We are going to use this first IVF cycle to determine if we need to use donor eggs. We will have them test as many day 5 blastocysts as develop to see if any of them are viable or if there are chromosome anomalies. If none of them are able to be transferred we will have to seriously consider moving straight to an egg donor instead of spending more money on another retrieval. For now, we are just focusing on this cycle and the IUI which will likely be scheduled for Monday. I am starting to feel stressed about missing next cycle because we will be travelling on vacation. We have been so consumed with this process that I know ultimately it is good to take a brief break for a mental health refresh but using my own eggs, it just feels like every month is a slide down the statistic line. It's also stressful to think that I will be in the 2ww during our trip so I have had to schedule some fun activities that we wanted to do, so as not to risk a threat to implantation. It would stink to avoid the hot tub and great sushi only to have a BFN when we get home. I know that may sound petty with everything we are going through but that is something that I think about.
Vonn - As for donors, I used California Cryobank for a sperm donor and they were an amazing organization with fabulous policies regarding genetics, health, screening, acceptance of donors, etc. I am Jewish and am a Tay-Sachs carrier (scary) so it was incredibly important to me to have an agency that really took that seriously. I did tons of research before settling on them. I know they don't have a huge list of egg donors to choose from (I think they have less than 30 last I checked) but for what it is worth, I really loved working with them. I worked with their genetic counselors and other staff. Plus they have audio interviews, creative essays, exceptionally thorough family histories, etc. on the donors, so if you haven't checked them out, it's worth giving them a look. Good luck!!!