40+ and Trying for 1st? Join in!!

[terripeachy]

Pussycat-That's great that you are able to use the same donor that you wanted to use all along. Please keep us updated on all of this. It's really exciting!

 

[FindingKismet]

Hi everyone ... I've been MIA for some weeks, sorry but I had to go into my own little coping bubble for awhile around IVF. I just created an update video-log if you'd like to see it. Can't wait to go back over some of the posts I've missed. Hope you all are doing well. Much love, moi.
Here is the link to my new vlog entry:
https://youtu.be/q9BRZfT1Ss8

 

[terripeachy]

Hi! I'll check out your video.

Edit: Oh, I'm so sorry about your experience Kismet. I don't know HOW you did that video without crying through the whole thing. I did like how you outlined your other options and are ready to turn the page and start a new story, no matter what you decide to do. I wish you well on your next adventure, and stop back by and let us know when you have another video. Take care.

 

[Clizard]

Kismet, that was a great video thanks for posting the link. It was lovely to see a 'real' face instead of words. Just want to wish you all the best and let you know I am hoping for wonderful things for you x

 

[FindingKismet]

Thanks so much for watching terripeachy and clizard! I think making a vlog helps me to cope, and I'm hoping to connect with others like you who are on similar journeys. I'll stay tuned to hear what is going on with you guys. Hey you could do a video too if you think you might get something out of it. I'd love to hear/see more stories.

 

[Pussycat1]

Hey Kismet! It's been a while, hope all is well with you. Will check out your latest video later today, I loved your earlier ones and really related to all you were saying so in sure I'll be right there with you on this one too. Sounds like you've made some decisions, not sure what but nothing surrounding this is easy. xx

 

[Clizard]

Just found out an old school friend (my age 43) had her first a couple of months ago! Wasn't having the best day when I heard the news as well, but now I have had time to congratulate her via FB and think about it, it is kind of promising? Not sure if she went the assisted route or natural, but who cares! Another success for the over 40 crew.

 

[IowaGirl]

Hello Ladies,

I am with some of the other ladies and havent been on for about a month, need to get away from thinking about this 24/7! Still trying to conceive naturally at this point though. I feel like I am not ovulating, but how can a person keep getting Aunt Flo, right on time, every month, and not ovulate for months!? Its a crazy thing.

Kaysbc - Congratulations!! You certainly give me hope that this can happen!

Good Luck ladies where ever you are on your cycles!

 

[Clizard]

Hi Iowa, its good to have a break as it can be all consuming TTC. Are you temping or using any other way of checking ovulation? It is hard to know sometimes if it is really happening, but regular cycles is a good sign for the most part. Maybe you need to use something to help pinpoint ovulation? Look up MaybeBaby in google, it might fit your life (and I got a BFP my 2nd month using it). Sorry if I am sticking my nose in here!

 

[Briss]

Hi everyone ... I've been MIA for some weeks, sorry but I had to go into my own little coping bubble for awhile around IVF. I just created an update video-log if you'd like to see it. Can't wait to go back over some of the posts I've missed. Hope you all are doing well. Much love, moi.
Here is the link to my new vlog entry:
https://youtu.be/q9BRZfT1Ss8

OMG, Kismet, you look so young!! I would not give you more than 28-30! just watched your video, almost cried. you will be a fantastic mother one day! I just read a book on new research into egg quality and actually more and more research is showing that you can improve it and it does not have to deteriorate with age, it's all about energy so everything we do diet, supps acu etc should be helping and may still give you a surprise natural BFP. I so hope it will happen for you, you so deserve it!

 

[Emmi]

Just found out an old school friend (my age 43) had her first a couple of months ago! Wasn't having the best day when I heard the news as well, but now I have had time to congratulate her via FB and think about it, it is kind of promising? Not sure if she went the assisted route or natural, but who cares! Another success for the over 40 crew.

I always feel a little kick in the gut when I hear of a pregnancy but as you say, once the dust settles, it all about hope which is greatly needed in this game!

