1 day DPO and in need of buddies :)

[confusedprego]

BTW - I broke out the maternity pants and took my first bump picture - still kind of looking like I'm eating a lot of donuts but it's definitely getting there!!

Poor booger has had a real bad cough for a few weeks now - the past week it's gotten less frequent but it sounds real bad. He had a low fever last night (99.4) but I'm nervous he's got something more serious going on/brewing. Hoping he doesn't have a fever this morning!!

 

[kerri28]

Our loss is still very recent.. I ovulated April 10th - severe OV pain.. 1 month after we lost Hannah at 26 weeks. I'm dpo4 had spotting last night just once and today just once. Given the fact my new cycle isn't established yet, my hopes aren't up. OB knows I ovulated but he doesn't know we Dtd the day after I had my OV pain... I guess at tomorrow's appt I will have to tell him but we meet with the high risk group the following day. Who knows maybe I O'ed on the exact date for a reason... Either way I want to look forward to the future with hope. I don't want to compare this to when I got a bfp with Hannah but I spotted like this on dpo4/5 then too.

Does anyone have any experience in TTC this soon with a late loss? I have tried getting feed back inthe second trimester loss forum, still birth forum, and pregnancy after loss but no feed back. All I know is I am lucky to have ovulated at 4 weeks. Part of me wishes we Dtd when I woke with the pain and not the next day but I worried for my body even though the doctor didn't tell me don't go trying when I called and said I woke with ovulation pain.

 

[babydust818]

Kerri - i am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine everything you went through. That is something i am terrified every day for myself. I'm sending you tons of love and hugs for you and Hannah Let us know how your dr appt goes. Would like to see if you may have gotten a new BFP. I'm glad you're looking forward to the future with hope. It is honestly one of the things we can only hold onto. Everything is going to be okay.

Lindsay - Wow you look great! I can already see the bump. They say you pop sooner with your second Not too long before you get to know the gender. I am thinking boy, but like i said i'm rooting for a girl!!!

Alyssa - I had a feeling AF was coming. I'm sorry things didn't work out this cycle, but remember to keep your head up and dust yourself off. You're beginning a new clean cycle! Is Dr going to let you do femara again this month? I agree with Lindsay and say today would be CD1 for you.

Well i got my staples out. I feel A LOT better without them. I have a question though. Before surgery my stomach was nothing but fat and flab. Now under my incision i feel something very hard. It's not real big, but at least the size of half a baseball. Is that my uterus or is that have to do with something with my incision? I was thinking uterus and then i began thinking that when i sit or stand right in that area is where my incision kind of stings. It could be that my uterus is already trying to grow and push out the cut? Idk. What do you think?

 

[confusedprego]

Hi Kerri - I'm so sorry for your loss! We had someone on this thread a while ago that had a later loss in week 26-28..I forget exactly when but she unfortunately doesn't check here anymore but I'm sure she'd be fine with me telling what I remember of her story. I'm not sure the reason behind her loss but I don't remember it being anything they could pin down. I can tell you though that she got pregnant quite quickly after the loss. I do believe she had AF between but once she tried to get pregnant, she did. She has a healthy beautiful now nearly toddler boy!! Are you positive you O'd? Did you do OPKs or anything like that? What did the doc say today?? to you hun!!

Rach - How are you feeling today? Glad you feel better without the staples in! I've heard of incision sites having some swelling from the internal stitches that can take a few months to go away. That's probably what you're feeling.

AFM - poor boog has had 102+ fever today and did last night as well. His ears and lungs are clear but he's definitely miserable. Poor thing He just woke up so I have to run! Hope everyone is doing OK!!!

 

[pinksmarties]

Kerri - so sorry for your loss. I am nearly 27 weeks just now and can't imagine what you went through.

Linds - you look fab in your pic, you have a lovely little bump there. So sorry O isn't feeling well and hope he gets batter very soon. Any ideas what it might be?

