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[bash73]

Thanks for the post Kat...all good things that I can mention to the doc. But and I'm not trying to be mean or anything...my luteal phase WAS ok before all this otherwise i wouldn't have gotten pregnant? Or is that y it was in my tube? I can't stand NOT knowing!!!!!!! LOL I crack myself up lately.
Now here's something...I've been totally exhausted the past couple of days. Prior to me knowing i was pregnant in April I had the same type of feeling. I think I'm trying to find signs that all of our DTD has worked and a miracle is brewing. But today I left my ipad at the gym and didn't realize it was missing for 5 hours. That could just be me getting "old" as my siblings tell me. LOL
Anywho....Doc appt in 2 hrs will be back later.

 

[bash73]

Back from the doc...all is good, nothing out of the ordinary on my labs so I'm good to go he said. Put me on baby aspirin and extra folic acid w/b6 and b12. Then when I went to the pharmacy i found a new Clearblue ADVANCED Pregnancy Test. It has a "weeks" estimator. I guess I don't really need that but thought it was cool and had a $10 CVS Coupon so I bought it. Over and out for now. Going out to dinner w/DH to celebrate the good news.

 

[Kat S]

Bash, I'm totally confused! "But and I'm not trying to be mean or anything...my luteal phase WAS ok before all this otherwise i wouldn't have gotten pregnant?" <-- How in the world is that "being mean"??? You are a silly noodle!! You're right, not mean!!

Glad your labs came back pretty good. That's something for the positive side! I was taking baby aspirin and stopped because I forgot when I stopped taking the DHEA. You've reminded me to take it. Thanks!

The new pregnancy test sounds great!

AFM, CD 14 and I got my SOLID SMILEY today!! Yay!!

But I'm confused because the internet cheapie shows no ovulation at all.

See a photo here:

https://www.flickr.com/photos/14941369@N07/9619200037/lightbox/

Hrm, maybe it's because the CB is much more sensitive and picked up the LH serge before the IC? I'll test again to night with an IC and hopefully by then it's picking it up.

We did our crazy science experiment last night, as we call it, so my bases are covered so far. We'll do it again on Friday ...or should we do it Thursday morning? He needs time to recharge the swimmers or the quality/quantity sucks.

 

[bash73]

Next update...I've made an appt w/an infertility specialist for Sept. 20th. Now I'm getting ready to get all of my records from 2011 in my hands to bring w/me. I haven't been tested for peri menopause since 2011 so I'd feel better at least talking to this doctor and having a plan. I want as many tests possible before the end of this year since I've met my deductible. I definetly have much more energy today w/the new folic acid plus B's Doc Sr. gave me yesterday. Maybe I was lacking? Who knows. Still had that damn blinking smiley this morning on CB and negatives on the other 2. We were supposed to DTD yesterday but I passed out. I guess tonight it will be LOL. Praying for a miracle for my birthday! Wouldn't it be nice to cancel that appt in late sept w/the infertility doc.

 

[bash73]

Kat just looked at your link and that's what I'm getting one line on the CVS brand and then the CB blinking smiley. I feel your pain!!!!!

 

[Kat S]

Bash, since I got the solid smiley today, I'm hoping the IC just needs more time to pick it up. I think they are not as sensitive as the CBs. I'll test again tonight and tomorrow morning with the IC to see if anything pops up!

Good luck with your tests, and I HOPE you don't need the Sept 20 appt!! Wouldn't it be awesome to go in for a BETA instead!!!

 

[bash73]

Oh it would be better for a BETA!!!!

 

[bash73]

Another blinking . I'm sooooo frustrated!!! CDC 17...I'm still wondering if my cycle will be different and isn't back to my norm of 28 days prior to the ectopic which was wayyyyy back in April? Will know in 11 days...

 

[Kat S]

Another blinking . I'm sooooo frustrated!!! CDC 17...I'm still wondering if my cycle will be different and isn't back to my norm of 28 days prior to the ectopic which was wayyyyy back in April? Will know in 11 days...

I'm really sorry to hear that. Yeah, I'd think by August you'd be back to normal. BUT everyone is different. Sadly, we have to have stupid patience. I wanna punch "patience" in the throat.

 

[Kat S]

So last night DH decided he wanted to do the insemination three days in a row despite the fact that we think his swimmers are better if you wait a day. So we ended up doing the syringe thing last night and I used the Softcup afterwards this time as I had some leakage on Wednesday.

As for the OPK, still no dark "test" line on my IC either last night or with FMU. I felt a wee crampy for most of yesterday and last night, so I do think I'm Oing today. No idea why the ICs aren't showing anything! I'll try it again this afternoon and this evening.

 

[Kat S]

OH I found this gem in an online article about "8 Myths About Trying To Conceive"

If you're trying to get pregnant, chances are you've been overwhelmed with tips and advice. Books, magazines, Web sites, and well-meaning friends and relatives are full of suggestions. But how do you separate the myths from the facts? Here are some common misconceptions about conception.

1. You'll have a better chance of conceiving if you relax and stop worrying about it. Even assuming this were possible, there's no clinical evidence that it makes a difference. While extreme stress can affect your ability to ovulate in very rare cases, "worrying about it" -- especially if that worry takes the form of monitoring ovulation and timing intercourse to coincide with your most fertile time -- can only help

THANK YOU!!! If I hear "it'll happen when you stop thinking about it" ONE MORE TIME, I'm gonna scream.

