A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[filipenko32]

Raspberry, i'm keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you! Excited for you though!

 

[patiently]

Patiently - I didn't realise we are the same age, I also started ttc when I was 22 and have recently turned 24. I know it was upsetting what your dh said but think of it as he is probably as confused, frusterated and lost as you are. He probably knew it would hurt you but he needed to express what he was feeling too. Men have so little say in all this and their thoughts and feelings are usually the last thing we or others think about.
Try not to be to hard on yourself hun, I often think this is never going to happen and it's so hard. But it's out of our hands and it's not our fault at all. I could blame the extra 10kgs or the cigarette I had during my tww or anything else really. Ferility is 50-50 and so much of the time there is no reason. I fortunetly know the reason I lost my 2nd baby but it's just a horrible thing that happens.

Afm - cd11. ovulation is still a few more days away going to keep bding every second day and just try not think about it to much. I'm trying to see the silver lining to every situation and pregnancy announcement. It's my goal for the month no but why her and not me. You never know the journey to where people are and worthiness has nothing to do with fertility.

I'm really busy at work so sorry if I have missed a lot. thinking of you all

Hi justwaiting i didnt know we were the same age either...snap! Thanks or your reply...i know my OH wasnt saying it in a negative way he was just innocently asking but the fact that i couldnt answer made me feel worst...

I have the same goal as you and sometimes its hard to look for the silver lining but this month i really feel what will be will be...there's nothing we can do...

Good luck this month hun i really do hope that you get your bfp...and bd every other day seems like a good plan! fingers crossed for you!!!

I'm in a strange mood lately. Limboland sucks!
Can't TTC as no +OPK and AF is still AWOL. I thought I would enjoy not having to TTC and I suppose I did for a week or so, but now I'm ready to get back into it and feeling frustrated!!

I hope AF comes soon hun so you can resume ttc...try not to stress about it though i know its hard not to...i agree with ladyfog, do all the things that you cant when ttc like having a glass of wine i cant even remember what life was like before ttc the things I could do so freely, so enjoy hun...

fingers crossed that AF comes soon!

For those of you curious about my symptoms so far...sore nipples, and boobs starting to feel a bit heavier now, feeling a bit queasy in the mornings although not retching yet (sorry TMI!) and also a bit grim in the evenings sometimes, I'm very tired, lots of tummy twinges that are scaring the cr*p out of me as I'm so paranoid, and still lots of CM. So far my sense of smell hasn't been that strong, although I do notice smells more than I normally would and my sense of taste hasn't changed yet - don't think that started until a bit later last time though. I'm 6wks today

Hello everyone else. Hope you've all had good days

Hey hun so happy that things are going well...happy 6 weeks!!!! I just wanted to know if you had sore nipples right after ovulation?

AFM - getting back to ttc this week, and so nervous about it. Hopefully, I don't O until the weekend and can get over these horrible migraines I have had this week

Good luck hun hope November is lucky for you and you catch the egg too! How are the migraines? gone i hope!

I dont know if i got enough BD in as i ov before i thought i would, so gona try and forget about the tww.
Afm 3dpo, roll on fri as im off work next week, dh and i are off up north on saturday for 3 nights. should be due when we travel back tues (crappy 10 day luteal phase), wont be temping while away so will just forget about it all and expect her to arrive when i get home! Hopefully not before! Or not at all would be better!!!

xxx

Hey lexi...it only takes one egg and one little swimmer to give you your bfp so even i you have bd once around ovulation you're still in with a chance...fingers crossed for you hun!! experiencing any symptoms yet? its good you're going away for a few days kinda takes your mind off the tww!

Good luck again! hope you get your bfp!

AFM - No clue where I'm at. No + OPK yet, but a very dark one yesterday afternoon. Had wicked cramps early afternoon, and my temp dipped and then shot back up Sat/Sun.And I usually ovulate anytime between CD17 and CD23. Arghhhh. Hoping it wasn't ovulation, as we only BD'd once, and that was Saturday night. I guess we'll see what my temps look like the rest of the week, but we'll continue BD'ing every other day this week.

Im in the same boat tweak! i havent been using opks this month the stress and anticipation really doesnt do me well...i also OV cd17 or 23 usually well before my mc...It does take just one swimmer though hun so fingers crossed for you!!! its not over till AF shows and hopefully shes a no show for us this month. Good luck and baby dust!

