1 day DPO and in need of buddies :)

[babydust818]

Oh and Lindsay, Sam...... what do you suggest as far as stroller and car seat go? I went to Target today and Babies R Us. Saw soooo many that i just didn't know what to choose. I don't need top of the line, but i'd like 4 star quality without paying a fortune.

Also... play pens with changing tables. Any good ones you recommend?

 

[Pinkerton5]

I go in Monday to see if there has been any growth which going by my hcg not doubling in 7 days I'm sure it's over but I'm on progrsterone suppositories so I'm sure that those are delaying any natural miscarriage and I really don't want a d&c because of scarring! How long are people told to wait before trying again? One dr tells me 3 cycles and another tells me 1? I think the waiting is the worst part about this it's just depressing like I forget sometimes that anything is in there! All I want is a cigarette or like a pack of them!!! It's like I did everything right and this happens arggggg!!!!! My last pregnancy I just figured I'd quit smoking when I found out which I did that pregnancy I developed a subchorionic hemmorage ending in miscarriage ... Then after that horrible tragedy I started smoking again because honestly it made me feel better but once we ttc again I quit like probley a month before concieving and now I'm having an early miscarriage?!?!? Its like I can't win!!!

 

[pinksmarties]

Rach- wow thats amazing!! I can't believe she doesn't know you or your history!! As for strollers/car seats etc it might be more difficult for e to comment as not sure how much is the same over there to here. We bought a maxi cosi cabriofix car seat and isofix base which is added expense but felt more secure than using seat belts and the fact we used the car seat in the pram/stroller for short trips to town etc. The stroller/pram was a travel system type on where we could clip the car seat into the chassis or use the bassinet/seat. We got a second hand icandy which we could not afford brand new!! I think Jess and Linds will have better advice for you. As for changing table I never had one, I just used a changing mat and changed him wherever, mainly in the living room/bedroom. Getting any more movement?

Pinkerton - its only natural to blame ourselves when we have mc's but in the end I have come to realise that it is outwith our control. Most mc are from genetic problems and yours do sound like 2 different types of mc's and there is nothing you could have done but I totally understand what you mean. After my first mc I got loads of vitamins (and for OH too!) started temping (as I needed some measure of control) and even bought crystals to help with healing etc. I had a d&c after my mmc and it was the best for me, my AF changed seemingly for the better afterwards but I know some people cycles can take a while to get back to normal. I was told to wait 1 cycle.


Linds - how did the scan go? Did you resist the urge to peak? Any pics? Glad O is feeling better. Hope this weekend wasn't too hectic.

Jess -can't believe Isabela is a month old already. How are you getting on!!

alyssa - how are you? will go a chart stalk.

Hi mar, Kels

afm - I pulled some muscles in my back/ribs (intercostal) that has been excruciating even difficult breathing (using my asthma inhalers) so picking up B has been almost impossible. Things are better now so at least I can play with B again.

 

[confusedprego]

Pink - good luck today! We will be thinking of you but like sam said - it's not our fault we have losses! I had to have come up with a million reasons and things I should have done differently and it made no difference in the end! I waited two AFs after my d&c to start trying again per doc orders but with the early loss at 5.4 they said I could try right away. We ended up waiting two any way but that was more bc of emotional and job planning reasons. Massive hugs to you and I will keep.everything crossed for today for you!

 

[confusedprego]

Ugh, Rach, I just wrote you like a book about carseats - most of it was rambling anyway but my computer just crashed and I lost it!! ahh!! As for pack 'n play's we got one similar to this one:

https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/pr...s-in-tangerine/1042520344?Keyword=pack+n+play

It was a bit on the pricier side but I honestly just loved it when he was little for the raised up section that let us use it as a bassinette and it played music and vibrated. It also had a little light you could turn on so in the middle of the night when you get up to change a diaper or something you can see what you're doing but not necessarily wake up your husband.