 

[IowaGirl]

Hi Iowa, its good to have a break as it can be all consuming TTC. Are you temping or using any other way of checking ovulation? It is hard to know sometimes if it is really happening, but regular cycles is a good sign for the most part. Maybe you need to use something to help pinpoint ovulation? Look up MaybeBaby in google, it might fit your life (and I got a BFP my 2nd month using it). Sorry if I am sticking my nose in here!

Thanks Clizard I will check that out. I am just not very good at tracking temps. There are always a few days I wake up late and would forgot to temp. Thanks for the info!

 

[MistyEyes]

Hi. I am 42 years old and never been pregnant. I've read through some of the posts here. Very encouraging. I am getting ready to start my second round of clomid and I am nervous, anxious, scared, obsessed with getting it right, hopeful, depressed, weepy and trying to stay strong through the millions of conversations at work about having babies and taking care of babies. Today I learned that yet another 20something year old mom is quite pregnant again, even though she swore she didn't want another baby. And here we are ready to go to the ends of the earth to hold our very own baby in our arms. Baby dust to us all

 

[MistyEyes]

Anyone combined clomid, acupuncture and natural health remedies in ttc? I have tried all but never in combination. And its a pity that medical doctors and natural health practitioners don't collaborate!

 

[terripeachy]

Hi and welcome.
I'm all natural here (until maybe next week or so), so I can't really help you there, but I wish you much success on this journey.

 

[MistyEyes]

Hi and welcome.
I'm all natural here (until maybe next week or so), so I can't really help you there, but I wish you much success on this journey.

Thank you terripeachy!!!! I prefer natural too. It took two years to be convinced to have a myomectomy. I've been trying for 2 years and its taken a year for my doctor to convince me to try clomid. I think you ladies here are fierce and fabulous!!!!!

 

[MistyEyes]

Started 2nd cycle of clomid last night. Today I feel sleepy disoriented and burping cod liver oil (blech!!!) from the tablet (started taking them this morning). I pray I don't get the headaches I got for two days in round one! Massive pounding debilitating headaches. I pray I am not miserable during this round like before. I am also going to do a consult with a natural health practitioner and although I wont be able to use vitex with the clomid, I will learn about what else I can do that's all natural. If only I could just head home for a nap right now!

 

[terripeachy]

Here's my update from the specialist follow up today.

For the most part things were good. They recommended that hubs return for another SA just to make sure that his numbers weren't a fluke, but then he said 'well, if you go the IUI route, we can check the numbers, so don't worry about a retest.' Thank goodness. As difficult as it was for him, I don't want to have to tell him he has to take another one.

They said he had 16 million/mL (they normally like to see >20), 69% motility (they like >50), and 58 (or 5.8) something (maybe morphology) but I can't read the word (they want >4). I could probably go back and look at my original paperwork when I get home.

So I have three IUI options or IVF. My insurance said I can go right to IVF, but I'm going to try IUI option two (I'm a middle daughter), which has a 10-12% success rate. Compared to the 0% that we have going on now, I'm jumping for joy. Option 1 is clomid (50 mg, twice per day, CD5-9) and monitoring, Option 2 is clomid (CD3-7) + injections (CD9-11) and monitoring, and option 3 is daily FSH shots. Option 3 has the best chances of working, but the highest chances for multiples.

They also gave me some pamphlets to read and a lot of information that I will look through tonight because I'm excited. I was nervous going in especially when my doctor said 'I've invited another doctor from a nearby hospital to sit with us.' I was freaking out as if something was really wrong. I said 'Is my case that serious?' He started laughing and said 'No, it's a resident, checking out our practice.' I laughed and breathed a huge sigh of relief.

I think I'm in good shape...I still hope this cycle is it for me, but if not, I am ready to go.

 

[Clizard]

Misty - hello and welcome. Good luck this cycle, hope the clomid does its thing for you. Without the headaches of course!
Terri - sounds like a good session with the specialist. So you are starting option 2 in the next cycle? You sound so ready for it and just a little bit excited!

 

[terripeachy]

Yes, I'm a little bit excited, but cautiously optimistic as they say...I figure I'll try the IUI first and take it from there. It's way cheaper too.