Adoption journey

[aimze]

Rainy I really hope they send you your perfect match profile soon...did any of the family finding invited seem worth attending?

X

 

[Rainy123]

The events were ridiculous really, one is a3 hour drive away and one is over 4 hours away. I am not quite as down in the dumps about it all but frustrated with SW who keeps promising to phone and doesn't. I've day it will all be worth it....one day!

 

[aimze]

Quite a trek, we went to one last week which was 2 hrs away...because of our ethnicity there wasn't one child so total waste of time and quite annoyed we had even been invited...

Hope everyone's had a lovely weekend xx

 

[Monkey78]

Hi Everyone
Sorry Ive missed all your news, Its been really hectic since Xmas.

Rainy - really sorry to hear your news, dont give up, your little one is out there and will come to you very soon. Big hugs.

Dream - your little boy sounds adorable, and crawling already, how your life has changed, it all sounds wonderful.

Lolly - Your meeting with the BP's sounds scary, but I bet you feel really glad you did it ? I am in mixed minds about meeting birth parents, but guess you know when the time is right you will do it. Good luck with SW visits, sure it will all go swimmingly.

Karen - any luck with your job?

Aimze - Your panel day is the day before mine !! Am jealous you are seeing so many profiles though, our agency only show profiles once we are approved boo hoo.

So news with me, I left my job last Thursday, I made up my mind and just could not take any more, it was making me so depressed. I have a week off (well I have a list of chores as long as my arm!!) and I start a 3 month contract job next Monday, which I am really excited about.

Our PAR is now signed off, we had our list visit with SW on Friday which lasted from 9.30 - 5pm !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Which finished with us signing the document and me having a huge glass of wine ! Am so excited its all done. We finished our family album too, we are so pleased with it, it makes me cry every time I look at it.

So we are at panel on Feb 20th. We are busy decorating, and pulling bathroom to bits at the moment, so house is full of dust. We have brought our buggie (we got the Britax Affinity) which we luv, so we actually feel like its all happening at last. Our SW did mention a new born baby to us on Friday, she is finding out some more details, but they are trying to place the baby with the two siblings, but if they cant do this then they will place the baby elsewhere... Im not getting excited but the strangest thing was I had an exact premonition 2 days prior that she was going to tell us that !! How weird... Well we shall see, but as I said they dont normally show profiles until after panel.

I think that is all my news for now.

Hi to everyone else.
xxxxx

 

[aimze]

Aahhhh good to hear from you Moneky!!

Exciting feb for us that was some long visit!!!!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Go monkey!!! But wow did you need that glass of wine! Very excited for the two panels coming up, eeek ladies!! xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek girls! How exciting! Once panel is done it gets exciting!!
Things are all good here, I'm shattered but that's just standard these days! I think we've been doing too much so need to scale it back a bit! I find that we're constantly busy with visitors and play dates, sometimes as much as 3 activities a day and it's wearing me out! Little man seems ok but I feel awful I worry that we're missing out on the simple things! So this week is ram packed and then I've decided I am just saying no to people! No, thank you, we don't want visitors, no, we don't want to play. I want to sit at home and paint with my boy, to walk to the shops and feed the ducks. Next week we will do these things as I'm scared I'm missing out on precious moments with him just trying to please everyone else!

 

[aimze]

Aww dream does sound hectic but you're right! Tell them no! How long are you taking of work? X

 

[dreamofabean]

I'm Back at the end of July for a few days so that I get paid over the summer hols (I teach). So July, but only for a week and then off til sept! I'm trying to see whether I can work it so I don't return but I'm unsure If I can!
I honestly don't want to ever go back! I wanna stay home with my boy!! X

 

[aimze]

Awwww dream I hope you can figure out a way to stay at hme!

I'm hoping I can do part time but staying at home 100% would be amazing! Just don't think We can get quite enough cash for it to be possible..would be bloody amazing though!!!

X

 

[Monkey78]

Aaah Dream, it all sounds lovely but I can understand how you are feeling, it will be so precious for you to spend time just the two of you feeding ducks etc, and you can hopefully relax a bit too.

I know Im going to feel the same about working and wanting to be a full time mum,its so hard these days to get the balance right, but Im sure it will all work out alright in the end.

Will keep you posted on Panel, am so excited
xx

 

[aimze]

Us too Monkey! I just really want family finding to be quick, it's killing me seeing all these profiles an thinking of all these potential matches and then they're not the 'right' child...I understand it's only been a few weeks of family finding so far but we really don't want to look at loads of profiles

 

[aimze]

Hows everyone doing?

Well still no news here from SW...PAR been sent a week ago so im guessing that its a no, would be nice to know though!!

 

[Rainy123]

Oh aimze, I hate the not knowing. If it's a no, I would rather just be told so I can get on with the next step.

I am trying to get on with life and hope that my child finds their way to me soon. SW said that I am losing out because I'm a singlie every time which really sucks because there's nothing I can really do.

 

[aimze]

Rainy that's so sad that because you're a single adopter you're loosing out you can still offer all the love!!! makes me sad!

Yep I'd just like a no, I feel like until they say no I'm just stuck in this horrible limbo land, it's more the fact My queries aren't being answered is annoying...x

 

[aimze]

Update....Social worker updated....everyone meeting on Tuesday to decide who suits him best!! Eeeeeeeccck!

 

[dreamofabean]

Eeekk!! Fingers crossed honey!! X

 

[aimze]

Thanks dream got a small unexpected amount of cash so weekend with hubster! X

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Goodluck Aimze!! That's awesome news....sorry I haven't been on in FOREVER...just been super busy our girls have about 4 appointments a week an hour drive out each way there and back...(2 hour round trip) so I rarely get on here anymore!! I miss seeing everyone's progress!! I hope you're all doing wonderful I love seeing happy stories it's so amazing

On February 21st we will have had our girls for 1 whole year....its' so amazing how time flies!

 

[Rainy123]

Fingers crossed aimze!