Worried about infection after loss and ERPC at 14 weeks PG

[Suze]

I was just laughing at myself advising you to do an opk and hpt.... I don't know why I said that, just must be my poas addiction continuing to kick in

The pair of you with your spotting/bleeding I just wish it would go away for you

 

[poppy666]

ok cervix position high can feel it with my finger tip deffo not low x

 

[Suze]

Can't be af then, just too much shagging I reckon

 

[poppy666]

only done it 3 times in a row

Suze the CP Queen.... i dont understand the cp theory

 

[allmuddledup]

That sounds rather worrying Poppy, not sure what to make of it. Definitely one for the doctor, I reckon. Can you talk to someone before Thursday? I am concerned about your continued yo-yo bleeding/spotting because it's never really stopped for more than a few days and it's been nearly 4 weeks now (that's longer than it should be if things are going the way they should). Also, the fact that the HPT is BFN tells me it's less about retained tissue and possibly to do with a problem healing (Suze's bleeding cervix theory?) or maybe extra messed up hormones sending the wrong signals (I hope not!).

As for the signs of ovulation, pos OPKs, etc., I have read (and experienced it myself) that you can't usually trust any of these things as a true sign of ovulation when they follow miscarriage so closely. Our bodies are going a little bit haywire right now trying to heal, bounce back from pregnancy, and get back to normal.

Good luck Suze with getting your man on board. Doh! No pun intended.

Oh, why us????

 

[poppy666]

Im going to ring epu in the morning and say ive only had 3 days since mc of no bleeding at all, no wonder im tired and irritable all the time its draining ive also read not to rely on opks too so gonna ignore weekends now x

 

[Suze]

You're right Ellen the negative hpt would would thankfully suggest nothing retained at all. Could you get a telephone appointment with your GP before Thursday if you felt it necessary? And does the blood have any smell? I thought the bleeding I experienced was most definitely not like af blood

The way I see the cp theory and it seems to certainly be the case for me is that it's high and enough room for ... ahem a man just before and during ov and then goes low after ov and even more so just before af so that no 'man' is needed

 

[poppy666]

No smell to it, it just looks like af again with tiny bits of clot.. it started on the 6th but tapered off this thur/fri but once DTD started its a light flow again x

LOL Like how you explained the CP lol im laughing x

 

[allmuddledup]

Yeah Suze. I like your CP theory. We could prolly make a clever rhyme out of it as well if we tried. Lol.

I'm glad you're calling the EPU tomorrow Poppy. Hopefully they can shed some light on what's happening and hopefully be able to say it's nothing to worry about.

Come to think of it, my doctor told me to come back if the cramping and bleeding got worse. I think I'll give it another day to see if it clears up on it's own first. I reckon it can prolly be put down to all the 'action' I've seen lately. Argh. Why can't life ever just be simple??

 

[poppy666]

Not rang epu yet but think it could be af... no bleeding after last nights bath but woke up in middle of night with cramping a bleeding again, still lightly bleeding but having to use tampon still. It will be 4wks exactly tomorrow since my mc and i generally have a 28 day cycle

MC 22nd Dec = 28 days today x


Edited: Well just rang EPU 'they useless' again they said its my period... i said ' i rang regarding fresh bleeding last week' she just said that could just be from the procedure ' generally you get it 3wks after' but because its 28 days since i MC'd it will be my af

Got to see how this week goes now if it dont tail off after 7 days got to go up to be seen x Soooooooooooo another flipping ticker

 

[redarrow]

(((hugs))) to you all. Im sorry your losses. I had an infection after my D&C and was in hospital for 10 days. Please get it checked if you think there could be a risk of infection xxx

 

[poppy666]

Redarrow im so sorry for all your losses sweetie, just read on another thread, i cant even start to imagine how you cope has your consultant done tests? hope you dont mind me asking xx

 

[allmuddledup]

Oh Poppy, I'm sorry to hear the EPU weren't much help. I hope the bleeding stops soon and it all becomes clear.

I am not doing well at all myself today. I feel more down than ever. Haven't even gotten out of bed yet except to wee. I woke up and saw my son through getting dressed for school then after my partner took him to school I took a couple of co-codamol to knock myself out so I didn't have to stay conscious today. I knew my OH was going to be going out to spend the day with his mum and I couldn't stand the thought of being alone with my thoughts or doing anything about it as an alternative.

