unfortunately out first natural cycle IVF is ending in chemical but this is closer to getting pregnant than we ever were feeling rather sad
I know Briss isn't feeling positive right now, and that's pretty normal, but let's put out some positive energy in her honor!
This was a nice blog entry over on "A Child After 40"
https://achildafter40.com/get-pregnant-over40-using-mind-over-matter/
And here's a thread full of women who got pregnant after 40. Some with IUI/IVF but some naturally
https://www.twoweekwait.com/bfp-over-40
Briss, you are so welcome. There are days when I cry and cry and feel hopeless, and you guys are always here for me. We will help you to keep going.
I put up a new post-it note on my wall today: "Don't Stop Believing"
This past cycle when I got my period after all those lovely "you might be pregnant signs," I had to get in the car and take my mom somewhere. When I turned on the car that strange song by Chumbawamba came on immediately ...
I get knocked, down but I get up again
You're never gonna keep me down
I get knocked, down but I get up again
You're never gonna keep me down
I get knocked, down but I get up again
You're never gonna keep me down
I get knocked, down but I get up again
You're never gonna keep me down
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mPLL5mq2Z8A
I started to cry and believed in that moment that the universe is telling me to keep trying.
I agree, we have to keep trying. besides, there is nothing else we can do but to carry on. I tried naturally for as long as I could, tried everything under the sun, now moving to IVF world and will keep trying natural IVf, maybe will move to fully stimulated IVF I do not know. I will have to keep trying what else is there to so?
I feel beaten, exhausted, frustrated, deeply sad, angry etc but the only thing worse is to feel completely hopeless and that's how I would feel if I stopped trying I think
Another inspirational article!!
https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/preconception/why-i-have-faith-in-natural-fertility-after-40.aspx
Ladies, while going through the trauma of failing IVF it got me thinking, when I got my bfp I was actually scared (very deep down) because I realised I know nothing about pregnancy. I've been for ever and ever stuck in the TTC world and that's all I know. I've become over the years very good at TTC but that's all. One of your articles, Kat was talking about mindset and that also got me thinking that maybe we need to take our mind off TTC and towards the actual pregnancy. So I decided to put aside my extensive TTC library and buy some books on pregnancy. Maybe if I start accumulating knowledge on pregnancy that will change my mindset and then the body will follow? it might be complete nonsense but I'm going to try it anyway. because at the moment all I am thinking about is TTC, I need to break this pattern and start thinking outside of TTC. i cant go completely outside and start learning something random but pregnancy seems relevant and a good place to start. It's very scary actually because I never allow myself to watch childbirth/baby related stuff as it causes enormous pain, when LTTTC your first there is always underlying fear: what if you never need these skills or knowledge; what if you never get to experience that etc. I want to break through that fear and learn to think positively and believe that it's going to happen and soon.
now, any suggestions on what are the best pregnancy books on the market?
I am thinking of these:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Day-Day-Pregnancy-Book-Comprehensive/dp/1405332107/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
https://www.zitawest.com/buy/books/pregnancy/?gclid=CKGkpeHDnroCFbDMtAodORoA7w
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Complete-B...id=1382033633&sr=8-1&keywords=Miriam+Stoppard
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pregnancy-...evised/dp/1907952292/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Expect-When-Youre-Expecting/dp/1847373755/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top
https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Eat-W...0/ref=pd_luc_cartrec_02_01_t_lh?ie=UTF8&psc=1