We kind of did the SMEP plan this time, but actually I stopped tracking with OPKs as I was never catching my surge. Instead I just monitored CM and then went at it like rabbits (no more than once a day - don't want him to run dry!) until I felt my OV pains had passed. It was guess work really, but it worked! I suppose, what I'm trying to say is listen to your body and doing it every day certainly didn't hurt our chances.

AFM - properly dry heaved this morning when I tried to load the dishwasher - can safely say my sense of smell has got stronger!

I think that has to be my favourite piece of advice! I really like the idea of listening to our bodies...

yeaaahhh dry heaving! sounds like a good sign...

Patiently... I'm sure your DH didn't mean anything by it...they are not the ones researching and worrying daily about getting our forever babies. They just get excited at the scan parts where it becomes more real and don;t think about how stressful it is for us to get there be kind to yourself

AFM..think I am 11 DPO today, tested BFN last night which is as expected due to poor timing this month but I am totally ok with it. It has been a relief of lack of pressure this month and it feels bloody good!

Just waiting for my referees to receive paperwork, fill it in and return it, wait for written confirmation and then I will hand my notice in. My worry is if there is a question about time off...as I've had 6 weeks off due to either loss or early pregnancy ah well, it is out of my hands

XxX

11dpo!! Your still early hun so i'd say to give it a few more days and test again. but glad that you're feeling relieved nonetheless...

As for the job I am in the same position! how i see it is that if your enthusiastic enough and your someone that they want they'll look past the attendance issue. Maybe if they ask say that it was for personal reasons that way you wont have to disclose andy information. Like you i have refrained from explaining why i was off twice this year as i feel that if i say it was due to mc then they will assume...and rightly so...that i am trying or a baby therefore making me an unsuitable candidate...but I just walk into interviews confidently and show them that i am keen and motivated...despite my absence...and remember that people know that life happens...its not always work work work so im sure they'll look over the attendance hun! good luck my ingers are crossed for you!!!!

Hi everyone. Hope you're all ok.


Starting to feel a little nauseous off and on hear but I've never had ms with any pregnancy so far just odd bouts of nausea so don't know if that's bad or it's just the way I react Boobs are heavy and tender and man I could for England!

Went to Dr on Monday she is arranging for the mw to contact me this week, she has been v supportive although she has suggested some counselling for us both just to let go of the past and try to help us relax so I'm looking into that. I feel a bit unattached to it all at the moment - probably my brains way of protecting itself but I'm also thinking well what will be will be there's nothing I can do to prevent it.

Still no told anyone and in a way I feel awful because I'll look to my parents for support should anything go wrong, I don't like not telling them but at the same time don't want them to be disappointed again. What would you ladies do?

Hope you don't mind me still hanging around I don't feel like joining in pregnancy discussion fully until my brain has caught up with my body

to all and GL to any testers this week

im glad you're here hun! i like to know whats happening..maybe im nosy hehehe i like to know what your going through so it gives me an idea of what to expect when it happens for me so im happy you are here!

TBH i have decided that when i get my bfp i wont tell anyone...no one in my family can keep it a secret and they werent that supportive with my mc's so i think i'll keep it between OH and myself. But i do think its down to the individual. Do what is right for you hun...

I think the counselling seems like a good idea...Good luck with your midwife appt! hope all goes well im really happy for you! hope you and lady have blessed this thread!

AFM i am so confused! ok so i am not sure if ive OV but had lots of what looked like EWCM but not sure if it was OH (sorry tmi)had lots of cramping today and yesterday and my nipples are really tender...which only happens when AF is about to arrive...have bd every other day too...im on cd 18/19 so too early for AF so i dont even know whats going on...im just going to bd every other day from now on and see what happens...fingers crossed for us all!!

 

[mpepe32]

patiently - sure sounds like O to me! My bb's get sore around the time leading up to O but I never actually feel when I O. PMA this is going to be our month

 

[Ladyfog]

NSN, I hope everything goes well with the job. If they ask about the sickness, just explain about the pregnancies, but say that you are having a break from TTC to concentrate on your career. They can't discriminate because you were pregnant. I'm sure it will be OK

RM - sounds like it's all going well Please stay on this thread with us all . I've only told my sister so far (she would have guessed anyway as I wasn't drinking this weekend!) and will tell my mum and dad this week. but I know what you mean about it not feeling real. I really regretted not telling them the first time as they only found out when I MC'd and they missed out on the happy times before it all went wrong. It's no secret we've been trying again so it seems weird not to tell them this time. I'll probably tell close friends after my early scan and then 'go public' at 12 weeks.

