Anyone just had a baby and WTT, NTNP, or TTC?

[WantsALittle1]

I'd like to join you ladies! I am WTT #2. I had a very challenging pregnancy with DD and a traumatic birth and NICU stay and for that reason and others I want to have our next two kiddos as soon as possible so that I can go through the stress of pregnancy while I'm still young (I'm 30, DH is 27) and relatively healthy! DH wanted to wait 4 years but I don't want to.

On the other hand, I am totally in love with my daughter and feel guilty about introducing anyone into our lives that will take my attention away from her... Anyone else feel the same?

 

[Honey.Bee]

Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies :wave:

CD3 for me today - I had long cycles before being pg so if they are the same, I'm not due to O until mid April.

WantsALittleOne - I don't feel guilty, as such, but I know what you mean about being totally besotted with LO. The way I look at this is that she will enjoy her brother/sister when she is bigger and actually have very little recollection when LO is born. I reckon that would be easier on the jealousy front than introducing a baby with a toddler?

 

[WantsALittle1]

Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies :wave:

CD3 for me today - I had long cycles before being pg so if they are the same, I'm not due to O until mid April.

WantsALittleOne - I don't feel guilty, as such, but I know what you mean about being totally besotted with LO. The way I look at this is that she will enjoy her brother/sister when she is bigger and actually have very little recollection when LO is born. I reckon that would be easier on the jealousy front than introducing a baby with a toddler?

Good point! I do think you're right about that. And besotted is such a great word for what I feel--I am totally smitten with her and don't want anything in this universe taking away the limited time I get to spend with her. I guess, ultimately, I am glad we're still WTT but I know I can't wait forever... In the end, I really do think she'll be happier with a sibling than without one. I was an only child and sometimes it really, really sucked sometimes! Are you TTC soon or just keeping track of your cycles in preparation for TTC? I found a neat app for tracking cycle length and symptoms called Pink Pad, and I'm using it to get an idea of how long my cycles are...

 

[Leinzlove]

I feel that #2 or later birth order babies never have an option for attention. They always have to have #1 around anyways.

Wantalittle1: My #1 had a rough first year, also. Nicu, Picu, 3 surgeries (2 major). I'm going to be 30 in three months. I hope I'm done having babies soon.

Honey.Bee- Super exciting! I hope this month is the one. And that O gets here sooner than you expect.

AFM: CD23 and its been a wild cycle. EWCM yesterday but -OPK, got the BD in and I'm hoping I see +OPK today.

 

[Honey.Bee]

WantsALittleOne - I guess we're NTNP at the moment but I'd like to be 'officially' TTC. DH still needs totally persuading but he keeps saying things like, "If we're going to have another one we'll need to buy a bigger car, think about schools etc". It's his way of showing that he has almost agreed I've got a couple of weeks to twist his arm! He dotes on DD so I think I can wear him down pretty quickly.

Leinz - woo, sounds promising. Those are waiting!!! I only ever got one positive OPK and that was the day DD was conceived x

 

[Leinzlove]

WantsALittleOne - I guess we're NTNP at the moment but I'd like to be 'officially' TTC. DH still needs totally persuading but he keeps saying things like, "If we're going to have another one we'll need to buy a bigger car, think about schools etc". It's his way of showing that he has almost agreed I've got a couple of weeks to twist his arm! He dotes on DD so I think I can wear him down pretty quickly.

Leinz - woo, sounds promising. Those are waiting!!! I only ever got one positive OPK and that was the day DD was conceived x

We are totally crazy! I hope you can talk him into it. But, he can't be far off if you are NTNP. Just BD every 2-3 days for fun and that should send plenty of swimmers up there to wait.

DH was on board before I was. It took me about 5 days after he said "We should start making a baby." It got me thinking about it and now we are TTC. I was more worried about complications with back to back pg. But, I did my Dr. Google and I know no matter what there's always a chance for complications and I will always worry. I hope it happens this month, but I doubt it. It all depends on my body as I know there's plenty of swimmers waiting.

Our car would be fine for 3, but we will be buying another early next year. I need a Mommy vehicle. It's been nice not having a car payment, so I'm hoping to buy something outright. Not perfect but fitting.

 

[WantsALittle1]

Leinz: So right! I know her siblings will have to share us with her, but I still feel so guilty about making her have to share us with them! Haha!

Honeybee: Did you want your LOs to be close in age, or do you just have the pregnancy itch? As soon as DD wasn't a newborn, I started missing the newborn stage because they are sooooo cuddly when they are new.

 

[Leinzlove]

I know you didn't ask me. But, I just have baby fever soooo bad!

 

[WantsALittle1]

I know you didn't ask me. But, I just have baby fever soooo bad!

Yay for baby fever! It's the best kind of fever to have

 

[zilla]

Hi ladies! Can I join you? We are currently NTNP #2. DD1 was born mid-December but I've always wanted two children close together in age. There is 14 months between my brother and I would like something similar for DD, plus I'm 35 now so figured time isn't really on my side. I'm EBF but AF returned yesterday, despite the fact that DD does not STTN and loves to feed. I'm trying to persuade DH to actively TTC - I think he'll give in sooner rather than later

Good luck to all of you x

Hello
Welcome!
Are you going to persuade your OH?

ps. OT, but I am SO jealous that you're from Newcastle! I lived there for a year for uni (I failed first year due to excessive partying lol)
Love it there though, planning a trip up in September for when my OH does the Great North Run...

