Why such a downer on teenage pregnancy?

[ayshahudson]

https://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7595871.stm

I love this article!

 

[Reedy]

I dont have a problem with teens becoming pregnant what does annoy are the people that get pregnant just to get a council house & bcus they cant be bothered to work thats what annoys me the most & notice I didnt put teens its all ages of people that do this & it winds me up why should the people that work hard pay for these people to have kids & a home get a job like the rest of us

 

[LilFlower08]

I didnt put teens its all ages of people that do this & it winds me up why should the people that work hard pay for these people to have kids & a home get a job like the rest of us

Whole heartedly agree with the fact of people of all ages looking to get preg just to have council house and live off the state!!

People should want to bring a baby into the world because of the BABy not the things you get with it...they also should be willing to work hard to provide for it....

I sure agree... but all teen mums ive met are willing to do this because they generally want the baby...

Love the articlexxx

 

[princess_vix]

This is a good article...

and us teens are given alot of criticism because of teenagers who get pregnant for council houses and the money...but what people don't see anymore is the teenagers who have accidents and really actually want their child and don't care about money or the housing situation just their baby.

teenagers are judged unfairly as who's to say a 16 yr old can't be a better mum than a 30 yr old?


great post!!! xx

 

[Reedy]

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teenagers are judged unfairly as who's to say a 16 yr old can't be a better mum than a 30 yr old?

Totally agree with this, well said x

 

[shimmyshimmy]

I feel that often an 18 year old can have more life experience and common sense than a 38 year old, so I would say that as long as you are happy to be a Mum at a young age then what is the problem.
It is a shame however that so many people from all types of age groups do take the mick, and only fall pregnant for housing and benefit purposes, that is particularly sad for the child. A child should be bought into this world with love, and to be loved. If a teenager can provide this love then fantastic, and what a lucky baby.
xxx

 

[Jinty]

I dont have a problem with teens becoming pregnant what does annoy are the people that get pregnant just to get a council house & bcus they cant be bothered to work thats what annoys me the most & notice I didnt put teens its all ages of people that do this & it winds me up why should the people that work hard pay for these people to have kids & a home get a job like the rest of us

I know what you mean...people that are getting pregnant to rip off the government rather than the fact that they want to start a family.

Once my OH mum found out i was pregnant she started to help get baby things together for me. She got in touch with her second cousin who had LOTS of baby things. I went to meet them and they had 7 kids!!!!! And the guy said they have that many kids because the government make it too easy!! The women actually said that she loves them and she didn't get pregnant for the money but both of them don't work. Its shocking to hear him actually admitting that they have so many kids for the money.
The guy actually got done for hitting one of his kids or something and is not allowed to see them again or something...not that its gonna bother him much...

 

[Sarah-Jane]

I got really into this article then gutted it ended to be honest, was really interesting and completely agree with it.
I'm 17 and falling pregnant was an accident but when I decided to keep the baby it was for the baby and not the money like a lot of other amazing teen parents that prove themselves do.
But at the moment, I'm only working part-time and not raising a lot of money and same with my OH as he is off to Uni on the 22nd of this month. I've been handing my CV around EVERYWHERE trying so hard to get a full-time job now I've left college and it's so hard, nowhere seems to be employing at the moment.
I'm just nervous about if I may have to turn to benefits (which would be a last resort) as I'm scared of getting judged as a lot of teens around my area are the typical 'single chav mums who don't work and get pregnant for a free house and money' and I don't wanna seem like that and neither does my OH.
I just want to be able to provide for my baby but getting a full-time job is getting harder and harder... especially now I'm 13weeks.
I'll be able to stay at home so it won't be for a 'free house' but I think I'll have to turn to benefits soon and I'm honestly shitting it!

 

[Rach276]

Im 18 and dont see a problem with teen mums to a certain extent. There too young and then theres young and theres a fine line between them. I live with OH, been together 4 years hes got full time job and i go to college. im not intending to sponge of the state and not ever work so have planed to stay on at college then carry on to uni. At the end of the day teens are much more mature then they used to be and are exposed to a lot more. I see benefits as a tempory thing before you can get on your feet because lets face it everyone struggles money wise if your not planning on a LO. The whole teen pregnancy debate does depend on personal circumstances. I now crap teen mums, great teen mums, crap older mums and great older ones.

 

[Rach276]

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[x_Rainbow_x]

i dnt think there is any right and rong answer to teen parents.. some are really not ready some are... some can be classes as far to young and some get classed as young..
i have mixed veiws on teen mums but i have good reasons for that.
if you have a stable relationship and a good way of income then i dont see a problem.

 

[nikky0907]

My opinion: Pregnancies shouldn't be divided to Teen pregnancies and ordinary pregnancies...

In my opinion it has nothing to do with anything.

And while I do NOT support teenage pregnancy for the reason that usually girls are not ready at a very young age,girls CAN and some DO pull through and are amazing mothers.

