A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[justwaiting]

Patiently - I hope you don't get to use the clomid. I am also hoping for a bfp next wednesday. Fingers crossed for you. I'm glad your dr is being proactive.

LouLou- Welcome and I'm sorry for your losses. I understand the wanting to go back to the contentment of not wanting to conceive but once you start it's very difficult to get it out of your mind. Positive thoughts hun and you have found the right place.

Applejack - have you heard of smep? Or just bd every second day throughout your cycle and then when you o. try to save it up for the days closer to o. I know lots of women start about cd8-9 but if dh has health issues stopping that, just do it every second day for a week or so around o and definetly sunday! Good luck. Do you use opk's or anything?

Raspberry - Why did your dr want you to quit work? A bit extreme especially if your job isn't stressful, but obviously if it needs to happen. Take it easy. Is your husband different this time around? I always wonder whether husbands are more protective and helpful after all we have been thru to try and keep this baby. God knows my dh is more interested in bding at the right time!
I would walk past that cafe everyday if I were you!!!!

afm - 2dpo, will find out next wednesday if I have been successful. Going to try my best to avoid symptom spotting but I'm quietly optimistic about this month.

I hope everyone else is doing well.

 

[patiently]

I want twins too....
I conceived twins and lost them

so sorry for your loss ntal, did you conceive twins naturally if you did theres no reason as to why you cant again...I hope you do go on to have twins fingers crossed for you

Hi ladies

I have had 2 previous missed miscarriages in last 3 years and still trying foor our our first baby. I have a regular 27 day cycle and got pos opk on fri just gone, had plenty of babymaking all last week inc fri and sat so just waiting now impatiently, would love a bfp but then the excitment will be shortlived as I will worry and dread the 12 week scan as you do. Or maybe I will never conceive again? Taking the bfp for granted I suppose. Nightmare wish I didn't want a baby sometimes and could just forget and enjoy life with what I've already got with my job, house, husband and 2 lovely kittys.

Fingers crossed and good luck in your tww...Its really hard to go back to not wanting a baby after a loss it sort of enhances the desire...well for me anyway but i totally understand what you mean, how simple life would be...
But wanting this baby more than anything has been my main drive, try to remain positive the rocky road is sure to come smooth soon hun Good luck and baby dust x

Wow these threads are great! Follow up appointment tomorrow so will know more about the laproscope she did and what the next step is. For right now it's that time. Suppose to O on Sunday but always find it hard to figure out when to dance!!!!!! With the diabetes husband has issue of his own so it's difficult to dance all the time. I would if I could but we can't. Hey what's one more thing to throw into the frustration of it all!!!

Hope your appointment goes well and you have some good news!! try not to put too much pressure on yourself the smep can be quite good actually. Good luck

Patiently - I hope you don't get to use the clomid. I am also hoping for a bfp next wednesday. Fingers crossed for you. I'm glad your dr is being proactive.


afm - 2dpo, will find out next wednesday if I have been successful. Going to try my best to avoid symptom spotting but I'm quietly optimistic about this month.

I hope everyone else is doing well.

Thank you justwaiting im so glad the dr is actually dealing with my concerns and was very helpful. Good luck in your tww hope next wednesday is your lucky day and this is your lucky month.


AFM I had a dream that i got two bfp but one of the tests were from another country and i couldnt interpret it...it had two lines and was positive but i couldnt believe it....in the dream I also had an IC and there were two lines straight away but i just couldnt tell anyone...strange dreams I guess i wasnt it so much its happening in my subconcious...well fingers crossed in a few days i'll get my bfp! good luck everyone x

 

[Ladyfog]

DH keeps saying "oh I hope it isn't twins" - he's terrified there could be 2 in there! I was a twin (the other miscarried) so I know it runs in the family. We have 3 sets of friends who all conceived twins naturally and believe me it looks so much hard work - there really never is a moment off! Still, doesn't stop me hoping there aren't 2 in here I think the main reason is that I just want all this baby making to be over, it's been so full of heartache, if I could get a ready made family in one go, at the moment I'd be very grateful! Really I'll just be grateful for seeing one little heartbeat though - I really have no idea how that would feel, I'm so used to seeing such a sad picture on the screen

Welcome Loulou I am in a very similar situation to you - have a lovely life with a house, job, husband and my 2 cat babies. Doesn't stop you feeling that something's missing though It has helped me to remember how many who want babies don't even have a partner to have them with yet and we are so much further along our journeys and that's something to be grateful for.

Apple - we did a loose version of SMEP and look where I am now Don't put too much pressure on yourself. His little swimmers can last a day or so in there (that idea freaks me out a bit!) so you don't have to do it every day if that's not possible.

Good luck JW, try to keep busy and testing day will come around soon. Next weds sounds quite early to test? Do you test at 10dpo? Hope you get your BFP!

Patiently - glad the Dr is doing something for you - will hopefully stop the confusing time you've been having.

RM - glad the MS has started to kick in - it feels so good doesn't it?!

