40+ TTC, Loss & Pregnancy

[Angelique76]

Awwww, bless! That is so awesome. Congratulations again. HR sounds good. Here's to a happy, healthy, 9 months for you.

I will definitely try the Vit B. Thanks for the advice.

 

[Angelique76]

One month and two days to op! Time is flying by! I can't wait. I have calmed down a bit on baby fever, but it hasn't left lol.

 

[Angelique76]

I am thinking that I may need to move this to the TTC over 35 page. Catch me there if you still want to follow. xo

 

[Love4you]

Just wanted to update that we got the results from the chromosome screening. So far baby is healthy and it's a GIRL! Our level 2 ultrasound is next month to screen for any birth defects so still a little more waiting to go. Hope things are going well with you!

 

[Angelique76]

Hi Love4You,

I am so happy to hear from you and very happy to hear that all is well. And your daughter must be so excited that she is getting the little sister she wants.

Otherwise, how are you feeling?

I am fine, thank you. Next week I see my OB again. I can't wait! Trying to get rid of some flu though, so hope that he will still op next week. Praying that he won't delay the op. I can't wait to have all the testing done so that we can get back to ttc. Excited and nervous. I have been a little obssessed with everything. LOL. I am reading up on everything! I want to empower myself with as much knowledge as possible so that I know what to ask OB and also know what he is talking about.

All the best for the next screening.

 

[Angelique76]

So, in just over an hour I will see my OB. I cannot explain it, but I feel like a little kid waiting for a big surprise. Goodness, I have a list of questions to go through with OB. I hope that he gets that often... lol

 

[Angelique76]

Oh my, I can't believe so much time has gone by without me updating. Where has this year gone?!

TTC has been on hold for a little bit. I think we may get trying again toward year end or January 2019.

Everything was in the clear after my op last year and there is nothing stopping me TTC. I have progesterone supplements to take in the tww... when the time comes.

How is everyone doing?

 

[KGMama5]

Hello, ladies! I hope it's okay if I join your thread...I'm in a similar situation...I'm 42, and a mother of five healthy children. I had some pregnancy issues(pre-term labor, one c-section), but never had a problem with conception, or loss until this year. My husband and I decided to try for "just one more", knowing our time was running out due to my age, and I got pregnant as soon as we started trying. That was in April, and I had my first loss, a chemical pregnancy, the first week of May. Since then, I had another cp in July, and I am terribly afraid that I will never have another viable pregnancy. My doctor gave me 50mg progesterone suppositories to use once per day, at bedtime, from cd14-28. I only have 27 day cycles, though, and he first told me I didn't need the progesterone because my cd21 test level was 22.59, without the suppositories. Now, after having used them for one cycle, I am completely off. Af was 6 days late, EWCM showed up 2 days early, I o'd three days early, and now, at cd18, it feels like af is coming. Has anyone else had this happen after progesterone?

 

[Angelique76]

I am sorry for your loss. It is not easy. At our age progesterone can definitely be an issue. I normally take if from 3dpo and then, if no +, I stop and af will get me 2 days later. I am not sure about feeling like af is coming, could be the progesterone, although it normally prevents af. Or maybe you are on your way to a +
If you have more CP's I would suggest asking for a higher dose of Progesterone. My doctor has given me 200mg per day, from 3dpo. If you take progesterone too soon, it can prevent pregnancy, so try to be sure of O date and wait until 3dpo before you start. I hope this helps. Looking forward to your BFP!

 

[KGMama5]

Thanks, Angelique76, I appreciate it. I know absolutely nothing about progesterone, and I'm a bit on edge about the whole process now, anyway, given the losses...Will such a low dose(50mg) of progesterone even be helpful? Most of the ladies in the posts I've read, like yourself, take 100-200mg, and when I called about my prescription originally, the custom compounding shop said they'd had to make a special batch because they don't keep that low a dose in stock...Also, do you have any side effects while taking it? I've had extreme breast tenderness, water retention, and insomnia, but that last one might just be the stress...

 

[Angelique76]

Yes, it can come with side effects. If you are concerned double up the dose. I haven't really heard of anyone taking 50mg, I must be honest. But, saying that, you are lucky to find a doctor who is happy to prescribe it. Some docs flat out refuse.

Fear will keep you from reaching your dreams. It's hard, I have lost 3, but keep your eyes on the prize

 

[KGMama5]

That's terrible! I can't imagine a doctor refusing to prescribe a necessary medication, or something that at least had the potential to help...

I'm so sorry for your losses...I'll admit, my first loss just about broke me but, I'm doing my best to focus on the goal, and keep moving forward...That said, I'm fairly certain af is about to make an appearance, and I'll be out for this month...Its hard to say though as I've been having af-like cramps for a week now, which is just strange...

 

[Angelique76]

How are you today KGMama5? Did af arrive?

 

[KGMama5]

Hi, Angelique76...Honestly, I'm not sure how I am. AF is officially late, but HPTs are all negative, I seem to be having an LH surge again, and yesterday(when AF was due), I had a bunch of EWCM...I am so confused right now. Am I correct in thinking that I'm (at 17dpo) past the point of getting a BFP? Also, and I'm sorry if TMI, but my cp is high, and soft. I can't tell about the open/closed aspect because I've given birth before so, it's a little tricky...I have no idea what to do next. Oh, and I've used both Wondfo, and FRERs, so I'd think the FRER at least would be showing something by now if I were pregnant...

 

[Angelique76]

To be honest, my friend gae birth to a little boy 4 months ago and she only got her BFP almost two weeks late. So, you could very well be pregnant. If you CP is high and soft, AND closed, then it is a good sign. Some pregnancies bring with them loads to CM. It could all be positive signs for pg.

I look forward to reading some more updates. FX!

 

[KGMama5]

That would have been fantastic but, unfortunately, AF showed up...Two days late but, here nonetheless. I don't understand why my cervix stayed soft, and I've had blazing positive opks since before AF started...I've never been this confused during a cycle.

 

[Angelique76]

it could be that you had a chemical? I always say trust your gut. If you were pregnant it would be reason enough to have a high cp. Fx for the next cycle xo

 

[KGMama5]

Thanks...And, honestly, I can't tell. I wanted to be pg so badly that I might have been convincing myself that I was, i.e., symptom spotting, over-squinting at hpt lines, etc...But, it's always possible it was a cp. That would make my third in 4 months though, so I really hope not...Trying to stay optimistic for this month...How are you doing? I'd read that you planned to hold off on ttc until late this year, or early next year. Are you still following that plan?

 

[Angelique76]

I'm praying for you!

Yes, we are moving and some other issues, so we just want to settle a little bit and then we will be ok to ttc. I would be ok just going for it now, because at our age it could take a while (or not). Men don't get it. They can make a baby any time, mostly. And they do take 9 months to grow. But, it's ok, we have to both be ok with it, and I'm ok with that.

 

[KGMama5]

Thanks, I appreciate it. And I know what you mean, my husband and I have had the same issues. I've been ready to try again for a while, and he's been wanting to wait for "a better time" but, as I've told him many, many times, I'm old. We have five children. Chaos is never-ending. There is no "better time". I still beat myself up over the losses because I feel like we've just waited too long, you know? Like we missed our last chance waiting for the time to be "right" when that was never really going to happen...