Rach - Glad things are much easier with the staples out. As linds say the lump underneath is probably the swelling from the internal stitches. After my CS I had lots of lumpy swelling that took a while to go down.

Alyssa - sorry AF showed up but glad the cycles was a bit more normal and that you did ov. Did they say why your temps didn't really rise? Hoping this next cycle will be the one now you body is more int eh swing of things.

 

[Mtkrvi06]

I'm on CD8....am I in the right place? I'm 39....we just had a chemical pregnancy I had never even heard of that. I counted CD1 as the first day of MC. Anyone who has fine through this and could help me figure out when I might O? Was it normal for you, late, right on time...Im So confused but don't want to miss this month after reading that your very fertile after a loss...unless this is a myth somehow I can't get out if the funk I've been in. I use OPK's but don't temp. I've been told it will be more helpful to temp this cycle but I have NO CLUE how to even keep up with that....what's normal what's not. I know your supposed to take your temp right before rising in the AM. Any added info would be great! Looking forward to friends.

 

[babydust818]

Mtk - Start temping! It will help us ladies to help you and guide you better. You're right about taking it right before you rise. When you first start doing it, it's hard to remember! As for being 'extra fertile' after a miscarriage - it all depends on who you are. I've known girls to get pregnant instantly and then there's myself where it took me 2 years after my first loss and just 3 months after the 2nd. I never knew there was a such thing as a chemical miscarriage either. I believe that was what my first loss was. Are you regular or irregular with your cycles? How long are your cycles usually? It will help us to see when you'll O Are you skipping this first month or are you wanting to get pregnant right away? What did dr say? I think with a chemical you can just go ahead and try immediately. With the 'standard' woman that books use, they say a woman's cycle is 28 days. You'll ovulate around day 14. Which leaves 14 days until AF is suppose to come. During that 14 last days is when conception would occur, BUT every girl is different! I really really think you should temp. So sorry for your loss. You're definitely in the right thread!

Lindsay poor Oakley. I hope he starts feeling better soon. 102+ fever is no joke. Did you take him to the dr's? If so, what did they say?

Sam hope you are doing okay!
Alyssa are you using femara again?

When did you girls get to feel your uterus? If that is just scar tissue under my incision then i have no clue where baby is at for sure. I think you're right though about it not being uterus. I know i'm still early for kicks, but i want to feel them now. I wanna feel closer to him.

 

[confusedprego]

Welcome mtk! I'm pretty sure my latest loss was a chemical. It was in November and I ended up ovulating really early that cycle as I think when you go through a miscarriage your body pops another egg out as soon as your hcg drops to 0 - well thats how its worked for both of my losses but everyone is different. Charting is a great way to help understand whats going on in your body and it was so therapeutic for me. I felt like I had no control over losing a pregnancy but I had control of understanding what was happening in my body. I do have to say that I'm fortunate in that my cycles are VERY predictable on typical months but nothing was normal when it came to losses, as it is for most so it was nice to have an idea of what was going on. You need a special thermometer that they sell at drugstores that goes an extra decimal place and is more accurate. I use fertilityfriend.com and it has a nice tutorial that guides you through the process but all you really need to know is to take your temp at the same exact time every morning before you get up or even talk to anyone. You can take a peek back at my old charts and feel free to ask any questions!

Sam - how are you feeling hun? I cant believe you're rounding third trimester! Gosh that's exciting!

Rach - hows everything going?

Alyssa - when do you start femara?

Oakley slept good last night. He's starting to get up now so I have to be quick but we have no idea what it is - suppose just a cold thats making his immune system go nuts as they tend to do at his age. If he still has a high fever today I will call the doc again. They said his ears and lungs were clear on tuesday but said to let them know if his fever lasts more than 3 days at 102 and today will be 3 days so maybe they wont want to see him until tomorrow. My brother and his wife come into town tonight for the holiday weekend. Excited to see them!

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Awww, Linds, that bump pic is adorable... I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty jealous. Sorry Oakley's sick... is it related to his ears or something else going on? Poor guy seems to get sick a lot!

