40+ and Trying for 1st? Join in!!

[bash73]

SOOOOOOO...the spotting was to say..."Hey, welcome back AF 8 DAYS EARLYYYYYYY!!!!!" Now why couldn't AF say hi when I got up to pee after Midnight??? That would've save me from peeing on 4 sticks, 3 OPK and 1 P. So when I got up around 5am, I pee'd in the cup, dipped my sticks and then when I wiped...freakin' AF. Well it sorta makes sense with the PMS symptoms I had...wanted to pick a fight w/anyone and everyone...was craving steak and burgers and cleaned the bathroom and the bedroom (more than usual). I will keep documenting in my journal to bring to the specialist. Off to work I go, everyone enjoy the day!!!

 

[bash73]

On the positive, this is the first day since Mid May that I do NOT feel bloated anymore!!!!! My hips are still not back to normal but one thing at a time. SO I won't have a BFP for my 40th birthday but maybe just maybe I'll have a solid w/o blinking? Okay off to work for real this time.

 

[FindingKismet]

I'm hoping and praying for implantation. I felt something going on last night, like pinpoints of pressure. One seemed too far up and to the right so I was afraid of ectopic. Guess I'm overanalyzing every little push and tug.

I am going insane. I just want this time to be it finally.

 

[Kat S]

Oh, Bash, I'm so sorry AF came and you never got your solid smiley Well, as they say "the more you know". Now you know to address that with your doc. I wish you didn't have to!!! And no BFP for your 40th I know how much you wanted that. BUT you could still get one before 41, so that's the new dream! *hug*

 

[bash73]

Thanks Kat...my only weird thing w/this "new" cycle is i have pain on my left side but it's from my rib cage to my pelvic bone feeling more like i pulled a muscle but i totally rested yesterday. I already did my boot camp class this morning so shower and relax for the rest of this rainy day. And along w/picking up tampons (each month I'm like this better be it for 9 mnths) I grabbed another CB OPK but that's it, no other ones this time. BTW...are u on FB?

 

[Kat S]

I'm hoping and praying for implantation. I felt something going on last night, like pinpoints of pressure. One seemed too far up and to the right so I was afraid of ectopic. Guess I'm overanalyzing every little push and tug.

I am going insane. I just want this time to be it finally.

I know what you mean! Every single gas bubble I was swearing must be implantation pain! It's more likely to be gas than ectopic, right? Most women don't feel implantation pain, but I did. It felt a little like period cramps, but not quite. Enough that I thought I was getting my period early and got really mad! Then my period didn't come a few hours later and I thought "huh" and did a test. BFN. The next day...BFP.

I keep saying "Maybe not this month, but soon!" and sometimes I get impatient and frustrated. Like the song says, "How soon is now??"

"When you say it's gonna happen now
Well, when exactly do you mean?
See, I've already waited so long
And all my hope is gone"

 

[Kat S]

Thanks Kat...my only weird thing w/this "new" cycle is i have pain on my left side but it's from my rib cage to my pelvic bone feeling more like i pulled a muscle but i totally rested yesterday. I already did my boot camp class this morning so shower and relax for the rest of this rainy day. And along w/picking up tampons (each month I'm like this better be it for 9 mnths) I grabbed another CB OPK but that's it, no other ones this time. BTW...are u on FB?

I am unsearchable on FB as far as I know, but I'm Ann K Nayme (obviously a pseudonym) for privacy. If you can't find me, I can friend you if you tell me your name.

 

[bash73]

sent u a private message Kat

 

[Kat S]

sent u a private message Kat

got it and done!

 

[Emmi]

Is there anyone on here that all the family turn to when things are a little bit stressful???? As in - every member of the family turns to you in their time of need???
Now my friends have been amazing - they totally get what I am going through with the IVF etc but my family - well - I may as well just be buying a packet of noodles with their understanding. Don't get me wrong - they are lovely but everyone just kinda downloads everything on me. And then when I say that I just don't want the stress - they think that I am being stroppy!!!!! Arrrrrrrgh!

My brother wants me to babysit his little ones on a day in Sept - and I have explained of course but it's subject to egg retrieval and transfer etc......His response - oh you will be fine to drive and you will be okay. I mean really - I for once come first!!!!

Lordy - okay - rant over and I am also a tad emotional with my scan tomorrow!!!

Hope everyone else is doing good!!!! xxxx

 

[Kat S]

Emmi, people can be so daft sometimes. I'm sorry your family doesn't get it. Your brother is even being a little selfish there! Sorry you have to put up with that

 

[Emmi]

Emmi, people can be so daft sometimes. I'm sorry your family doesn't get it. Your brother is even being a little selfish there! Sorry you have to put up with that

Thank you Honey!!! I get so tired of being the one that everyone calls when there is a problem etc........May have to go and live in cave where no-one can find me - well apart from hubby xxx

 

[Kat S]

IC OPK UPDATE

I'm now getting a negative reading as of 5pm. I didn't test in the morning. Cramps are now gone (I had them up until last night), but I am still bloated.