 

[bash73]

Oh Kat, you crack me up!!!!! I was born w/o patience so it's even harder for me. Believe I thought well maybe if I'd just relax it'll happen again. But we all know if you don't DTD around the time you O, it ain't gonna happen on it's own.

Then I was thinking about my OPK testsssss. Maybe I don't O every month. I've never tested month after month to know???????

I have a good feeling for your at home stuff working for you. But stop thinking about it already. LOL

 

[Kat S]

Bash, yeah, it didn't occur to me that maybe I don't ovulate on my own every month, either. But if that's what's going on, it's good to know so you can do something. I'm pretty sure you can do something, right?

LOL!! I'll try.
but seriously, I was telling some friends that when they say "stress affects ovulation" they mean stuff like a death in the family, or change of residence. They don't mean "calculating when ovulation is likely to occur". I mean, if that were true, then every women who was late to work, or got overwhelmed by work or housework, or couldn't find their favorite pasta sauce at the grocery store wouldn't ovulate. The whole thing is ridiculous.

 

[Briss]

thank you Kat for posting it, there are a few well meaning friends of mine who should read it tbh. having said that I actually do try to relax from time to time, recently discovered that massages work quite well for this purpose. Stress does not really affect my ovulation (although I did not notice a couple of times that when I was under a lot of stress it delayed my ovulation by 2-3 days) but being under constant stress at work and LTTTC also adds quite a bit of stress and worrying, I started getting grey hair quite young and my ovaries seems to be aging faster than they should, I guess it is possible that stress is a contributing factor. actually OPK etc only help with stress as I can be sure that I ovulated and when and can plan BD etc which helps to feel in control and stress out less about it.

 

[Pussycat1]

Hey ladies, the only people who say 'stop stressing and it will happen' are those blessed with no problems in this area, so NOTHING qualifies them to give advice on it! a friend of mine used to say when they were trying that they just 'kept her topped up' all month long, easier said than done when you're means to an end isn't the regular way.
I'm feeling very positive and a little tired: this morning I had egg collection. I'm so happy they managed to get 4 eggs which is what I had in Jan so my fertility hasn't dropped that much! They'll call tomorrow to let me know how many have fertilised and whether it will be day 3 (Monday) or day 5 (Wednesday) transfer, assuming there are some to transfer of course. So pleased to have got 4 and feeling really good about this cycle, maybe things will finally go our way ... xx

 

[Emmi]

Hey ladies, the only people who say 'stop stressing and it will happen' are those blessed with no problems in this area, so NOTHING qualifies them to give advice on it! a friend of mine used to say when they were trying that they just 'kept her topped up' all month long, easier said than done when you're means to an end isn't the regular way.
I'm feeling very positive and a little tired: this morning I had egg collection. I'm so happy they managed to get 4 eggs which is what I had in Jan so my fertility hasn't dropped that much! They'll call tomorrow to let me know how many have fertilised and whether it will be day 3 (Monday) or day 5 (Wednesday) transfer, assuming there are some to transfer of course. So pleased to have got 4 and feeling really good about this cycle, maybe things will finally go our way ... xx

Sending you all good wishes!!! Fingers crossed that this is the one! x

 

[Emmi]

OH I found this gem in an online article about "8 Myths About Trying To Conceive"

If you're trying to get pregnant, chances are you've been overwhelmed with tips and advice. Books, magazines, Web sites, and well-meaning friends and relatives are full of suggestions. But how do you separate the myths from the facts? Here are some common misconceptions about conception.

1. You'll have a better chance of conceiving if you relax and stop worrying about it. Even assuming this were possible, there's no clinical evidence that it makes a difference. While extreme stress can affect your ability to ovulate in very rare cases, "worrying about it" -- especially if that worry takes the form of monitoring ovulation and timing intercourse to coincide with your most fertile time -- can only help

THANK YOU!!! If I hear "it'll happen when you stop thinking about it" ONE MORE TIME, I'm gonna scream.

Thank you for this - I am soooooo sick like everyone else is with the same old stuff that I have to listen to - enough already!!! It's natural to worry and feel stressed when you want a baby so bad - it's easy for people to say not to worry etc when they already have their perfect little families!! Drives me bonkers as you can tell!!!!

 

[Kat S]

Hey ladies, the only people who say 'stop stressing and it will happen' are those blessed with no problems in this area, so NOTHING qualifies them to give advice on it! a friend of mine used to say when they were trying that they just 'kept her topped up' all month long, easier said than done when you're means to an end isn't the regular way.
I'm feeling very positive and a little tired: this morning I had egg collection. I'm so happy they managed to get 4 eggs which is what I had in Jan so my fertility hasn't dropped that much! They'll call tomorrow to let me know how many have fertilised and whether it will be day 3 (Monday) or day 5 (Wednesday) transfer, assuming there are some to transfer of course. So pleased to have got 4 and feeling really good about this cycle, maybe things will finally go our way ... xx

4 is really good!! Let us know what they say about when you'll transfer and how it went.

 

[Kat S]

OK, I did another IC at 12:30 (4 hour pee hold) and the test line is a little darker than this morning. Not close to matching yet, but hopefully it's on it's way.

 

[Kat S]

*IC Update*

It doesn't look any different from the one I did this afternoon. Crampy again today. It actually feels similar to when I took a trigger shot. I MUST be ovulating! Well, I'll try again in the morning.