A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

Mommy - oh I am so sorry. ((Hugs)) I do think it's good that you collected your tissue, as horrible as it is. When we go through this (especially multiple times) we are left with so many questions. Why, Why, Why!!?? Any answers that can help piece together why this happened I think does bring some relief. I have had 5 D&C's and 2 of my MC's tested, one of them only at 5 weeks so I know it can be done early, they only need a little bit of tissue. My 2 that were tested were both chromosomal problems so I know my babies would not have survived. Although it still left me questions why, at least I feel like my body is doing what its supposed to do. If any of them had been normal, then that might take my docs in a different direction with testing. So it does help to know. I hope you pass everything quickly and can move on to your next cycle soon.

AFM - had a huge temp drop the last 2 days so not sure if this is AF on the way or what. I thought I had the BDing covered pretty well this month but we'll see. :shrug:

How's everyone else doing? :wave:
 
Mommylov....massive massive :hugs: on the front page are some words for people to copy and print off to give to there I make them think about what they say to someone who's had a loss. Having three is shitty...not having an answer is also shitty. But like the others have said...it will happen. I know right now everything's raw and the fear of trying again is almost as much as the fear of losing again. So whatever you need to get yourself through these times. We are all here for you...keep writing in your journal...it helps :hugs: again, I'm so sorry :hugs:

Beach...could it be ID? :dust:

Honey...sorry you have found yourself here but lots of lovely ladies and support to be had :hugs:

Nicki...hope you got that eggy :dust:

Hi to everyone...love, :hugs: :dust: and whatever's

XxX
 
Relieved and also very sorry that you had to collect tissue, and had to see your baby...perhaps this will give you some much-needed answers. I hope that everything is now passed, and that there will be no need for a D&C. Hopefully in a week or two you will be able to have a pelvic exam or ultrasound to see if everything left your system.

These things just leave your heart empty, and fill you with pain. One day at a time, and be good to yourself. As you well know, this can stay raw for a great long while...

Do NOT give up hope. Hope (and the courage to keep trying), is what brings most women in our shoes a rainbow baby, eventually. The specialist I saw after I had my losses told me that in 25 years of working with women who have miscarried, not ONE had ever went on to not have a baby, as long as she kept trying, and conceiving. Of course this meant that many women had many, many losses before they had that baby, but as long as THEY KEPT TRYING, and continued to conceive and get pregnant, there was ALWAYS a baby...This greatly encouraged me, and gave me the strength to keep going! :hugs:
 
That it really great to hear. That is my biggest fear right now, that I will never hold my healthy babies.
 
Just remember: keep trying, keep conceiving...your rainbow will arrive.
 
mommylov--glad eveything has started and your able to start moving on and being 1 step closer to your rainbow baby. :hugs: I did the pill also because I did not want to have another d&c because I was worried about scaring. I bled for 2 wks. I passed 2 huge clots the first 2 days. I did pass a pretty big one in the shower a week later so if you have any more don't worry that you did not pass everything it sounds like you did. I even had an US and they said everything cleared. But when I had surgery 2 months later for my septate resection they said there was something left over that they removed. I got scared and asked if it could have caused an infection but my RE told me that with each af I had after the mc more and more would have come out and eveything would have eventually passed. So don't worry if you still have clots and periods of heaving bleeding after a few days because it seemed like it was tapering off a few days then it would be heavy again with clots. I know it was a scary ordeal for me so I just don't want you to worry.:hugs: However if your soak through a pad every hr go to the hospital.
 
Monro, how are you feeling? Around 34 weeks, I was beginning to reach the "fed up" stage with pregnancy...I just wanted Hannah OUT. Things do really start to get uncomfy once you get really big, and those little kicks are more like slams and sucker punches in there! LOL! But, I'd do it again in a second for another little Hannah.

Mommy, hope you're doing well. Trust in your body, and let nature do it's thing...I'm sure it'll be fine, and you won't need another D&C. There are no guarantees, but, as long as you're being monitored, the situation won't get out of hand and lead to infections, etc. The most important thing right now, is to take care of your emotional well-being. We know you're shattered, and still grieving...I actually went to a baby loss support group held at my local hospital for families who have suffered from miscarriage, SIDS, stillbirth, or child loss, and it was wonderful. We only met once a month, but we stayed as long as the group wanted, and we just shared our pain, things that bothered us, and held each other up. I also saw a grief counselor, and that helped tremendously. It is okay, and actually very helpful to seek some help...there is no shame in it, and to really MEET people in real-life going through what you're going through...well, it's amazing, and it somehow makes it all more manageable.
 
Thank you so much ladies! Im pretty sure I saw the baby, spine and all on sat so I think that I atleast passed that. I did have bit of clots that passed that I also turned in this morning so we'll see. I asked the dr if they were going to do a follow up US and she told me that she wanted me to get another HCG test done tomorrow and will see if my levels are dropping the way she wants them to. If not, then we will go from there. I thought that they do a scan no matter what to make sure that everything passed but I guess not.
 
