Angel--I didn't mean to offend you, and I'm very sorry that I did.
I don't think I expressed properly what I was thinking. Maybe when I am not exhausted, I can explain what I meant without offence. Right now, I feel like my brain is stuck in first gear.
Charlie--Happy Birthday!
I'm sorry though, that your birthday falls on the day before your dad passed.
Bottles--I'm still using them because I don't dare wean him off of them. It's part of his nap time routine, and his bedtime routine (though bedtime is just very diluted milk). I did take away his nighttime one for a few days, but then my mood plummeted and I began to believe I was causing him horrible, irreparable emotional damage and started giving it to him again. But we have to do it because a close family friend, who is a dentist, said the lactose causes cavities behind the two front teeth. She says she sees it all the time. So I'll remove the bedtime bottle again, I guess, and tell OH to stuff it with his elaborate nap time routine, which includes a "full-leaded" bottle of milk.
Sorry, I'm incredibly grumpy right now, and very angry. I've been up since 4 am because my OH did it again--instead of giving J medication when he woke at 4,
he cuddled and rocked him back to sleep. This is NOT THE RULE. Meds before 5 am, and after 5 am, we wait until 6 to get him up. OH is
constantly constantly constantly breaking this rule, and my sleep ends up interrupted because J continues to wake in the middle of the night for a cuddle, and I have to go through sleep training all over again. And I can't afford interrupted sleep because then I get sick, and then I don't want to have anything to do with J because that is currently the main symptom of my depressions and that makes me incredibly ashamed. I had finally managed to pull myself out of the last spiral down--which was also caused by OH's refusal to follow the rules, causing interrupted and not enough sleep--and a day later, he "makes a judgement call" again. And now I'm hiding out in my room so J doesn't see me cry.
Sorry everyone. I shouldn't dump this on you.