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[libbyam2003]

aw aspe sorry!

 

[libbyam2003]

thats a long time to wait, grrrrr!!!

 

[libbyam2003]

ok I looked at my calendar... I think I had my gender scan at 19 weeks last time.

 

[MnJ]

Anatomy scans already? Wow! Time is flying. I have my fx'd for a boy for you.

I imagine mine is early just because I'm high risk.. it's the high risk doctor doing it, not my OB.

 

[janelleybean]

Aspe, your post is positive! You're going to finally see a gynecologist and get some answers!! Even more so, if your doctor gets the okay from a gyno, then you'll be able to get an ultra sound and see your ovaries. I know how you feel about wanting answers. But you have to also accept the fact that your personal doctor doesn't have them all, but a gynecologist will and if they don't they will refer you to a specialist. We're all here for you and we'll all give you the best advice that we can. Did you mention to your doctor about taking the vitex?

I think maybe you should take a break from checking your cervix. It seems to really be stressing you out and you're worrying more than you need to....

I'm sorry you're so upset, it's never fun having an emotional melt down, but just know we're all going to support you and we'll all be here for you. No matter what!

 

[MnJ]

Aspe - 2+ months?!?! That's insane!!! I'm so sorry. Also, please don't apologize for anything that you post. We're all here to talk about anything. If you're having a bad day, then you need to pour it all out and vent!!! It totally sucks that you have to wait so long BUT at least now you have the ball rolling. It's a start!! I know 2 months sounds like forever away though. I have no clue what vitex is... can you explain?

 

[kerrie24]

I didnt know what vitex was either but I googled and its called agnus castus over here,its an alternative remedy which can boost fertility.

 

[HisGrace]

Aspe

Janelle and Misty are right. Post all your news, good and bad. We are here to listen. And sometimes it's just good to get it off your chest. And please stop checking your cervix. I too can tell it's causing more harm than good. The bright side is you are in the process of getting answers.

 

[MnJ]

I just googled vitex too (good idea Kerrie!! ), sounds a lot like what Clomid does. And I third the motion on the table... stop checking your cervix! I think it will just irritate your cervix on top of stressing you out. Go the opk and bbt route maybe for the next couple of months and see what those do for you. Just a thought...

 

[kerrie24]

I have heard of people checking their cervix before,but I cant even reach mine??

 

[AngelSerenity]

Hi ladies, just checking in. Life is a bit stressful and pants at the moment. I'm working 12 days on the trot so can just about get on to lurk. I don't feel up to posting much but I am trying to keep up!!!

Hopefully I'll be back to normal business soon. I think I'm just a little down as I'm still WTT, people pregnant everywhere and I am having no luck finding a new job and time is rumbling on until I probably finish.

On the up I am getting my hysterscopy on the 22nd. I'm not nervous about the procedure, just the results. Just praying my body hasnt changed a lot since my laparoscopy in 2008.

Glad to read nearly everybody is doing well. Aspe, I agree with the other ladies, and sorry to be blunt but you do need to try and stop checking that cervix. It's only a secondary sign for things. Good news about your appointment, I hope things go well.

xoxo

 

[Alr83]

Grace- last time my dr did the same thing billing monthly so it was pd at time of delivery. Altho, any appts before 10 wks dont fall under the global billing and are billed as separate exams.

Janelle- yay for the alien! Lol

Aspe- so sorry. But atleast you'll get to see a gyn. Yes 2 mo's is hard to wait, especially when we are all impatient.

Unfortunatly, here in the next couple yrs, we here in usa, can start to expect the same thing and to see a lot of our good dr's quit due to the great obamacare (i'm going to go vomit now). We are going to lose the freedom of getting quick appts, not needing referrals to gyn's, and see a lot of forced things, and dr's who believe in natural medicine will be forced out....they already are. Sorry if that offends anyone, but if you want free healthcare then find a job that gives it. We can't afford a nhs, and I don't want to pay for everyone else and lose our hc bc it's cheaper for my husbands job to pay the fines for not providing it than continuing.

Ok, rant over. Same news here. Still sick, and puking again. Blah

I have invited my grandma for thanksgiving. Which means our spare room which is a junk room had to be cleaned out. Not done, but I way over did it and am paying for it. Chiropractor for me on Mon. Guess, i'll also be doing thanksgiving dinner. My mom said she would order it from a really good cook we know, but I really want to control the ingred. I think my gma can take care of the raw bird tho. Yuck.

