A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Applejack1]

Hi, I am new to all of this but feeling so inspired by you all. A long story made short, at 21 i was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer, at 30 I got married to a great man, at 31 I had my first miscarriage and then another at 32. I just had a lap a few months back and tried again this past month after taking a much needed break (while waitng for surgery) before trying again. This month we had no luck. But there is always next month right? Husband has type one diabetes and did have a heart attack 4 weeks after we were married. So many issues rrrrr. But keeping the faith. Surgery went well for me. Follow up appointment this week. Dr. told hubby after surgery everything looked great. I only have one ovary and tube because of the Ovarian Cancer. They removed a bit of scarring from the ovary during the lap that could have been fetching things up. Fingers crossed. Does anyone else get frustrated with trying to be up all the time? Anyone else feel like they are on a timeline?

 

[BeachChica]

Applejack - so sorry to hear all that you've been through. I really believe that we can't really control the outcome of some of these things so there is no sense in being upset about it. I have had 3 MC in less than a year and its been tough but I just have to stay positive and hope that my happy ending will come soon (just had to work harder at it ) Any way, this is been a very lucky thread with a great group of ladies so I hope you will find it as helpful and inspiring as I have!!!

NSN - I was just looking at your due date and mine would be about the same time. My pregnancy tracker shows an estimated due date of July 21st, 2012.

 

[Applejack1]

Thanks for you kind words BeachChica! It's a crazy ride with many ups and downs. I too can't wait for it to be over but in the mean time why not try to find the humor in it all as hard as it may be, right? It's so great to see support like this right at your finger tips. How has your partner been through it all?

 

[BeachChica]

He has been great through all of this. He is just scared too because he doesn't want to see me go through another MC. I had 2 D&C's and 1 natural MC and they were all awful. All of the testing I've gone through was pretty bad too.

Also you mentioned earlier about the timeline, I'm 38 and DH is 40 so we definitely feel like our clock is definitely ticking. We have been TTC for about 2 years now.

 

[justwaiting]

BeachChica - congratulations on your bfp, that is so exciting. Happy and healthy 9 months to you.

To all the other preggo's I hope your feeling well. What are your dr's saying to do this time around to help these beans become forever babies?

Tweak and Patiently - I think we are all on about the same spot in our cycles. I o'd yesterday. Pos opk in the morning and them had painful o pains last night. My ultrasound tech this morning found nothing so she assumes that the pain I was in yesterday was ovulation, blood tests will confirm today. Have either of you o'd yet? be nice to have some support in the tww. Only 9 days until I know because of blood tests. Fingers crossed we all join the long line of bfp's on this thread and it can become a pregnant with #1 after more than one loss thread!!!

Welcome Applejack - My, you have had a tough run haven't you. This journey is so horrible for some. Good luck this month!

 

[BeachChica]

To all the other preggo's I hope your feeling well. What are your dr's saying to do this time around to help these beans become forever babies?

Oh, I'd like to know the answer to this too. Also, with the previous miscarriages etc, when did you book your first appointment to see the doctor? Not sure what to do about this now.

 

[Tweak0605]

mpepe - hope you O soon!!

cazi - glad you're back sometimes a break is much needed! GL this month, and hope you get a f/u appt soon to see those test results!

patiently - have fun at the movies!

beachchica - that's soo crazy about the fortune cookie! makes me want to get some Chinese food now!

Raspberry - glad you got some symptoms goin' on!

Ladyfog - glad you're doing well DH's mom didn't understand why we didn't want to go - just told us to "ignore her." Ugh. I don't care what people think anymore. We're still not going, I'm not putting myself in a crappy situation.

Applejack - welcome so sorry to hear about everything you've been through. You've found a great support group in our little group of ladies though

JW - Yay for O! No, sadly I haven't O'd yet. Hopefully soon though. Continuing our every other day BDing though. Good luck!!

I know I'm not pregnant now, but I'll answer the above question. As soon as I get a BFP, I will be calling my doctor, getting it confirmed by bringing a sample for them, and then getting blood work done. My doctor said that as soon as I get a BFP I can get blood work done to check all my levels. I'm most worried about my progesterone as I've never gotten it checked in either pregnancy before. Then, I always said I'd very much so push for early ultrasounds - one at 8 weeks and one at 10-12 weeks. Seeing as that's when we lost our previous angels, I want to get past those dates and get ultrasounds to confirm everythings good.

 

[Ladyfog]

NSN - what a coincidence we MC'd at similar times. Hopefully I'll be blazing a trail for you next July when our babies arrive (oh please oh please!) Have fun with the mood swings - all a good sign though!

JW, good luck on your 2WW - it really helped me this time to put it out of my mind - 2 week can seem like a life time and can be really emotionally draining if you focus on it too much .

