Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Sorry Aimze, in my rage I missed your post! That's wonderful! Do you have any more meetings like medical advisor or health visitor? Or is it countdown to panel now? xxx

Thanks Dream. At the time it was all a bit jumbled in my head and I kind of dismissed it, but DF now said she said it to him too so I'm fuming! I'll be setting anyone straight if they dare try to say that to me again!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Lolly it would be interesting to know whether she appealed the adoptions of her other children...

 

[Lolly1985]

The other children are in long term foster care Dream. She still gets to see them once a month so isn't bothered. Sadly they are too traumatised to ever be put forward for adoption Says it all right?

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh gosh lolly it certainly does! Poor little mites

 

[Lolly1985]

They all had to suffer and will continue to suffer for my little girl to be removed at birth and have the life they all should have had. Contact recently went from twice a month to once because she was being inappropriate. It was threatened to be stopped all together. Remind me again why I'm worrying, there are a hundred reasons why she won't win this. It's just a horrible hassle but realistically she doesn't have a hope in hell and we'll fight all the way. Just wish we didn't have to. Sadly its becoming more the norm and really shouldn't be allowed xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

So the saga continues and do you know what, I really don't think at this stage any of this is fair on adopters. Little pinks case has been to court three times before we met her, enough chances. Also when I break it down in don't think it's ethical to be giving vulnerable people like birth parents false hope. Last night I had our stand in social worker and little pinks social worker call, after hours and I really appreciated that as really it was above and beyond. The placing authority's legal team don't think there is a case for full appeal and don't think further action is needed at this stage. Hard because we are proactive people but great as they feel it's clear cut at this stage. Judge knows the family well from previous proceedings with siblings which is good and all the notes from the birth parent meeting contradict the letter which has been submitted so it's clear she's falsified information. Little pinks social worker and manager are going to visit birth mum as way of reassurance that little pink is thriving, settled, happy and very loved. I do think she will still attempt this appeal but hoping it is thrown out. Sounds positive for us but I won't have faith until I hear categorically. I won't have faith until she is all ours forever.

 

[LolaM]

I am SO sorry you have to go through this. It shouldn't even be an OPTION, if the child is placed for permanency, then they are placed for permanency. nothing more to say.
We have our first of 2 court sessions tomorrow and I am very nervous. baby boy only knows us as his mama and daddy and I am terrified of what will happen to him if he is taken away from us. He is settled and he is thriving and he is HAPPY but the judge blows right past that as if we said nothing. I wish CPS would just go away and leave my baby boy alone!

 

[aimze]

Lolly I so agree that these step should be for the adopters to legally adopt not the birth parents exercising their final control

Dream how is your court stuff going?

Lola I hope too that little man stays where he is now!

Monkey, rainy, any news? Everyone in the groups approved now! We'll all be mummies s

 

[aimze]

Mummies soon!

We have no more appointments...paperwork sent off & waiting for panel in less than 4 weeks x

 

[Lolly1985]

So sorry you are going through all this too Lola, it's so upsetting I too have had the fear of what will happen to my baby if she ever went back, that's the thoughts and feelings of a responsible mother which is what we both are. Will be thinking of you, please keep us posted

We have heard again from placing authority that judge is 'not optimistic of an appeal being granted', praying nothing changes. Next hearing is on DFs birthday, it better be a good birthday present that's all I can say! Feeling a lot better at the moment though and hope it lasts, I hit rock bottom last week and I don't want to again Ahhh, makes me so angry! Have been looking into all this and apparently the law allowing all this only passed September last year!

Aimze Ihow brilliant, so excited for you xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all, hope you're all well
Lola I hope court went ok for you!
Lolly I'm sure that nothing will change, keep the faith honey!
Aimze how exciting! Are you all organised for his arrival now? Eek!!
We are off on a long weekend away tomorrow we've booked a caravan in wales from fri-Monday my mom and her oh are coming with us until Sunday too which should be lovely! I'm just trying to pack and gosh, it's impossible to travel light with a little one! Pram, travel cot, nappies, blah blah, it all takes up space! Lol
The signal is rubbish where we're off to so I'll say bye until Monday!
I hope all the mummies have a wonderful Mother's Day on Sunday, those still waiting, you're almost there!! Xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh have a totally magical time Dream, what a special time you'll all have I can't wait to hear all about it

 

[zero7]

Have a lovely time dream! We're off to Cornwall for my birthday and mothers day which both happen to be on the same day this year! Xxxx

 

[LolaM]

it didn't. basically im nobody, Charlie cries because he misses his mother and the dadpa had a tempter tantrum 2 times in an HOUR and they are even CONSIDERING sending 3 small children home with him??? Im done and I may not even bother renewing my license. I didn't sign up for this horse pucky.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Lola what a load of rubbish. What happens now? It's heartbreaking Thinking of you

 

[LolaM]

Oh Lola what a load of rubbish. What happens now? It's heartbreaking Thinking of you

I don't know what happens now, there is another court date in June, but its my last day of school so I wont be able to attend. Hubs will be on his own. There is a team meeting on Monday and I don't even think im going to go because im just going to lose my temper. My SIL offered to carry as many babies as we wanted. Ive met her once! Im very lucky to have found such a family.

 

[Lolly1985]

I suppose you have to wait and see what happens in June, it feels forever away Is little man with you and you carry on as before until you hear otherwise? xxx

 

[LolaM]

I suppose you have to wait and see what happens in June, it feels forever away Is little man with you and you carry on as before until you hear otherwise? xxx

yes. he stays with me until all is said and done. The law is, a child his age stays in the system 6 months then permanency is established. He will have been with us for a year! and he will be 16 months! we have had him most of his llife! nothing has changed in a year and a half with BM, why doesn't the judge GET THAT???

 

[Lolly1985]

Maybe the judge will get that? Or are you pretty certain he'll be returned?

 

[aimze]

Oh Lola that sounds awful keep us updated!!

Happy mothers day to those who it's their first one, an happy Mother's Day to ladies in waiting xx