Car seats - I have the graco snugride 35 system with the compatible stroller. Came as a set I think for like $250 maybe? It's OK. The car seat is kind of round and awkward to carry as baby gets older/heavier. I'm a generally short and small person so carrying something like that can be awkward. I liked my brother-in-law's a lot better - the Britax system but I believe it's really expensive (like $500+) but it's a narrower design and seems a bit lighter. Looking back, I think I still would have gone with the Graco system as the price was right and it was really easy to install in the car (as long as you have the LATCH system) and it works just fine - plus all my friends had Graco systems so I got to steal their car seat bases/extra strollers, etc.

Changing tables - people told me I would never use a changing table and I honestly loved mine. I used the one on the Pack 'n Play downstairs - we used the Pack 'n Play for downstairs naps after moving it out of the bedroom and Kirk is awesome and built a changing table for his niece when she was born and we have since inherited that since she's now 12!! Oakley hardly fits on it anymore but I still use it as when I put him on the floor he thinks he can just run away whenever he wants.

I saw you posted about breastfeeding - I say give it a try - it comes really naturally to some people. My sister-in-law said it was easy from day one but I think she's just a weirdo haha. I think it takes a lot of patience but if you can afford it - get a pump. I stressed so much I had trouble with my let down while Oakley was attached - he was great at latching but my milk just wouldn't come out for him because I was freaking out about making it work so much but I was fine while pumping as I just watched tv and expected it to come out so it was fine. I plan to just relax with this baby and if I can't get it work, then I'll pump and bottle feed just like I did with Oakley.

Ok - let me know if you have any questions!

Sam - I'm working on getting the picture for you - I'll update on the scan in a minute!

 

[confusedprego]

I think I attached the photo - it keeps crashing my computer whenever I try to open it. Scan went well - I behaved myself at the beginning of the scan and didn't look while she checked the gender and then by the end of the scan I was BEGGING to see haha. We had said we were going to have the reveal party in late May originally and so she said she thinks she knows what it is but she wants to double check on Friday and we'll have the party on Saturday. SO - we'll know gender this Saturday around 4 or 5PM!! I'm really excited!! Baby looks really good - I'm feeling probably one minor kick a day but I honestly think I felt Oakley more by this point, so seems like this will be a calmer baby - still early though so I reserve the right to take that back!!

Alyssa - how's your cycle going?? Any signs of OPKs turning positive??

Jess and Mar - hope you ladies are doing great!

AFM - sorry for writing so much this morning but wanted to catch up! Oakley's a snot machine right now and is up coughing ALL night for the last few days - I feel just awful for him and have no idea what to do. I put adult Vick's on him last night even though it says he needs to be 2 but it didn't seem to do anything at all No fever though so I'm trying to stay optimistic for him that this will pass shortly! I'm going to ask the pediatricians here today if I can give him any cold or allergy medicine even though he's still under 2. He turned 21 months yesterday so maybe we're close enough?!?! poor kid is miserable.

 

[pinksmarties]

awsome pic Linds!!! Can't remember what I said before but I think another boy from that pic. So exciting you'll find out this weekend!!! Do you have any thoughts/intuition?

Poor O. Thats like B's constant state. I have baby vics and apparently putting it on the soles of their feet is meant to help too. I sometimes use a humidifier and have his cot raised head end on a a few book. I have jokingly said that is snot was a biofuel B could support an entire village with electricity for a year!! I am beginning to seriously think about milk intolerance as his cough just isn't getting much better. I will speak to the HV about it ans see what they say.

 

[confusedprego]

I really don't know about the gender!! I caught a tiny glimpse of the screen and thought I saw some little balls but nothing else - but I think girls can be a bit "swollen" and maybe that's what I saw?! My intuition tells me it's a girl because I still feel pretty awful most days - I don't throw up anymore but man, I don't feel good at night!! I also don't feel as much movement as I did with Oakley, so they say girls are calmer but then I question myself all the time and wonder if I just think it's a girl because Oakley's a boy haha. I'm kind of scared if it's a girl as a boy would be so much easier with all the gear we already have and to have a brother for Oakley to romp with but I definitely would enjoy dressing a little girl - so we'll see!! So, basically, I'll be thrilled either way - just want to know!! Oh and I also kind of think it's a girl because my SIL "thinks" she knows but needs to double check this week. They knew Oakley was a boy at 14 weeks so if she needs to double check, I would think it's a girl but that could be wrong too!! So, I guess more of me says girl but I wouldn't be surprised at all if it's a boy

