30 yo and TTC #1

[lsd2721]

Owl, I wish there was a like button on this thing, b/c I am right there with you. That crap really upsets me! I'm yelling at those girls on the TV even when I'm NOT PMSing! LOL It just seems so unfair sometimes. Here we all are ready and trying for babies and these girls are just popping them out left to right! Taking our tax money because they are on unemployment benefits....gets my blood boiling.

 

[HopeLove GR]

i know the feeling.. it happened twice for me this cycle.. that 2 girls came to me complaining that they are preganant.. its a blessing .. why complain silly women.. i wanted to scteam at them and say i am trying and praying for it while you don't want it
my DH stopped me from taking my temp. he can see the amout of stress i am going through both at work and because of trying.. the biopsy came out negative but we have to do it again in 6 months.
still super dry.. never been that dry.. tried pre-seed and EPO before the positive OPK. now nothing ... i consider my self out this month.

ISD good luck dear good luck for everyone here ...

 

[lsd2721]

ok ladies, quick question for everyone....coffee...how much coffee do ya'll drink?!

 

[HopeLove GR]

3 for me .. starts from 5:30 am - 3 pm is my last

 

[MrsKChicago]

One big cup in the morning, sometimes another in the late morning or afternoon.

 

[haleiwamama]

ok ladies, quick question for everyone....coffee...how much coffee do ya'll drink?!

I used to drink 2-3 cups per day and I loved my coffee in the morning. But as time passed and I didnt get pregnant I decided that I should sacrifice coffee. I'll have an occasional cup here and there, not even once a week... Ive read several places that it can affect ovulation and sperm production.

I dont have any proof on ovulation but a cousin of mine had bariatric surgery and one of the side effects is infertility, he had like 300 spermies only. So the doctor made him eliminate beer and coffee and in 3 months is was 3 million. So it does make a difference!

 

[lsd2721]

That is partly my question. I'm just curious how much everyone drinks. I have heard how it relates to infertility. I usually have one cup of a latte but today I had two. I ovulated yesterday and of course started obsessing over having the coffee. If I don't get pregnant this cycle that is what I will try to cut out next cycle. I guess we'll see.

 

[haleiwamama]

That is partly my question. I'm just curious how much everyone drinks. I have heard how it relates to infertility. I usually have one cup of a latte but today I had two. I ovulated yesterday and of course started obsessing over having the coffee. If I don't get pregnant this cycle that is what I will try to cut out next cycle. I guess we'll see.

Isd, I dont mean to freak you out, I just wished someone told me these things sooner. My RE said that since there's a 25% change of pregnancy at any given month that it should take 4-6 months max for a couple to conceive. All Im saying is, if this starts upsetting you go see a doctor right a way. My gyno told me I had to wait 1 year and I was pissed once I found out I could've gone sooner.

In the meantime there are things you can do to help things along, for example, soy isoflavones, bee pollen and maca root are supposed to help you ovulate; evening primrose oil helps nourish your lining, plus cutting alcohol + coffee and exercising regularly.

I hope you dont take as long as me!

EDIT: I dont know about you guys but I feel pressured to make this happen. We wanna have 4 kids and I'm gonna be 32 in September.. so I feel like at this point I've already missed my start line and I doubt I'll be able to have #3 or #4 with the way things are going... weve been ttc for 1 year.

 

[JCM]

My period is finally gone!!! Wooohoooo!

 

[HopeLove GR]

My period is finally gone!!! Wooohoooo!

you and ur hubby is exatky the same age as us .. how long have u been trying ??!!

 

[JCM]

My period is finally gone!!! Wooohoooo!

you and ur hubby is exatky the same age as us .. how long have u been trying ??!!

On and off for the last year. Lol a couple of months I tried the "not trying" thing...it drove me crazy too! So I'm back on obsessing. I'm hoping this week goes smoothly. Don't you just hate it when you bicker with your husband during fertile week? Ha!

