A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[filipenko32]

Congratulations Neversaynever!! So pleased for you!!! :yippee: There you go, you got the job and the !!

 

[Ladyfog]

NSN, how are you feeling this morning? I'm aware that we are all really excited for you but this pregnancy has come at a complicated time with your new job and so there must be mixed feelings.

I actually started a job in Feb when I was 10 weeks pregnant and although that didn't end happily I'm sure that it would have been OK - I chose not to tell them before I started as I felt it didn't impact on how well I could do the job and I hadn't even told my parents yet! Make sure you still do what will make you happy - being pregnant shouldn't have any impact. By law it's none of an employers business until 15 weeks before a baby is due.

Anyway, had been worrying about you so just thought I'd pop in

 

[Neversaynever]

Sorry a post and run


Thank you all for you lovelty comments...I'm still in denial and it hasn't hit me yet so all is ok

The job has sne tme some paperwork and there's a Occupational Health questionare that they want 3 years absence history so looks like I won't be going anywhere just yet. My favourite answer....WHATEVER

Promise to catch up with you all soon...life has become manic

to those that need... to those that want it and away with for those due to test

XxX

 

[lexi374]

NSN big hugs sweetie so happy for you, got all my fingers crossed this ones for keeps xxx

Lady and raspberry how are you holding up?

Beach and patiently sorry you think you are out for this month

Where is everyone else, anyone due to test? Good luck if you are xxx

AFM 7dpo i think im out too, have got raging pmt!!

Going away for 3 nights tom, which will take my mind off things and should be due tuesday when we get back!

 

[patiently]

Hey Lexi you never know hun these could be pregnancy hormones instead of pmt!! fingers crossed your not out till she shows and hopefully she doesnt!

AFM i still have sore nipples but they are not so sore when i get up in the morning but they get more sore as the day goes on...i dunno ive never had this after ovulation before i think im 4dpo but my bbs have been sore since sunday night...usually i get sore nips 3/4 days before AF so this is a little new for me. ..well mc has mess up my cycles so far so ill just wait an see...i really hope this is our month ladies...we have three positives already lets keep em coming!! Good luck to everyone!! ..

 

[justwaiting]

Hi ladies, there have been so many bfp's. Once again never congratulations and I hope all the rest of you preggo's are doing great.

Lexi and Patiently - It ain't over yet so keep positive.

afm - I am still waiting to o, I feel life I o'd yesterday but still having pains today and my bloods this morning said I was close to o. they suggested bding tomorrow night. what i don't understand is why so late, last month smack bang on day 14 and this month i'm cd16 and still haven't o'd. getting the bding in but it's so confusing.

 

[Neversaynever]

Lexi..hope you have a nice break away and come back with news of a BFP

Patiently...if it's a new symptom...could be promising my fingers are crossed for you

Filip...I know...although I still have to fill in forms and they want to know about absence so looks like I won't be getting it after all but if that means I get a rainbow baby then I'll take that hands down

Mpepe..you ok?

Beach...you too?

to all

Still in denial, really can't believe it has happened I don;t feel the utter dread I had last time, I guess knowing that I have a long way to go and even seeing a HB at 7 week counts for nothing in my case

Hope you all have a fab weekend planned

that need them. to testers and for the ladies coming up to O

XxX

 

[filipenko32]

NSN - you can't be refused a job based on your absence for a valid reason. I am on long term sick leave myself (after never having a sick day for 9 years) and i would just explain for my next job. Wishing you lots of luck

 

[NewToAllThis]

Filipenko,

I wholeheartedly know where you are coming from with your comment in your signature... What's it like to go to a 1st scan where nothing is wrong?

I would love to know what that's like too. Hope we can find out one day soon

 

[NewToAllThis]

Lexi - you're not out til AF shows, so enjoy your break and we'll all keep our fingers crossed for a BFP when you return.

justwaiting - hope you O soon. I don't think I have O'd yet since my ERPC and I know its still early but I'm getting impatient.

Beachchica - hope AF is not here, holding out for a BFP for you too

Ladyfog - how you doing?

RaspberryMini - how you doing?

NSN - hubby at work all day today so guess where I'm spending my day?!!! Love the tickers by the way

Mpepe -

Pink -

Anyone else

 

[Ladyfog]

Lexi and Beach, you really do never know until AF shows. I was convinced I wasn't, and I think it caught RM out a bit too so hold on in here. Lots of to you both.

