4, 5, 6, or more baby MOMMA'S

[Chalrhow]

Forgot to add some pics...

My girls... Wee bunny Mya at 1 month old..

 

[wannabubba#4]

Charlene she is gorgeous, can not believe she is one month already! And your little girl it's beautiful too.

I too feel bad that I am not able to play with my son as much, bad enough if it is due to feeding Abi but when is because I am cleaning up after the bigger ones and hubby then it pisses me off. I told hubby yday that I am looking forward to him going back to work then I won't have to clean up after him all day too lol, he has been much better today lol! Just wished he did not need to be told and could see what needed done without me having to ask or mention it lol. He is great at keeping us all fed and watered and had gotten Dawson to nursery every day, but tends to fall down at keeping on top of the washing and dishes .

Men!!

my little lady slept for 3 hours last night and more importantly I did too, woke up in a panic though as she was still asleep lol , then she done 2hrs between feeds so that was fine as well xx amazing how good 3 hours can be haha xxxx

 

[crysshae]

Beautiful babies Char!

I'm sorry y'all are having a hard time with hubbies.

I've found every time I've had a baby, for about 4-6 weeks after I just dislike men. It's like they are the most irritating beings on the planet. And it's not just DH. I lived with my mom and stepdad when I had my oldest son and daughter and I couldn't stand my stepdad during that time either. It's gotta be all the hormones.

 

[allforthegirl]

Char wow what cuties you have!!

Donna I am glad you were able to get some sleep. I have done that too where I woke and went OMG!! Not lately though, since my pph I don't feel like I have slept 10 min when I have slept 4 hrs. I do wake to every little noise he makes though, so that is good. Things are getting better, and waking up isn't as hard to do. Man this was actually worse then being pg.

Now why do men have to be such bums?? Mine certainly hasn't been this special creature in any means. Though I do have to give him credit for once! Even though he is this procrastinating job hunter, mess maker, and lazy cleaner, he has actually changed in a way since my pph. I mean before he would be spending copious time on his stupid game (his other girlfriend I call it, since it is called Eve it fits), now he is spending 90% of the day helping me with Z and just spending it with me. He has even been way more affectionate, it is almost like we are dating again. It is amazing. Though I am not done bleeding, he seems to have his hands all over me, and actually trying to make out with me again. Even though I love the change I just can't seem to get into the mood, and it is making me feel bad. I sure hope that my libido comes back. It took a long time after DS4 too. I feel like a failure

 

[wannabubba#4]

Mother in law rant

So she comes today tells me she knew we were having a girl because she had 2 boys and a girl and so did her daughter and her mum, can you not just say congratulations, I am happy for you instead of well I knew all along anyway!! and really!! Coincidence more likely than genetically possible that each family member father's/ or carries the same amount of same sex children, men and sperm determine the sex silly woman.

Then she tells me I have a long road ahead to lose my baby bump. Thanks for that, I am only 5 days pp woman!!

Tells me Abi cannot be hungry again, and I should just put her down!!

And when hubby is trying to convey the birth to her and the quickness of it says, all of mine were quicker than that. Matter of fact! No, oh that was great, well done or anything. Bloody woman infuriates me!


Then says to my 3yo when they were leaving, did he want to go with them if it was okay with me. She was going to my BiL for dinner with him and his 4yo so I said yeah great idea, get my little man out a bit. Only to get a text message from hubby five mins ago saying Dawson is devastated now because he cannot stay to play with his cousin! She only meant to go with them all in the car to drop them off!! Who does that, to a 3 yo??? Bloody idiot! Why would he want to go just to drop them off? That is ridiculous by even her standards!

I was saying that is great , thanks, means me and Abi can get a nap, and she was just saying it to get a lift along the road it sounds like!


Grrrrrrr rant over xxx

 

[allforthegirl]

Donna all I have to say about that is --- OH MY!

 

[crysshae]

Ugh! Mother in laws!

 

[FeistyMom]

Wow, that is so crappy! Cant believe she would do that. My mom does stuff like that, and I called her on it after dealing with a distraught and disappointed child. She's been better since then.

Time is flying so fast! All these precious babies growing so fast - I need a slow down button on the universe!

Is it weird that I dont want Rose to sleep thru the night? I'm finding these late night nursing and cuddles without everyone else to be my favorite time of day! It is not being able to nap in the morning that bugs me

 

[wannabubba#4]

Yeah I love the fact that Abi is in with me at night and we get free snuggles and I don't need to feel guilty about other things I could be doing lol. Even last night when she fed all night lol

xx

 

[allforthegirl]

Talking about mil..... Mine has decided that calling late the night before a good time to call to say we will see you tomorrow. Oh and that they are bringing lunch. Guaranteed that they will be wheat in it. She always forgets!

Actually I just figured out that Z cannot handle wheat, garlic and spicy foods. �� we went for lunch with my mom and I cheated a bit and Z was super cranky and fussy about 24 hrs later. Looks like I am going to have to be extra careful. I feel really bad for causing that pain.

So I ran out of my very expensive iron pills. Can't afford to buy anymore, I just hope the pre-natals have enough iron in it. I really don't want to become a zombie.

 

[wannabubba#4]

So I think baby blues got me tonight :'(

Took Abi for s new born photo shoot today, total disaster! Every time were put her down to get photographed she cried, she wanted fed all the time. The photographer is my sisters BiL and we know him really well but I still felt awful as though we wasted his time. I felt like I should have been able to settle her better, our maybe because my milk had only just come in I am not sustaining her feeding needs enough yet and that was my fault. So was fine at the shoot then got in the car after getting no pics done and 4hours later, and cried all the way home! Cried because I felt like a bad mum to Abi, felt like I could not settle her for pics was my fault, felt bad because we made her cry! Then felt bad for Dawson who was with his sister meantime, as though we had dumped him and for no reason as we never even got the pics!

