A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[BeachChica]

Hey girls! Sorry I have been MIA for a few days. Just did a quick skim through everyone's posts and I hope everything is good.

To all the Newbies - welcome and sorry for your losses!

Patiently - I am so sorry girl I am really praying that its just early for you and that everything will be OK.

AnnMarie - Have you had any of the tissue from your MC's tested? I am in the same boat as you... easily pregnant but 4 losses and still TTC #1. I am 38.

 

[justwaiting]

Patiently I'm so sorry. Life is so cruel.
I hope the testing gives you answers and some hope for the future. Your hope will come back but in the mean time look after your self and get some rest. I hope this is over quickly for you.

 

[Sooperhans]

Hi everyone including Annmarie, Dinidani and sorry for your losses. My 1st mc was a mmc, hopefully we will all get there v soon with forever babies. Annmarie, Oooh this fertility bracelet sounds intriguing! What's it made of??

Ntat - sorry I am showing my acronym ignorance but what does FS stand for? Glad you have a referral, and I hope any medical support you get helps you on your journey to your baby

Lady, happy v day! Had to look it up but that's great, so happy for you being able to tick off your milestones. How are you feeling?

Nsn - sounds like you are being really strong and focusing on the positive, hope yesterday's anniversary wasn't too tough for you. My first DD will be on the 31st July, which was also my nan's birthday, who has now passed. So I'll be really sad but also trying to think about her. How are you feeling in your pregnancy?

Inoue, Oooh I hope you get a bfp in a matter of days then!

Lexi, I hope you get on well with the progesterone and I hope you are coping with the news of your colleague's pregnancy. I had to go to a work lunch yday, seeing 2 friends from my team with their babies both on maternity leave. I completely panicked and worried about it and dreaded it tbh which I felt bad about but another colleague really helped me and said she would come out with if at any point I wanted to go.

Patiently....I'm so sorry sweetheart, it's so unfair to be going through what you have these past few days. Massive I've been thinking of you and hoping you are kind to yourself, take some time out to build yourself back up to fighting fitness. I know that it won't be a comfort right now but I hope they can test and find a quick fix for you hun

Afm...I'm on day 3 of temping and wondered is it better to wake up naturally to temp, or set an alarm? I usually wake up at about 4 or 5 points in the night anyway and the last couple of days I've taken the reading before the alarm. Just wondering what works for everyone?

I've been so emotional this week, I sobbed on a colleague at lunchtime and at some points I don't feel like I can cope. I'm excited to ttc again but I think it's brought up all my fears and worries. I'm scared to be pregnant again but I want to be so much. So catch 22 of emotions right now

Hope everyone is well xxx

 

[annmariecrisp]

Hey girls! Sorry I have been MIA for a few days. Just did a quick skim through everyone's posts and I hope everything is good.

To all the Newbies - welcome and sorry for your losses!

Patiently - I am so sorry girl I am really praying that its just early for you and that everything will be OK.

AnnMarie - Have you had any of the tissue from your MC's tested? I am in the same boat as you... easily pregnant but 4 losses and still TTC #1. I am 38.

Hi - No they haven't tested it because I have had natural m/c's at home....no DNC's. I am 35 this year....ttc number 1 too! I am going to the recurrent miscarriage clinic at St Mary's in London next tuesday and I have heard that it is the best in Europe so am hoping they give me some answers.
It gets me down but I have to try and remember that if it's meant to be then it will happen if not we will look for other alternatives if we have to xxx

 

[annmariecrisp]

Hi everyone including Annmarie, Dinidani and sorry for your losses. My 1st mc was a mmc, hopefully we will all get there v soon with forever babies. Annmarie, Oooh this fertility bracelet sounds intriguing! What's it made of??

Ntat - sorry I am showing my acronym ignorance but what does FS stand for? Glad you have a referral, and I hope any medical support you get helps you on your journey to your baby

Lady, happy v day! Had to look it up but that's great, so happy for you being able to tick off your milestones. How are you feeling?

