A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Inoue]

Welcome to the thread annmarie ~ sorry to hear about your losses . Best of luck with the weight loss aswell, i lost 2 stone and feel ALOT better for it. It was nice not to have the doctor comment on my BMI for a change!

Patiently - im also 24 and DH is 27, been trying for approx 3 years on/off. I also told him to walk away after we lost the second one but he said he wasnt going anywhere, guess were lucky to have men who want us for who we are, not what baggage we carry. Deffinatly try and relax today, wipe your mind. There's absolutly nothing that can be done to change things so dont bother with the stress and worry. I had to say that over and over again to myself before my D&C. Big hugs to you and enjoy your day chilling out xx

 

[annmariecrisp]

Annmarie thank you so much for your words. So sorry for your losses you are such a brave woman. I hope you have your forever baby soon. Have you had any testing done? Good on you for your fertility bracelet! You seem to fall pregnant quite easily so hope the next one sticks. It shouldnt be too long that you have till you see your next bfp! Having a break is good sometimes. It really takes the pressure off. You seem so positive so I will try and take a leaf out of your book even if i can have only a fraction of your positivity it will be more than ive had since my first hpt! Good luck hun and welcome to this thread the ladies on here are amazing and a few of them have gone on to have successful pregnancies so theres hope for us. x x x x

Hi Patiently,
Thank you for saying such lovely things and that I am positive, believe me I have my down days too, but I have gone through so much in the last year that I think unless i look at things in a positive light then i would just breakdown....there has to be light at the end of the tunnel for all of us
I do seem to be able to catch the eggi but can't seem to get it to stay put I hope that my next bean sticks too, i would love to see my beautiful baby one day and give it a massive cuddle I know it will happen when it's meant to happen! I read that your OH can be an arse sometimes i have the same problem...i just think they have no idea what we go through but their heart is in the right place most of the time
The fertility bracelet is seeming to make a difference! I have become ridiculously horny since i started wearing it last week! my OH is sooooo tired because he is working all the hours god sends at the moment so I am not getting as much as I should lol! and it is driving me nuts! Sorry if tmi! also i have had proper O cramps and tons of ewcm on Sunday (don't normally get soooo much!) We dtd on saturday twice but haven't since so I think I have probably missed the eggy this month (even though i am trying hard not to try this month!) however if that bracelet has it's way I would be DTD every day twice a day I honestly thought it was just an old wives tale but it is crazy the difference it's made! and it was only £8 from ebay! BARGAIN! If that brings me my take home baby I promise i will buy you all 1 to try! i'll get a job lot!
Yeah i have had alot of tests and so has OH and we are all normal...i have my first appointment at St Mary's Recurrent Miscarriage clinic in London next tuesday for a 5 hour appointment full of tests...i'm actually very excited about it as I really just want answers so i know what I have to do or what I need to take to help beany stick around! So we'll see....hopefully i will get the answer I want.
In your message you seem to be feeling more positive too.....we are all here for you to talk to and you're right the ladies on this site are amazing and without them I wouldn't have coped half as well as I have so i too have alot to thank you all for.....it just helps to talk to people that really understand and have been through similar.
Positivity breads positivity and we all need hope in our lives because without it we have nothing....so keep strong and be positive and you will be successful I promise
If you ever need to chat then don't hesitate to message me.....there are no strangers in my life...just friends who I haven't met yet...just remember that xxxxxx

 

[justwaiting]

Patiently I know how hard it is for you to think that the spotting could be anything but a loss. just take it a day at a time and hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised.
I told oh to leave me too, the guilt and shame is so intense but they love us for us not for being able to have kids.
Keep positive hun

 

[patiently]

Annmarie hahahaha you really crack me up...getting us all fertility bracelets haha! Hope it does the trick and if you ovulated sunday then im sure you're in with a good chance they say the day before ovulation optimizes your chances right? Hope you do catch the egg even though you are trying hard not to try. Hope you OH will give you the bedroom activity that you desire also...haha! definately not too much info since ttc I have lost all inhibitions about certain things. Well on here at least.

