2012 TTC chat

[Sunshine7125]

Thought I would share my little bean!


He/She stuck their leg up for us!

 

[Smiler82]

Oh that is a great scan pic Sunshine! I forget how big they are already at 12 weeks Are you getting more excited now?

Ah I'm sorry to hear that your dad didn't send anything for Lane. That would really upset me too. Are you going to call and remind him??

No real news from me, just getting heavy! Tummy feels so stretched I don't know how it's going to get any bigger...feet were a bit swollen tonight too. Am starting to look forward to stopping work! Xx

 

[Sunshine7125]

When will you stop working? I am getting excited now that everything has been confirmed and baby appears healthy. I am sad that I am facing another c-section. I really would like the opportunity to experience natural childbirth but under my circumstances the Dr won't allow it.

I talked to my Dad yesterday and he said he was planning to call this Saturday, the day of Lane's birthday party which really made no sense to me. I think he was just trying to make it look like he wasn't in the wrong.

I hated the swelling part! Just keep those feet up and drink plenty of water!

 

[Smiler82]

Ah I'm sorry you have to have another c -section. Is that because of your back? Is it worth speaking to another doctor at all and getting a 2nd opinion? Would it really be that dangerous?

I don't quite know when I'll stop working, part of me wants to keep going so we can save as much money as possible but the other part of me can't wait for a rest! I'm starting to realise I will never have the luxury of this time on my own to just relax again, so it might be worth making the most of it! One project I agreed to keep working 2 days a week until the 9th August, but after mid-July they're going to post work to me so I don't have to travel into the office. Then another project was supposed to start 2 weeks ago but they keep delaying it, so I'm worried that either they'll end up getting someone else entirely because I won't be able to finish it, or all the work will come through and I'll just have to try and get as much done as I can. Oh the joys of being self-employed!!

How was Lane's birthday party? Hmm I think I agree your dad was just trying to make himself look a little better; surely you would ring on the birthday not the day of the party. I'm sorry

 

[Sunshine7125]

I had to have c-sections because of my heart and my surgery in 2009. I had open heart surgery in 1999 to repair a hole and my Dr thought normal delivery would be stressful on my heart. Also, I had hemmorhoid surgery in 2009 and they cut my muscles. The Dr thought that pushing too much could permanently damage the muscles in my bum! That would be awful So unfortunately, I think c-section is my only choice...

That will be nice when you won't have to travel to the office! What a relief. What is your due date again?

 

[Smiler82]

Oh! I didn't know about your heart, that sounds pretty scary!! I'm glad you came out of it ok. I had no idea you could have surgery for haemorrhoids, ouch I am so worried about getting haemorrhoids in pregnancy! It sounds like they can be pretty painful. I've escaped so far but there's time yet...but yeah I guess taking all of that into account a c-section would be the safest option. I can appreciate what a disappointment it must be though

My due date is 19th August! So cutting it quite close if I keep workin til the 9th. But then I could go overdue by a week or 2 couldn't I, so who knows. But right now I am SO over work haha. I've done about an hour today, such a slacker

 

[Sunshine7125]

Oh that's right. I remember now because that was Madison's due date I don't blame you about work. When I got into my third trimester I was so ready to just quit lol. I was tired and miserable especially in that summer heat. Is it hot where you are? Its close to 100 F here

 

[samoorah1983]

Me and DH were trying but not preventing for almost 4 years now, haven't gotten pregnant not one time, got both of ourselves checked out, both healthy no problems. Doctor diagnosed us Unexplained. The Doctor referred us to a specialist, We're going to have an IUI scheduled but I'm so scared of disappointments. I don't know what to do??

 

[Smiler82]

Oh that's right. I remember now because that was Madison's due date I don't blame you about work. When I got into my third trimester I was so ready to just quit lol. I was tired and miserable especially in that summer heat. Is it hot where you are? Its close to 100 F here

Oh blimey that is hot!! I work in Celcius so 100F is about 37C, which is roasting! We've had a terrible summer here so far, not really that warm and lots of rain. But it's heading up to the low 20s at the moment which is better. Apparently July is supposed to be a great month for us weather-wise. Under ordinary circumstances I'd be dancing with joy at that news but not this year I think I'll struggle, lol.