I don't know about you but I don't like being alone right now. That's when I cry and think about what's happened the most.

 

[poppy666]

Maybe its better to be alone right now and cry sweetie, i know you dont like to be alone, but just let it all out xxx

 

[allmuddledup]

Thanks Poppy. I think I will just have to do that.

I spoke to the hospital about Gerri's funeral. They are trying to arrange it for 10am on 1 February but still waiting for confirmation from the Chaplain. They should be able to confirm by the end of the day.

I am feeling a little better now, if numb is better than sad and crying. I think I will brave the bath now. I might have to be called Smelly Spotty Ellie otherwise.

 

[poppy666]

Let us know if Gerri's funeral is confirmed today sweetie, you got so much to deal with right now just want to give you a huge hug

Enjoy your bath Spotty Ellie

 

[Suze]

Oh poppy that makes sense then about the af...but what then can have been going on with the opk's?! I hope you get some clarity soon.

Ellen I'm pleased you are a step closer to getting the date for gerri's funeral, it will be good to be able to 'plan' in your head.

And I'm sorry you're both feeling so down, we've all been through so much physically, emotionally and hormonally. Our hormones have been and continue to be all over the place and this isn't giving us an easy ride at all. Again we must remember it all happened so soon and shouldnt expect (although it would be nice) to be feeling 100% all the time yet.

Anyway as for my news today, it's all on my journal but I'm absolutely seething. I've had a couple of calls with my consultant today who rang to apologise that despite her and us requesting it, our baby did not get sent to cytogenetics for testing and therefore, as we were promised we'll now never also know the sex, which really upsets me. I'd hoped for this information at least to help me recover emotionally due to my recent loss. Also we could have gained some really valuable information which could have effected me or risks in the future. I'm so angry because this had been mentioned so many times, even as I was in theatre before the op I reminded them that this needed to be done! So, it's all over now and I'm left with questions that could have been answered if people had done their jobs properly

 

[poppy666]

I dont know Suze about OPKs, ive stopped bleeding atm, but there when i wipe, my stomach has swollen above my pubic bone 'it went down after erpc' tell ya i'll get my BFP and wont even know when i concieved at this rate

Anyways enough about me, that is disgraceful that your baby wasnt sent to cytogenetics for testing id be more than seething id be heartbroken, i really hope your ok lovely?

 

[allmuddledup]

Oh Suze. That is really awful what's happened. It's seriously disgraceful incompetence on the part of the hospital as well. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this on top of everything. Just want to send you big hugs but it seems nothing will make it easier for you to deal with this extra loss and lack of answers and closure. So sorry this has happened to you on top of it all. Thinking of you, sending you my best thoughts.

 

[allmuddledup]

Little update on me... Nothing as catastrophic as what poor Suze is having to deal with certainly (thinking of you hunny). After a day spent in bed drugged up on co-codamol so I could pretend the world didn't exist for a little while, I got up and had a bath in time to see my son home from school. Hospital didn't call back today like they said they would but I will ring them again tomorrow to see if I can get final confirmation on Gerri's funeral. I think it will help to have a date to look towards. I started choosing photos I want to get printed to put in her coffin, pictures of her family. Once I know the date for certain I will ring the local flower shop and enquire about flowers. I just want to get a few individual flowers, just need to check if that is something I can do on the day or if I should plan it in advance. I am also going to write her a letter.

I spent some time cleaning up a picture of her to print up for her album, which is only in planning stage right now. I asked my partner if he would like to see it but he didn't want to. It upset me a bit but I have to accept that he is grieving in his own way and that it might not help him to see her like it does me. I hope he will look at her someday. He didn't want to see her in the hospital either. He didn't say why but I think it's because he doesn't think he could handle it. I respect that though I sometimes wish we could share the experience of remembering her together. I need him strong though and whatever he feels he had to do to get through right now is good for both of us.

In the good news, I haven't had any further bleeding or spotting since yesterday and the cramping ended by the time I got out of bed. I was starting to feel in the mood for a little more loving but OH said he'd rather take one more day off himself to make sure he's running at full power tomorrow. So, looks like all our OHs got some time off for good behaviour. Lol.

Glad things are looking up for you too Poppy. Thinking of you Suze. Hang in there.