My OH does has his moments and sometimes drives me up the wall but its usually when we were ttc as he felt i was pressuring him too much. Recently i think he's tried to make an effore taking me out almost every night and just being sweet but he does have the occasional slip up and when im moody i am o so moody!! lol...its a wonder how he puts up with me sometimes.

I hope your appointment goes well and you get the answers that you need. FXed for you. Definately agree that positivity breeds positivity so have tried to be positive for now and see what happens tomorrow. I havent actually noticed any spotting on my undies or anything just when i wipe after i use the bathroom and it looks like its mixed with cm (now who has given tmi) lol. All we can do is keep faith and hopefully we will have our babies in our arms soon.

"there are no strangers in my life...just friends who I haven't met yet" such a powerful quote and i love it will definately be using that one from now on too. So glad you have joined us on this thread. and thanks again. It still surprises me that all these women who i have never met can be even more encouraging and supportive then people I have known all of my life. Thanks again hun

PS i dont know any other icons so i keep doing lolol! hopefully i'll find a few more by then end of the day

JW thank you so much i hope i will be pleasantly surprised too. Heres hoping. We are very fortunate to have men in our lives who love us unconditionally! Cheers to our OH's (with water of course) (and though they can be pains sometimes) How are you doing happy 18+6 weeks 19 weeks tomorrow!! whoop whoop!!!

 

[annmariecrisp]

Annmarie hahahaha you really crack me up...getting us all fertility bracelets haha! Hope it does the trick and if you ovulated sunday then im sure you're in with a good chance they say the day before ovulation optimizes your chances right? Hope you do catch the egg even though you are trying hard not to try. Hope you OH will give you the bedroom activity that you desire also...haha! definately not too much info since ttc I have lost all inhibitions about certain things. Well on here at least.

My OH does has his moments and sometimes drives me up the wall but its usually when we were ttc as he felt i was pressuring him too much. Recently i think he's tried to make an effore taking me out almost every night and just being sweet but he does have the occasional slip up and when im moody i am o so moody!! lol...its a wonder how he puts up with me sometimes.

I hope your appointment goes well and you get the answers that you need. FXed for you. Definately agree that positivity breeds positivity so have tried to be positive for now and see what happens tomorrow. I havent actually noticed any spotting on my undies or anything just when i wipe after i use the bathroom and it looks like its mixed with cm (now who has given tmi) lol. All we can do is keep faith and hopefully we will have our babies in our arms soon.

"there are no strangers in my life...just friends who I haven't met yet" such a powerful quote and i love it will definately be using that one from now on too. So glad you have joined us on this thread. and thanks again. It still surprises me that all these women who i have never met can be even more encouraging and supportive then people I have known all of my life. Thanks again hun

PS i dont know any other icons so i keep doing lolol! hopefully i'll find a few more by then end of the day

JW thank you so much i hope i will be pleasantly surprised too. Heres hoping. We are very fortunate to have men in our lives who love us unconditionally! Cheers to our OH's (with water of course) (and though they can be pains sometimes) How are you doing happy 18+6 weeks 19 weeks tomorrow!! whoop whoop!!!

Hey honey thank you for the when you reply there are loads of smileys on the right hand side that you can add xxx
Thank you for a lovely welcome to this thread xxx Will speak later more....just at work at the mo xx
P.S I have booked myself in for some chinese therapy tomorrow....acupuncture and chinese medicine! I have heard it can really help and I havent tried it yet so I shall let you know how I get on xxx
that is my fave smiley

 

[Hopefulk]

Annmarie... What a great smiley! Hahaha!

Patiently... I haven't posted for a while but keeping everything crossed for you.xx

AFM... Think I'm going crazy! Decided ntnp was the at forward so it didn't take over but still all consuming!

Hope everybody's ok today.xxx

 

[Ladyfog]

Patiently, sorry I haven't been around to offer support for the last few days. I have been lurking on and off but just no time to post properly. I have been thinking of you a lot today and just have everything crossed that it's all going to be OK. It's great news that the spotting's stopped and hopefully it's just too early to see anything on the scan.

If this bean hasn't stuck, at least you will be able to have testing so that you can get help if there is a problem, which is the silver lining of this cloud I suppose.

Annemarie, welcome to this threat you sound like a lovely supportive person. I hope you appointment goes well and you get some answers. Good luck with the acupuncture too!