AFM still feeling grim, but very happy to be feeling so pregnant. It seems to get worse as the day goes on and I'm ready for bed about 8.30 - lasted until 9.30 last night and it felt like 2am! Getting very achey hips at the moment, right at the tips so don't know what that's about. Sleeping badly with crazy dreams still and so hungry all the time! Still doesn't stop me worrying I'll wake up and it'll all have disappeared - my first made it to 8 wks so I feel like I need to get past that point. Still waiting for my scan date too - I wish they'd hurry up!!!

 

[justwaiting]

Good luck JW, try to keep busy and testing day will come around soon. Next weds sounds quite early to test? Do you test at 10dpo? Hope you get your BFP!

Lady - I am doing cycle tracking so they start testing my blood for hcg at 10dpo and then again at 12dpo. so yes early but I dont have to poas which is nice and I get ot know early either way. last month it was nice having a couple of days to get over it before af showed. I'm hoping thats not the case this time tho.

 

[Neversaynever]

Sorry for a selfish post ladies....

I've had a bleed this morning so looking like third time wasn't lucky for me

I'll probably be lurking for a while but wanted to say good luck for you guys in TWW sticky to the other preggos and happy for you lots on the run up to O

XxX

 

[NewToAllThis]

Welcome Applejack and LouLou

So sorry Applejack for everything you have been through, the m/c's on top of everything else is just too much
Really glad you joined us and hope you can get some good news soon!

LouLou, your story is very much like mine. I waited until I was married, had a nice house and enough money to be able to bring a child up comfortably and 2 MMCs in last 2 years. I'm sure you will get your bfp again, in fact we all will!

AFM - had ovary pain in the night so did an opk this morning... lets hope it goes positive later/tomorrow

 

[patiently]

Sorry for a selfish post ladies....

I've had a bleed this morning so looking like third time wasn't lucky for me

I'll probably be lurking for a while but wanted to say good luck for you guys in TWW sticky to the other preggos and happy for you lots on the run up to O

XxX

NSN im so sorry but please dont count yourself out yet...have u been to the hospital? i really wish you the best of luck and just to let you know that my sister and a few of my friends had bleeding like a normal period during their pregnancies...and went on to have healthy babies so dont give up yet...

My fingers are crossed for you ill be thinking of you...i know bleeding causes stress but try not to worry...everything can still turn out fine...sending lots of love and hugs your way x x x

 

[Neversaynever]

Sorry for a selfish post ladies....

I've had a bleed this morning so looking like third time wasn't lucky for me

I'll probably be lurking for a while but wanted to say good luck for you guys in TWW sticky to the other preggos and happy for you lots on the run up to O

XxX

NSN im so sorry but please dont count yourself out yet...have u been to the hospital? i really wish you the best of luck and just to let you know that my sister and a few of my friends had bleeding like a normal period during their pregnancies...and went on to have healthy babies so dont give up yet...

My fingers are crossed for you ill be thinking of you...i know bleeding causes stress but try not to worry...everything can still turn out fine...sending lots of love and hugs your way x x x

I've had blood taken this morning and will have more taken on Thursday..the cramping is not helping and I am accepting this is it and I am 'ok' no point going to the hospital as there is nothing they or anyone can do shall let nature do her job again in the comfort of my own home but thank you

XxX

 

[NewToAllThis]

Holy shit. How did I miss your post NSN? Sorry to have randomly posted and not seen yours.
I'm thinking of you and hope that all is still ok. Please get yourself to epau and get a scan.
We'll be here for you whatever happens. Life is so fuckin cruel

 

[Neversaynever]

Holy shit. How did I miss your post NSN? Sorry to have randomly posted and not seen yours.
I'm thinking of you and hope that all is still ok. Please get yourself to epau and get a scan.
We'll be here for you whatever happens. Life is so fuckin cruel

It's ok hun scan won't show anything as only 4 weeks so that's why the bloods have been taken.

It's ok...just wasn't meant to be this time and hopefully I can get down the testing route now

XxX

 

[pink80]

Sorry for a selfish post ladies....

I've had a bleed this morning so looking like third time wasn't lucky for me

I'll probably be lurking for a while but wanted to say good luck for you guys in TWW sticky to the other preggos and happy for you lots on the run up to O

XxX

 

[BeachChica]

Sorry for a selfish post ladies....

I've had a bleed this morning so looking like third time wasn't lucky for me

I'll probably be lurking for a while but wanted to say good luck for you guys in TWW sticky to the other preggos and happy for you lots on the run up to O

XxX

Oh no NSN - so sorry You should definitely stay in the thread, there are others that will be hoping for December BFP's. Keep us posted on your testing and if you have any questions about it, I would be happy to help.