Nsn - sounds like you are being really strong and focusing on the positive, hope yesterday's anniversary wasn't too tough for you. My first DD will be on the 31st July, which was also my nan's birthday, who has now passed. So I'll be really sad but also trying to think about her. How are you feeling in your pregnancy?

Inoue, Oooh I hope you get a bfp in a matter of days then!

Lexi, I hope you get on well with the progesterone and I hope you are coping with the news of your colleague's pregnancy. I had to go to a work lunch yday, seeing 2 friends from my team with their babies both on maternity leave. I completely panicked and worried about it and dreaded it tbh which I felt bad about but another colleague really helped me and said she would come out with if at any point I wanted to go.

Patiently....I'm so sorry sweetheart, it's so unfair to be going through what you have these past few days. Massive I've been thinking of you and hoping you are kind to yourself, take some time out to build yourself back up to fighting fitness. I know that it won't be a comfort right now but I hope they can test and find a quick fix for you hun

Afm...I'm on day 3 of temping and wondered is it better to wake up naturally to temp, or set an alarm? I usually wake up at about 4 or 5 points in the night anyway and the last couple of days I've taken the reading before the alarm. Just wondering what works for everyone?

I've been so emotional this week, I sobbed on a colleague at lunchtime and at some points I don't feel like I can cope. I'm excited to ttc again but I think it's brought up all my fears and worries. I'm scared to be pregnant again but I want to be so much. So catch 22 of emotions right now

Hope everyone is well xxx

Hiya,
The bracelet is made from rose quartz, amethyst and moonstone and has a turtle charm, rose quartz is supposed to promote love and happiness and is a healing stone for our lady bits, amethyst is very similar but promotes sexual relations and moonstone is the one that is specifically for conception and helping implantation and pregnancy. turtles are the charm of fertility apparently due to the amount of eggs they lay....google it...I found it really interesting xxx

 

[annmariecrisp]

Thank you ladies for your words. But im not hopeful anymore. I just feel emotionally drained and now I dont even know how long i will have to wait before my mc actually starts because I dont have any spotting/cramping or bleeding. I have just written a mammoth of a story in my journal so feel free to read up all the events of today. I will go for testing but its just a shame that I have to go through this again before anything was tested in the first place. Its like they want to see how committed you are to having a baby and try to drag out the procedure as long as possible. I dont even know what the testing is for and how long the process takes. TBH im just thinking why bother try again?

Happy 24 weeks Lady thats great news x x x

Lexi FXed for you hun. Hope you get your bfp in less than 9 days!!! How do you feel about your colleague being pregnant? Sending lots of sticky baby dust to you hun x

Oh honey, I'm so sorry....please get lot's of rest (physical and mental), get your OH to give you cuddles and lot's of them. I'm sending loads of hugs your way xxx It is horrible now I know but please don't give up....it will happen for you I just know it. If you ever need a break you can always pop down to sunny brighton and see me for a weekend with your OH. I know we don't know each other well but as I have said in another thread sometimes you just need a break and our house is like an open house most of the time we've alway got people staying with us for a night here and there
If you want to chat let me know....I'm here for you xxxxxx

 

[patiently]

My older sister just came around uninvited to tell me how out of order i was yesterday for aksing my pregnant sister not to talk about pregnancy right now. My mum has also jumped on the bandwagon and has said that is horrible for them to feel awkward about what to say just because ive had mc's! They keep yelling at me saying its not easy on them. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? on them??? I can feel some major cramping right now and really fell that this is the start of my mc yet they feel to bombard me with their feelings about my mc's. My mum said that i cant be supportive one minute then just because im losing my baby ask everyone to not talk about it. I asked for her to stop speaking just until we got out of the car because she was talking about it for the ENTIRE journey. Is that so much to ask? When i was laying in the bath today i really felt to put my head under and keep it there! I just want to not feel this pain. Not only am i going through another mc i have to deal with my family critising me on how im dealing with it. I tried to make an appointment with my gp to see if i can get some help but she said to try and call again tomorrow. This is the lowest i felt in my entire life and i really feel i have nothing to live for. I love my OH so much he is so supportive and has even gone into my phone to get my sisters number and speak to her about how insensitive she is being but thankfully i talked him out of it. There is no point. I have told my family that i refuse to talk about it with them. i am trying to keep my distance as much as possible. Im not asking for help im asking for them to be considerate for a little while. Its literally day 1!