Hi everyone else, I hope your weeks are going OK.

 

[dinidani]

hiya ladies can i join this thread as im currently at a stage of giving up trying alltogether im 18 and my OH is 24 and in the ast 6 months we have suffered affects of a early m/c and a mm/c which was my most recent doctors were happy all of then was saying baby is fine at my scan no heartbeat and a small baby doctors offerme more ultra sound scans after i m/c then when i was and just needed some support as everyone round me work colleges and old school friends are all getting their babys so just hopeing that i can find someone who can help.x

 

[NewToAllThis]

Welcome AnneMarie - sorry for your losses - thanks so much for your reassuring words to everyone and yes, I consider each and every one on BnB as my friends

Welcome dinidani - sorry for your losses - please do not give up hope. I have been trying for over two and a half years and lots of the ladies here have had similar struggles - it may seem like a lifetime but you will get there

Patiently - still keeping everything crossed for you

JW - 19 weeks already, wowzers!

Lady - Happy V day

AFM - had my doctors appointment yesterday and doc has agreed to refer me to FS - finally! He thinks that although I don't quite fit the parameters for referral, that I have suffered enough. Just hope they accept me. I went through a wide range of emotions yesterday - I bawled throughout my appointment and then couldn't seem to stop. I had tears in my eyes for most of the day. I think its as he made me go through my whole history, dating back to when we started way back in August 2009. He was also reading through my notes and it brought it all back like a smack in the face.

to everyone else - no time to comment individually to everyone, sorry xx

 

[Neversaynever]

Patiently...happy 5 weeks keep us posted on today...sending you a loooad of

JW happy 19 weeks

LF....happy V day

Inoue...where are you in your cycle? Well done you on the losing weight

Annemarie...welcome...sorry you found yourself here...a fab bunch of supportive ladies in here...some of us are pregnant and do post in here too as we all started posting at the same time...hope you are ok with that? you caught the eggy...I ahd the most EWCM after my last loss and AF never came....also ony DTD once

DiniDani (DD)....sorry you have also found yourself here lots of support and friendly advice in here so post away

Hopeful...hoping the pretending to NTNP works for you this minth

Lexi...how are you doing hun? and

NTAT...I am so pleased they are finally doing something...have they said anyting about AF? How was hubby?

to everyone... and

AFM...was due date of second baby yesterday...was emotional but today I need to focus on the little dude groing inside of me...

XxX

 

[Ladyfog]

Wow - I've made it to V Day I had to look it up as didn't know what it meant

Welcome dinidani Sorry for your losses and please don't give up after only 6 months . Remember there are couples that don't even get their first BFP until well after this time, so in a way at least you know you can catch the egg. It's really hard when you see friends getting pregnant around you, but just keep on going if you can.

NSN and New, have posted in your journals, but while I'm here.

and and and to everyone else

 

[annmariecrisp]

Patiently...happy 5 weeks keep us posted on today...sending you a loooad of

JW happy 19 weeks

LF....happy V day

Inoue...where are you in your cycle? Well done you on the losing weight

Annemarie...welcome...sorry you found yourself here...a fab bunch of supportive ladies in here...some of us are pregnant and do post in here too as we all started posting at the same time...hope you are ok with that? you caught the eggy...I ahd the most EWCM after my last loss and AF never came....also ony DTD once

DiniDani (DD)....sorry you have also found yourself here lots of support and friendly advice in here so post away

Hopeful...hoping the pretending to NTNP works for you this minth

Lexi...how are you doing hun? and

NTAT...I am so pleased they are finally doing something...have they said anyting about AF? How was hubby?

to everyone... and

AFM...was due date of second baby yesterday...was emotional but today I need to focus on the little dude groing inside of me...

XxX

Hi honey,
Of course I'm fine with ladies being pregnant....it gives me hope and reassurance xxx and thank you for the warm welcome xxx

 

[Inoue]

Inoue...where are you in your cycle? Well done you on the losing weight

AFM...was due date of second baby yesterday...was emotional but today I need to focus on the little dude groing inside of me...

