40+ and Trying for 1st? Join in!!

[kaysbc]

every time I get mad at my long hair and cut it off, I regret it. And then I grow it out and do it all over again! I love the look of long hair but short hair really is so much easier, isn't it?

 

[futurebbmoma]

Kay, you are absolutely right... it's my body, my treatment. I had been kicking myself after the doctor's visit that I didn't leave with the actual results so when the assistant phoned later this afternoon I requested the blood work, semen analysis and follicle info. It's great that Doc says everything is "fine" but... and here is what is great about this board... I've read plenty of other posts from couples who were told things were "fine" and they actually improved their numbers for a chance of a better outcome.

I won't have iui till I get a referral though Peach. And probably a bit of a wait till we can be seen. Doctor just said we wouldn't play around too long and get moving on iui sooner rather than later.

Clizard, would love to see that pixie cut! Every time I am around little ones I curse having long hair and understand why moms always cut theirs! A (much younger) friend's little girl had baby handfuls yanked out the last time I saw her!

Big virtual hugs ((hugs))

 

[Clizard]

I must have missed it Terri - probably didn't have glasses on. I did notice the man though! You two make a handsome couple.

 

[terripeachy]

HA!!HA!! He has more hair than I do now. Thank you.

 

[cshelly]

Hi girls, I am turning 41 in June and feel like I'm almost out of time. I know exactly how you are all feeling and i pray for all if us to get our bfps soon. We have been ttc for over 2 years. I did get pregnant in June on my 1st round of clomid but mc at 6 weeks. Since then I've seen a specialist and I just finished my 3rd round of letrozole. He wanted to do IVF from the get go as my tests showed a very low ovarian reserve, but my dh is not on board with spending 20k on the procedure which does upset me. I'm an unemployed art teacher trying to get a job so my husband is the only income at this point. I'm frustrated because I read about others getting u/s to chk for follicles but my dr. says there's no point in that its just to improve my ovulation. But I ovulate on my own and feel I need the help in the egg dept. does anyone have advice, should I switch clinics? I just feel like since we didnt sign up for IVF right away he's just doing the minimal.

Thanks,
Shelly

 

[Emmi]

Hi girls, I am turning 41 in June and feel like I'm almost out of time. I know exactly how you are all feeling and i pray for all if us to get our bfps soon. We have been ttc for over 2 years. I did get pregnant in June on my 1st round of clomid but mc at 6 weeks. Since then I've seen a specialist and I just finished my 3rd round of letrozole. He wanted to do IVF from the get go as my tests showed a very low ovarian reserve, but my dh is not on board with spending 20k on the procedure which does upset me. I'm an unemployed art teacher trying to get a job so my husband is the only income at this point. I'm frustrated because I read about others getting u/s to chk for follicles but my dr. says there's no point in that its just to improve my ovulation. But I ovulate on my own and feel I need the help in the egg dept. does anyone have advice, should I switch clinics? I just feel like since we didnt sign up for IVF right away he's just doing the minimal.

Thanks,
Shelly

Hi Shelley - are you in the US?? I am sure other ladies from over there will have better advice than me. I am in the UK and we had to pay for IVF but as far as I can tell - I am okay but hubby's swimmers are slow.

Second opinions are always good so switching clinics maybe an option.

x

 

[cshelly]

Hi Shelley - are you in the US?? I am sure other ladies from over there will have better advice than me. I am in the UK and we had to pay for IVF but as far as I can tell - I am okay but hubby's swimmers are slow.

Second opinions are always good so switching clinics maybe an option.

x

Hi Emmi,
Thanks for responding. Was IVF a success for you? I love hearing success stories as it gives me hope!!!
Yes, we will have to pay for IVF and I am ready to go for it but my husband needs convicting, which is frustrating. I think we are going to get a second opinion as I'm just getting this feeling my current Dr. just isn't as aggressive as he should be with alternative treatments. He just medicates me after a baseline u/s and sends me on my way.

 

[Clizard]

Hi Shelly, sorry to hear about your mc. I have no idea about IVF, but welcome

 

[Emmi]

Hi Shelley - are you in the US?? I am sure other ladies from over there will have better advice than me. I am in the UK and we had to pay for IVF but as far as I can tell - I am okay but hubby's swimmers are slow.