Patiently, this time I had sore nipples just before my BFP, but O symptoms have changed each month - they've been so unpredictable! It certainly sounds like you could've O'd to me though.

Hope everyone else is good. Felt queasy all day but had a happy glow knowing that everything seems to be happening as it should. It feels good this time - hoping it's not just wishful thinking

 

[justwaiting]

Lady - there is nothing wrong with wishful thinking. Some times it's all we have. your symptoms sound good though. I'm glad you have a good feeling about this pregnancy, it can only help!

RM - Only tell who you feel comfortable, I will tell mum and my best friend but that it until 8wks where we will tell the parents and then 12wks the world.

Hi to everyone and I hope everyone is going well. Lots of testing coming up goodluck everyone

 

[BeachChica]

Sorry if this is repeating, I know some of you are in more than one thread with me but for everyone else...

My temps were still up this morning (98.50) so I decided to take a IC test, just to see. It was BFN. AF is due today and my temps usually plumment when she's on the way so we'll see what happens over the next couple of days.

Hope everyone is doing well, keep those pregnancy symptoms coming!!!!

 

[mpepe32]

beach - fingers still crossed for you! Hope all of you are doing well and much baby dust to all the testers!

 

[lexi374]

Beach good luck if you decide to test today xxx

and to all xxx

 

[Neversaynever]

to everyone...sorry this is a selfish post and run but I wanted to let you all know that I got a BFP last night and I am crapping myself!

Promise will update properly later

XxX

 

[Ladyfog]

Good morning

Just thought I'd pop in - good luck chica, remember it's not over until AF turns up. All my FX but here for hugs it this isn't your month

AFM, work's going better this week and I'm not feeling quite so emotional but I am now having morning, noon and middle of the night sickness - I've never had this before! Must say it's not much fun but pleased I have a clear symptom . It does make me wonder how many are in there though, or maybe this is what it's meant to be like in a successful pregnancy?? It's such early days though, I just hope it carries on this way - I'm dreading my symptoms disappearing again . Just going to take each day at a time.

Good luck and to everyone.

 

[Ladyfog]

to everyone...sorry this is a selfish post and run but I wanted to let you all know that I got a BFP last night and I am crapping myself!

Promise will update properly later

XxX

OMG OMG OMG!!!!!!

Wow - November is our lucky month!

Try not to worry and enjoy this moment.

 

[patiently]

to everyone...sorry this is a selfish post and run but I wanted to let you all know that I got a BFP last night and I am crapping myself!

Promise will update properly later

XxX

Wow!!! Im sooooo hapy for you!! wat a surprise thats amazing congrats Never! good luck and happy and healthy nine months!! this tread is turning out to be sooo lucky this month...well done and congrats again try not to worry too much...wishing you all the best and please do keep us updated...congrats hun

 

[RaspberryMini]

NSN - quick post as I'm on my phone but big congratulations! Looking forward to hearing all about it. Woo hoo!

 

[patiently]

I know im out this month my breast tenderness is fading so this must be a sign that AF will turn up soon...ANYWAY maybe next month

good luck everyone else

x

 

[pink80]

Congrats again NSN

I seemed to miss your annoucement Rassberry congrats to you too

 

[lexi374]

Big congrats to NSN so happy for you. The month you least expect it eh?!?



You did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lexi374]

LADY sorry you feel crap but yay for sickness!!! xxx

Afm 6dpo nothing to report really no symptoms, anyone testing in a few days time? xxx

 

[NewToAllThis]

Said in your journal but congrats NSN!!!

Hoping this will turn out to be a lucky thread!

 

[mpepe32]

nsn -

huge congrats!

 

[BeachChica]

NSN - Congrats!!!

LadyFog - It doesn't sound like much fun to be going through but I definitely think those symptoms are a good sign!!

Well I think I'm out this month too. I had a huge temperature drop this morning Ugh!!! Which usually means is on her way!!!