I am a teenager (19) but I have a job,a home,a car and an educuation...more than some 30 year olds have...but somehow people would be more quick to judge my pregnancy that that one of an older woman.

Sheer ignorance and generalization.

 

[sparkswillfly]

I have mixed views on teen pregnancy. Mistakes happen and its not a bad thing that people take responsibility for these mistakes and go on to be great parents. However I think that no one should start trying for a child if they cant provide for it themselves and dont have a stable family no matter how old they are. It just so happens that your more likely to be able to provide for your child if your over the age of 20 atleast.

I have seen/heard of quite a few teenagers who are trying for a baby and are either still living at home or only been with their boyfriend a matter of months and have a very immature attitude towards it. I have even heard girls talking about pushing their boyfriend into it or worse tricking them!

Im not saying its a bad thing to want children young as I am only 22 myself and dont really want to have children in my 30s. However the most important thing is to be able to provide for your baby financially and emotionally.

I also think that having children under the age of 16 is not wise for want of a better word. As at 14/15 your still children yourselves and legally shouldnt be having sex anyway. Let a lone risking your health with unprotected sex.

 

[ALY]

i got preg while i was still at school n the teachers woulnd let me sit my exams all my friends said i was stupid t keep my baby i dont think any1 as the right t jugde a teenage mum just cos there young it doesnt make them a bad person

 

[oxSarahxo]

My opinion: Pregnancies shouldn't be divided to Teen pregnancies and ordinary pregnancies...

In my opinion it has nothing to do with anything.

And while I do NOT support teenage pregnancy for the reason that usually girls are not ready at a very young age,girls CAN and some DO pull through and are amazing mothers.

I am a teenager (19) but I have a job,a home,a car and an educuation...more than some 30 year olds have...but somehow people would be more quick to judge my pregnancy that that one of an older woman.

Sheer ignorance and generalization.

I agree with that, I'm 19, turning 20 next month. OH is 22. We manage alright, OH grafts his b*ll*cks off, we have a little privately rented flat in a nice area, he has 2 degrees and between us we have 3 cars, 2 run-a-bouts and 1 Imported Jap sports car. Cash in the bank behind us if we need to fall back on it and everything the baby needs including loving parents and more importantly the ability to provide a stable home.

I look younger than I am so hate the dirty looks I get off older people even though I walk around with a nice rock on my finger, again that OH grafted his manly bits off to get me.

I don't agree with people just popping out kids for money, when I was much younger I lived in a rough area and a lady along the street was 30 with 8 kids, preg with her 9th I think. Can you imagine the cash flow going into that house because of benefits? And the kids never had nice things, always looked scruffy... You know for a fact the cash wasn't even touching the kids and that's what they get the money for.

 

[Angelface]

what makes me laugh about this, when i was 15 i met my ex partner, was 2gether 4 9 yrs, had our own house, 2 cars, both worked full time jobs, was engaged...and it didnt work out, we didnt have any kids.

i'm now 23, 24 in a few days. my current partner who im 16 weeks pg with, officially been 2gther 1 yr. ive knwn my life time, BUT im back living with my parents, we both wrk full time but cant afford to move out as we want to buy not rent, so thats high on the list.

i still look quiet young for my age and have a bump already, but the looks i get from older women is discusting, as i still get id'd when buying wine etc.

the older generation do look down on teenage pregnancy, and i think its terrible, if i was to have fallen pg with my ex, with our own house etc, that still wud have been frowned apon.

Ignore other peoples opinion, if ur happy , thats all that matters.

 

[KaidensMummy]

Im 18..fell preg at 17. Wasnt planned but after the initial shock...was very much wanted . Housing and money never even crossed my mind..the fact was I wanted my baby and that was it! I knew I could provide for it as for my age I have an excellent job making great money. It all worked out and my mum watches LO for me while me and OH both work full time! It suits us and Kaiden gets everything he wants and needs from our hard work...not the government. But now the time has come for us to get a place of our own (my mum and dad now need the space) ...and we simply cant afford it! I have a meeting with the council today to see what they can do for me...but you cant call every teenage mum that needs a bit of help a sponger...I could have easily sat on my arse and let the government pay everything for me but I wanted to go out and earn it myself!!!

 

[heather91]

I really want to know why everyone assumes if you're a teenager and pregnant that you claim benefits and don't work! I'm in a stable relationship, I work for about 20 hours a week and my OH works full time. I really do hate peoples' assumptions!

 

[heather91]

Oh also, people 'assume' pregnant teenagers live in council housing. Me and my OH wouldn't even get a council house! We will hardly qualify for any benefits even though we are on a low income. In fact, it would be better if -DIDN'T- work.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

Oh also, people 'assume' pregnant teenagers live in council housing. Me and my OH wouldn't even get a council house! We will hardly qualify for any benefits even though we are on a low income. In fact, it would be better if -DIDN'T- work.

there aint nothing wrong with a counsil house

cant all be rich hehe