Poor B with the snot! I don't know how you do it!! it's making me insane and it's only been about 2 weeks of coughing but only a few days of constant at night! I did baby vick's on the feet and chest but it didn't do anything - that's why I switched to the adult version but it still didn't do anything!! I also have two pillows in his bed to raise him up. *sigh*

 

[pinksmarties]

this pg felt much different to the one with B, much more sickness etc. Movements this time have been much more gentle than with B and I even started a thread about it as I was concerned so in some ways I do slightly doubt what the scan lady said about this being a boy.

 

[confusedprego]

Sam - I feel the same for you! I didn't like that they were 55% certain about it being a boy and then next time they just seemed to stick with it. Did you see the potty shot yourself?? They say girls make you much more sick and the movements are much gentler, so I always thought girl for you!! Maybe you could get a private scan to double check if you really want to be sure! I'm spoiled with my SIL being able to scan me!!

 

[pinksmarties]

It was the same lady (that initally said 55%) and she did show us a potty shot which looked quite obvious at the time but unless she pointed it out I still wouldn't have know. I have thought about a private scan so may do that and get a fab 3d pic like yours!

 

[confusedprego]

You definitely should!! On my PAL thread, one of the ladies got a 3D of the potty shot and that sure convinced me!! Oakley's potty shot was very clear but I know that girls can be tricky since they can be swollen down there! Congrats on third tri too!! Do you guys get a 32 week scan?

 

[pinksmarties]

no more scan unless there are issues. I have an appointment at 34 weeks with the consultant but thats more to do with labour options vbac etc.

 

[confusedprego]

I gotcha! I would do a private scan if only to get the 3D picture as this is likely your last pregnancy, right??

 

[pinksmarties]

yep will be my last one. Getting too old!!! We have a few days of in May so may get a scan then and the one nearest me are doing a special half price deal on Tuesdays only.

 

[babydust818]

Hey girls!

Sam - so sorry you pulled muscles in your back and ribs. That is an awful spot. Do you know how you did it? Hope you're doing much better today. As far as a private scan... i really think you should. If you feel any bit of discomfort about the gender being wrong, i certainly would do it. How crazy would it be if this whole time you were really having a girl!? Super awesome!!

Lindsay - thank you sooo much for all the info. I think i picked out some stuff i am wanting. I saw the play pens with the bassinet, napper and changing table. I absolutely want it! I am just confused as to what i want to do with all that. Babies room will be downstairs. Obviously the first year i will more than likely have the baby sleep in our room. I was thinking of using a bassinet, but then i saw that play pen and i thought wow... 3 in 1... BUT wouldn't you think a regular bassinet would be more comfy? It will be just for the first 4/5 months. After that i will need a crib. I am just confused as to what i am actually suppose to do here lol. Should i just put all of it on my registry? Bassinet and play pen with bassinet? Sorry for all the dumb questions. First time mommy here... lol. Oh and as for your scan picture i honestly am not convinced either way. Looks like a girl, but also looks like a boy. How exciting to have your gender reveal party. Are you doing it this Saturday? or are you waiting?

Here's the stroller/car seat i am wanting. It has a lot of reviews and most are 5star ratings:
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Baby-Tre...ion_0=14005459&shopFor=true&upc=0009001401307

As for playpen... i like this one because it has everything i want. You can even record your voice and tell baby to go to sleep and it will play. Also has an MP3 player outlet to play music:
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Baby-Tre...ion_0=10603601&shopFor=true&upc=0009001400923

LOVE this swing, just hope it's good. Over 1000 reviews and most are 5 stars:
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Fisher-P...tion_0=5430278&shopFor=true&upc=0002708444260


OH and... i called my insurance company and they pay for breast pump! YAY! Any suggestions on good bottles to use?

