Will be 37 due in April 2016 anyone else?

[penelopejones]

My DH procrastinates too. Or maybe he's just lazy. hahaha. I have a bunch of stuff I'd like to do but he has to get into the right zone and then he'll get really into something and go over the top. So far this has happened with garage organization and Christmas lights but not things I"d like help with... I want him to set up the Ikea bed I bought for my daughter, but he's not biting.

Q, that's so interesting about the hearing loss. I've never heard about that with relation to pregnancy... but I can see how being able to sleep through stuff could be a good thing! My husband snores and I end up in the guest room half the time.

 

[allforthegirl]

I don't think my DH's procrastination is because of this being his 3rd, he told me once that he has a hard time getting into a job when he isn't getting paid for it..... He is a general contractor, when working. He can do a good job but when it takes time he starts to get angry and then has no patience for the finer details and then leaves it. Or breaks something

Oh man Qmama I couldn't imagine not having hearing. My DH sleeps through everything. I have to push him out of bed when it is his turn with the kids. By that time I should just get up because I am already up.

So I had my OB appt yesterday and my OB is very happy how things are going. The ultrasound showed this little monkey has turned, which only happened with in the last couple of days. Also that he is measuring 2 weeks ahead around 4.9lbs. I am going to have one chunker!!

 

[Hopeful1479]

I need some advice ladies.... So we want to start transitioning Emery to a big girl bed which we went and bought this past weekend. We bought her a twin bed, let her pick it out of course. We obviously need the crib eventually and I just wanted to get her all set before hand in case there are set backs and what not. I am only using the mattress and boxspring on the floor so the bed is not too high and its going against the wall and I have a safety thing for the other side so she can't fall out. I got her a really cute bedspread and sheets, she already uses a big pillow in her crib. Do any of you have any tips or experiences you can share? I don't know how to go about making her understand the switch and I know she will end up running around her room, we are putting a gate in so she can't get to the stairs or closets. Just thought I would get your thoughts.... Thanks!

 

[allforthegirl]

When you decide to do it you will have to just do it. No wavering back and forth, and be consistent. So if she does the whole get in and out of bed just keep putting her back without saying anything. DO NOT falter on that!! It can set you back.....take it from someone that learnt the hard way (took over 6 months to finally stop him from getting in and out of bed). My first was a terror when it cam to his big boy bed....and we just put him in a toddler bed. Now I never give in when it comes to certain things, for my sanity.

 

[Qmama79]

Hopeful: i agree with allfrthegirl! Don't let the toddler bed/crib be available. I went through a spell of bed jumping as well, but it got sorted after a week or two of strife & struggle. (I refuse to be in room when he falls asleep...I value my evening time). We kept on bringing him back over & over again & didn't say anything really. We allowed sitting up as long as he stayed in bed. Now, he's good as gold. It takes persistency! Keep the goal in mind...& NO it isn't child abuse to stand your ground. Bedtime is non-negotiable for toddlers. Xx good luck, let us know how you get on.

 

[penelopejones]

I'll have to buckle down and try this! Usually DD is okay at night. Sometimes she gets out once and tries to lie down by the door with her blanket, but we put her back and she goes to sleep. But naptime is still a mess. I've been rocking her to sleep for naps because she just gets more and more hyper and defiant if I try the stay in bed technique, and I end up losing my patience.

 

[Hopeful1479]

When you decide to do it you will have to just do it. No wavering back and forth, and be consistent. So if she does the whole get in and out of bed just keep putting her back without saying anything. DO NOT falter on that!! It can set you back.....take it from someone that learnt the hard way (took over 6 months to finally stop him from getting in and out of bed). My first was a terror when it cam to his big boy bed....and we just put him in a toddler bed. Now I never give in when it comes to certain things, for my sanity.

Good advice and thank you! We are going to try this weekend starting tomorrow night, fingers crossed!! What were some of the issues the boys gave you?