Applejack - welcome wow you are a brave woman and you deserve happiness after the struggles you have had. Good luck and you will get lots of support here

Hi to everyone else - hope you all have good weeks

I haven't been told to do anything differently by my Dr, mainly as from the tests I've had so far there's nothing obviously wrong - just taking my vits and eating good stuff avoiding the bad as normal (like us all I'm a pregnancy pro, just without any babies to show for it ). I am having a scan at about 8 weeks to check that everything's OK - mainly because with both MMCs the babies had made it to 8 and 6 wks so if it's going to wrong like that again I'd rather I knew asap rather than waiting for my body to realise 4 weeks later.

Slept so badly last night - my brain seems to start buzzing at 5 am and I can't get back to sleep, and then I keep having really bizarre dreams - it's like an episode of Twin Peaks in there!

 

[patiently]

Hi, I am new to all of this but feeling so inspired by you all. A long story made short, at 21 i was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer, at 30 I got married to a great man, at 31 I had my first miscarriage and then another at 32. I just had a lap a few months back and tried again this past month after taking a much needed break (while waitng for surgery) before trying again. This month we had no luck. But there is always next month right? Husband has type one diabetes and did have a heart attack 4 weeks after we were married. So many issues rrrrr. But keeping the faith. Surgery went well for me. Follow up appointment this week. Dr. told hubby after surgery everything looked great. I only have one ovary and tube because of the Ovarian Cancer. They removed a bit of scarring from the ovary during the lap that could have been fetching things up. Fingers crossed. Does anyone else get frustrated with trying to be up all the time? Anyone else feel like they are on a timeline?

YOu are such a brave and courageous woman! welcome to this thread the support and understanding here is amazing...I often find myself wanting to give up and trying to be upbeat all the time is very hard and a challenge in itself...but you have come over so many hurdles and someone told me once that the more hurdles you face to get to your destination the greater the reward will be...so i really hope that you will get your forever baby soon! you like everyone else on this thread deserve it.

Even though i am 24 i have been ttc since i was 22 and the worst thing that people say to me is "you're still young you have plenty of time" but i guess when your ttc time seems like an eternity i still feel like im on a timeline it hit me the other day that the youngest age i will be when i have my baby will be 25 and that really hurt me because ive always wanted children from a young age. I think we all eel like we're pushed for time and the longer it takes the more frustrated i begin to feel. Im so thankful to this thread and i hope you ind comfort and reassurance here just as i have...try to be positive you will get your forever baby and as you can see we have had a few bfp in the last few weeks so i definately feel its a luck thread. Good luck hun and welcome again!!

Tweak and Patiently - I think we are all on about the same spot in our cycles. I o'd yesterday. Pos opk in the morning and them had painful o pains last night. My ultrasound tech this morning found nothing so she assumes that the pain I was in yesterday was ovulation, blood tests will confirm today. Have either of you o'd yet? be nice to have some support in the tww. Only 9 days until I know because of blood tests. Fingers crossed we all join the long line of bfp's on this thread and it can become a pregnant with #1 after more than one loss thread!!!

I think i o'd last monday judging by ewcm and tender breasts which never happens to me btw! so i'd say im 7dpo/6dpo when are you going to test? how are you going to keep busy during your tww? i have been trying not to symptom spot but its soooo hard!! argh! i just want my forever baby.
Good luck this month hun hope we can join the list of bfp's fingers and toes crossed!! x

I am having a scan at about 8 weeks to check that everything's OK - mainly because with both MMCs the babies had made it to 8 and 6 wks so if it's going to wrong like that again I'd rather I knew asap rather than waiting for my body to realise 4 weeks later.

Slept so badly last night - my brain seems to start buzzing at 5 am and I can't get back to sleep, and then I keep having really bizarre dreams - it's like an episode of Twin Peaks in there!

The dreams are a good sign i have read that in pregnancy you have vivid dreams and can get restless....so looking good hun...maybe have little naps in the day too if your feeling tired from the lack of sleep at night...wishing you all the best x x x

AFM I have slightly tender breasts still but i really dont know what to think i think i will just wait and see...this thread has become my life...im glued to it! well im going to the hospital in a bit to see if they can help me or inform me on what is going on as my last few cycles have been really irregular and confusing...wish me luck...btw the cinema was great loved every bit of the movie!

baby dust to all x x x

 

[Neversaynever]

Apple..welcome and so sorry for your losses and all the other traumas you have endured TTC is so hard and the when you are TTCAL's it is soul destroying and it is hard to try and reamin on the up. Only four weeks ago I was struggling really bad and took some time away from it all as I never wanted to feel that low again. coming your way and

Beach...in the UK they do nothing differently for 1st Tri losses so I'll be demanding a scan for 7 weeks and it that is ok, one at 10 weeks as I too don't want to wait for my body to start rejecting two weeks after the event all I can say is that I am hopeful yet realistic as for EDD...I reckon I O'd earlier so not sure about dates but I could be totally wrong too

JW...hoping that bloods confirm O and you get some :sex in..I think you need to do it for another couple of days so the swimmers can chase the eggy

Tweak...hoping you get a positive OPK soon hun

Lady...how're the symptoms doing? RM...you ok?