Me and DH were trying but not preventing for almost 4 years now, haven't gotten pregnant not one time, got both of ourselves checked out, both healthy no problems. Doctor diagnosed us Unexplained. The Doctor referred us to a specialist, We're going to have an IUI scheduled but I'm so scared of disappointments. I don't know what to do??

I'm sorry to hear this hun. Do you mean you were NTNP? It can be hard to get pregnant that way if you're not tracking cycles or anything. It's great your tests all came back fine but can totally see why it's still upsetting because there's no reason for your troubles When is your IUI scheduled for? It is really hard when you don't know what's going to happen. I was on clomid to get pregnant and it was frustrating. All you can do is take a deep breath and make sure you have good support around you, and get it all off your chest on here when you need to xx

 

[Sunshine7125]

Samoorah - Hi hun, sorry to hear you are having fertility problems. I ended up having to undergo fertility treatments with both of my first two pregnancies due to PCOS. I agree with what Smiler said, make sure you have good support. Try to not stress and take it a day at a time. It will happen!

Smiler - I put the kids in the pool yesterday, it was so hot. They had a blast. It is just one of the cheap, family size pools you can blow up haha. I even crawled in there with them for a bit. It is supposed to be cooler today so I am looking forward to that. The humidity here is awful! I made a few phone calls yesterday to try to see if a VBAC would definitely be out of the question. I found out more disturbing information My old dr pulled my records from my last c-section. They call it an operating report. He said that despite my surgeries that my uterus was paper thin during my last section and that repeat c-section would be my only option. He said VBAC or laboring period puts me at a very high risk for uterine rupture which is super dangerous. I am just crushed... I have accepted it though and want the baby to be safe.

 

[Smiler82]

Oh wow Sunshine I'm so sorry Why did they not inform you of this after your last c section? It must have been horrid to hear that But if it is the safest thing to do then at least you've found out for sure xx

 

[Sunshine7125]

Sorry I have been missing for a few days. We went out of town for the holiday. We took the kids to the lake with my mom and step-dad. The dr told me my uterus was thin after he delivered Madison but I thought it was just because I was full term and my uterus was stretched but I guess that's not the case

How are you feeling?

 

[Smiler82]

Yeah I remember you being told that, I assumed the same that it was just thin because of being full term. But they should have made it clear it would be an issue for future pregnancies. Some doctors can just assume you know what they mean though I suppose, they're not all great at putting things in layman's terms

Did you have a nice time on holiday? Sounds lovely to be able to escape to a lake for a few days, do you have a cabin or something? How is the heat?? It has suddenly gotten really hot here (though probably nothing compared to what you're used to!!) and I am finding it a bit of a struggle. Yesterday I came home from being out and was sooooo hot I sat in front of the fan with my belly out haha Apart from that I'm fine though. How are you feeling?

 

[Mmleo]

I had to have c-sections because of my heart and my surgery in 2009. I had open heart surgery in 1999 to repair a hole and my Dr thought normal delivery would be stressful on my heart. Also, I had hemmorhoid surgery in 2009 and they cut my muscles. The Dr thought that pushing too much could permanently damage the muscles in my bum! That would be awful So unfortunately, I think c-section is my only choice...

That will be nice when you won't have to travel to the office! What a relief. What is your due date again?

Hey sunshine,I didn't know u had an open heart surgery...I guess it never came up as we were/are always Worried abt our fertility problems.It sounds serious.

My best friend had her first by csection n second naturally,she says if she knew she wd hve chosen another csection,she says it took longer to heal bt again...maybe depends on the person.

Congrats on ur 14 wks!might sound silly but I still can't believe we r all pg at the same time.

What does it mean when ur uterus is thinner?will it cause u any further problems?

 

[Mmleo]

Hello ladies,I finally came back home,it is just not easy being away n pg with a toddler but enjoyed the shopping on line,was so lazy n tired to carry anything from the shops.
Congrats Smiler!34wks!!wow!v soon we gonna c ur baby,promise to post his photo as soon as u can pliz.

