Anyone LTTTC Number One?

[J_Lynn]

Hey ladies was wondering if I could join you. I know I've met some of you on other threads.

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[J_Lynn]

I AM HAVING THAT SAME THING!!!! I keep wondering if it's like GI cramping, or if it's in my uterus!!! The progesterone suppositories are throwing me off because I don't know what to expect with them and I don't know what kind of side effects they cause so I am thinking that either AF is ready and as soon as I am done with my 10-days of vaginal progesterone she is going to come in full force, or I'm pregnant, or I have some serious intestinal issues going on that are going to eventually wreak havoc on my entire body. Because this is day 2 of feeling like this!!!

I'm glad I'm not alone! I feel like I'm going crazy....is it cramping, is it not? Is it AF, or do I have to fart? This is the longest TWW I have ever gone through.

Yeah, this is the first time I am really psyching myself out thinking I really have a shot this time. Which is just going to leave me crushed beyond all belief if that BFN shows up. I am waiting until after AF is due before I even think about taking a test. I won't do it to myself. I won't sit there and stare at that test hoping for a 2nd line. So if AF doesn't start a few days after the progesterone, then I'll take a test just so I can call and make my next appointment and be able to tell my Dr it's negative - OR if it is positive pass out and die. lol

 

[Myshelsong]

I thought I totally had it his month.

Had the dip at 5DPO had the rise right after, had sharp pains (which I am now sure is a cyst), was exhausted one day .... I dont knwo I was grasping at straws.

Today huge drop and now I started spotting
Knew the chances were really really slim but really was hoping would get it in before the lap. not so lucky it seems. I feel charting past Ovulation is the worst idea ever, and may decide to to the charting until O confirmed and then let nature take its course. If I didnt temp check all throughout i wouldnt have gotten my hopes up only to be annoyingly crushed by reality again.
Hopefully next month right .....

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Myshelsong, I'm so sorry lovely

I promise the controversial topic didn't chase me away - I've been AWOL as DH as pneumonia and as his op and heart are far from sorted, I have no idea when/if we will be ttc again.

I just wanted to add that I have people telling me that at least I know I can fall pregnant and gee whizz that pi$$es me off! I have fallen pregnant at 6months ttc and 26 months ttc but seeing as I have lost both bang on 6 weeks, I can't help but worry we have genetics issues that will stop me ever carrying to term I am literally waiting for my next miscarriage just so that I can have the testing carried out.

I get annoyed with 2nd IF - yep it sucks, but no-where near the worry, frustration, pain and anger that IF for #1 causes.

Welcome to all the newbies

 

[ESwemba84]

Yeah, I had a Gyn tell me that like 9 months ago..... "We know you can get pregnant, so what do you want me to do about it?"

Just because I got pregnant once in the 5.5 years I've been married and off birth control doesn't mean everything's fine......

Myshelsong - so sorry. I hope your lap can clear some stuff up, and you are successful after that.

 

[Myshelsong]

"At least we know you can get pregnant" - is probably the worst thing you can say! I am so sorry you ladies are going through that.

If within 2 years you dont have a real life baby in your hands to nurse and love then something is wrong, regardless if you had a early pregnancy loss and have been able to get pregnant in the past. If there is not actual baby the point is moot.

I would have told her I wanted her to get with the program and get you pregnant!
What kind of tests have you guys done? Do you know if Dh's men are working?

 

[pbl_ge]

I just want to say that I've been loving this conversation. Makes me feel so much better!

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

"Well there's nothing wrong, so maybe you should give it time to happen naturally." Grrr!!!!

Or my friend who is a doctor: "I'm sure it's just because your cycles are a bit irregular, you're probably just missing ovulation." Seriously!

 

[cntrygrl]

Don't you love all of the explanations people pull out of their arses. If I hear "It will happen when god wants it to" again I may strangle the person. I actually said to a great aunt of mine "I'm sorry, but I can't believe in a god that allows neglectful, waste cases to society to breed like rabbits when there are loving couples who struggle to have one." Another one of my favorites is "Everything happens for a reason" I want to slap the people and say "There it happened for a reason".

 

[ESwemba84]

"If you just relax and stop trying, it will happen."

Well, my body relaxes a little too much, because it doesn't even ovulate and just ends each cycle about a week too early.

It's easier to smile, nod, and walk away than try to explain the biological dysfunction of my reproductive system.

 

[Feisty Fidget]

Don't you love all of the explanations people pull out of their arses. If I hear "It will happen when god wants it to" again I may strangle the person. I actually said to a great aunt of mine "I'm sorry, but I can't believe in a god that allows neglectful, waste cases to society to breed like rabbits when there are loving couples who struggle to have one." Another one of my favorites is "Everything happens for a reason" I want to slap the people and say "There it happened for a reason".

Oh my goodness, that is hilarious

DH has had less than perfect results for the three SA that he's done, but they have sad it shouldn't cause a problem

 

[Ceilani]

I feel charting past Ovulation is the worst idea ever, and may decide to do the charting until O confirmed and then let nature take its course. If I didnt temp check all throughout i wouldnt have gotten my hopes up only to be annoyingly crushed by reality again.
Hopefully next month right .....

Myshel I'm very sorry. It's crushing to go through the ups and then the letdown of impending af.

I have done what you mentioned (not charting past O) the last couple of months. It just got to be so tedious and exhausting to chart all the way through. I feel like it took a lot of pressure off me to temp long enough to confirm O and then stop. I still mark down significant stuff like sore bbs/noticeable cramping b/c I like to compare with other cycles, but that takes all of 30 seconds and doesn't bug me.

As for 2ndary I/F, I couldn't agree with you ladies more. I don't even know that I could add more, b/c what you've said hits the nail on the head!

ESwemba - I had a good friend tell me exactly that...it'll happen when you stop trying so hard! She added on a "my husband just looked at me funny and I got pregnant with both my kids" for good measure. We don't talk much anymore, lol.

 

[sugarpi24]

I HATE when ppl say "get drunk and have sloppy sex and it'll happen" "when God wants you to have a baby you will" "stop trying" its like really?!? Ive been told allll those!

 

[gilmore85]

one that really annoys me is when people say, "it's your bodys way of telling you you are not ready" WTF!!!

 

[J_Lynn]

Omg the "buy some wine, get plastered and do it all over the house" has to be the worst. I really do want people to go jump off a bridge when they say stupid stuff like that. Ughhh

 

[Ella_Hopeful]

Haha this convo is so therapeutic - you know after getting all that off our chests maybe NOW we'll get pregnant lol

 

[cntrygrl]

The worst people to deal with out of all of it is the insurance company and pharmacies. The last two months with my shot have been a nightmare. I feel like I'm constantly jumping through hoops.

 

[ESwemba84]

My insurance doesn't cover any of my fertility meds. No, I take that back. They covered some of the Femara. But the Ovidrel and progesterone were out of pocket. Apparently fertility is a luxury now...

 

[J_Lynn]

Haha this convo is so therapeutic - you know after getting all that off our chests maybe NOW we'll get pregnant lol

Yeah, I heard once you let it all out your ovaries and uterus magically start working. It's like a "magic word" game they play with us.

 

[J_Lynn]

My insurance doesn't cover any of my fertility meds. No, I take that back. They covered some of the Femara. But the Ovidrel and progesterone were out of pocket. Apparently fertility is a luxury now...

Mine either. They covered the femara because it's used for women with breast cancer. They don't cover the clomid because it's purely for infertility, and they don't cover progesterone for the same reason. But the femara only costs me $2.23 a month. That's the only thing that's cheap.