So now I spend the next 10-14 days (depending on when I actually ovulated because I don't know) in the "TWW"! Man, that was an exhausting week! If this doesn't take, I'm now prepared for what will happen next month.

 

[bash73]

Don't worry Kat, I'm sure I can keep us all entertained for the TWW as now I have this pain in the left side of my belly. It's close to my belly button. I'm kinda thinking this happened my first cycle after my first surgery back in February. It almost feels like I pulled a muscle. I was totally fine yesterday and this morning when AF arrived early is when I noticed it. Hoping it goes away, I really don't want to see any docs til the infertility specialist appt.

 

[Kat S]

Oh Bash I don't suppose it might be gas? Gas can be weird. I hope it's gone very soon and not the cause of a Dr's visit!

 

[Juniperjules]

Hi girls! Welcome Luckybug! Wot an awful doctor! Geez, some of these doctors need to check their attitudes don't they?!? Ignore her nasty comments. Many women get pregnant at 40+ these days. And as Kat has said, no, not always easy. But definitely possible. If I were you, I'd be asking your doc to get some preliminary testing done. Check your progesterone, estradiol, Follicle stimulating hormone, thyroid stimulating hormone, Lutenising hormone, as a minimum baseline. Once u have those details u can make decisions about whether to do further investigations. And once you have those results you can go from there. The one important point about ttc at an older age is to be pro-active. Educate yourself using forums like this and legitimate medical websites. If ur lucky you find great doctors, but if not then be your own advocate.

The girls in here are fab!

So we saw our lovely FS today. All tests she ordered have come back good including OH's SA. so we are ready to start IVF next cycle.... Which is in 2 weeks. She did a dummy egg transfer as well - bcos I was nervous of it being very painful due to my revolting HSG experience. But it was fine, no drama at all. Have to call my nurse on Friday to find out all the details.

 

[Juniperjules]

Is there anyone on here that all the family turn to when things are a little bit stressful???? As in - every member of the family turns to you in their time of need???
Now my friends have been amazing - they totally get what I am going through with the IVF etc but my family - well - I may as well just be buying a packet of noodles with their understanding. Don't get me wrong - they are lovely but everyone just kinda downloads everything on me. And then when I say that I just don't want the stress - they think that I am being stroppy!!!!! Arrrrrrrgh!

My brother wants me to babysit his little ones on a day in Sept - and I have explained of course but it's subject to egg retrieval and transfer etc......His response - oh you will be fine to drive and you will be okay. I mean really - I for once come first!!!!

Lordy - okay - rant over and I am also a tad emotional with my scan tomorrow!!!

Hope everyone else is doing good!!!! xxxx

Emma, what is your ultrasound for? Sorry if you've already mentioned..I feel like I've got a head full of cottonwood since deciding to do ivf... No memory retention! guess its just info overload.

Sorry ur family is being insensitive. It's not fair at all. I guess they don't mean it, but that doesn't help you. Maybe just be firmer with them. You need to concentrate on YOU while doing IVF. Maybe just say no to any other commitments. Bcos it will just add another level of stress and anxiety if your worrying about how ur family will react to you not following thru with favours for them. If ur usually the one they turn to, then for once they can give u a break. This is too important for you right now.

 

[Emmi]

Is there anyone on here that all the family turn to when things are a little bit stressful???? As in - every member of the family turns to you in their time of need???
Now my friends have been amazing - they totally get what I am going through with the IVF etc but my family - well - I may as well just be buying a packet of noodles with their understanding. Don't get me wrong - they are lovely but everyone just kinda downloads everything on me. And then when I say that I just don't want the stress - they think that I am being stroppy!!!!! Arrrrrrrgh!

My brother wants me to babysit his little ones on a day in Sept - and I have explained of course but it's subject to egg retrieval and transfer etc......His response - oh you will be fine to drive and you will be okay. I mean really - I for once come first!!!!

Lordy - okay - rant over and I am also a tad emotional with my scan tomorrow!!!

Hope everyone else is doing good!!!! xxxx

Emma, what is your ultrasound for? Sorry if you've already mentioned..I feel like I've got a head full of cottonwood since deciding to do ivf... No memory retention! guess its just info overload.

Sorry ur family is being insensitive. It's not fair at all. I guess they don't mean it, but that doesn't help you. Maybe just be firmer with them. You need to concentrate on YOU while doing IVF. Maybe just say no to any other commitments. Bcos it will just add another level of stress and anxiety if your worrying about how ur family will react to you not following thru with favours for them. If ur usually the one they turn to, then for once they can give u a break. This is too important for you right now.

Thank you Juniper - I am so tired as I am not sleeping too good which makes things worse! Constantly thinking and hoping that the IVF will work. Hubby says also that folk take advantage of my caring nature but time to care for me!!!

That's funny - my head is totally full of cotton wool since we started the IVF Just seems to be the way - total mind fog!!

My scan today is to see if the down reg drugs have worked and for a trial embryo transfer - this is to see the size of my cervix/uterus, what instruments to use etc for when they actually do the procedure.

If everything is okay - then I can finally start the stimulating drugs x

 

[bash73]

Good luck Emmi!

 

[Emmi]

Good luck Emmi!

Thank you!!! x