We left the uk one week ago,we had only had 2 real sunny days...n am told it is really hot now!!i totally wd do the fan thing,I take a shower everytime I get back in the house...coz back home is always summer,this time more than ever!

I hve my monthly appointment with the doc tmoro,will talk to her abt my constant fatigue n back ache n hear what she has to say.although am really tired n having elective csection,I really want to go as close as I can to 40wks....maybe 39?want to discuss that too,.

And the stretching thing Smiler...I keep thinking my belly can't get any bigger but it does.Will try n upload a photo from the computer since it seems impossible on the iPad.

Nice to hear u r all doing good ladies.xx

 

[Sunshine7125]

Smiler I am feeling well, thank you my mom and step dad have a membership to the campgrounds at the lake and they rent a cabin when they go. It was nice to get away and the kids had a blast! It's miserable being that far along in the heat, I hated it lol. But you are getting so close yay!!

Mmleo did you have a csection with your son? I think my uterus is thin from my first csection around the incision and lower segment of the uterus. I'm going to address it with my dr because from the sounds of it I definitely dont need to go into labor. I was born with a hole in my heart and they didn't catch it until I was 15 years old. They could tell by the location of the hole it was from birth. Thank goodness it isn't genetic so no worries about my kiddos hopefully.

 

[Smiler82]

Haha Mmleo yes the temperature suddenly rose in the UK just after you left It has been glorious and so nice to have some sunshine, but at the same time it's been a struggle. We went to the outdoor pool yesterday and it almost felt like being on holiday haha. We bobbed about then sunbathed, then back in for another swim, more sunbathing...lovely. Best I can hope for for a summer holiday this year

Sunshine that sounds so nice to be able to go and rent a cabin by the lake, and nice to go on holiday with your parents. Glad the kids had a great time

I'm a little annoyed today because the MW rang and said my iron levels are still too low, and if they don't get to the right level then I can't have a home birth I am so frustrated. I've been taking supplements for the majority of my pregnancy, and I even started to double up from 28 weeks because that's when they first said my iron was too low. I had to go in for another blood test today and they will ring me soon with the results. But my MW said if there is anything wrong at all at 36 weeks then they won't let me have a home birth. So that's only a week and a bit for my levels to raise, and since I've been trying for 6 weeks to get them up I don't hold out much hope. Grrr!!

Mmleo how did your appointment go?

 

[Sunshine7125]

Oh no Smiler that is crappy! I will cross my fingers your levels come up. I know how bad you would like a home birth. I wonder why they are still low after all this time. That's odd. Have you increased your iron in your diet?

 

[Mmleo]

Hi Smiler..just to wish the best of luck with ur iron levels,I. Hope they hv gotten better.

Sunshine,I did hv a csection with my son..and am having another one unless things don't go as planned.

Am getting bigger by the day,really tired bt my doc doesn't seem concerned,I hve a really big bump too,will try to upload a photo.

 

[Smiler82]

Hey ladies

how are you both doing? Mmleo it would be great to see a photo, I must take some more too! I kind of stopped taking pics at about 25 weeks. I said to DH yesterday I need a proper photo rather than just self-portraits done on my crappy mobile phone

I am SWELTERING. High of 28 degrees C today - which to you guys is probably nothing! But it's just so hot and no breeze to take the edge off. Gah!

MW came round our house on Sat to check suitabililty for home birht and she was a lot more positive - can't remember if I said but before she seemed very down on the idea of home birth but straight away she apologised if she was 'off' because she'd been working 6 days in a row and been on call so she was just really tired, then said she felt really bad after our conversation. So she was a lot more positive this time. Iron levels have gone up a little, from 10.4 to 10.7 but they need to be at 11. Sunshine yeah I am eating red meat nearly every day!! Plus supplements, then extra Vitamin C to help with absorption, then other things with iron in like apricots, figs, spinach, etc etc. So fingers crossed!

How is everything with you guys?x