Hi everyone! Just wondered if anyone can offer any advice on how to deal with our parents....particularly our mothers. Hubby and I are over the moon about being pregnant, but we're not overly expressive of this excitement. Our mother's on the other hand have gone totally overboard (in our opinion any way) and to be frank we're finding it hard to cope! My Mum is talking about buying us a whole host of items. I put her off saying that we have very specific taste so to appease her I did a gift list. now she wants to buy almost the whole list! Hubby and I have always said that while we're glad of any help, especially financially at the moment, we have things that we want to do for ourselves and buying things for the baby is one of them. I'm now scared that she will just go nuts and buy everything. She is basically taking away the joy from it all....buying me multi-vitamins for after the baby is born, cleaning materials so that the house is clean (apparently it's not now!), putting extra things onto the list that we have 'forgotten becuase we wouldn't know'. I know she is only trying to help but I just want her to back off and let us enjoy being pregnant and bringing up baby! I knoe for a fact that in 12 months time when we have a 6 month old, the whole novelty will have worn off......so please, just leave us to it!! MIL on the other hand is no better. She had a go at hubby last night as we had been for our scan yesterday. Everything was fine so we let a few more people know (friends etc). We only sent scan pics to parents and siblings though as lets face it, not everyone will want to see it. MIL rang up asking hubby if she could send it to people in the family. He said sure, but we didn't realise that people would want it. It got on to the subject of the baby and she asked how do you feel after seeing baby for the first time. Hubby just gave an honest answer. It was a medical procedure, it's nice to know everything's going well but it hasn't changed anything. We're happy but no more so than before the scan. She shouted at him, 'how can you not be excited'. Both hubby and I fee very strongly that the thing to get excited about is the initial BFP then the birth. In between you just carry on, look after yourself and see what happens. We are so happy to be having a child, but for the moment we're staying calm. people just don't seem to understand this. I know this may make me and hubby sound like spoilt brats but we both agree that we just want everything toned down. We only have 6 months left as just us, and while we talk about bubs every day, it's not the centre of our lives. We just wish that people could see that we are happy, and not force us to be more excited than we want to be, and not get more involved than we want them to be for now. Sorry again for sounding like a spoilt brat, but I needed to talk to someone as hubby and I realy don't know how to approach them.