Rach, how are you feeling? I'm sure you must be doing better with the staples out... how soon until you're expected to be back to your normal routine?

Sam, how are you doing?

Welcome, Kerri and Mtk. Sorry for your losses, hope you get your BFPs soon.

AFM, my doc said to count Monday as CD1 since I had definite "flow" (not just spotting) and to take the Femara on CD4 instead of CD3 this time. He is hopeful that at least I'm responding to it... I'm trying to stay hopeful, but I'm pretty jaded at the moment. At least this cycle was really short instead of dragging on forever...

If I don't get pregnant this cycle, I'll see him again at the end of May to discuss next steps... we may take a break for June and July since I'll be working in NYC for July and wouldn't want the stress of the job plus a brand new pregnancy.

I'd love any good vibes/thoughts from you ladies sent my way that this is the month... my baby would have been due Mother's Day weekend, and I've been super down over getting my period this time around because it basically means that I can't be pregnant again by my due date, which hurts more than I thought it would. I'm trying to just relax and let go, "it happens when it happens," but this stings right now, and I could use the encouragement! You ladies always know just what to say.

 

[confusedprego]

Alyssa - I'm so sorry we're about to reach your due date. Inever really knew my exact due date for my first because I was so ignorant and naive to pregnancy that I just had no clue. I was fortunate enough to have delivered oakley by my d&c anniversary which is the one I mourn more than anything - I even had a ring made with the date inscribed inside. I think you're on a great track with this medication and I'm so excited for you because I just know it's going to work for you! Your temps are going to be tough because it seems as though the medicine makes your temps a bit wacky so I hope youre stocked up on OPKs! I'll be stalking and hoping and sending you all the positive vibes and more! Huge hugs to you and this will be a great month for you!

 

[confusedprego]

Oh and Rach - I'm kind of confused by your question about feeling your uterus - I don't recall ever really feeling it myself. The doctor always felt for it and could supposedly feel it but I never really got it. I mean at a certain point, it gets a bit harder I suppose at some point down the belly but it was tough for me to distinguish. How are you feeling?? Hopefully close to back to normal!

AFM - I have my 16 week appointment on Friday. My SIL is going to take the first peek at checking the sex and we're going to book my anatomy/20 weeks scan while I'm there. I'm going to be in San Diego when I turn 20 weeks, so I'm hoping they can fit it in before I go and then we can have the gender reveal when I get back.
How was everyone's weekend?? Mine was OK - Kirk had to work ALL weekend 9am-9pm and Oakley has 3 teeth coming in, he's just miserable, so it was a bit exhausting since I had so many Easter events to go to that he missed naps and it was really rough on him. I had an engagement party on Saturday, brunch on Sunday and a family dinner on Sunday night all while my brother and his wife were staying with us from Thursday night - Sunday morning. When I woke up this morning, I couldn't believe it was Monday although I feel the most rested this morning than I did all weekend. I don't know how single mom's do it!!!

 

[babydust818]

Alyssa - lots of hugs and positive vibes sent your way. It's rough coming upon your due date, but especially if it involves Mother's Day. I hope you're doing good and i really hope you get your BFP this month. That way the due date reminder won't be so bad afterwards. It's getting close to the time you O'd last month! Better get to

Lindsay - sounds like your weekend was jam packed! I agree on single mom's. No idea how they juggle everything. Baby, jobs, school, friends/family, etc. Can only imagine how rough that all could be. Sounds like you had a good weekend though and a good Easter. Hope Oakley isn't too miserable with teething. Poor punkin! As for the uterus question, i had read that some girls could feel theirs. So when i felt that hardness on my belly i thought maybe it was my uterus. No idea how hard it's suppose to be or whatever. Just wondering if that is what i felt or if it's tissue or whatever. It's still there and it's still big. I've been massaging it in hopes it will help.