 

[HopeLove GR]

hehehe i completely understand.. what happened with me this cycle that i wasnt in the mood at all on my most fertile day therefore i know i am out this month .. how silly can i be >_<

 

[RForReal]

I drink a large coffee in the morning and sometimes another in the afternoon. The fertility specialist didn't say anything about caffeine intake so until he does, I am going to keep enjoying my coffee!

 

[curiousowl]

Yay JCM!

I actually don't normally drink coffee, even when I'm working. I'm too cheap to buy it every day and too lazy to make it myself. I'll drink it if someone else makes it for me but since DH feels the same way it normally doesn't happen. It's funny since my parents are coffee addicts but I can really take it or leave it. Also my stomach normally feels funky in the mornings so when I would want it to wake me up I can't have it without being sick. I do drink a diet soda every day though and should probably stop.

 

[DosPinkies]

Isd - last Saturday was in the mid to upper 60s but the nice weather left after that. A cold front moved in last Sunday and then yesterday it POURED ICE for hoooouuurrrs. It was a heavy thunder storm...except with ice pellets...all day long. Then it snowed on top of that. The roads suck.

I hate regular coffee, but sometimes I drink vanilla lattes...mmmm. Not often though...just when I'm having a particularly feet-dragging, drooling-from-exhaustion day. It's so hard for me to buy into the "cut it all out!" hype when TTC when I know women who drank 2 pots of coffee a day...oh and women like my sister who were on METH...and conceived...actually more like had babies coming out of their ears. I'm sure it can't hurt to cut those things out, which is why I've been watching my diet, but I still can't help but think of all the nasty drug addict mothers who certainly didn't watch their caffeine...know what I mean?

Hey, WLAN <--- that was on purpose ...I have a question about your anovulatory cycle. Did you ever have symptoms that usually only happen after O? Like tender breasts or anything? I'm trying to figure out if I ovulated...I just have no idea.

 

[curiousowl]

lol, I'll answer to it! I wish I had a better answer for you but since it was my first cycle post-pill I'm not really sure what my O symptoms are. I was on the pill a long time. I did have the fertile CM that came and went in patches. And a few times I got a couple consecutive high temps but they'd always drop again. That might have to be your answer, just wait and see if your temps stay high. Sorry! I know it's frustrating.

I'm the same in that I don't really buy into the whole "cut things out 100%" either. Obviously there are some things that are really bad for TTC like smoking that I would never do but I'm not ready to completely give up caffeine, alcohol, etc.

 

[DosPinkies]

Oh yeah, I kinda didn't think about that. I guess you wouldn't really know yet, huh? Oh well...I'll just wait it out. I just have this fear of getting stuck in this cycle because my body got thrown off and that's the last thing I want. I totally feel for you ladies who that has happened to...just the fear of it makes me anxious. I'll go eat a cookie or something.

 

[curiousowl]

I'm freaking out a little about my temp from this morning. My temps have been so steady I'm worried that I'm either going out back to the craziness that was last cycle or that I already ovulated. I was wondering if maybe since I had such a short period there could be a link between that and early ovulation but the only thing I found on google was things about early ovulation and poor egg quality I haven't even started my OPKs yet! My plan was to start them today, which I'm still going to do. It's just that now that I'm thinking about it I had a lot of CM yesterday, way more than the rest of this cycle. Mostly creamy but maybe some watery mixed in there? I'm not sure anymore! Darn it, I should have BD'd last night like DH wanted even though I was tired

 

[DosPinkies]

Well since your CM hasn't been fertile, I highly doubt you've ovulated. Sometimes temps just vary...all sorts of things can affect them that have nothing to do with your cycle - such as sleeping with your mouth open or not sleeping well. I wouldn't worry just yet. Definitely start your OPK's today and just keep an eye on things. I bet your temp goes back down tomorrow.

 

[curiousowl]

Thanks Dos! Sometimes I need a smack upside the head I think I have PTSD from last cycle too!