Filipenko...how are you holding up as I think you are 11 DPO today... and if you are testing

Patiently...hope you are managing to find something to do to occupy your thoughts in the TWW and

and and to everyone else...

AFM...told my current Head I'm not leaving and I am pregnant...she cried and hugged me I know I have made the right decision

Feel a bit crampy today but not freaking out

XxX

 

[filipenko32]

I have only got so far think I will test again tomorrow.

 

[BeachChica]

I have only got so far think I will test again tomorrow.

Hang in there!!! My cycle was like that too this month!!

 

[RaspberryMini]

To all the other preggo's I hope your feeling well. What are your dr's saying to do this time around to help these beans become forever babies?

Oh, I'd like to know the answer to this too. Also, with the previous miscarriages etc, when did you book your first appointment to see the doctor? Not sure what to do about this now.

Not being told to do anything different really. My Dr initially wanted to sign me off work but I don't think tht would help as I don't get tht stressed about work normally, it's just not in my personality. Other than tht it's take your vitamins, don't push yourself - all the usual advice.

I've met with the midwife too today, not for booking in though. She's arranging a scan for 8-10 weeks and once that's done then I'll book in once we know all is ok. Keeping everything crossed as like filipenko and probably lots of Ladies here I've never seen my bean in a scan pic or had a positive scan.

In symptoms news I nearly threw up in town today at the smell of a cafe as I walked passed and I've felt ill ever since. Clearly if I need a reminder I'm pregnant that's the place for me to go!

 

[patiently]

NSN glad you made the right decision...its funny how life seems to work out in the end...

filipenko32 your not out yet fingers crossed!!!! really hope this is your month

AFM just got back from the hopital and they have prescribed clomid for me kinda mixed feelings about it but maybe its for the best i hope i dont have to use it becuase i will get a bfp in a few days fingers crossed my bbs have been hurting for 7 days straight now in the morning theyre only a tad sore but by the evening they are so so so tender...dunno wats going on we'll just wait n see x

 

[filipenko32]

Thanks patiently! I'm jealous you got clomid, I want to take that as there is a higher chance of twins apparently and I want twins! I don't think they'll give it me for that reason though. So are you hoping for a bfp in the next 7 days without clomid?

 

[filipenko32]

Why did they give you clomid patiently when you can conceive on your own?

 

[patiently]

Thanks patiently! I'm jealous you got clomid, I want to take that as there is a higher chance of twins apparently and I want twins! I don't think they'll give it me for that reason though. So are you hoping for a bfp in the next 7 days without clomid?

Why did they give you clomid patiently when you can conceive on your own?

i read that you have a higher chance of twins and my OH was so excited hehe! why do you think thats why they wont give it to you? I am hoping so much for a bfp in the next seven days I really want our forever baby. The reason he put me on clomid is because my last two cycles have been really irregular and I have always had long cycles so he recommended that we try clomid for six months. how are you feeling? i know its early but are you experiencing anything yet?

 

[NewToAllThis]

I want twins too....
I conceived twins and lost them

 

[LOULOU8888]

Hi ladies

I have had 2 previous missed miscarriages in last 3 years and still trying foor our our first baby. I have a regular 27 day cycle and got pos opk on fri just gone, had plenty of babymaking all last week inc fri and sat so just waiting now impatiently, would love a bfp but then the excitment will be shortlived as I will worry and dread the 12 week scan as you do. Or maybe I will never conceive again? Taking the bfp for granted I suppose. Nightmare wish I didn't want a baby sometimes and could just forget and enjoy life with what I've already got with my job, house, husband and 2 lovely kittys.

 

[Applejack1]

Wow these threads are great! Follow up appointment tomorrow so will know more about the laproscope she did and what the next step is. For right now it's that time. Suppose to O on Sunday but always find it hard to figure out when to dance!!!!!! With the diabetes husband has issue of his own so it's difficult to dance all the time. I would if I could but we can't. Hey what's one more thing to throw into the frustration of it all!!!

LouLou888 I hear you when you say you wich you could just be happy with what you have! It's hard and seems you always want what you can't have right now even more. That's when faith comes in to play for me. Patience Patience Patience!!!