Second opinions are always good so switching clinics maybe an option.

x

Hi Emmi,
Thanks for responding. Was IVF a success for you? I love hearing success stories as it gives me hope!!!
Yes, we will have to pay for IVF and I am ready to go for it but my husband needs convicting, which is frustrating. I think we are going to get a second opinion as I'm just getting this feeling my current Dr. just isn't as aggressive as he should be with alternative treatments. He just medicates me after a baseline u/s and sends me on my way.

Alas - the IVF didn't work for me Totally broke my heart but we will see if we can go again but it's not cheap...But we keep trying naturally as the consultants have said that it's still possible that it can happen naturally.

Yes - get a second opinion - doctors can be so different and you need one that is cheerleading you all the way.

 

[terripeachy]

Emmi-Oh dear...I'm so sorry IVF didn't work this time around for you. I am glad you are going to continue trying and can save up some $ to do it again. I am feeling super hopeful for you.

 

[pirate1974]

I'm turning 40 in a month and TTC #1 and getting married in 3.5 weeks! But we started trying a few months before the wedding bc as all us ladies know, time is of the essence! I'm in the 2WW in round 3.

Glad I have gals my age in here! Looking forward to travelling this road with you all!

 

[terripeachy]

Welcome pirate! Lots of exciting things coming up for you!! Wishing you the very best!

 

[futurebbmoma]

welcome shelly, pirate... *waves*

u/s showed two follicles along with a follie from an anovulatory cycle. I was pretty sure I needed help popping that egg out... go go trigger shot!

 

[terripeachy]

Hope it works, futurebbmoma.

 

[kaysbc]

Hi girls, I am turning 41 in June and feel like I'm almost out of time. I know exactly how you are all feeling and i pray for all if us to get our bfps soon. We have been ttc for over 2 years. I did get pregnant in June on my 1st round of clomid but mc at 6 weeks. Since then I've seen a specialist and I just finished my 3rd round of letrozole. He wanted to do IVF from the get go as my tests showed a very low ovarian reserve, but my dh is not on board with spending 20k on the procedure which does upset me. I'm an unemployed art teacher trying to get a job so my husband is the only income at this point. I'm frustrated because I read about others getting u/s to chk for follicles but my dr. says there's no point in that its just to improve my ovulation. But I ovulate on my own and feel I need the help in the egg dept. does anyone have advice, should I switch clinics? I just feel like since we didnt sign up for IVF right away he's just doing the minimal.

Thanks,
Shelly

welcome shelly!
Glad you can join us, but of course hoping we'll all be able to leave this group one day very soon!

I find it weird you doc doesn't want to do US to check follies. That seems critical and would verify how you are reacting to the meds. maybe ask about that again and if you dont like the answer then yeah, maybe switch clinics.
I tried letrozole too for a long long time. I had good reaction and grew multiple nice sized follies. but unfortunately never a bfp.

figuring out how to pay for IVF is stressful. I'm in the same boat. For a long time I wouldn't even think of IVF because its just so darn expensive. Recently I've looked around at other local clinics and I think there is a place that will do it for about $10K rather than the approx $20K my doc quoted me. We'll all find our place with what we decide to do.

 

[kaysbc]

Welcome pirate! congrats on your wedding

 

[kaysbc]

welcome shelly, pirate... *waves*

u/s showed two follicles along with a follie from an anovulatory cycle. I was pretty sure I needed help popping that egg out... go go trigger shot!

looking good futurebb!

that's so weird, the follie from an anovulatory cycle stays around until next time? I know so little about that. So it gets another chance?

 

[kaysbc]

Emmi-Oh dear...I'm so sorry IVF didn't work this time around for you. I am glad you are going to continue trying and can save up some $ to do it again. I am feeling super hopeful for you.

Im also sad to hear your IVF didnt work Emmi.
They say most people need more than 1 cycle. So next one might be it!

 

[Emmi]

Emmi-Oh dear...I'm so sorry IVF didn't work this time around for you. I am glad you are going to continue trying and can save up some $ to do it again. I am feeling super hopeful for you.

Ahhhh - thank you! You just can't give up and I am just really hoping that it happens somehow. We all need a bfp on so really hope one us can produce one real soon. x

 

[Emmi]

Emmi-Oh dear...I'm so sorry IVF didn't work this time around for you. I am glad you are going to continue trying and can save up some $ to do it again. I am feeling super hopeful for you.

Im also sad to hear your IVF didnt work Emmi.
They say most people need more than 1 cycle. So next one might be it!

Thank you Honey. It's just so expensive so we'll have to see when we can go again. But we just have to keep trying and see what happens.

x