taperjeangirl
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I'm stepping away from this thread now.........
Ok this will im sure make people think im a bad mum etc..but i smoke im 22 weeks preg and smoke..i have told my midwife from the beginning - who told me to cut down and smoke roll ups as this is a bit better (yes not at all better than not smoking) and she would refer me to a stop smoking clinic and cessacetion midwife - neither of which has happened she requested this at my 10 week booking in app but they are far to busy in my area to fit me in...
My baby wasnt planned at all and its only just recently i have started coming round to the idea of having my baby (who by the way at all scans including my 20 week one) is healthy (more than) and is actually measuring on the big side so they have put my dates forward..
im not a bad mum and no it doesnt amount to child abuse as, as unhealthy as it is im not beating my child i have cut down and hope to stop before baby is born..what you said to your friend wasnt out of order or harsh as you were stating a fact and if my baby had come back measuring small i would know it was my fault so her acting this way isnt a refelction on you saying something bad...
the fact she hasnt told her midwife does mean she maybe didnt want to quit whereas i told my mw asked for help (im not a strong person) and unfortunlty i havent managed to get help yet but i have cut down and smoke roll-ups which is what my midwife told me to do yes some people will tell me im abusing my child, im a bad mum etc but im not.im just not a strong person and people can tell me that smoking harms my baby etc but i already know that and as for nicoine replacement my dr wont prescribe them or offer any help with them as he says its just as bad as smoking...i have no will power i have a lot going on since i found out i was preg including a berevment and i havent got strong will power but what i dont get it smoking can cause health issues to an unborn child and yet so can even drinking a glass or two of wine a week and yet no one jumps on the bad parent child abuse theme for them...
Personally I wouldn't make someone who is probably already feeling bad - feel worse by having a go at them for smoking. This is the reason why so many women don't admit to smoking to their MW's or continue to smoke in private when pregnant and don't ask for help in quitting. I am by no means condoning it or saying it's ok, but how does being judgemental and/or sanctimonious and preachy help someone???