XxX

Im on 7DPO now . Trying to hold off testing, but getting few niggly symptoms which is driving me up the wall! I know how i felt last pregnancy so im waiting to see if i get 'those' symptoms before i waste more tests.

Sorry to hear about the due date memory. My second one was due April 3rd '12 so not looking forward to that . Glad your keeping level minded for your little growing baby, 16 weeks already! ~ how have you got on with this pregnancy? x

 

[patiently]

Im sorry for not reading everyones post but just an update. Today ihad bloods taken again and on monday my prog was 76 and my hcg was 524 which is good for 4-5 weeks but today 48hrs later i took my blood again and its only risen to 697 in 48 hrs so definately a pending mc! Im just devastated i just had a feeling from all the cramping on saturday that things would be ok. I will update more info later but or now i just want to drown in my sorrows. I dont even see the point in living anymore i have NOTHING to look forward to.

 

[lexi374]

Helo ladies sorry ive been MIA! Ive been having a nightmare with b and b! Havent been able to connect with my laptop or phone since monday!!

I went to go on monday and it said it was updating the site and now i can get on at all, just keeps saying google cant connect!
Any ideas?

Have finally managed to get on via dhs worklatop and connected through his work! Pisses me off cos i had to tell him bout this site, and he doesnt need to know!

Had a quick skim so bare with me..... Patiently you were in my thoughts all day mon and then i couldnt see what happened! Big
im really hoping things turn out ok, i did read they dont normally see a sac til 5 weeks so fx. xxx

Lady yay happy v day hun

Ntat glad your doc is finally doing something

to the new ladies

Nsn thinking of you too x

Good luck to those testing soon.

AFM 5dpo starting prog tonight nothing to report, except the girl at work i thought was preggo def is., she told me yest. x

 

[pink80]

Im sorry for not reading everyones post but just an update. Today ihad bloods taken again and on monday my prog was 76 and my hcg was 524 which is good for 4-5 weeks but today 48hrs later i took my blood again and its only risen to 697 in 48 hrs so definately a pending mc! Im just devastated i just had a feeling from all the cramping on saturday that things would be ok. I will update more info later but or now i just want to drown in my sorrows. I dont even see the point in living anymore i have NOTHING to look forward to.

Massive

You will get through this Hun, I know it doesn't feel like now but you will. Have they given you a plan of action? Are they going to refer you for testing now? Go easy on yourself xx

 

[lexi374]

Patiently sorry hun we must have posted at the same time.

Im so sad that you are going through this again, but please dont give up just yet.

I think you should go for testing when you feel up to it, you never know they may find something that is simple to fix...?

I know theres nothing i can say to make it better, but im thinking of you, rest up and let oh take care of you.

Not sure how much ill get on here til we get this connection problem sorted. x

 

[FloridaGirl21]

Im sorry for not reading everyones post but just an update. Today ihad bloods taken again and on monday my prog was 76 and my hcg was 524 which is good for 4-5 weeks but today 48hrs later i took my blood again and its only risen to 697 in 48 hrs so definately a pending mc! Im just devastated i just had a feeling from all the cramping on saturday that things would be ok. I will update more info later but or now i just want to drown in my sorrows. I dont even see the point in living anymore i have NOTHING to look forward to.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Your levels haven't started falling yet, so I'm still keeping everything crossed for you

 

[patiently]

Thank you ladies for your words. But im not hopeful anymore. I just feel emotionally drained and now I dont even know how long i will have to wait before my mc actually starts because I dont have any spotting/cramping or bleeding. I have just written a mammoth of a story in my journal so feel free to read up all the events of today. I will go for testing but its just a shame that I have to go through this again before anything was tested in the first place. Its like they want to see how committed you are to having a baby and try to drag out the procedure as long as possible. I dont even know what the testing is for and how long the process takes. TBH im just thinking why bother try again?

Happy 24 weeks Lady thats great news x x x

Lexi FXed for you hun. Hope you get your bfp in less than 9 days!!! How do you feel about your colleague being pregnant? Sending lots of sticky baby dust to you hun x

 

[Ladyfog]

Patiently, there's nothing much I can say for now apart from send you a big . It will get better hun, and testing will hopefully get you some answers. You will feel stronger again, just take care of yourself for now