quickly--third month trying--so I assumed we'd try for another several months before we did all that. Are you glad you're on this path instead of trying on your own for longer?

 

[grace10209]

Oh, Grace--I just realized. I go to a team of ObGyns, and I recently saw a new one for the first time. I think she was making recommendations similar to what your doc told me. Basically, she thought that given my age and my situation I should go straight to the fertility specialist for the full work-up and possibly Clomid/Femara. Were there other reasons yours recommended that route for you? I got the BFP pretty quickly--third month trying--so I assumed we'd try for another several months before we did all that. Are you glad you're on this path instead of trying on your own for longer?

I first started seeing my RE because I was coming off Depo in 2011 and i didn't get a period or O in over 7 months.
Then right before we were going to start clomid, i got bfp - which ended up being ectopic. Then after that, RE's plan was as soon as I hit 0, then i start prenatals again and go on birth control pills for 3 weeks to get my cycle "back in order", then i start clomid right away as soon as AF came. I know it sounds wierd, it did to me too, but I did a ton of research and apparently going on birth control for 3 weeks is the way they do ivf and other fertility treatments and its the fastest way to get your body on schedule. ? it worked.
I am VERY glad we started clomid and treatment right away. My age is the biggest reason. Honestly, If i was in my 20's, i would have taken some months to try on my own but im not, so I wanted to do everything I could, as soon as possible. As it is now, our first cycle of clomid did NOT work and we had perfectly timed bd. So now we are trying again. We will do 3 tries total on clomid only and then try iui.

Im very glad im doing treatments. I want to do anything I can to help with this process.

Im not sure when to test, Wednesday is 9dpo so I may start then, even though its very early. Last month i didn't test at all and i waited til my blood test at 15dpo. that was torture. I would rather get a negative, then not know anything for all that time!

are you temping?

 

[pbl_ge]

Thanks, Grace. I appreciate hearing your perspective, as you're in such a similar position as me! I think we'll probably try 1 or 2 more months before calling the FS, or at the very least get through the calendar year. I seem to get more than the average number of side effects from most drugs, so I try to avoid them. I hated being on birth control. The last time I was on them they affectionately became known as "bitch pills" to my friends. It was well-earned.

I do temp, but it's not helping a lot this month--check out my siggie.

When you got your BFP before, when did you test? I tested on 9 dpo and got a BFN, but by the time I tested again at 15 dpo I was about 95% positive it would be a BFP. I had soooooo many symptoms! Was that your experience, too?

I hope this is your month!!!

 

[grace10209]

Thanks, Grace. I appreciate hearing your perspective, as you're in such a similar position as me! I think we'll probably try 1 or 2 more months before calling the FS, or at the very least get through the calendar year. I seem to get more than the average number of side effects from most drugs, so I try to avoid them. I hated being on birth control. The last time I was on them they affectionately became known as "bitch pills" to my friends. It was well-earned.

I do temp, but it's not helping a lot this month--check out my siggie.

When you got your BFP before, when did you test? I tested on 9 dpo and got a BFN, but by the time I tested again at 15 dpo I was about 95% positive it would be a BFP. I had soooooo many symptoms! Was that your experience, too?

I hope this is your month!!!

When I got my bfp it was insane, here's why.......... I had NOT O'd or had AF in over 7 months so I went to RE. After a few weeks of 1000 tests they decided to start me on a "treatment plan", the plan was for me to take provera for 10days (to start AF) and then start my first round of clomid on cd3 of that cycle. SO, the day before I started the provera they gave me a blood preg test (standard as they dont want to give it to you if your preg), it was negative, so i started the provera. Took it for 10 days and was WAITING again for AF. They say AF should start by the time you take your 10th pill or shortly thereafter, well - she never came. AND 4 days after the last pill my nipples were ON FIRE, like horrible crazy pain. I was like
So, i decided to take pregnancy test just in case and sure enough, BFP! I must have O'd for the first time in years while taking the dang provera! and then got pregnant. So, it was wierd because it wasn't your "typical" ttc cycle, I didn't even know that I O'd. By my calculations I was like 12dpo that day I tested. So crazy. and then it ended up being ectopic, what a roller coaster!