Hi. Hoping I can jump in here. :) We're going to start TTC next month & getting fairly nervous at this point- now that it's almost here.
Me: 2 early (6 & 5 weeks) m/cs 5 years ago with my ex.
Hubby has 2 kids from a previous relationship.
 
wookie--Feeling pretty good. It's getting a little uncomfortable now mainly the harder to breath, eating less b/c of no room and most things give me HB but its not bad it that stuck in the throat sensation I don't like. I have had to pee alot more for past 2 wks and bad hip pain at night and this week had increased dicharge and been cramping but mostly due to the loose, dirreahy (sp) type poop (tmi) the past 2 wks. Had dr appt yesterday he said I made it to 34 wks and he is not worried about him coming now. He is head down but I am not dilated. Will get another growth scan in 2 wks. Hopefully stitch will come out then too. I would not mind it if he came before then but I would prefer if he stayed till at least 38 wks.

Never--Congrats on being pregnant again!!!

mommylov--from what I can remeber I had a sono I think either a week later or 2 wks after I started bleeding. However if your numbers are going down properly they might not give you one.:shrug: praying eveything goes by quickly for you.:hugs:

Bibliophile--sorry to hear bout your looses but you have a group of great women for support. Maybe it was your ex that the problem was with and since your Dh has kids maybe you won't have any mc's with him. :hugs:

beach--have you tested yet???
 
Hi Ladies! How is everyone doing? I hope you are all well! :)

Meeting with the RE today. This is our first appt so I think they said that they are going to go over paperwork, meet with an PA and then the dr. Hope this is the begining to us finding answers and resulting in our rainbow baby! <3
 
Mommylov, glad you get to experience going to the RE for some answers in the midst of this difficult time. I have faith that it will lead you down the right path!
 
Good luck with your appointment! :)

Monro- I've thought of that more than once.... But I don't want to count on the issue being my ex just in case it wasn't.
 
Good luck at the RE appt :hugs:

I'm on CD19 today and no ov yet :cry: Getting so frustrated that I wont even O this month. Must be because of the surgery... :shrug:
 
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Thanks ladies!

Biblio, I agree that it could be your ex but no harm is getting things checked out to prevent you from unnecessary heartache (unnecessary meaning there may be an easy fix just waiting for you) :( I hope that you get your rainbow soon! A loss is always heartbreaking :(

Honey, you normally have a 35 day cycle? With your cycle being a little on the longer side, it might just mean that you will O a little later hun. The surgery can def throw things off to with your body normalizing but it still isnt too late to get that + OPK. Are you temping?
 
They did a bunch of blood tests and stuff after #2 but didn't find anything. They'd have to get into checking my uterus (though they've never seen anything on ultrasounds) or genetics at this point and they don't want to do that until after another one. Which is ok... I don't really want to pay for that much more quite yet.

What kind of surgery did you have, Honey?
 
Itas hard when you have tests done and dont get any answers. I had bloodwork and 2 HSG's done and just about everything was fine. The only thing they saw was that I had something called MTHFR (heterozygous) which meant that I didnt process folic acid correctly. Had that corrected with meds and fixed a low progesterone issue and still lost this last baby after seeing a heartbeat. I felt very defeated and just thought there was no hope. Its all still very raw for me but seeing the success stories of the women on here motivates me and Im determined to do all that I can to carry a helathy baby full term. I hope that you are able to find some answers soon hun and that you dont have to go through another loss.
 
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Honey, you normally have a 35 day cycle? With your cycle being a little on the longer side, it might just mean that you will O a little later hun. The surgery can def throw things off to with your body normalizing but it still isnt too late to get that + OPK. Are you temping?

I normally don't have that long of a cycle... my longest in the past 6 months has been 32 days :/ I just changed my ticker hoping I'll at least ov by CD21 :haha:

AF arrived 3 days early after my surgery so maybe that messed me up? :shrug: No idea what's going on in there. I called my RE and he thinks it's just stresses from surgery and told me I should ov this month, just later. If it doesnt happen by Monday (CD24), he told me to call him.

Started temping only a week ago, no rise yet so I know I didnt miss it :(

I tell ya, waiting to ov is worse than the tww! This is driving me crazy :wacko:
 
They did a bunch of blood tests and stuff after #2 but didn't find anything. They'd have to get into checking my uterus (though they've never seen anything on ultrasounds) or genetics at this point and they don't want to do that until after another one. Which is ok... I don't really want to pay for that much more quite yet.

What kind of surgery did you have, Honey?

I had a hysteroscopic polypectomy... basically, they took a polyp out of my uterus! I just like sounding smart :haha:
 
Come on O!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree.... the waiting is just brutal! I was saying the other day that we wish time away during times like this and then when we do eventually have our babies, we will want to freeze time and it will breeze by. We cant win! lol
 

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