Good morning ladies
I don't think I can catch up with all the posts, I have been reading but there is just too much to answer, were I to do it in my usual way. So I will just reply to a few things that I remember.
Single child v having two I guess I am lucky with my twofer, so I don't really have to think about that. But I think that if you do want another child then, though it is hard at first, having a smallish age gap is best. Otherwise your older child will be so much ahead of your younger one that their only chance of becoming close friends and playmates is when they are adults. Sure, a 5 or 6 year old may play with a toddler but it won't be the same kind of playing as he or she would do with her same aged friends at school. The younger child might always want to tag along the older sibling and be sad when he or she is being excluded cause of age and ability.
On the other hand there is only a year and five days gap between my brother and I and that was not bliss at all, as my brother was ragingly jealous of me and used to hit me and destroy my games etc in his rages. But he suffered from ADHD, as he got too little oxygen during birth and had all sorts of difficulties as a result. (He is in no way disabled and is now a perfectly "normal" (hmh!
) adult). On the other hand, as long as it didn't involve my parents, he and I would always band together against the outside world. If someone threatened or hurt me, my big brother would always protect me and it was always us together doing mischief to others and laughing about it secretly. So that aspect was wonderful.
So while my experience was a mixed bag, I still would say, go for it if you can have another, the difficult baby/toddler years are so short and it will be worth it in the end
Storm I think your friend's scan was yesterday? Good news I hope?
Glad your dad's skin cancer is ok for now and I hope his hernia isn't incapacitating him too much while he waits for his op date? Is he wearing a support belt or something?
Clio I loooved the story of J and the bum! Your boys is so funny and clever!
I never thought of the word gook lol How horrible lol Reminds me of a story by comedian Michael Mcintyre whose little son apparently only could say "no" and "juice" but pronounced it "jews" and how embarrassed he was when taking him out and the boy shouted "No Juice!" from his buggy in their very Jewish neighbourhood in N London! lol Maybe I should be glad it has now mutated into more of a "goy" sound lol
Borboleta any news for your husband yet? I so hope he gets this.
And just to add something about T and the whole shyness issue, there are two children at our gymboree who I have yet to see smiling. They are obviously perfectly normal healthy children, judging by the way they interact with other children but one of them is very shy with the other adults and clings a lot to his mum and the other investigates everything very thoroughly and looks at you very seriously but doesn't smile. I don't think all children have to be all smiley and outgoing to be "normal". Like adults, they have a myriad of different characters. Besides, T does laugh and smile with you and that is the main thing.
Lady H your Hannah does sound like a lovely miracle indeed
I totally understand why you wouldn't try for another if the likelihood of placenta problems would be strong again in another pregnancy. But as for your downs scare, I was pregnant at 41 and our numbers were extremely good. So I think it varies from pregnancy to pregnancy.
I would love to hear more about your lovely Hannah and how things are going with her.
As for us: nothing new on the sick situation but I too was kind of impressed with the apology. The guy even said that he would have hated that to have happened to him (someone being sick down his window). So I was of course very mollified
As some of you have seen on FB, Sebastian had another haircut. This one is a bit too short for my taste but he is still my cute pixie boy of course! He cried again but not as hysterically as the first time and really wanted to stare at the hairdresser as he kept turning his head to look at her through his tears.
There was another lady who walked in with her ca 5 year old girl and toddler boy (who was also walking). We got into conversation and I asked how old her boy was and she asked how old mine were. Hers was 1 year old and when she found out that mine are almost 16 months and not walking yet, she made a face and said "hmm that is very unusual, surely".
I said to her, ah well I never heard of anyone crawling to their wedding, so I am sure they all learn eventually. She laughed a bit sheepishly at that and I then left. It upset me a little, I must say. I would never make a comment like that about developmental stuff to a total stranger. But maybe some ppl are not very considerate by nature. And anyway, I know she is wrong, as from BnB I know that there are many perfectly normal children who don't walk at my boys' age. And my brother was a year and a half and I 16 months old when we started walking. Anyway, yesterday Dominic took 6 tottering steps without being prompted. So we are getting there.
Then yesterday evening I heard this weird and very loud hooting noise from outside our kitchen door. I am always so anxious lest something might wake my boys, so I thought if this is a neighbour trying out some sort of football vuvuzela or hooting horn or whatever, I shall tell him off (YAY!!
). So I look out of the kitchen door and there across the fence I see a peahen sitting on the roof of next door's extension! It flapped over onto our extension roof by the time I called out OH. I cannot imagine where it could have come from as there are no parks really close by that have peafowl. As far as I know they are usually flightless and can only sort of flap a bit like chickens, right? I tried calling the RSPCA three times but apparently their call volume was so high that I should please try again later. The peahen then flapped away into someone else's garden and I gave up. But I think she was on our extension (which is our bedroom) roof again this morning as I was woken by something scrabbling up there. Sometimes it is cats but this sounded more heavy and clumsy. Could have been Alfie of course who is the most clumsy and ungraceful cat I have yet met. lol But by the time I had made a coffee and got up the boys etc there was nothing to be seen.
Below are pictures of the haircut and the peahen.
Got to go and give porridge to my sweetlings. I hope all are well? Sending
It's just a personality trait (that may change later). When he was younger, N would go to anyone. 
. Specially when is your MIL. And her 2 other grandchildren were very different from thiago so I think she doesn't know what to do when she is with him. He is the unknown to her and I think it bothers her that they didnt connect yet. I told her that it will be the day that he won't want her to leave. 