 

[confusedprego]

Rach - we skipped the bassinet and I'm glad we did because we ended up putting Oakley in his crib after the first week even though I thought I'd have him in our room for at least a couple months with breastfeeding but he was such a loud sleeper that I wasn't getting any sleep and honestly, it was better for him too. If he saw me, he wouldn't try to sleep much, so it just worked out better for us but I know other ladies, like Mel, loved their bassinets.
I love all your choices!! They're great!!

As for bottles - We used the Medela bottles that went with my breastpump but since Oakley started out breastfeeding from the breast, he was an avid sucker and would collapse the nipples on the Medela bottles and we ended up going with Dr. Brown's bottles as they're the only ones with no resistance. They have a bunch of pieces but they're honestly great!

Alyssa - how's the cycle going??

Pink - you doing ok??

 

[korink26]

Girls!!!! Omg Linds I'm dying to find out what you're having, because of head shape I think BOY!! Idk about sickness, I hardly knew I was pregnant with Khloe, no sickness for me! I craved sweets like crazy and the ring test was right for me-did you do the ring test??
Rachael! My car seat stroller was baby trend from walmart too-I never had any issues. Urs looks almost the same as mine. And then I got an extra base for Ryan's car from walmart too. I had a bassinette and Khloe stayed in it for probably 4 or 5 months? A nice pack n play with bassinet would've been nice, but I wouldn't have been able to fit it right beside my bed. I got my bassinet from walmart too. I got my swing and pack in play from baby's r us an hardly used either. And you had mentioned movement-I was alway freaked because I didn't start feeling Khloe regular until after 25 weeks! It may have been a bit sooner, but I doubted what I was feeling, when it probably was her sooner. I got my changing table and dresser from Walmart...well and crib too, and we still use her changing table everyday.
Try nursing and get a good pump-I got a Medela back pack one or something like that from baby's r us. Expensive, but well worth it. Nursing was extremely frustrating for me and possibly interfered wih me enjoying motherhood at the beginning, but because of the health/immunity for her I'm so glad I did it. But no doubt, at least for me, formula would have been hands down easier.
Sam you're doubting your gender (sorry our internet has been down so trying to read on my phone is hard)? Or did I read that wrong? Are you still feeling sick?
Alyssa how are you doing? How is the new boy in your class adjusting? It must be so rewarding if you're the one teacher that can get through to him and make a huge impact on his life. How's your kitty and new house doing?
Khloe's great-had an awful ear infection tht wasn't going away with drops and she had to get her tubes clean/sucked out and that was traumatizing for us. Begged for oral antibiotics and it cleared up in 2 days. Go back for a check on Friday. 16 mos old this week-unreal!

 

[korink26]

Oh and we used avent bottles!

 

[confusedprego]

Kelsey! so good to hear from you!! So sorry poor Khloe is still suffering from ear infections!! Poor thing!! Oakley just made it through his first cold without getting an ear infection - so we might be in the clear! I hope she's done after this! When do we get to start stalking your chart again? Your new job going well??

Rach - saw the pic of your little one on facebook - glad everything is looking good!!

Alyssa - what are you thinking about this cycle?? How are you feeling?? How's work? the house?? kitty???

Sam - how are you feeling??

Jess and Mar - hope your little ones are doing great Love seeing the pics on facebook!!

AFM - My SIL scanned me today - I attached the best face photo that she got - she's very confident of what the baby is so we will officially know on Saturday at 4PM! I really can't wait!! I'm so super excited!! I was complaining to my SIL that I hadn't felt the baby in a couple days and all of a sudden, little baby G did a little jig and a 360 and it was like they heard me!! So - last chance for votes on gender based on scan photo! Sounds like most of you think boy and that's what Kirk and my other SIL say. My mom is convinced it's a girl but that's because she just wants a granddaughter haha. I'm leaning toward girl but wouldn't be surprised with boy - heartrate was 149 today.