It's going to be a gorgeous day here. 80 degrees! Easter was absolutely beautiful. A lot of Easter memories for me it's raining. I think because it was so late this year is why we had such a nice one. Really thankful for it! Had a few of Andrew's family members over for dinner last night. Everything turned out great. Still not feeling any movement from baby. Can't wait until i can. I still use my doppler and i want to break away from that, but it's my security blanket. I still have it in the back of my mind that something bad will happen. I'm sure it will never go away until he's here. I bought some summer dresses since i'm getting a little bigger. They're so comfortable. I love them!!

 

[confusedprego]

My doctor always feels for my uterus around my belly button - below it early on and it slowly moves up above the belly button as you go - after you deliver, they check to make sure it's going back down and I swear I had a thumb print bruise on my belly from them pushing on it so much after I delivered Oakley!
Summer dresses are the way to go!! I wore one all day yesterday - I have broken out my maternity jeans but most are still too big and just look silly.

 

[Pinkerton5]

Bad news I went for a scan today and I'm measuring 4 weeks I should be 6 and it's just an empty sac. I'm so over this first I miscarry because of a sch now I have this non developing sac problem?!?!? I have to go back in a week to be sure there's no growth but pretty much I know there won't be so just more waiting and idk what's next wait to miscarry?!?!? This is just not what I expected out of ttc and getting pregnant to be this awful!!!!!!

 

[babydust818]

Pinkerton - i don't want to give you false hope, but i've read before about a girl who had the same thing happen. Dr had told her it was over basically. She waited it out a couple of weeks and still no miscarriage. They decided to do another ultrasound and sure enough there was a tiny baby and a heartbeat. She wasn't as far along as she thought is what the problem was. I'm not trying to get your emotions all mixed up. If it is for the worse, i hope you know i understand. I had what you may be going through. It's called a Blighted Ovum. I was told around 5w and didn't miscarry until 8w4d. It was a drawn out process. I really don't know what to say to you right now other than just sit and wait to see what becomes of it. I'll be thinking of you lots darlin. I know it's really hard to go through not just one miscarriage, but 2+ is awful. Beachchica had 6 before she had her rainbow. I just couldn't even imagine! We are here for you with any questions you have or just to vent.

 

[confusedprego]

Hey Pink - I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Are you sure of your dates? This is the reason why my office won't scan before 7 weeks as you can be off on dates and just leads to stress, etc. Do you know when you ovulated??
I'm going to keep my fingers crossed for you that you're just off on dates but I know what you mean when you "know" it's not going to be good. Huge to you and I hope you get answers soon!!

 

[pinksmarties]

pinkerton -I really hope you are just wrong with your dates but know what you mean when you know something isn't right. I had that feeling with my first mc. You mc's are unrelated so there is a good chance the next will be okay but I also know how difficult that is to believe and makes ttc so scary. I got my rainbow after 2 mc's like Rachel, Linds and as Rach said Jess had 6 mc.

alyssa - Next month will be 2nd birthday/edd of my first loss. Those dates are something you never forget and made even worse if it falls near mothers day. You will get your rainbow baby and I am sending all the vibes I can across the pond that this cycle will be the one. It sounds like the femera is doing its thing, your cycles are shorter and ov'ing so fx'd all those swimmers catch that egg.

Rach - I'm with linds I never could feel my uterus as such, just a general firmer tummy! I tried to measure fundal height but could never feel the top of the uterus. I think by 20 weeks should just about be near your belly button. so any lumps further down are probably from the op/swelling stitches. When is your next scan?

Linds - so exciting for Friday, I know you said your SIL will see the gender but does that mean she will reveal it to you at the reveal party too or will you find out on Friday? I will have to get some dresses for our 'warm' summer. Last time it was all autumn winter so never got any. Sounds like an nice but exhausting weekend. Is O feeling better?

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Pinkerton, I hope you're off on your dates, but you got your BFP a while ago so I understand feeling really lost and upset. I hope you get some good news from your scan. I totally get what you mean about not thinking your TTC would be like this... I've been nearly a year and a half with one loss and it's not the journey I expected either. So glad you've found this community, I think it really helps!