 

[Hopeful1479]

Hopeful: i agree with allfrthegirl! Don't let the toddler bed/crib be available. I went through a spell of bed jumping as well, but it got sorted after a week or two of strife & struggle. (I refuse to be in room when he falls asleep...I value my evening time). We kept on bringing him back over & over again & didn't say anything really. We allowed sitting up as long as he stayed in bed. Now, he's good as gold. It takes persistency! Keep the goal in mind...& NO it isn't child abuse to stand your ground. Bedtime is non-negotiable for toddlers. Xx good luck, let us know how you get on.

Thank you, I am just concerned she is going to get up and run around all night and I don't know how to make it understood that its still bed time and she needs to lay down and sleep. Sometimes now in her crib she is up for like 20 minutes talking to her animals and what not!!!

 

[Hopeful1479]

I'll have to buckle down and try this! Usually DD is okay at night. Sometimes she gets out once and tries to lie down by the door with her blanket, but we put her back and she goes to sleep. But naptime is still a mess. I've been rocking her to sleep for naps because she just gets more and more hyper and defiant if I try the stay in bed technique, and I end up losing my patience.

This is my fear because I have noticed that now about in the 3rd trimester my patience level is not really existant and I feel bad...

 

[Qmama79]

Hopeful: i agree with allfrthegirl! Don't let the toddler bed/crib be available. I went through a spell of bed jumping as well, but it got sorted after a week or two of strife & struggle. (I refuse to be in room when he falls asleep...I value my evening time). We kept on bringing him back over & over again & didn't say anything really. We allowed sitting up as long as he stayed in bed. Now, he's good as gold. It takes persistency! Keep the goal in mind...& NO it isn't child abuse to stand your ground. Bedtime is non-negotiable for toddlers. Xx good luck, let us know how you get on.

Thank you, I am just concerned she is going to get up and run around all night and I don't know how to make it understood that its still bed time and she needs to lay down and sleep. Sometimes now in her crib she is up for like 20 minutes talking to her animals and what not!!!

I allow talking, singing, sitting in bed, ... Whatever he needs to do before falling asleep. There were times he would talk fr close to an hour before dosing of. It doesn't bother me. Either way, he's getting rest & is not exposed to a lot of stimuli. He hasn't been doing it lately.

 

[Qmama79]

I'll have to buckle down and try this! Usually DD is okay at night. Sometimes she gets out once and tries to lie down by the door with her blanket, but we put her back and she goes to sleep. But naptime is still a mess. I've been rocking her to sleep for naps because she just gets more and more hyper and defiant if I try the stay in bed technique, and I end up losing my patience.

This is my fear because I have noticed that now about in the 3rd trimester my patience level is not really existant and I feel bad...

Your postings made me realize we need to get Finley's room & BIG BED ready asap! I don't want to deal with transitioning him into new room & bed AND deal with baby!! I'm panicking now. If I go at 36 wks again, then there will be NO TIME!!

 

[allforthegirl]

When you decide to do it you will have to just do it. No wavering back and forth, and be consistent. So if she does the whole get in and out of bed just keep putting her back without saying anything. DO NOT falter on that!! It can set you back.....take it from someone that learnt the hard way (took over 6 months to finally stop him from getting in and out of bed). My first was a terror when it cam to his big boy bed....and we just put him in a toddler bed. Now I never give in when it comes to certain things, for my sanity.

Good advice and thank you! We are going to try this weekend starting tomorrow night, fingers crossed!! What were some of the issues the boys gave you?

Just the fact that it would take hours every night to get him to sleep and stay in bed. And I had my baby to worry about too, so him doing the in and out thing could last from 1-3 hours a night for around 6 months or more. It was horrible. I was very sleep deprived from a new baby too, so that didn't help as I would yell, scream, swear, spank (not hard but was desperate), until I finally read an article telling me to just put him back without saying anything with little of contact as possible.

