46 BFPS and Counting -TTC Lucky Support Thread - newbies welcome!

[campn]

Trr- First time I tried I was about 10 weeks and took me 45 minutes to find the heartbeat. I had to really be slow and listen hard and it still takes me a little to find it now but once you find it you know where the baby hangs out and how it sounds like. I'm sure you're just too early!

Squirrel- you better be elbows and knees down in BD (I'm trying not to picture that!) but make us proud! I wanna see your FF winking and whistling at you!

Gina- you're a genius! I wish I tried any of that! I only paid once I got my CHS so I wouldn't waste the 30 days!

 

[squirrel.]

Haha Campn! I'll try my best trying the SMEP, so held off bding till today because I expect to get positive OPK today. Didn't help my husband was really tired, so I didn't want to force myself on him

 

[beemeck]

hi girls - I had my follow up with the doc today post HSG. I wrote about the visit today in my journal for anyone who is interested (it was a really long post).

squirrel - yay for that pos opk!!! can't wait to see that post hsg bfp!

adr - let us know how everything is going!!

texas - glad your DH is home, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

trr - good to see you. hope all is going well and you get some lovely reassurance soon.

sending love to all of my other preggos! can't wait until this is a pregnancy thread

 

[TexasRider]

bee- just read you post on your journal. That is all very strange about how they treated you etc. I don't even know what kind of advice to give really so you've never heard back from the fertility clinic at all? Despite leaving messages etc? The way a referral works here is they call the office and then the office calls us with an appointment. I mean the doctor at least calls and informs the clinic that you will be calling. I would be frustrated too. I just feel awful for you.

Afm- temp is holding steady which is good I guess. Almost Halfway through my wait and im really hoping this is our month... But we are getting more Bd in after O this month. So if not maybe next month haha I mean it has to happen eventually i just have to wait on the right timing!

 

[beemeck]

thanks texas! that's how referrals work here too so I do really feel like she was blowing me off. however I called the number and got through!? I said the doc that referred me and they made an appt right away! so RE is scheduled for March 22 - that way I should know by then if this cycle is a bust and be able to cancel if it isn't.....

 

[squirrel.]

Oh Bee how incredibly incredibly frustrating for you!! All of it sounded rubbish!! They can't treat it as secondary infertility (i.e. You got pregnant, it'll happen again) as that oregnanch tragically ended the way it did and as you say, you don't know if everything is normal for an inauterine pregnancy. How are they not worrying more and doing more to help you!? It's been a year!! Here they won't offer you help beyond basic tests of you've had a child already (not a pregnancy, a child), but if you're still TTC your first, they refer you to fertility specialist at 12 months. We've had to go private as it's number three for us. I'm surprised they wouldn't do a SA. They're not invasive or too expensive! It seems a logical step to take in a young couple who've been trying a year. I'm so sorry they're so useless! Do you have to self-refer to the fertility specialist? Can she not do it for you seeing as you had no luck before? I wish I could come over there and bang those doctors' heads together!!

 

[campn]

Squirrel- You're at total babe! I think your hubby won't have any complains!

Bee- I'm gonna go and check it out now!

I just had my 12 week NT scan, I got to see the baby moving, rolling and waving it's tiny hand up. I cried a little and I think hubby did too although he denied it doctor said baby looks normal and gets an A+ and already an over achiever! It's starting to feel so real now.

 

[blablamana]

O bee, how nasty of them. But I'm glad you have an appointment now, it's something at least.


Afm: I freaked out today because of sharp back pain and the fact that I didn't vomit yesterday (today I did). So I called the midwife, cried like a baby and got a scan (something they really don't do normally, but she could tell I was freaking out massively). Baby is fine, bigger and heartbeat nice and fast.
Was told to "trust my body". My next scan (first trimester scan, what do you guys call that?) is the 23rd of March. Wait, do you call that the Dating scan?
Anyway, next scan is in two weeks. Bluhh, I'm so scared. My back is really bugging me. Midwife said that that shouldn't have anything to do with miscarriage, so I'm just gonna sit here for two weeks hoping she is right.

Edit: Awww campn, what a cutie! Such a pretty baby already, just like his/her momma

 

[Conundrum]

Hey ladies will try to catch up later today , but I am thinking of you all.

ADR congratulations hun.

Bee no this is not normal. At the very least they should have mentioned Clomid or something of the sort. Really praying for you hun.

Beautiful scan campn.So happy for you hun!

 

[squirrel.]

Campn: you crack me up!!! Sadly when he's sad and tired, I could parade around in sexy lingerie in front of him and nothing would come of it. He's very stubborn that is one gorgeous baby you've got there!!! What a lovely scan I'm so happy for you.

Blabla: sorry you had a scare, but yay for a great scan. First tri is always so frought with worries. I hope you don't have many more big scares!


So operation seduce husband begins tonight! He's had a rough day, so that's already coming up from behind again. Our son's having a lot of behaviour issues with his autism at the moment and it's been a difficult day for him. Hopefully I can cheer my husband up after kids are in bed. I had a blazing positive OPK today, so it is officially go time!

Edit to add: "Yep, I am definitely ovulating!!"

 

[Smille24]

Bee- wow those people need to get their heads out of their asses. For her to tell you she got pregnant her 1st try is insensitive. If this RE doesn't treat you well, consider Magees. It may be covered by your insurance and they are way nicer than what you've dealt with (minus the cpn). I'm glad you have the ball rolling. It will happen!

Squirrel - go get it girl!!!

I had my 1st ob appt. She couldn't find the HB on the doppler so I had to go to the next room for a quick scan. The baby was all over the place kicking it's tiny legs so no wonder she couldn't find it. She said they won't do another scan until 18-20wks but given all we've been through she ordered a 12wk scan.

