I know what it was. It was about OH. He's pretty hands-on but generally I need to ask him to do stuff and it feels like unless I ask him then we both assume that I just get on with it. And often when he's 'in charge' he needs my help with something. We can talk openly about it, which helps. Saying that, I often find myself going over the same things again with him. Sometimes it feels easier just to get on with things myself but I know he's got to learn! I'm going back to work in 3 months and I think that by then things will need to feel a bit more equal. At the moment, i'm always the one getting up in the night, but since I'm BF and that's wick settles her then I'm not sure what else to do 't the moment. Keep talking, I guess!
Yes, exactly - he does it but I feel I have to ask him or, as you said, we both assume I do it, which is funny, because most of the times I am OK with, but then something happens and I think, hang on a minute, why is it
me doing it again? Like you, I too think thingswill have to change when I go back to work. And to be fair with him, I know they
will change, it's just that when I am around it's easier for him to do the things he likes, rather than the nappy changes etc.
Hi Leeze! I'm glad you decided to re-join the thread!
Kosh, I'm an historian like my husband, and contract lecture at a college here in the city. But the contracts suddenly dried up when I said I couldn't take a job when I was pregnant. They tend to forget you pretty darn quick, it seems.
I know what you two mean about things naturally falling to you. I've got very little to complain about, but two things are solely my responsibility: research and organization. And this has always been unspoken. Now, my husband is a Google fiend like I am (and a researcher by living), so sometimes I am astounded when he complains to me about teething or something and I ask him was he's discovered through his reading and he gives me a blank stare. Since when am I the expert on all things baby??? LOOK IT UP!!!
Then there is the organization. This is friggin' important. I make sure that if we need something, it is there. We are never out of diapers, wipes, food, clean clothing, etc. Anything you can imagine, I've stocked us up. And Leeze, it's like you said--you can tell him something over and over again, and he seems to think it's his right not to have to remember, because it's so "trivial." Then he complains because he has poo on his hands because he came home with the wrong type of wipes. He's also decided that everything should be up in J's nursery because it's "proper," when I had everything set up perfectly in the living room, and I am going crazy.
I have just decided that he is bringing everything down again.
Now he is not a big fan of the car. Unless I am sitting on the back sit with him ( even that sometimes it does not work) he starts complaining in there. I told my husband that maybe we have to think about getting him a little DVD player to play Elmo for him. He has a music bar on his seat toys... Nothing seems to help the car ride.
I know he want us to hold him but that cannot be done in the car. Any other tips?
I'm glad the wedding worked out! Sometimes our LOs are superstars.
J has also decided, at random times, to HATE his car seat. All of a sudden, he starts crying, then screaming, then braying like a donkey. Not every trip. Not the whole way. But we have no idea what starts it, and the only thing that stops it is him falling asleep. Nothing has worked so far, so I'm afraid that I have no tips. Even the mirror does nothing.
So now that J had such a great time PAR-TAYing at 4 o'clock in the morning a few nights ago, he has decided to make it a nightly party. And he has moved the party-time up to 3 o'clock. AND he has decided that going back to sleep after an hour is totally uncool and won't go back to bed. It's my husband who has to deal with it and he's at his wits end. Anyone go through this? I mean, yes, 5 o'clock wake-ups are pretty normal, but 3? And nope, as far as I can tell, he's not teething, nor going through a growth spurt (these were the suggestions I came across while Googling it this morning...)
You know, first I solve the poo problem yesterday, and now this. Why didn't anyone tell me that babies are HARD WORK???