 

[penelopejones]

These transitions are tough for littles. Luckily once my daughter is out, she's out (mostly), unless she has a nightmare or a night terror (which is a whole other story). So, the last two nights DD has fallen asleep while I'm rocking her and singing a lullaby. (She was very tired both nights--one day from being in daycare and then today she stayed with MIL but didn't take a nap). I haven't done this for her since she was a small baby (I mostly stopped by 6 months) and part of me feels like she only has a few months before she won't be the baby anymore, and I'm enjoying the bonding experience. She's not cuddly during the day so this is my only cuddling time with her. Am I creating a monster, though--especially once the new baby arrives?

 

[allforthegirl]

These transitions are tough for littles. Luckily once my daughter is out, she's out (mostly), unless she has a nightmare or a night terror (which is a whole other story). So, the last two nights DD has fallen asleep while I'm rocking her and singing a lullaby. (She was very tired both nights--one day from being in daycare and then today she stayed with MIL but didn't take a nap). I haven't done this for her since she was a small baby (I mostly stopped by 6 months) and part of me feels like she only has a few months before she won't be the baby anymore, and I'm enjoying the bonding experience. She's not cuddly during the day so this is my only cuddling time with her. Am I creating a monster, though--especially once the new baby arrives?

Well I can't say that nap time here will be easy at all when baby comes, but Z is just under 2...so to me he is still very much the baby here. I very much enjoy my cuddle time with him at nap time. He goes to sleep at night on his own, so I know he can. Just they grow up so fast and one day he won't want to sleep/nap with my anymore. So I am enjoying the time I have with him until Declan comes. Then we will have to all have a nap together

I don't think by just cuddling a couple times is going to hurt anything, as long as you are prepared to work with what ever comes out of it. In the end we all have to be prepared with what we cause (i.e. me sleeping with my LO every nap time). It is all about how we deal with it is all. I am sure though you will be fine!! Enjoy those hugs and cuddles

 

[Qmama79]

Finley is 3.5 & a super cuddler. I just love it. In the morning, he comes in our bed & gives the best cuddles in the world. I totally get the cuddle time thing! I know that one day that will all end... But until then ... I'm making the most of it. I hope my littlest boy will be a cuddle monster as well!

 

[Hopeful1479]

I love when Emery cuddles with me, she does with dad in the morning when she gets up while I get ready and at night its me. And if she is not feeling well its always me. I am excited about the bed because now we can lay with her and read. I am taking her to target after work today to pick out her comforter for the bed, I want her to be part of the process. I also got those glow in the dark starts to place on her ceiling, I had those as a kid and I loved them even through my teen years lol. I just want her to be happy, but ultimately at the end of the day I dont want to be doing this with a newborn baby. So its now or never and that is not an option. Also I have anxiety because Monday I go back to the OB for my 28 week sono to see if the cyts they found on her brain have dissolved. I am nervous, I don't want to have to go to a specialist and all that. This is my last and so far its been a struggle of a pregnancy and it makes me sad.

I hope you all are feeling well and things are good... I will update as soon as I can about the bed switch and sono!! Have a great weekend!!

 

[allforthegirl]

FX for you Hopeful

 

[Bekah78]

Fx hopeful. Hope the sono goes well!!

 

[Qmama79]

Hopeful. Enjoy the cuddles & I hope the ultrasound goes well. Xx

 

[penelopejones]

Keep us posted, Hopeful!

Tonight dd wanted nothing to do with cuddling and I got frustrated trying to make her stay in bed. So I told DH it was his job because I was going to lose my patience. Usually he goes up and tries to put her down but then she asks for me and I end up going to put her down anyway, but tonight I said no, you do it. He put her down and she cried for a bit but then it was fine. Not ideal, but if she's going to be silly and stubborn then she's going to have to go to sleep on her own. We'll see if she actually fell asleep in her bed when I go in to check on her later...