We have to go back next week but I feel judged for choosing to breast feed on demand and for holding her too much. It was said tongue in cheek that i have her spoiled already but I really took it to heart :'(

Of to bed

 

[allforthegirl]

Donna I am sorry you are feeling so down. Maybe Abi just was going through her first growth spurt. The first one does happen around 1 week, but I can totally empathize with you. I think you are a wonderful mom, and doing an amazing job. If you are "spoling" her then I am doing the same with Z. But I have read articles that mothers that do as we do with holding and feeding on demand, have happier, and healthier babies, than those that choose to do other wise. Read this and I think you will feel better
https://www.naturalchild.org/guest/claire_niala.html

 

[blessedmomma]

sorry about the MIL and DH issues.

I cant really complain. my MIL lives very far away so I don't have to deal with her at all. and DH is very big on keeping the house clean. he has made dinner every night since Sophia came and done all the cleaning, besides what the kids do for chores. he really makes it my only job to cuddle, feed, and care for the new baby when we have one. a couple times he wanted to hold her and I felt like I didn't know what to do with myself lol.

Donna- the best thing you can do imo at this point is to feed on demand and cuddle, cuddle, cuddle! there is no spoiling to that. its just called meeting her needs mama! don't let any comment make you question otherwise. how horrible your MIL said something about your pp body. ridiculous! your job right now is to grow a baby, not be worried about vain beauty

char- your girls are so beautiful

 

[crysshae]

Donna - Don't listen to those comments. You are doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing right now. Breastfeeding must be done on demand. You can't just measure it out and give it to her. If your milk just came in, she is probably more hungry and needs to increase your supply, which is completely normal - not spoiled! Pictures can be done another day. And I would be willing to bet Dawson likes hanging out with his older sister. My DS5 does.

Sorry about what your MIL did to Dawson. They just don't think! As for what she says to you, it's usually best to ignore all of it. They have no clue!

 

[wannabubba#4]

Thanks ladies. I am feeling much better tonight! Hubby watched Abi whilst I slept for a few hours, about an hour and a half this morning, and again this afternoon. Amazing what a few hours sleep can do!
Plus I took her to meet the girls from aquanatal, and they were all just amazed that we were out and about a week pp, so that has made me feel like I am normal and putting too much expectation on myself to be doing everything again lol!

Plus Abi had been great today feeding well and sleeping for longer but has been cluster feeding every half hour to an hour since about 4pm, so yesterday's photo shoot was probably just a really bad time for her. If we go back it will need to be morning. And she seems to be over her trauma lol!

Thanks ladies if is great to have you all here for cyber support much love xxx

 

[ricschick]

char gorgeous girlies you have there!!

donna sorry the photoshot didn't go to plan! but its fine and your doing a great job!! and ignore your mil they don't have a clue! thankfully I don't have to deal with one as dh doesn't speak to his!!

I hope your dh get off their bums!!!

Jamies not well again he came home from nursery not feeling himself and was complaining of bellyache and a sore throat, he came and got into bed with us last night and was sick in our bed so hes on antibiotics again for his throat! so needless to say im knackered today as I didn't get very much sleep but there is so much to do in the house its just typical!could just go back to bed!!

 

[allforthegirl]

Claire I sorry you LO is sick again. I feel your pain with lack of sleep, Z was up th night not wanting to sleep, the little stinker. Dh and I took turns, but I still feel shattered.

 

[wannabubba#4]

What a shame for Jamie Claire! They pick up everything when they start nursery don't they?

Zander is so cute Sacha, loved seeing his most recent pics.

Abi is still feeding all the time lol, well unless she is in her sling and asleep. Her sling is fab, so comfortable for both me and her. Does not bode well for getting the photo shoot done lol! He likes to do really artistic shots with gorgeous props and babies posed but I can't see her allowing that lol. maybe she will be over her growth spurt by the weekend and won't be feeding so much but I doubt it.

Had her weighed today and she is 8lb, so only 3oz under her birth weight, she dropped to 7lb10oz so is gaining again nicely. She has a foot that turns in ever so slightly, from her position in utero, the midwives have told me just to massage it but it concerns me a bit. The structure, tone and muscle seem okay but it does not seem to be getting any better. Tried asking the midwife today but she was useless, one of the not so nice midwives lol!! She was in and out in a few minutes and that included weighing Abi.


Xxx

 

[allforthegirl]

Donna I love wearing Z. I just wish I could wash dishes with him in it, but I would just get him wet LOL. She will let you do the photos. I heard around 10 days is the magical date for doing those photos. I really wanted to do them, but with DH out work we wouldn't be able to pay the guy I can't wait to see the finished product though!!

As for Abi's foot…. Z feet turn in too. When we change his bum his feet turn in together, but I just figured it was just the way they sit in the womb… DS4 was the same way and he was fine.

Ok I hate having a broken dishwasher. I have been wanting to make cookies for over a week and the dishes just keep getting worse and worse. I am not even sure how I am going to cook. Dishes are the one thing that DH hates doing and will find anything else to busy himself with instead of washing a load. Believe me they aren't my fav either but I hate cooking in a dirty kitchen, that I just do them.

Oh and I bought some cloth diapering laundry detergent and wow does it make all the difference. The little things that get me all excited now a days

 

[blessedmomma]

donna- I love to babywear! what kind of sling do you have??? I have a ring sling, a mei tai, and an ergo. just got the ergo when I was pregnant with her and haven't tried it yet. loooove the other two though

sacha- I couldn't manage without a dishwasher. ours was broke for a few weeks and all I did was dishes what kind of cloth diaper laundry detergent did you get? we use rockin green. its my fave. but I have tried charlies also