 

[beemeck]

Squirrel - holy ovulation !! Get it girl (also wanted to say that I'm sorry your sons behavior is frustrating right now. Sending you hugs and hoping tomorrow is a better day )

Camp - it looks like ....a baby! Woo hoo it feels like it's flying by now !!

Smille- so glad that baby is dancing up a storm and that you got another scan scheduled you aren't at Magee anymore, right ?

Thanks for all of your support today ladies. I don't know how I feel. To clear up any confusion (since my post was super negative lol) I did get both the sa and re referral. Dh will do sa after this fertile window is up and re is scheduled for March 22- I should know by then if this cycle is a yes or no. But the doc did succeed in making me feel foolish. Maybe since everything is fine it is going to happen soon? I've just never felt that way. Perhaps I'm too negative? I just don't know what to think but I'm sticking to both appts bc they can't hurt. I'll ask to start off with easy tests at the re - cd 3 and 21 blood work and maybe amh testing and an ultrasound? I don't want immediate medical intervention either , I just want answers and help/support.

I'll see how my re appt goes smille but for sure if I'm not satisfied it's worth it to pay for better care. Hiker goes where I'm headed and she loves it so hopefully I will too !

 

[campn]

Smille- Honestly she shouldn't have tried the Doppler, mine doesn't even mention it before 12 weeks cause it's still hard to find. I'm glad baby was doing great though! I've a home Doppler and I've to chase mine with it cause the baby tries to get away from it!

Bee- I don't think you're being negative hun but it's not like you can be very positive 100% of the time after all you've been through. We all have doubts and some are always there. Maybe bring up the fact your cervix could have scarring/too tight again? Sometimes you need to throw ideas at doctors!

Squirrel- Sorry about our kiddos hun, kids are difficult! Most days I feel like I've no idea how to parent and some days I think we'll all be okay!

Yay on that awesome positive! Incoming big fat juicy eggy waiting to be fertilized!

 

[Smille24]

Bee- I'm not going to Magee anymore. I would've loved to stay because their medical staff is awesome, but if I was in labor during rush hr, we'd never make it in time. During our RE visits it took 2 hrs to get there at times. Seeing a fertility specialist is a whole other world. They are so caring and sensitive to what you're going through. They will definitely work with your comfort level. Maybe try a monitored cycle and timed intercourse rather than a procedure. We could've done that but my dh's sperm issue prevented that.

Squirrel- I'm sorry about your son. I hope his behavior improves. My dd is a handful at times. It's like one day she's an angel and the next she's she's acting like a teenager who hates us and cries a lot.

Campn- she told me b4 it probably wouldn't work but wanted to try anyway. I love your baby's picture! It's amazing how fast they grow in such a short time.

 

[trixiesmith]

Bee - sorry for the frustrating appointment, but oh-so happy for you that you got both the re and SA referrals. Keeping my fx this cycle will be a bfp for you.

Camp - sooo cute! It's so amazing how fast they grow.

Squirrel - holy bf opk + girl. go get it!

Smille - baby sounds like a major dancer.

well ladies, af has left the building. I'm feeling rather optimistic, but seeing as DH and I are busy and away from home almost all weekend, I'm not really sure yet if we'll get to bd until the day of, or just before, O time - providing I O on Monday or Tuesday. I'm also a tiny tiny bit worried that I won't get a + opk like the way I went last time I tried the RRL tea. But I'm sure that we'll manage to get some well-timed bd in somewhere. Remaining stress-free as possible feels good.

 

[TexasRider]

Yay for a good ultrasound Smile!

Squirrel- wow that's a super positive OPK! Good luck!

Trixie- hope you have an awesome cycle and get your positive OPK this month!

Afm- my temp took a big jump today! Hoping its the start of something good!!

 

[Smille24]

My dh and I were talking last night and he doesn't think the 12wk scan is necessary if we heard a heartbeat. We'd still have to wait 8wks rather than 10. I get it, but disappointed. I shouldn't be worried, but I'm glad my dr cares about my concerns.

 

[Smille24]

I just saw your post Texas!!!! Omg that's a great rise . Fxd it will lead to a bfp!!

 

[blablamana]

Aww Smille, I understand that you would rather have a scan at 12 weeks as well.
I got SO to accept that after the 10 week scan I want to do a private scan at 12 weeks (30 euro, that's not a lot of money for 30 minute scan and 6 photos!) and because my birthday is in May I'll get a 140 euro package with another 2d scan (with dvd) whenever I want (probably around 16 weeks or something) and also a 3d/4d somewhere along the way with DVD as well.

I kinda worked him on that haha, we could better use the money for other stuff but I know that I will go absolutely mad waiting for 10 weeks for example. So I understand that you are disappointed!

 

[beemeck]

tex - great jump!!! so excited and hopeful for you

trixie - I hope you can get some well-timed BD in. I almost took this cycle off - another long entry I wrote about in my journal today (I'm trying to use it more!)

blab - hi!! glad you will be getting the paparazzi on your little one can't wait to see

I feel so much better about yesterday. the doc really had me feeling foolish and I'm not feeling 100% foolish now but I realize that obgyns don't specialize in fertility and it's good that I just see and talk to someone that does. I don't have to go 0-100, but it's a relief to know I'm in good hands.

As always, I have to find humor in all situations. I kept telling my friend and DH that the obgyn had me feeling like Hannah in season 1 of Girls. I wasn't jumping up and down about everything being "normal" because it just makes me wonder even more why I'm not pregnant so she was like ummm you don't want something to be wrong with you. Which I know is true but I kept laughing to myself about this clip - I'll attach for a good laugh

https://www.criticalcommons.org/Members/MCIMR/clips/girls-vagina-panic