I am with you on the meds and not wanting to take them, but at this point, I am willing to do anything, My age really scares me, I mean what if it takes 6 months to get bfp and then I miscarry or have another ectopic, I mean it could take a LONG LONG time before I carry a baby to term, (im just thinking worst case scenario here), and I dont want to be 38 by the time I have baby #1. Thats why Im not wasting anytime and do everything I can.
My DH isn't so "happy" about it, he wants to just let it happen but i dont think he really gets it............

To be 100% honest, if I could do IVF right now, I would. Only because there's more chance that you will get bfp and there's less chance you will have another ectopic. Right now I think its 10-15% chance to have ectopic again but if you do ivf that chance goes down to like 3%. Can still happen but its really not likely.

This process is tough, today im feeling especially emtional and anxious. It stinks! I wish I wasn't, im usually good and positive but im getting scared, Maybe its because im getting close to knowing if im preg this time or not and its scaring me. Geez, I better get myself IN ORDER! Because if I DO get bfp, the anxiety is ONLY GOING TO GET WORSE and not better! waiting for first few betas, and first ultrasound!

It helps to be able to talk to someone thats close to my age and going through pretty much exactly what I am. and ttc for #1.
deep breathes.

Heres to both of us getting our bfp's with our rainbow babies

 

[Snuffles]

Hey sorry I haven't been on lately, there is no internet where we live. The new place is eh somewhere to live but I would much prefer to live with his mom. I'm in the TWW as well.

 

[miss_kseniya]

Hi all
hows everyone doing? im in the 2ww again. Its crazy! anyone else??????????

Hi Grace

Can't believe how fast this year is going. I'm back in 2ww (7dpo in fact) and it only just feels like the last 2ww was coming to an end. It's been even faster this month as I'm trying to sort all the Christmas stuff out.

Sadly, think we only had about 5% chance of catching the egg this cycle, as I ov'd the evening before the fella was due home from a course and the BD we did the night he got back was the only one we managed during fertile time as he was away for the rest of it. As it's such a low chance I've I'm not symptom spotting or testing.

Fingers crossed for everyone else x

 

[grace10209]

Miss k
It only takes one time!! Did you get your surg the day before he came home ? 1 dpo is still in fertile window

Think positive!!

Yesterday was 11 dpo and I got bfn, Monday is blood work - unsure if ill test again before then. I'm afraid now lol


Snuffles, in this new place temporary or permanent?

 

[Snuffles]

I believe it's permanent, but I'm hoping it's temporary.

 

[pbl_ge]

Snuffles, why do you hope it's temporary? I HATE moving. When we moved to our current city I was insistent that we buy a house, even though we had to travel cross-country and buy in a city we knew very little about it. The other option was to rent for a while, THEN buy, and that just sounded awful.

Grace, sorry for BFN, but I'm hopeful it will turn to BFP by 14dpo. 11 dpo is still pretty early. And thanks so much for sharing your thoughts about your process with me! I'm so thankful that I was able to locate people who had been through the same thing as me. It would have been so much worse without it! I hope all your injections and tests and scans and meds result in a BFP ASAP!!!!!

Miss, I'm in the same boat as you--pretty much failed to catch this egg. Soooooooooooooooo frustrating!!!! I'm mad at FF, so I used to override to to take my crosshairs off. I have no idea when AF is due, but I'm really impatient because this cycle is a total waste. Oh well, more delicious adult beverages for me at Christmas time!

 

[Snuffles]

Because the house is okay, but his mom's house has the homey feel while his dad's has the sad and cold feeling. Plus his dad annoys the hell out of me!

 

[Lindsfx]

Hi, everyone! I hope I can join in. I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy on July 26th and was treated with MTX on July 27th. My levels were around 680 and took about 6 weeks to fall to 0.

I was traumatized by the loss and the experience, so I delayed ttc until this cycle. I'm currently 5 dpo. Yesterday, I was convinced I was pregnant. Today, I'm convinced I'm not. The days since I've ovulated have c-r-a-w-l-e-d. I have no idea how I'm going to make it through my 18 day luteal phase at this rate. I'm very scared about having another ectopic but hopeful that I have a chance of having an iup. As you all know, it's hard to be excited about statistics when statistics have not favored us in the past.

I'm sorry that we all have the shared nightmare of an ectopic, but I'm glad we have each other.

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi, Linds!

 

[Snuffles]

Hi:wave:

 

[pbl_ge]

Grace, isn't today test day???????