Linds, are you going to find out the sex or wait til the group does? Are you hoping for one in particular? How's Oakley feeling?

Sam, how are you doing?

Rach, how are you feeling? The pain from the surgery mostly gone? I saw your bump pic on FB, you look great.

AFM, I have a new kid in my class, a kindergartener (I teach upper elementary) so I have my hands full... I've told you ladies, I teach an intensive emotional/behavioral class and they've tried this poor kiddo everywhere else in the district, so they're hoping he'll do better with me. I have to admit I'm a little resentful that good teachers get rewarded with extra hard work! I won't have my class next year because my kids are violent and that's not super safe when trying to get pregnant, and this isn't how I envisioned my last few months with them... hopefully the little 5 year old will get something out of it, at least he's really cute!

I took like 3 opks today, all negative... hopefully I'll O a little later in the cycle than last time and it'll be a nice healthy egg. We're doing sperm-meets-egg plan but started the BD on CD 6 instead of 8 since I o'd so early last time, hopefully that'll help. Fingers X'd!

 

[confusedprego]

Pink - hun - when is your next scan?

Sam and Alyssa - My SIL will be looking to see the gender on Friday but I'm going to do my best to avert my eyes and keep it a surprise at the gender reveal party but I am SO tempted to just look and not have her tell me lol. I'm really not good at surprises - I like to know now, whereas Kirk just loves surprises but I know he'd be disappointed if I knew and he didn't, so I'm going to do my VERY VERY best to not look!! We will be scheduling the date of the party on Friday so I'll at least know when I'll know I'm just hoping everything is OK with baby. I've started feeling movement but it's very fleeting and not every day. I'll be much happier when I can feel movement every day! Another girl on my PAL thread lost hers at 16 weeks yesterday...I really need to stop reading there!!

Oakley is doing much better! He is still getting up at night kind of whimpering, not crying, but he has an upper K9, a lower K9 and a molar coming in all at once right now, so I know he's got to just be miserable but the fever from last week has completely resolved. Sounds like another little boy at his daycare had the same thing. He ate and drank just fine and responded great to motrin/Tylenol so it really could have been a lot worse! It just didn't help we had such a busy weekend immediately following that sickness and I was on my own - I'm still exhausted! haha!

Rach - I saw you posting on the other thread about movement - I felt Oakley around 15 weeks but not consistent until 18 but he was like a ninja in there - by the end he was very painful when he moved around. I had my first feeling of movement at 14 weeks with this one but I go a bunch of days without feeling anything and when I do, it's maybe 5 seconds worth. I can't wait to feel movement daily too!!

How's everyone else doing? Mar? Jess?

 

[babydust818]

Hey girls! 2 weeks ago i won a free psychic reading from this lady that i've never been read by. I am completely blown away by what she saw. I never told her i was pregnant. Never said anything at all to do with baby. This was her response:

Hey Rachael!
Sorry for the delay in getting this reading to you..
I am sensing a baby BOY is on his way to you.... looks like in the fall.. october?
When he enters this world it will bring so much more joy to your marriage.. You both now feel complete with this little miracle! Being home with your boy you feel is the greatest gift.. Because of this you and your husband try to work out a way for you to stay home.. I am picking up on some kind of home business that is just what you guys need!... you will feel so overjoyed each day to be able to stay home and be a great housewife and mom. The number 12 is significant for your son coming, not exactly sure how though. I also see him coming about 3 days early. You tend to be incredibly optimistic and believe that everything that happens is for the best. When you must face a setback, your never depressed. You are great self-starter who always seems to have a plan. You have the vision and determination to get what you want in life. You do exceptionally well in careers such as teaching and counseling so this leads me to believe that you will maybe run a home daycare or tutoring etc? There are many projects you wish to accomplish in life and I see you being able to get to alot of your BUCKET LIST early

-- Super crazy because i've been thinking about not going back to work once i have him and start babysitting. So so crazy!