 

[BeachChica]

Oh patiently - I am so sorry for what you are going through. Please try to pick yourself up and be strong. You will get through this and you will get your happy ending. You are just going to have to work a little harder at it. You family is being very inconsiderate in my opinion. I totally understand where you are coming from and they should be sensitive to your feelings during such an emotional and difficult time. Maybe you could use a little space from them and find other avenues to vent with people that understand (like us!!!). Glad OH is being supportive too. When you do get your happy ending, its going to be so much more special because you had to work so hard to get there. Lots of Hang in there girl!!

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you AnnMarie, they are interesting! And quite pretty too...I do love the sheen of moonstone and have an eye for colour esp. green (can you tell by my wedding shoes, lol) and they have an eBay one with green stones included. If it works for you then I'm purchasing! Good luck at the recurrent clinic next week and let is know what they say. Xxx

Patiently, I'm shocked at how your family are behaving, it's the very last thing you need and shows real emotional immaturity. I agree that you should distance yourself and take this time for you, lean on your oh, friends if they understand and us here of course. You don't need that sort of bad energy at the moment, I'm sorry you are having such a bad time, I hope you are resting up lots

 

[NewToAllThis]

Patiently - your family are OUT OF ORDER!
Let's hope nothing like what you're going through happens to them. They are blissfully unaware therefore do not understand at all how it can affect people.
I am so annoyed that they cannot see if from your point of view. I would tell them that they best stay away if they can't be a little more understanding.

Please don't do anything silly sweetie. You feel at rock bottom now, but I promise you it will get better. I felt like you after the loss of my twins but I now have a renewed sense of hope. Take some time out for yourself, be selfish and boll*cks to anyone who doesn't like it!

 

[wookie130]

It's been a while since I checked in here, but I hope everyone is doing as well as possible!

Patiently, I know you don't know me very well (not a lot of girls on this thread do), but first of all I'm so sorry it's happening to you again. And, I guess the only thing I can say about your family's behavior right now, is that they can kiss the Wookie's lily-white ass! Because unless you've gone through pregnancy loss, and I mean even once, much less MULTIPLE times, you can either offer SUPPORT, love, and TLC, or just give you much-needed space. How dare THEY for not supporting YOU!!!! Again, I'm so very sorry for their abhorrent behavior. You kick your feet up, have a cup of tea, and take care of yourself. You do NOT need that rotten shit now, and remember that you have support here on BnB!

AFM, my first post-miscarriage AF arrived on 3/9, and lasted about 5 days. My OB wants me to wait 1 more cycle (so sometime in April) before trying again, as she's going to put me back on the 50 mg of clomid due to my slightly low progesterone. And, hell, It worked the first time, as I got my BFP my first cycle taking it. I guess I'm terrified it won't work as well this time, and it will be yet another struggle to GET pg, let alone sustain the pregnancy. This time, I've upped my folic acid intake (I'm taking 1200 mcg), I'm taking a B-50 complex, I've given up caffeine entirely, and I'm on 1 baby aspirin a day. I met with my doctor, and she wiil NOT test after 2 losses. I HAVE to wait for a third. She's convinced I'll be third-time lucky for some reason. And I just don't know anymore, really.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Sooperhans. FS is fertility specialist. Sorry we appear to be speaking in riddles but you'll soon pick it up

Quick update: I have my referral letter. It's a choose and book system whereby you go on a website and choose an.appointment date and time.
My dilemma now is that I have 3 options of hospitals and want to pick the best obviously.
I'll do some research but if anyone in the UK has any info I'd appreciate it. My options are
1) Liverpool Women's Hospital
2) Countess of Chester Hospital
3) Arrowe Park Hospital

Option 2 is my local hospital and where I had both ERPC's but I cam easily travel to either of the others.