So based on lmp i'd be end of first tri before thanksgiving, but new dates 1 1/2 wks later. I think we are waiting to use it as a christmas surprise for everyone. My mom knows bc she is ordering my meds through their practice, and really my stepdad should have known bc it's his practice but we didn't tell him. But thanks to the hosp, even after I asked them to remove him from the reports they sent it anyway. So he knows, but knows to keep it quiet. Didn't even say anything when I saw him last wk. Thank God most of the girls in the office really don't know who I am and wouldn't have realized whose info they had or the world including in-laws would know. I am dreading telling them, or moreso delivery. They will be mad when my mom gets M and they don't. Oh, well. Jim and I have agreed that they get no unsupervised time with her....one of us are always in the same room with her. I won't risk the anger and hate towards me to get put on her and bc of this there have already been instances that her life has been put in danger and a death threat made. I don't care how much they hate me, but to put M in this position is only hurting them by affecting their time with her. According to them, M has not been left with anyone in her 4 yrs. We just don't tell them my mom gets her.

One of jim's friends lost their 2nd child at birth and his mom told me 'they'll be ok. I don't understand why they are upset, they didn't get to know this child.' What?! I really hope she only said it to me, since she is soooooo different around everyone else. Guess, I won't expect them to understand how it hurts even for mc or the vanishing twin, if they are ever told.

*sigh.....i just don't get it and probably never will.

 

[armymama2012]

Ok well my daughter's appointment didn't go as well as I hoped. She is supposed to be saying between 10-15 words but is only saying 5. She is also supposed to be actively walking but has refused to walk on her own ( even one step) for the past 3 weeks. Doctor says if she isn't walking by January then he recommends 2-3 months of physical therapy. If she isn't saying at least 15 understandable ( not necessarily correct) words by 2 years old than we should look into a speech therapist for a year or two. I hope things sort out!

 

[HisGrace]

Hi Angel. I hope your surgery goes well and you get a job offer soon.

 

[Alr83]

Aww, nicole. Sorry it didn't go well. Was she walking? Maybe some interesting stories where she say the words of animals or whatever while pointing them out. We've always made a point to not baby talk or repeat the cute but incorrect pronunciation, so m hears them correctly. I'd say some books. And if she was walking or somewhat can then just don't do it for her even tho it's easier and she wants you too. Maybe like M being more 'needy' since i've felt so horrible.

Angel, good luck with your procedure. I hope it goes well.

 

[Alr83]

Nicole, how old is she now?

 

[armymama2012]

Aww, nicole. Sorry it didn't go well. Was she walking? Maybe some interesting stories where she say the words of animals or whatever while pointing them out. We've always made a point to not baby talk or repeat the cute but incorrect pronunciation, so m hears them correctly. I'd say some books. And if she was walking or somewhat can then just don't do it for her even tho it's easier and she wants you too. Maybe like M being more 'needy' since i've felt so horrible.

Angel, good luck with your procedure. I hope it goes well.

She started taking steps on her own in late September. She took 4 one week and 4 the next but hasn't taken a single step since then. She will walk holding our hands and she cruises really well.

She loves books so I read her 2-3 books every day. She also will flip through pages on her own and babble like she is reading it. Wondering if flash cards or some other activity will help her.

 

[armymama2012]

Nicole, how old is she now?

She is just over 18 months.

 

[janelleybean]

Angel, I've missed you! My in laws left for Ireland Tuesday. I miss them. Keep me posted on your surgery, I'm sure all will go well. I'm thinking positive for you.

Nicole, don't you worry! One day your daughter will just belt out words! That's what happened with my son. He talks your ear off now, sometimes I can't get him to shut up, but I enjoy it. He's talking in complete sentences now. Sometimes it takes him a little longer to get the words put together, but I enjoy watching his little brain work. Sometimes they like to study you before they actually begin to talk. As for walking.. My son was walking by 9 months. He did not want to crawl. He crawled for a couple weeks and that was it. We got him one of those firetuck/lego things for christmas. The kind where all the blocks go in the seat. Anyway, he would grab on the back and push it around and walk. Have you tried any toys like that? I would just give her time. You've still got 6 months to go. You don't want to rush it.

Amber, your in laws sound a bit like my family. There is no way in hell I would leave either one of my parents alone with my son. After seeing how my mom cared for my grandma I don't think I could ever trust her to care for my son. I remember we told my parents that if something were to happen to us that our son would go to dan's parents and they were livid!! But I just flat out told them that dan's parents are more financially stable than they ever would be and we wanted what was best. They didn't like it, but they had to accept it. If they bitch, I would just tell them the truth.. Your parents aren't crazy psychos. LOL just kidding.

 

[Alr83]

Lol janelle. I feel like my in-laws are the crazy psychos! I feel bad for my husband. He doesn't understand this either. Just that I didn't live up to what they wanted as a replacement. They had already ruined their chances of watching M before she was born. Then tells everyone I won't let them see her or my husband. It's up to him when we/they visit.

Nicole, just keep working with her. See if she'll repeat things after you point them out. She'll come around. And janelle is right, once they start they don't stop.