 

[zilla]

I'd like to join you ladies! I am WTT #2. I had a very challenging pregnancy with DD and a traumatic birth and NICU stay and for that reason and others I want to have our next two kiddos as soon as possible so that I can go through the stress of pregnancy while I'm still young (I'm 30, DH is 27) and relatively healthy! DH wanted to wait 4 years but I don't want to.

On the other hand, I am totally in love with my daughter and feel guilty about introducing anyone into our lives that will take my attention away from her... Anyone else feel the same?

Hello
Sorry you had a hard time! Bless you. xxxx
I feel the same sort of when it comes to introducing someone new but I'd rather do it at a young age when it's going to be less of a stress to him xx

 

[Honey.Bee]

Ha ha you two! I have always wanted to have two kids close together in age. I guess I didn't really think we'd be TTC this soon but it also helps in that if my maternity leave merges into the next it would be a lot better financially for us. It wil also take the pressure off the current need for me to relocate my work. My Mum had my brother and I 14 months apart and I still love it now (we're v close). My only real worries are whether I will be ovulating as I'm EBF and also how I'm going to get the energy/DTD as often as possible with a 14/52 baby who is insistent on sleeping in our bed!?!

 

[Leinzlove]

Zilla: Good to see you! Has AF returned? How is TTC going?

 

[Honey.Bee]

Hi Zilla :wave: We must have been typing at the same time! Yes, I love it here. We live out by the coast. Great for walks with the baby! Are you nearby? Our LO are v close in age too. DD was born 14/12/12. I'm pretty sure DH will be on board. He has mentioned it three times today - hardly the behaviour of someone dead against it. I think he just thinks I'm insane though...... At times I think he has a point x

 

[WantsALittle1]

zilla, totally makes sense and I agree completely. I guess I just have a little PTSD. My maternity leave was up while DD was still in the NICU and so I never really had time with her. I've always felt a loss because of that, but the truth is that she is very social and would love a friend (sibling) to play with and so her forlorn old mommy needs to get out of the funk and be okay with bringing another baby into the house! And like you said, doing it at a young age will make it easier!

 

[zilla]

Leinz - Still no AF! Have been OPKing and temping and CM charting but all three of them are all over the place. so no idea! What about you??

Honey - I wish I was close! I'm right down in the midlands now Ahh the coast up there is lovely, I've got family in Tynemouth & theres a lush Italian there that we always go to when I'm up there.
14/12 is when my due date was! LO turned up 5 days early though. Not sure how much of it was due to being scared by me running headfirst into our Xmas tree by accident, I think he was thinking "sod this I'm out of here"
My OH is pretty much the same, I think. We had a scare that I was PG a few weeks ago .. at first we were panicking, but then I got used to the idea and was rather dissapointed at the negative test, so we decided to go for it!
Are you actively TTC?xx

 

[zilla]

zilla, totally makes sense and I agree completely. I guess I just have a little PTSD. My maternity leave was up while DD was still in the NICU and so I never really had time with her. I've always felt a loss because of that, but the truth is that she is very social and would love a friend (sibling) to play with and so her forlorn old mommy needs to get out of the funk and be okay with bringing another baby into the house! And like you said, doing it at a young age will make it easier!

That's awful that you had to go back to work whilst she was still there!
I know you get a rough deal in the US regarding maternity leave etc - we are lucky enough to get a year off, I can't imagine what it would be like going back to work so soon, especially in those circumstances!

xxxx

 

[Leinzlove]

I just got my +OPK! I was shocked yesterday when I got my -OPK! Because I didn't check CM, but my toilet paper was loaded. This is CD23, so O is a bit late.

We all have LO close in age! I'm crazy! I have DD1 who is 23 months. DD2 who is 2 months, and hopefully #3 is about to be a tiny seed.

 

[Honey.Bee]

Get to it Leinz!!! My O is usually CD22-24 too. You are seriously mental. DD2 is 2 months? I'm not sure I could even remember my name at that stage!

WAL1 - Yes, you US ladies have a seriously crappy deal on the maternity leave front. I can't even imagine that. We are so spoilt here.

Zilla - my DD was due 8/12 but was late! Those were the longest, most frustrating days of my life! We're just up the coast in Cullercoats (the next one along from Tynemouth - it's a small world!). I am just mid first PPAF so this is the first month we could have TTC. When I was TTC DD I was clueless and it took 6/12, but only the second cycle with charting. I'm much more clued up now. I know my cycles and my body plus I'm not working away from home so I'm hoping that will help. I've told DH that he has got 2/52 to think about it but I'm going to treat this cycle as TTC - temping, then saliva microscope and OPK plus will begin my vit B complex tomorrow. At worst I'll just get a better idea of my pp cycles.

 

[WantsALittle1]

Honeybee and Zilla - To add insult to injury, the maternity leave I did get was unpaid! I had to use my sick and vacation time, and had to work half time from home to try to stretch those out so I could be home with DD when she was released from the NICU. It's a mess here, and so hard to be a career woman if you want to have a family!