Justwaiting, my O caught me out the month I got pregnant - I think it turned up about CD11-12 instead of CD16 - wouldn't known apart from the EWCM, so don't worry if things don't always run like clockwork. After MC, our cycles are never quite the same so just go with the flow

RM, how are you feeling? Hope you aren't too worried about things.

NSN, I really hope they don't discriminate because you have been pregnant/miscarried. Fill in the forms and just see what they say - You've had valid reasons to be off. I know hat you mean though - not getting the job would be a small price to pay for your forever baby

Hi to everyone else - hope you all have good weekends.

AFM - have felt awful all week, but feel better so far today - now paranoid that something's wrong, but it probably has something to do with the 12 hours sleep I had last night! New symptoms are a funny taste in my mouth and achey ribs. Told my mum and dad last night and they are cautiously excited - they want grandchildren so badly, just hope I can do this for them. Still waiting to hear when my scan will be - just want that date so I have something to aim for!

 

[BeachChica]

Hi ladies - thanks for all the well wishes. Still no sign of AF. I was due for it on the 9th but I am still waiting. I had a temperate drop on the 10th so I thought she was on the way bu yesterday and today my temps have shot back up. I've taken 2 HPT so far (9th and yesterday) and they have both been BFN so I have no idea what's going on. I guess I'll just continue to wait and see....

 

[mpepe32]

Hi ladies!

beach - just keep testing!

Hope everyone is doing well!

Lexi -enjoy your break

new - back at ya

nsn - thanks for asking how i am. hope you're feeling pregnant and reagardless of worry, try to stay on

Afm- i think i might O a little bit late this month. I still am having had horrible headaches which make me nauseated. I wish it was ms but just the changing of the seasons. I have a trip booked to go with my dh and my parents back to aruba in the spring so that is keeping my spirits up a bit. But I'm kind of hesitant of whether I should just stop ttc for now. I don't know if it would be ok to travel while pregnant. But at the same time, I'm 36 and my window is closing soon so just very confused right now. Also wondering if it is fair to bring a baby into the world when I have Multiple Sclerosis and although I still function as normal as I can, I suffer alot of fatigue, etc. so just don't know what is right anymore

 

[NewToAllThis]

Mpepe.

Oh my, Aruba is my favourite place. We went there on our honeymoon two years ago. I LOVED it. I'm so jealous!

I would personally carry on with the TTC (I am the same age as you)
I feel I cannot waste even a month as my biological clock is well and truly ticking. I'd carry on and if you get pregnant, fantastic!
You will be safe to travel up about 6-7 months and even if you are in early stages, you should be fine. And in the event you need medical treatment, its not a backwards island so they should be more than capable of looking after you.

As for the MS. You have as much right to be a mum as anyone. There are tons of people out there with various disabilities who have children and go on to be fantastic parents. And on the flip side, there are healthy people out there who are crap parents. Have seen them on Jeremy Kyle

Hope I've give you something to help you make your decision.

 

[Neversaynever]

Filipenko...I have made the decision not to take the new job...if it all goes pear shaped again I'll need the support networ at work as well as home. Also I agree with your siggy...first scan I went to was the end, second pregnancy I had a scan at 7 weeks and all was ok, at 10+6 scan it was all over again one day it will happen for you

NTAT...guess your man is home now you're offline

Mpepe...don't feel guilty, you would cope with a child as you know how presious your child will be.. but you also have to do what is right for you too. Don;t make any rsh decisions

JW..hope you O soon..

RM and Lady...how are the symptoms doing and how are you?

Beach..could it have been an implantation dip do you think? Temps don't normally go back up after AF do they?

Pink...

to everyone else and hope you all have a lovely weekend

XxX

 

[NewToAllThis]

NTAT...guess your man is home now you're offline

Yes, how did you guess? Quick loo update

 

[Tweak0605]

NSN - you know how freakin' happy I am for you!! Congrats again!!

patiently, beach chica, lexi - Its not over until AF shows. FXd!

Lady - sorry you're feeling like crap, but at the same time, I'm glad you're feeling like crap! yay for sickness! Glad you're feeling better today though!

JW - I hear you on the confusing part. With all the pain I was getting a few days ago, I was sure I OV'd. But no + OPK and temps are still all over the place. Hope you OV soon!

mpepe - hope you OV soon! I too think you should carry on with TTC. NTAT gave you some great advice, more then I could've said. I hope it makes your decision easier


I'm on CD18 and no + OPK yet. Having twinges here and there, but still a faint 2nd line. Had really bad cramping and backaches a few days ago, but nothing. Temps are still all over the place too. Lost 5 lbs last week with my new diet and exercise thing. So happy DH and I are doing it together.

