anixety panic attacks and depression surpport group

[holl1109]

Hi can I join u? After a long talk And cry my hv thinks I have anxiety-borderline pnd. So she has booked me into see a doctor on Monday but I'm really not sure about going. Some days I feel fine and feel like my happy old self but other days I really don't feel as if I can cope when the baby crys I find myself so angry. I go back to work in 3 weeks and I can't bare the though of leaving her, I always think that no one can look after her aswell as I do, and that something bad will happen... I'm not sleeping either which isn't helping. I just Want to feel like me again x

 

[PepsiChic]

welcome Holl! So sorry your having such a horrible time lately, its really good that you spoke up about it to your HV, and hopefully when you see the doctor on monday he can help you, if he gives you medication make sure he knows about your current pregnancy and if you are BF your other LO or not, so that he doesnt prescribe you something that could be harmful to the pregnancy or your LO.

we're all int he same boat here, so dont worry about tell us how you feel, good or bad, we understand! *hugs*
x

 

[holl1109]

Thank you pepsichic, I'm really unsure about going. I spoke to my mum about it and she said it's normal to feel how I do but she did have pnd. I just feel like a bit of a fraud, because I felt alot worse when the baby was younger. X

 

[PepsiChic]

if you feel anxious/depressed you SHOULD go. i know its hard, and it can be very emotional, but it will be better for you in the long run.

but if your really unsure then you could leave it a while to see if the pregnancy hormones settle down a bit because they probably have you all over the place. but that doesnt mean you dont have depression, it just means the pregnancy could be making itl worse.

and depression hits at any time, I first was diagnosed with depression at 14 years old due to post traumatic stress disorder. so it doesnt matter if you started feelign this way at 10, 14, 20, pre pregnancy, post pregnancy, or if it hits you during menopause. its an illness that can strike at any time in your life, during any event or no events at all.

*hugs*

 

[babypowder]

Hello, thanks for the invitation to join, I am an anxiety sufferer generally and am having a hard time with the worry that comes with a newborn. I had my first 18 years ago when I didn't have a care in the world but this is a whole other kettle of fish...x

 

[sanjalica]

Thank you guys. You guys are awesome. As for my having any hobbies... Nothing really. Nothing interests me right now. I just want to sit still and do nothing. Too much going on in my head. I tried driving last night... big fail. I felt like there was so much going on that I didn't know where to look or what to do. It was like I was stuck in a daze, I couldn't move my head to look or anything. Thankfully my mom was with me and she saw me struggling so she drove the rest of the way. I really thought I could do it though. Does anyone find that it takes so much energy to try and get up just to do the little things? Shower? Clean? It seems like I just can't get myself to get up. Another thing... yesterday I went to my parents place for dinner but when I got there I was already messed up from the drive over and then it just seemed like there was so much (too much) stuff going on, people talking, tv, phone ringing, etc etc that I couldn't seem to concentrate on anything and I ended up just sitting there like a bump on a long in daze in my own little world. What the hell is that? Why is it happening? When I'm in our apartment I feel ok, I can see everything and hear everything and know what it all is and I feel safe. But the second I leave, I don't know, it's like I just go off somewhere in my head and can't control anything. Am I crazy?

 

[eblondie]

Hi everyone. Hope you've all had some good days recently. I've not been around much this week as I've had family staying. I've got work next week so I know my anxiety will be 'about' but I can hope that I can control it.

 

[tilly-maggie]

Im having a rough few days recently, just feel flat and hard to find emotions, also does anyone get head zaps and like a flash of panic with it? I hate this

 

[PepsiChic]

hi babypowder, welcome to the group! and congratulations on your LO, anxiety is hard enough without all the new worries that come as a mother. I know that my anxiety went into overdrive especially the first 4 months i was checking he was breathing every 5 minutes. my ocd also went nuts, i cant have a bag of m&ms or any other candy that is multi coloured unless i separate the colours! insane huh?

i think the stress of a new baby can make anxiety get worse for a while but it'll be ok *hugs*

sanjalica big hugs hunny, its ok, your not crazy! you have an anxiety disorder, and its perfectly ok and normal to feel the way you are. instead of trying to do something big like drive into town, start with something small and work up, like a drive down your street and back, next day drive around the block. then to the nearest gas station, then to town. you just need to build up on it and not take on too much at once.

eblondie how have you been with your family around? do you find your anxiety is a little better/same/worse?

hi tilly, i have panic attacks and sometimes they build up to a huge problem or sometimes they just hit me full force out of no-where. its equally horrible. *hugs* do you know if there are things that make it happen?

 

[PepsiChic]

im tired today, really really tired, part of its because ive been so busy setting up my new business and helping my husband and roommate setting up their new business. part of it is just trying to do too much housework by myself, part of it is just not sleeping good and part of it is the anemia fromy my period.

regardless, waking up exhausted is not a good thing. i feel anxious and the day hasnt even started yet.

 

[eblondie]

PepsiChic I have found that having a baby has brought my anxiety right back. I now have even more to worry about! Having family round wasn't too bad. I find it harder when I go to visit them as I don't have my own space.
Waking up exhausted isn't at all good so sending you big hugs Pepsi x

Tilly I find that I get over emotional. Hope you start to feel brighter soon x

 

[Samstah33]

I'm happy I found a group like this!!!

I suffer from ADD and major anxiety! I am ttc and a little nervous about stopping my anxiety medication and wondering what it will be like if I do become pregnant. I am really concerned because I don't want to put stress on the baby. I know I don't have a choice with my Anxiety medicine I need to stop taking it.

