Lisa2701
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Some of the most upsetting things said to me have been from nurses.
I went into hospital with a suspected MC. i had got a BFP and then a few days later started bleeding. At the same time we lost the family dog who was only 2 and fine one day and paralysed the next so we were in a really delicate way emotionally. I didn't go to see doc or anything until about 2 weeks later when I was still bleeding to the point I was flooding constantly (sorry TMI) I was becoming ill, a very lovely doctor sent me into the early pregnancy unit to be checked out thinking that I had had an incomplete MC. I was sat next to all the expectant mothers and asked for a urine sample. The nurse then said to me, "your not pregnant", i explained that I understood that but i'd been sent in as doc thought i perhaps had had an incomplete MC and the nurse said "well, 'IF' you were pregnant, your not anymore so you can go home" She was so cold about it I left and cried the entire night.
Another time, I was in my local surgery getting bloods done to check all the usual, the nurse was lovely the whole way through it (I am terrified of needles) and she was telling me how she'd went through IVF to have her children etc and how it wasn't easy but very much worth it. Then as I was leaving she said to me " well good luck, I hope you are one of the lucky ones, we dont see many success stories from people trying as long as you". I closed the door and was like
....I've been TTC for 2 years.... I was devastated, went home thinking OMG I have no chance if what she's saying is true! I didnt think 2 years was "medically" such a huge deal. It is emotionally obviously but all other docs had told me not to worry its 'only been' 2 years etc etc.
The fact that I have a son I also get the "oh well at least you have one, so if it doesn't happen its not the end of the world"..... Don't get me wrong, I agree, whole heartidly that I am truly blessed to have my son, but I will still be devastated if I can't have another. Even my hubby has said this to me, that although he wants another child he won't be devastated if we can't have another as we have our son. I get what people are saying but I really want to be able to give my son a sibling, especially the fact that he has special needs, I want to give him someone else in life that will love him no matter what. We won't be around forever, would be nice to know he has someone else to look to in life.
sorry this post took on a life of its own. I only meant to write a short reply
I went into hospital with a suspected MC. i had got a BFP and then a few days later started bleeding. At the same time we lost the family dog who was only 2 and fine one day and paralysed the next so we were in a really delicate way emotionally. I didn't go to see doc or anything until about 2 weeks later when I was still bleeding to the point I was flooding constantly (sorry TMI) I was becoming ill, a very lovely doctor sent me into the early pregnancy unit to be checked out thinking that I had had an incomplete MC. I was sat next to all the expectant mothers and asked for a urine sample. The nurse then said to me, "your not pregnant", i explained that I understood that but i'd been sent in as doc thought i perhaps had had an incomplete MC and the nurse said "well, 'IF' you were pregnant, your not anymore so you can go home" She was so cold about it I left and cried the entire night.
Another time, I was in my local surgery getting bloods done to check all the usual, the nurse was lovely the whole way through it (I am terrified of needles) and she was telling me how she'd went through IVF to have her children etc and how it wasn't easy but very much worth it. Then as I was leaving she said to me " well good luck, I hope you are one of the lucky ones, we dont see many success stories from people trying as long as you". I closed the door and was like
....I've been TTC for 2 years.... I was devastated, went home thinking OMG I have no chance if what she's saying is true! I didnt think 2 years was "medically" such a huge deal. It is emotionally obviously but all other docs had told me not to worry its 'only been' 2 years etc etc. The fact that I have a son I also get the "oh well at least you have one, so if it doesn't happen its not the end of the world"..... Don't get me wrong, I agree, whole heartidly that I am truly blessed to have my son, but I will still be devastated if I can't have another. Even my hubby has said this to me, that although he wants another child he won't be devastated if we can't have another as we have our son. I get what people are saying but I really want to be able to give my son a sibling, especially the fact that he has special needs, I want to give him someone else in life that will love him no matter what. We won't be around forever, would be nice to know he has someone else to look to in life.
sorry this post took on a life of its own. I only meant to write a short reply
I wanted to say I take it back your baby is not as cute as I just said.. Of course we excused ourselves and went home.. and I didn´t visit or called for a long time and she didn´t ever got a clue...
I personally have only been married to my husband for a little over 7 months now, but we've lived together for almost 3 years and have been together for 4. I know we haven't been together a long time, but we feel it's the next step for us 
I think it's just one of those to-each-their-own things 
I think if you have been together a long time then you have had that me and you time (which I think is important for couples), I know one girl who has been with her bf 8 weeks and already on about trying in the next few weeks! 8 WEEKS!
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this month." Ugh, what a cruel reminder that I'm still childless. 
On top of that, he's so booked that I can't get in until Dec 14th 
. That's just for initial consultation!! Who knows when he'll be able to go the actual test?? 
happydance