 

[justwaiting]

Patiently that is the last thing you need. your sister has every minute of her day to talk about her pregnancy to whomever she likes, I don't think it's too much to ask that she keeps it to a minimum around you. She can talk everyone elses ear off. Your mum and sister are out of line and for your own sake and sanity I would ask hubby to take their calls and distance yourself for a bit. You need support right now nothing else. I don't give a crap how uncomfortable it is for them around you, your the one going through it and not them.
I'm sorry it makes me so angry that your going thru this pain again and your family is being so shitty about it.

 

[Sooperhans]

Thanks Ntat! I even googled it but it came up with loads of meanings that I was still stumped. Well that's fantastic, I'm sure whichever you choose you will find help and support.

Wookie I feel the same apprehension about trying again and it all working out, I hope in April you get baby success! We're officially ttc again and I'm trying to temp going forward, but I wake up so much in the night usually that I worry I'm not getting an accurate reading. I guess it's all relative though. I'll be on progesterone 4dpo, so I'm hoping the ov will be obvious!

Patiently I hope you are ok today Happy Friday to everyone! Xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Sooperhans - Good luck with the temping! Have you temped before so that you have some idea how you cycle typically goes?

 

[pink80]

Patiently - I can't believe your family are behaving this way, it's terrible. I think you need to distance yourself from them for a while. You need to take care of you and no one else. How are you feeling today???

Sooperhans - good luck with the temping, it's easy once you get into a routine. I wake up quite often, but I can still see a pattern.

to all you other ladies

to anyone who needs it

Have a lovely weekend all xx

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you Beach and Pink! Nope, never temped before, so I'm hoping the results are pretty clear as I go along. On cd9 today, got a bit of a spike from 36.2something to 36.4 the last few days...I need to put my chart on here when I'm not logged in through my phone, how do I do this? So weekend will be cd10/11, we're ramping the bd'ing up and will see what happens (fx'd) xxx

 

[patiently]

Hi ladies im so tried and exhausted from all of these emotions. Well today i went back to epau and had my bloods taken. Monday they were 524 Wednesday they were 698 and today they have doubled in 48hrs to 1,211. I had a scan and still we cannot see anything in my uterus. The dr said that we normally see a sac at numbers around 1,500. However on wednesday I had sharp pains on my left side for almost the whole day. Since then i have had the odd twinge on both sides occasionally but not in any form of pain. When the dr checked my left tube she said that she could see a mass in my tube and said that I am having an ectopic pregnancy and it got far worst after hearing that. She told me to hang about and see another dr. We did an internal check where she put pressure from inside and on my abdomen and asked if i was in any pain to which i wasnt. She then said that its likely to be an ectopic but she was still hopeful as my progesterone is now 73 from 76 on monday. I am still spotting, but not cramping. She told me to return on sunday for further bloods and if my hcg level has doubled she should be able to see it on the scan. If it has only risen but not doubled then she is quite sure that its ectopic. So i would have to request either a shot to terminate the pregnancy or have surgery something that i really dont want as they will have to take my tube too. It just gets from bad to worst. I really believe that the baby would've made it in my uterus. But i do strongly feel that its in my left tube. The waiting is the hardest part. What do you ladies think im not sure of what to expect with an ectopic and if the signs im having point towards that.

 

[Sooperhans]

Oh my goodness, what a week you have had!! Firstly that's brilliant your hcg levels have shot up so much - when I had my bloods taken they told me with an ectopic they level out and don't double, so I think yours is a good sign? They mentioned this to me because of my left side pain but it wasn't in the end an ectopic. They said shoulder pain was a sign of ectopic and I had to let them know quickly if I got that.

What colour spotting are you getting? Have they said anything about that? I hope you get on well on Sun, do as little as possible and I have absolutely everything crossed for you

 

[patiently]

Thank you for your reply sooperhans. I am spotting brown blood and when they done the ultrasound there was blood separating the endiometrium lining (sorry cant spell it right lol) Thats where they believe the blood is coming from. In about 15% or ectopics develop like normal pregnancies though so im not too excited. I am so nervous and drained. Have you ever had an ectopic?