I am also on Adderral for ADD and I'm torn wether to stop it or not. I have talked with my doctor and she said since I am a full time student along with working part time I do need it to function well and reduce stress.

So I am torn do I stop the medication and deal with the potentially harmful stress? and the potential withdrawl symptoms?

Or do I continue to take the medicine and deal with the potentially harmful effects of the medicine? It is a Class C drug and they don't have much info if it is harmful to the baby. People have taken adderall during pregnancy and their babies came out perfect.

It's a tough situation because I feel like if I stop the medication I might miscarry because of the withdrwl effects, but then I would hate myself if something happened to the baby because i continued taking the medicine.



Help
Any and all advice is welcomed!!!

 

[PepsiChic]

Hi sam!

im so glad you found us, especially with the difficulties yoruf acing right now and possibly in the future.

I know its completely upto you what to do with regards to taking your medication or during pregnancy but here is my thought on it.

If you cant function very well without the Addrerral, then I would maybe ask to have the strength of the drug reduced bit by bit so that when you do choose to become pregnant your not suffering from withdrawls as bad and your taking a smaller dose so the risk of harm to your baby would also be less.

I would do the same thing with regards to the anxiety medication, and if you feel strong enough to stop taking it during the pregnancy you can possibly do that, and maybe take a natural herbal anxiety medication like gaba, which may not be so harmful.

however if you want to breastfeed you would need to stop taking the adderral for sure, and seeing as that probably isnt a good idea (as newborns can cause a lot of tsress int he first 4 weeks especially) you probably need to come to terms with the fact you will have to formula feed, which is FINE. because it means both you and your baby are healthy and happier and thats incredibly important!

You should talk to your doctor about all this as im not a medical expert, he may suggest changing the medications your on, or changing the dose. but it is important that you tell him your thinking of trying for a baby and when you are planning to do so, so your doctor can see how much time he has to either wean you off medication, or get you down to a smaller dose etc.

good luck hunny!

 

[eblondie]

PepsiChic as always you seem to be talking total sense - I totally agree with what you have written in reply to Sam. Sam I think if you can reduce your meds that would be great... but if you can't and the Drs say that baby should be fine then I would be happy with that.... but it's you that needs to be and only you can make that decision. Good luck and please let us know what you decide.
PepsiChic how have you been? No one seems to have been on much recently? I've had a busy week with lots of work but thankfully I have coped ok and my anxiety has been under control

 

[PepsiChic]

Thanks eblondie, Ive not been on a whole lot recently, was busy organizing a photo event for the girl scouts which had me a nervous wreck for the entire week, the event was last night, and it went ok, but i wasnt pleased with the photos i took, i was very rushed and people decided they wanted photos before i had even finished setting up so it wasnt quite how i had hoped.

still i did it despite being a complete nervous wreck and everyone seemed to have a great time (daughter and daddy dance).

aside from that, my panic attacks have lessened because now my husband is working at home so i dont have to worry about him leaving for work every day, however the depression seems to have hit me pretty hard, ive been so lathargic and just feeling really down. cried so much the last week and slept like crap too.

hopefully things start to pick up again.

how about you? how are you doing? hows Harry?

 

[eblondie]

That's great PepsiChic! I'm not sure whether I've already mentioned this but have you read the book called 'Feel the fear and do it anyway'? It has been a while since I've read it but I so recommend it. It's what I live by and I think that people with anxiety need to 'try' to do... otherwise without it life has a tendency to just pass you by.
Harry is great Don't know what I would do without him. Don't get me wrong, motherhood isn't easy and lots of days are a struggle but I wouldn't want to be without him. He is currently teething... AGAIN.... 1 year old and NO TEETH!

 

[PepsiChic]

That's great PepsiChic! I'm not sure whether I've already mentioned this but have you read the book called 'Feel the fear and do it anyway'? It has been a while since I've read it but I so recommend it. It's what I live by and I think that people with anxiety need to 'try' to do... otherwise without it life has a tendency to just pass you by.
Harry is great Don't know what I would do without him. Don't get me wrong, motherhood isn't easy and lots of days are a struggle but I wouldn't want to be without him. He is currently teething... AGAIN.... 1 year old and NO TEETH!

owch, poor thing, Barry has 8 teeth, the bottom 4 came in one by one, the top for all came in at the same time which was hell, completely messed up his sleeping both naps and bedtime, not to mention he was utterly miserable! not looking forward to any more coming in!

and i understand what you mean, its not easy being a mummy, but i wouldnt change it for the world.

 

[Miss_d]

Hiya everyone

Ive got a hospital appointment today and its 21 miles away and i need to drive to it, only passed my test in january, never drove this far away. Anyone any ideas for me to keep calm, i am taking my 3 yr old with me so need to be calm and not get worked up. I am so nervous.

 

[9babiesgone]

just got my internet back. and finally moved into our new place.


so freakin tired and depressed.

 

[PepsiChic]

just got my internet back. and finally moved into our new place.

so freakin tired and depressed.

glad to have you back with us *hugs*

Hiya everyone

Ive got a hospital appointment today and its 21 miles away and i need to drive to it, only passed my test in january, never drove this far away. Anyone any ideas for me to keep calm, i am taking my 3 yr old with me so need to be calm and not get worked up. I am so nervous.

miss d, dont think about the distance too much, driving 5 miles is the same as driving 10 miles, which is the same as driving 20 miles, your doing the exact same thing for each mile, so it doesnt matter how many there are! its not like you suddenly change cars half way and have to learn to drive a whole new way or on the other side of the road, its exactly the same all the way, just keep telling yourself that!

also take some sing-along-music, your LO will love it and it'll keep you busy!

hope your appointment goes ok x