 

[momywanabekat]

3 Miscarriages In A Row.. Help Advice...
had my blood forms come through for me and my partner, planning on going some time this week to get bloods done and sent off, then have to wait for a scan to make sure my uterus hasn't got any abnormality's, then could wait up to 12 weeks to meet consultant and find out results. just want to know if there is anyone in my position. feel really lonely and find it hard to talk to people around me so want to talk to woman who know exactly how i feel thank you xxxx

 

[Neversaynever]

3 Miscarriages In A Row.. Help Advice...
had my blood forms come through for me and my partner, planning on going some time this week to get bloods done and sent off, then have to wait for a scan to make sure my uterus hasn't got any abnormality's, then could wait up to 12 weeks to meet consultant and find out results. just want to know if there is anyone in my position. feel really lonely and find it hard to talk to people around me so want to talk to woman who know exactly how i feel thank you xxxx

Sorry for your losses...I'm glad you took me up on the invite over here

There are ladies on here that have had testing done and will be far more knowledgable than I am

Pink...thanks hun

Beach....thank you too...I'll still be around...having a forced break from TTC anyway now due to OH having a knee op in December so will be starting again some time in February I guess

XxX

 

[BeachChica]

3 Miscarriages In A Row.. Help Advice...
had my blood forms come through for me and my partner, planning on going some time this week to get bloods done and sent off, then have to wait for a scan to make sure my uterus hasn't got any abnormality's, then could wait up to 12 weeks to meet consultant and find out results. just want to know if there is anyone in my position. feel really lonely and find it hard to talk to people around me so want to talk to woman who know exactly how i feel thank you xxxx

momy - Sorry for your losses. I went through all the testing too after 3 MC's. It wasn't a pleasant experience but will give you some peace of mind. I had all the blood work, a hysterosalpingogram and the 4 hour glucose test. The whole process took about 12 weeks because they do the testing in phases. If the first phase comes back OK, then they do the next phase, and this continues until they find something and have gone through all of the testing. Good luck!!

 

[momywanabekat]

thankyou.. i heard alot of people have tests done and they come back with nothing wrong im hoping they find something because i will be devastated if they don't find anything cause i dnt want the heart ache any more, but at the same time i don't want anything bad to be found i heard some ladies take baby aspirin and progesterone (carnt spell) cream.. has anyone tried any of these xxx

 

[Neversaynever]

thankyou.. i heard alot of people have tests done and they come back with nothing wrong im hoping they find something because i will be devastated if they don't find anything cause i dnt want the heart ache any more, but at the same time i don't want anything bad to be found i heard some ladies take baby aspirin and progesterone (carnt spell) cream.. has anyone tried any of these xxx

I was told that statistcally....70% come back with no answers but statistics are crap when it comes to pregnancy and MC so I'd take it with a pinch of salt. If they do find something, you at least have an answer that may help to sustain your next pregnancy. Try and keep positive

XxX

 

[momywanabekat]

thankyou.. i heard alot of people have tests done and they come back with nothing wrong im hoping they find something because i will be devastated if they don't find anything cause i dnt want the heart ache any more, but at the same time i don't want anything bad to be found i heard some ladies take baby aspirin and progesterone (carnt spell) cream.. has anyone tried any of these xxx

I was told that statistcally....70% come back with no answers but statistics are crap when it comes to pregnancy and MC so I'd take it with a pinch of salt. If they do find something, you at least have an answer that may help to sustain your next pregnancy. Try and keep positive

XxX

i find it stupid that we get tested after the miscarriage has happened they should test us as soon as wee find out we are pregnant as levels change when we are pregnant so something that isn't a problem when we arnt pregnant could be when we are i try to stay positive and hope that i get sorted after all these test but if they find nothing i just dont know how i will handle it xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Momy - they did not find anything really with my testing either other than a high homocysteine level, which I now take an additional 2 Mg of Folic acid for (plus my prenatals). My doctor says there are differing opinions on whether this would cause a MC. I am also taking baby aspirin. I asked my doctor about it and he said it wouldn't hurt so we'll see if it helps this time around. My doc also mentioned progesterone but he said that the problem is that it will keep a bad pregnancy going that your body would normally miscarry so I decided not to take it. As much as I don't want to go through another MC, I definitely don't want to keep a bad pregnancy going longer than it should. My progesterone levels tested normal. Some people do take it though and have had no problems.

 

[momywanabekat]

Momy - they did not find anything really with my testing either other than a high homocysteine level, which I now take an additional 2 Mg of Folic acid for (plus my prenatals). My doctor says there are differing opinions on whether this would cause a MC. I am also taking baby aspirin. I asked my doctor about it and he said it wouldn't hurt so we'll see if it helps this time around. My doc also mentioned progesterone but he said that the problem is that it will keep a bad pregnancy going that your body would normally miscarry so I decided not to take it. As much as I don't want to go through another MC, I definitely don't want to keep a bad pregnancy going longer than it should. My progesterone levels tested normal. Some people do take it though and have had no problems.

the hospital said to me that progesterone doesn't always help, i suppose that its a risk that some people take. If they dont find anything wrong on my tests i may take both to see what happens. are you currently pregnant again or going to try? i hear about baby aspirin to im going to start taking it when im ready to try again xxxxx