Also found out that DH's cousin is going to the family Christmas party at the beginning of December. They live far away so usually don't come, but apparently this year they are. DH told me he doesn't want to see her, and neither do I, so we aren't going. I just can't handle seeing her pregnant when I'm not, knowing I should have my baby now. She's also one who'll make the thing all about her, non-stop talking about her pregnancy and baby. So no way I can go. I told DH to tell people why we weren't going - his mom, his aunt (who knows about our loss), and to call his other aunt and tell her about it all. I'm just sick of hiding my feelings and my angels.

 

[mpepe32]

thanks new and nsn and tweak - I guess i just needed to hear that i'm not feeling selfish by wanting a baby. You ladies are amazing, dont know what I do without you all

tweak - huge congrats on the weight loss! looks like O is taking its time for the both of us! I think I'm just started getting O symptoms so will start opk's in a bit.
nsn - you have to do what you feel is best! But it was still nice that you were offered it even if u declined.

ntat - omg about aruba hon, this will probably be my 15th trip there, I really have lost track. I starting going with my parents when I was young and we just kept on going bc we loved it so much! Went there for my honeymoon too! And your right about their medical system. I ended up having an allergic reaction to an antibiotic I was on while on my honeymoon and ended up in the emergency, taken by ambulance too because I was going into shock! And the hospital was fine I just worry that's all. Thanks new, hearing this has made me feel a world better I wish I could give u a hug in person to thank you for your words

 

[patiently]

Afm- i think i might O a little bit late this month. I still am having had horrible headaches which make me nauseated. I wish it was ms but just the changing of the seasons. I have a trip booked to go with my dh and my parents back to aruba in the spring so that is keeping my spirits up a bit. But I'm kind of hesitant of whether I should just stop ttc for now. I don't know if it would be ok to travel while pregnant. But at the same time, I'm 36 and my window is closing soon so just very confused right now. Also wondering if it is fair to bring a baby into the world when I have Multiple Sclerosis and although I still function as normal as I can, I suffer alot of fatigue, etc. so just don't know what is right anymore

If it was me i'd still ttc everything has a funny way of working itself out in the end...so even if you are pregnant im sure you'll be fine to travel and at least it will give you something additional to focus on for a while..sometimes when other things are on your mind...than BAMM! your pregnant...it happened like that for me with both pregnancies...xmas was on my mind and my OH sisters communion...so you never know... and i definately think you are just as deserving to have a baby as anyone else...of course it doesnt make you selfish anyone who will love and care for a baby deserves one as far as im concerned..i think you are very brave and strong and i really hope you get your bfp and you enjoy your time away!

...I have made the decision not to take the new job...if it all goes pear shaped again I'll need the support networ at work as well as home.

XxX

As long as you're happy thats the main thing and less stress is always the best remedy...im sure your current workplace will be very understanding and supportive through these next 9 months i really do wish you a happy and healthy 9 months...how r u feeling now?

I'm on CD18 and no + OPK yet. Having twinges here and there, but still a faint 2nd line. Had really bad cramping and backaches a few days ago, but nothing. Temps are still all over the place too. Lost 5 lbs last week with my new diet and exercise thing. So happy DH and I are doing it together.

Also found out that DH's cousin is going to the family Christmas party at the beginning of December. They live far away so usually don't come, but apparently this year they are. DH told me he doesn't want to see her, and neither do I, so we aren't going. I just can't handle seeing her pregnant when I'm not, knowing I should have my baby now. She's also one who'll make the thing all about her, non-stop talking about her pregnancy and baby. So no way I can go. I told DH to tell people why we weren't going - his mom, his aunt (who knows about our loss), and to call his other aunt and tell her about it all. I'm just sick of hiding my feelings and my angels.

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable i understand about hiding your feelings to save others...it gets so annoying and some people just really are not understanding or sympathetic...they just go on and on about their pregnancies, so i totally understand where you are coming from..

I hope you OV soon and get your bfp this cycle...fingers crossed!

AFM still have slightly sore bbs...and i think i have a urine infection...im trying not to symptom spot but its hard not to...i try to think if it will be it'll be so just gotta wait and see...fingers crossed...I am going to the hospital on monday to see what is going on and see if they can offer me any assistance...fingers crossed for all...when is everyone in the tww testing?

 

[filipenko32]

NSN - re the job that makes sense to me, it will probably be too much with all the excitement of your pregnancy and that's definitely way more important! Think I would do the same. How are you feeling now symptom-wise and emotional-wise?