Im not sure offend is the right word to describe this but i'll tell you the story anyway and you can give me your thoughts... My BF and i used to work in the same restaurant then i left, still keep in contact with everyone through OH. Theres a girl i was quite close to whilst i was there and she's about 3 weeks behind me in pregnancy. Throughout her pregnancy she has smoked, she smokes quite a bit i would say 20+ fags a day. I dropped her off at work last week and she was saying that she'll smoke more on maternity leave cos she'll be bored, i bit me tongue on that one... She's also been drinking aswell, im not sure how much as i've ditched the nights out where she'll be there purely cos i know i will say something. Well she came round last night and she was saying that her baby was measuring 3 weeks behind and she's worried, i had to say something so off i come out with 'it's scientifically proven that if you smoke during pregnancy your baby will have a low birth weight and will most likely be born early' And off she storms out... Im sorry but somebody had to say it to her. She told me she told the midwife she DOESN'T smoke at her booking in appointment, so she clearly knows smoking in pregnancy is wrong and she isn't getting the help cos they don't think she needs any! Sorry for rambling on but she's really pissed me off so fecking much! Me and many other women stopped smoking when we found out we were pregnant, and if you do smoke its your choice but you should accept the criticism that comes with it. Well she no longer is a 'friend'! It was her leaving do last night, and as i had already been invited me and OH went along. Sorry but im not gonna sit back and watch her knock vodka and redbulls. So we left after about an hour, i didn't say anything. And got a text at 1am, saying 'if you don't like it then don't talk to me'. So there we go then, stupid b!tch! Everyone was talking about her last night, even her own sister, but no ones said anything. Its not my place to so she can carry on what she's doing and live with the fact that she could be harming her baby.